BEAUTIFUL…

You know, I am building my own Book reader App THE FAB E’ BOOK app (which by the way is costing me an arm, a leg and 2 uteruses lol) and after we reached an agreement, the last thing I told her (Yup, I am using a techy female GEEK) was 

‘…I LOVE colours. I am a super sanguine, so let the colors pop and let it be BEAUTIFUL!!!’

Sisters, I am all about THAT BEAUTIFUL LIFE yo!!!

I have even been accused of favouring finer Chicks over fine Chicks hahahahaha. Like, can you imagine? I won’t even answer that accusation, but I would say that I can hardly see a drop dead BEAUTIFUL Chick and NOT compliment her. Either her, or something she has on, or a BEAUTIFUL quality I admire in/about her.

My GORG  bestie and Mercy Lokulotu photobombed us

 
There is just something BEAUTIFUL about being a woman, that makes compliments like ‘i LOVE your cheek bones’ never awkward…We held our very FIRST Propel Lagos meet on Saturday, 

and I recall being kinda blown away by the beauty of 2 of the Chicks I was meeting for the first time. as I hugged them, I was sure to tell them emphatically ‘Oh my gosh, you are so beautiful’ more than once.

Which is why, it is easier to get me to attend an ALL Chick meeting than a meeting with some testosterone (shout out to my male readers tho. One love mehn haha)

I am so thankful that we never run out of Chick only events. I think God just leaves everything and camps with His Chicks whenever we gather to call upon His name. Aside blessing us with spiritual AND material blessings, He blesses us with the gift of humans!!! Follow Girlfriends. I still recall Warrior in Heels. Kai!!! Do you guys know it was after that meeting I started SavedFitnFAB? 

All because I heard DDK say ‘Apostles in the Market place?’ Do you know how much DDK has changed my life? Do you even know the ripple effect of that meeting as per the many other relationships the prayers birthed there has brought my way? (if you listened to the mesages ddk preached, you would have heard all the prophecies she dropped. My Spirit can’t stop thanking my Pastor Mildred for both organising that meeting, and then insisting I meet DDK. You know, God truly does LOVE his daughters and I know He drops BEAUTIFUL gifts when we gather to worship Him. Material gifts and Gifts of Sisters. It doesn’t always happen immediately BUT something drops in your Spirit, teaches you just how to pray, directs your life and brings you to your Squad, both Teachers, Helpers and Covenant Friendships. 

Then can we talk about the BEAUTIFUL refreshing that happens to your Spirit when in such gatherings. Just sisters, lifting up HOLY hands in worship of Jesus!!!! 

Not gossiping or being catty. Just pure fellowship!!! Dunno about yawl but where Chicks gather in worship of Jesus, and when the Host is Mildred Okonkwo, the darlingest Pastor I know, wild horses can’t keep me away as long as I am around ooo. See ehn, if I’ve seen God beautify a life, Pastor M’s life is it!!! 

Sometimes I don’t know what to do with Pastor M!!! She’s BEAUTIFUL and honey, i’m not even talking the obvious physical. I’m talking the beauty within. The grace mama carries, the results mama has, the helpers mama has, the ministry mama has, oh the FAITH Mildred Okonkwo has is BEAUTIFUL!!! 

From infertile to THREE kids!!!!🙌🙌🙌🙌

And so when she shared the theme for this year’s annual Just us Girls conference, I knew God is definitely ready to make His girls BEAUTIFUL!!! 

You have my permission to do whatever to be there. (err, legit sha). I don’t even know why Beautiful is NOT tomorrow!!! Or even now!!! Gosh!!! Ah!!! 

Yes these AMAZING people above will be there but who cares??? Jesus will be there guys!!! JESUS!!!!

  J E S U S!!!

The One who makes ALL things BEAUTIFUL in its time. The testimony giver, the way maker, the destiny changer, the friend-provider!!! The One who can change your story in a split second and make your life BEAUTIFUL!!! Oh sweet Lord baby Jesus. 

