I hope the title didn’t mislead…
Nope this is not me beefing Li. It is me lifting some letter I saw on her blog, to mine. And of course, adding my two cents to it…
The letter annoyed me… Totally!!!
But I’ll try not to vent too much.
From a male LIB reader
My younger sister has been living with me since I became independent and moved to Lagos to start a new life. That was eight years ago. I got married three years ago and my wife moved in with us and since then I have known no peace. They are constantly quarreling, making accusations, and have even exchanged blows a few times.
My wife packed out of the house in April with our two small children and said she would not return until my sister leaves the house. I can’t send my sister packing because I am the only relative she has in Lagos and she just finished her university education and looking for a job. Asking her to leave means asking her to go back to Owerri where our parents stay and that’s not what she wants at this time. I can’t afford to get her her own place but I want my wife to return home. What do I do?
Where do I start?
First, what do you do?
Well, you can start by marrying your sister!!!
You see ladies eh, please marry well!!! Marry a real man, not a baby boy.
What’s that??? Where does your sister get off having quarrels with your wife in her own home??? Why is your sister who is an adult, doing living in your house without your wife approving of it???
They have exchanged blows a few times and you call yourself a man???
It is because of men like you that I added a boy to the twin girls I have always ONLY wanted to have. So many bad examples of men around someone needs to show the world how to raise/be a REAL GENTLEMAN…
Of course, by God’s grace.
Going back to Owerri is not what she wants. So what does she want? To destroy you, your wife, your kids, your home?
I taya oooo!!!
The wife even has kids yet the man doesn’t think tz the kid-less sister that should leave.
I want to say ‘if I am the wife..’ But I can’t bring myself to say it. Because e NO FIT BE ME!!! The chic should have moved out before I move in, except I don’t mind. So that she can help me around the house, but I doubt I need the help sha
Like my Pastor Bimbo of blessed memory will say “Courtship is a time for interview not a time for intercourse. Use your mouth to TALK and not to KISS’
Ask questions and clarify issues as much as possible before the big DO. Questions like ‘family boundaries’ and stuff.
Ladies please marry well. All this swags would come to nothing when the rubber meets the road and the b̶o̶y̶ man has to make certain decisions ooooooo!!! Being a MAN is a real job. Send the boys to their rooms and get yourself a real God-fearing man, okies?
Meanwhile, I hope you are planning to attend ‘When Women Worship’. Details here. https://eziaha.wordpress.com/2013/05/26/my-love-for-women/
You can also have a taste of what to expect by reading Pastor M’s blog. There is a sneak preview of her THANKS-timony there. Hurry along…
Cheers to a DRAMA-FREE week (lol)
Btw enjoy these few pictures I took over d weekend at an amazing location!!! 😡 :p