I. Can. NOT. Wait!!! 

No, seriously. Forget about your challenges and just come. Infact, bring them and come exchange it for BEAUTIFUL gifts. And if your life is already beautiful, AMEN!!! Now let’s take that beauty to the next level so you can impact your world with even more beauty. It is this Saturday 24th at 4.30pm. A touch of Pink is dress code but hey, come as you are if you don’t have pink!!! 

Oh and that thing I said above about ‘who cares?’ err, I care about the other BEAUTIFUL people coming abeg. 

Let’s look closely now…

PC!!! 

Yawl know I have a spiritual crush on PC (sory Remarhed lol) Heaven usually kisses earth when PC ministers. 

Yesterday as He ministered in Church, God knows I just got lost for a minute or 10. 

How. Can. Anyone. Be. So. Anointed??? Was looking for brother man to get a hug but he disappeared soon after. 

Come, you will see what I’m saying when you hear PC. 

And oh Accapella!!! 

Not many comedians have got me rolling like him. Clean and funny jokes? Count me ALL IN please. 

Oh and the guest minister Pastor Jerry Eze???

AUTHOR OF STREAMS OF JOY devotional?

 Just bring your journal cos heavens will open!!! 

Clear out your Saturday guys. 

See you at BEAUTIFUL cos honey that’s where Jesus will be… Yes. And AMEN!!! 

Love love love and remain BEAUTIFUL!!! 

Eziaha. (& my BEAUTIFUL Pastor K)
PS: 

our first Propel meet held on Saturday. 

See ehn, God is too good!!! This is really a great time to be a Woman. I’m sharing bits from it on IG and all my social media accounts. @eziaha on IG and Eziaha.com page on Facebook. Phew!!! 

Definitely BEST time to be a Woman. 
Don’t worry, the second lagos Chapter is starting next month. This first is already at capacity… email propel@eziaha.com

PPS: my 6k promo is still on. 

Time to burn fat before Christmas. Once I hit a 100 Chicks, I’m stopping. Hurry guys. And super thanks to all my friends and blog readers who just carry my matter on their head and referring Clients. 


God bless yawl.  

Oh and im working on Christmas pressies for my December squad. 

Yawl wanna turn up then…

PPPS: My book is still on FIRE!!! 

Email ebook@eziaha.com or drop a comment with your email and get your free copy. (Oh btw i need a GOOD graphic artist. Tnx guys)

PPPPS: 

Can yawl believe it? 5years of blogging. Gosh the Lord is so super good. Thank God for booming stats too. And thanks to all my mentees who help me out with social media publicity. Phew, to birth and nurture a dream truly takes a village!!! Thankful for my Village!!!

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I got back from church to this message from my mentee. She had been offline a while… This was a convo she started on her own…

I doubled up in laughter. Hahahahaha.
Can i be frank guys? Comments are AWESOME and i LOVE them but mehn, i write for more than comments. I write to BLESS AND CHANGE the lives of my readers. And mehn, THANK YOU for living for Jesus even more cos of my posts. He is ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING!!! Comment when you can tho, love the feedback, but beyond the comment, LIVE IT just as i am…

For my SPECIAL people… #R&B2015

Eeeeeeek somebody PINCH me!!!
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My sister Ruth is married to Biodun!!!
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Oh my gosh, I swear I have teared up A LOT every time I think of them getting married and I had to ring her LATE a night before the wedding to just gush!!! Like babe, is THIS REALLY happening???
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Eeeeeeeek!!!

It has happened guys!!!
I don’t think I have talked about Ruth as much as she deserves on my blog.
Frankly I was just going to do an epistle on IG but I decided the blog would be better.

Because I have A LOT to write and Instagram doesn’t even begin to cut it!!!

I took the toast at the wedding and I just kept it short
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because I was already going to start crying (Plus Ruth) and I figured a blog post would be ten times better!!!

Pastor M did something similar for me here. Such an honor to repeat this for THE EX-Miss Warrens, now Mrs Ruth Akinsiku (yea we prefer Warrens but we have moved on from crying… lol)

When the Groom arrived the venue, I jumped to go hug him and then he said ‘…Eziaha I am so honoured to have you at my wedding’ and I just yimu’d in my mind lol.
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I am the one honoured to have such BEAUTIFUL people in my life.

Lemme start from Biodun who Ruth calls ‘B’

He was our director in Shabach theatre back in UI and brother was HARD lol. He would work you till you just wonder why you joined drama unit sef.

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See how we all look USED lol


He was super professional about his work and certainly didn’t joke with praying about every ministration too. He was a theatre arts student and he directed TONS of shows in UI then and he was/is just BRILLIANT at his job. I recall something Ruth told us once that just SHOT my respect for B off the roof. They were having this stage play that was getting very ‘spiritual’ if you get my drift. Devil was just showing his hand. Na so brother man drew back and just went into his place of prayer and started firing tongues. That’s how devil parked well and the show went on!!!

Eeeeek!!! Gimme a PRAYING MAN all day err’single’DAY!!!

And when dude is handsomely delicious???
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Ruth share your secret with single ladies na… where did you find BAE haha

And speaking of finding, these people have dated FOR LIKE EVER.
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The emcee said 16years lol but exaggeration helps the point. As far back as I have known them, (and that is 6years) they have been an item. I think they dated for 10YEARS or even more. I will come to the beautiful thing about their friendship and relationship right after I talk about Ruth.
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Oh Ruth, NOBODY calls me like you call me. Heck, I don’t even call myself like you call me.

‘Ah Ezii…’

Do you know how many times you say ‘Ah Ezii’ to me…

Ah Ezii I know I know

Ah Ezii you know you know

Ah Ezii, it is well

Ah Ezii, hmm

Hahaha. Only you pronounces ‘Ezii’ that way. And it is the sincerity in the tone and then words that follow that gets to me…

Oh babe, you know we have prayed through things together.

(and if we were having this as a convo, you would have responded with ‘ah, Ezii)

You see how FAITHFUL this our God is?
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I love that you are my prayer warrior sister!!! I say this story EVERYWHERE and I will repeat.

We had this retreat one time and I was going to take the opening prayer when the Holy spirit told me to let Ruth handle it. My girl kept us standing (or kneeling) for 3hours in some crazy intense prayer session complete with powerful scriptures!!! I could NOT have done it then.

Eeeeek!!! Ruth my hands are up!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Can I bring them down???

Something else about my Ruth.

We both had the privilege of serving in leadership in church while in uni. She was HOD drama where I was a member. Ruth is a BEAUTIFUL leader. She is the kinda leader that would make other HODs just be tensioned especially if her unit members are in yours too. Mehn!!! She goooooood. Yup she will push you to get the job done but she will love you too, you would forgive her for pushing. I dunno if anybody else could have dragged me out of my room for all night rehearsals (I HATE ALL NIGHTERS. I prefer to be in my house even if awake) like Ruth did. You can’t even say NO because girlfriend was so sweet you couldn’t give her excuses, even if valid, without feeling guilty.

Ruth girl, it was a privilege to work with you, under your leadership mehn!!! A STRONG yet tender leader. She HELD her own!!!

But the interesting thing is, I too was HOD in another unit and she was incidentally, my unit member.

Mine was a new unit I was drafted to form and Ruth, she didn’t have to join, but joined to SUPPORT me as members were still a bit shaky. Babe would ENCOURAGE me TONS when I got tired and she was my oh-so-reliable member. With all my challenges, she NEVER undermined my leadership. To ruth, I was not just her friend, I WAS HER HOD and she submitted FULLY!!!
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Ruth is my friend ooo but she knows where to drop friendship and be subordinate without hassles. You felt at ease with her as a member. If she was going to be late or absent, she would notify me and apologise. It didn’t matter if I had messed up in drama unit where she was HOD or not. Ruth stayed FAITHFUL!!! Yes we were VERY GOOD FRIENDS but Ruth doesn’t mess with being over familiar.
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Lemme not lie, THIS is why I am crazy about Ruth!!! When someone sees you at your WEAKEST and never EVER uses it against you. If you are or have ever been in leadership, you would understand.

As I thought about this today, I realised that she is that way with B.
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I was in drama unit with both of them a LONG time before I realised Ruth and Biodun were courting. Bae NEVER mixed business with pleasure. Biodun was not ‘B’, he was DIRECTOR!!! No lovey dovey or mushiness. Nah. She drew that line and didn’t cross it. I think I saw them together somewhere a couple of times then I asked and then realised they were an item!!! I was in a unit with both of them and I did NOT know because they both comported themselves right.

Guys, just look at that? Is this not a GIFT??? That you know how to relate with everyone appropriately at all times.

Ruth baby, don’t lose or trivialise that gift.
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I love what my Pastor said about them as he preached at the wedding. He said their parents trained them well cos he had known them for like five years through uni and beyond and he has not even one negative report from them…

That’s how beautiful they are.
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Just one more thing.

Ruth is a FIRM believer in EZIAHA!!! Oh Ruth would support me in every way she can so long as it is in her power. She did that a lot while we were students, then as corpers, then when I was getting married (oh there were plenty tears especially the night before and then after the ceremony. When she hugged me and started crying, my spirit melted. That’s how we connect),
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after I had my baby, and up until now. She reads my blog and feeds me back from it. If I get into anything, I can bank on her. Recall that meting I spoke of above, where she led us in prayers? We were to have like 7-10 ladies present and then story story… some cancelling on the day sef. But not my girl. She came, ALL THE WAY FROM AKUTE to Festac because I wanted to have a retreat with a few of my ladies. And though we were 3, she led us like we were 30 and prayed up a storm!!!

*Real tears*

Babe, your credit is good with me. Very good. Soooo good I think I even owe you. When you were thanking me for all I did for your bridal shower, I was just like ‘Oh puhleeze, I did NOTHING…’
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I knew I could NOT miss Ruth’s wedding. I was going to travel but I begged hubs to please let me attend. I would have died to miss it. Infact, a day before, my tailor delivered my dress and it was an EPIC FAIL!!! Lol. Totally TIGHT at my chest region.

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I was going to change my mind and wear another dress that woulda shown my new size 12 but attending Ruth’s wedding like an ‘outsider’ didn’t sit well with me. So I made my tailor find a way to make it wearable

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We made it into an emergency low back


and then I endured what could not change and wore it like that. And came with my booboo because she requested I bring him.
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For my girl!!! For Sisterhood. For friendship!!! For RUTH!!!

I LOVE YOU GIRL. More than my words can ever say. I am soooo thankful for the privilege of your friendship. I am happy for you and B. oh what a home you two will make.

A home founded on CHRIST.
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A praying wife

A STRONG purpose-driven husband…

Like I begged at your wedding, please adopt me!!!

Thank you… haha

I look forward to play dates with our kids. I look forward to mommys’ days out, movie dates and couples’ dinners.
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I look forward to many many MANY more years of friendship with both of you. And whatever you do, wherever you go, just know girl, I will not only be rooting for you, I would do what I can to support you too.

Eat clean FOR WHAT??? Not at this wedding. I even ate small chops, rice, beef and moimoi at the wedding. I planned to really celebrate with them. Lol bennie saw me eating small chops and sent me this message hahahahaha
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Mr and Mrs. R&B Akinsiku… I love you both.
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Happy married life. God bless your home.

Oh and just to further let you know how BEAUTIFUL these two are, they saved ALL the HONEY for the MOON despite the length of time they dated.
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Talk about putting their love and obedience for Jesus over and above their feelings. I have no doubt you two will forever be thankful you waited for your wedding night. Or week as the case sometimes is… LIPSSEALED!!!

Ruth you bet I am CALLING YOU lol. For details and err’thang!!!

Ok kidding. Oh well, not really jor.

#SexualPurityOnAPedestal #SOPROUDAYOUBOTH #abstinence
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Especially Biodun. Ok not really, I am equally proud of Ruth too jor.

I also pray you both stay such amazing friends as you have always been even though you are now man and wife… AMEN!!!
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Oh and the ceremony was beautiful. The couple and their theatre friends ROCKED mehn
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My darlin Vera. MOH


An amazing reunion with my Ibadan people who turned up. Especially my Pastors.
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Dear (Nigerian)Believers, STOP IT!!!

I think the comedy of Nigerians is of a special brand
I think the comedy of Nigerian Christians is of a SPECIAL special brand.

Nigerians IN NIGERIA are celebrating HALLOWEEN???

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Even Believers ooo!!!

Oooooh!!! * in my igbotic accent*
Ike gwuru…

What is Halloween please?

Ok this is actually funny and because the next thing I want to say will come out REAL HARSH, I would SHUT UP!!!

Not without saying PLEASE stop copying!!!
Just friggin’ STOP

Everything AMERICAN is NOT cool.

Like Halloween.

#weareNOTamericans
#weareCHRISTIANS!!!

And still speaking of which, I also cringe whenever I see a BELIEVER call herself
Aries chic
We CANCERIANS…
Leos are cool
Proudly Sagittarius…

And all such STUPID NONSENSE from the pit of hell!!!

Have you bothered to check the HISTORY of this nonsense before you jump on the bandwagon because IT SOUNDS COOL!!!

I am angry oooo!!! Very!!!

*infact, whipping out my Bro Paul hat*

Why are you bowing down to worship the stars!!!

Why so STUPID!!!

I was once stupid like you ooo. Yes if you have ever called yourself a SAGITTARIUS, YOU ARE/WERE STUPID!!! Back then in secondary school, I thought it was COOL. When I found out I was a ‘cancer chic’, ah, I started carrying horoscopes on my head.

I would check back and forth online about what would happen to me as a Cancerian this week/month/day, who I would meet, etc.

I even subscribed to one psychic Anita IN AMERICA who used to send various emails on what your star says.

Oh I was STUPID!!!

I would link everything that happened to me to what my stars say because…Cancer.

Then it got spiritual. I started having DREAMS of the psychic and all such scary things.

The Holy Spirit convicted me personally and I QUIT. I DELETED EVERYTHING and stopped associating my destiny with the stars. And moon.

And anita!!!

Because…EVERYTHING IS SPIRITUAL!!!

When I see believers put it up, I want to SHAKE them but then again, I unlook.

Till I got this devotional from my friend and brother Wale. Yup same guy I featured here

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He sends the most beautiful devotionals in story forms with deep lessons daily on bbm and also posts to Facebook and IG. Follow him @walejana

Please enjoy and be FOREVER CURED FROM YOUR STUPIDITY!!!

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When Ify was looking for a boyfriend she was always eager to know what month his birthday was so she could check his horoscope. She was born in late October so according to the horoscopes she was a Libra and according to the horoscope calendar, those who are born in late May (Gemini) do best with Libras so for the next five years of her life, the only kind of men she dated were Geminis. To her surprise, none of the relationships worked out well even though the horoscope had said she was most compatible with Geminis.

She saw many of her friends marry the wrong signs and get along properly. It was only after her most recent heartbreak that she turned to God and began to read her bible. She flipped her bible open one morning and her eyes went to Deuteronomy 4:19 (NLT) And when you look up into the sky and see the sun, moon, and stars–all the forces of heaven–don’t be seduced into worshiping them. The LORD your God gave them to all the peoples of the earth.

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Incase u think say na lie

Ify was shocked, she had no idea that a scripture like that existed. Ify had been a church goer all her life but she had been basing one of the most important decisions of her life on the constellation of the stars and the moon. She fell down on her knees and confessed her sins to God, she made up her mind that she would only base her decisions on what God said from that moment on. God honored Ify, 3 months later, she met the man of her dreams and his zodiac sign was totally wrong.

It has become a trend amongst Christians today to call themselves Aries, Saggitarius, Cancer, Leo, Taurus and all other names that God did not give them.  Beloved, you are practicing idol worship and God hates it!

The bible says God gave the moon, stars and all the constellation to serve us! Why are you reducing yourself to the shape of a bull and a crab or a lizard when God said He created you in His image! There is no bull or goat or crab in you, what you have in you is God!

God breathed himself in you that’s the dimension at which you operate!

It is one of the subtle strategies of the end time the devil is using to lure people from Gods plan for their lives. Wipe that “Aries Chic” or “Leo Boss” caption off your Instagram and replace it with “Son of the Most High” or “Zion Chic”.

You carry God in you! May you have the results of God and not the result of a goat in Jesus name.

#AGratefulHeart #IncreaseOnEverySide #ThankYouJesus

My 20 year dream is to see the Gospel preached to a billion people through the social media. You too can be a social media evangelist, kindly share and repost this Gospel of Jesus Christ so that others can be blessed just like you have been blessed. Thank you for reading. Shalom

Oh I just LOVE Wales devotionals and I am sooo proud to be associated with him and his lovely wife.

So please ehn, dear Believer, don’t be quick to jump on the bandwagon. The devil is crafty, subtle and STUPID!!!
Always let EVERYTHING you do PASS THE TEST OF THE WORD OF GOD!!!

I don’t believe I was once proud to say I AM CANCER!!!
I mean, see the name sef. If somebody has cancer now, it will look as if God is wicked meanwhile na you confess am die…

Excuse me while I go cry at how stupid I used to be…

God loves yawl like crazzzzyyy

E’

PS
This is a BONUS post. Just decided to run it today after I had a convo with my dear friend and sister Suzanne

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After my morning workout today

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Kill. FAT


I am working on THE SPIRIT OF SHUT UP pt 2 and I hope I publish it today. God is teaching me so much on it and if we tidy it up, I will publish. If not, happy November haha. I don try.

Marriage, through the eyes of a young Christian man, @walejana

When Eziaha spoke to me and told me so many nice things about myself, I was blushing!

*Hold that thought*

So what exactly did I tell Wale that got him blushing?

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Wale and Toyin Aladejana

A lil history first. I have never met Wale physically nor his beautiful wife Toyin but they are my BBM buds.

I frankly don’t recall how I met Wale but I know it has to be on a social media site. He has also featured me on his blog here. I recall telling my hubs after Wale told me he and his family were moving to The ‘Buj that at least I am sure of ONE young FAB Christian couple we could be friends with as most of the couples I knew were, well, one kain.

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We talk occasionally and he is such a man of GREAT FAITH. It encourages me all the time. Then the way he talks about his wife is absolutely amazing. Both in the little things and in the big things. He literally ‘carries her on his head’ Hahaha. I knew I would want to feature Wale and Toyin on my blog but I had yet to find the perfect time, until now.

Btw, I want this to be a regular feature, where some other FAB person(s) get to feature on my blog. Suggestions for what it should be called? Please guys.

Ok on to the ‘nice things’. They are actually ‘little things’ but every one/wife/woman knows that it is the LITTLE things that make a BIG difference.

I connected with Toyin for the first time when she was pregnant in November ’14.

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Wale’s Oluwatoyin and Dumdum

All my plans to visit didn’t pull through. She had just moved to the ‘Buj following her husband’s transfer from Benin. Wale had come earlier alone to prepare for her coming so she had just joined him. I imagine that she left a life behind and followed hubby. I don’t even recall what Wale and I were talking about but I guess I was trying to find out how well she was settling in especially as she didn’t exactly have people here. And he said something like

‘…No, she is not working. I GOT HER A JOB to keep her busy but she decided against it because she would soon put to bed so didn’t think there was any need…’

Sounds small abi? But when you have packed your bags and followed your hubby across the Nation and are bored in a city without friends and are pregnant and home alone and the man is proactive and thoughtful enough to do the work of looking for and getting you a job to keep you busy because you don’t really know your way around town enough to job hunt, you would REALLY know what I mean. It is not so much the job but the fact that ‘my wife’s welfare and happiness is MY RESPONSIBILITY.’ Trust me guys, an average man would NOT.

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Second thing was after Toyin had put to bed. Btw I love this line from his birthday message to her…

‘…I was there at the labour room when you were giving birth to our princess, you stayed strong and pushed her out without any complications whilst looking as beautiful as ever. Thank you for giving me this beautiful, feisty princess…’

Awww…

Ehen, so again I don’t recall what we were talking about but it had to do with how they were doing since Dumdum their daughter appeared especially as me I was getting set to pop, and he said something like

The work is too much for her. I am looking for a good help for her. This is like the third one we have gotten…

I had to ask, but she just gave birth under 3months ago na and he was like

Yes, but the first was this, second this, third that…

You could just see a man that was not ready to have his wife die from house and baby work lol. Trust me, I was swooned. A lot of people don’t understand that a baby is a trailer load of work. Add house work to that and even a good woman can get depressed without any/much help EVEN IF SHE IS A FULL TIME STAY AT HOME MOM. (Any body wonder why househelps are PAID?) I for one knew Dumdum was nursing exclusively so I KNOW first-hand how much work it would have been for Toyin.

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You could FEEL it, that Wale needed a good help like yesterday to relieve Toyin, and if it meant we get 50 until we get the right one, NO WAHALA!!! And he was going to be INVOLVED.

Trust me darlings, it is a HUGE deal.

It was the day he told me that he met his wife on FACEBOOK and the story behind their courtship, proposal and wedding that I knew I wanted to feature them here.IMG_5710 (2)

Maybe someday I would feature that story on my blog or maybe he will feature it on his own blog and I will share the link here. Wale knows how to celebrate his wife mehn

But today, I wanted him to just talk about his marriage

Enjoy, unedited…

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When Eziaha spoke to me and told me so many nice things about myself, I was blushing!

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Dumdum at her naming… I think

Glory to God! It still feels like a dream that I am married and I have a princess. It is a lot of responsibility but God has been faithful.

My wife is a very loveable woman, she is so easy to get along with, I believe I am the difficult one and we have our moments like all couples. I need a lot of grace when it comes to patience; I am the shouter and the horn blarer, I am the door banger with a tongue like a whip, I guess the good thing is we never sleep over any offence, we always settle. Many times I would go out of the room and she would call me a coward for running away from arguments but I always come back to the room, never liked the couch and also because I am so intertwined with my wife and daughter. I feel homesick if I am away for more than 2 days. I can’t take any job that will take me away from my family, they are too crucial and too important, no job or amount of money is worth it.

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If men understand how crucial their wives are to their success, accountability would not be very hard. Jesus is married to the church, the man is married to the wife; Christ is the head of the church, man is the head of the wife. Jesus is submitted to God the Father, man is submitted to Jesus. There is a structure which guarantees a flow, Jesus loves the church unconditionally; He respects her, does the best for her and churches bloom! You will agree with me that churches today are synonymous with wealth so much so that pastors are accused of embezzlement and all that. The same way, when a man loves his wife and does the best for her, he will succeed!

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One of the scriptures that have kept me grounded is Malachi 2; 13-16 (NLT)

Here is another thing you do. You cover the LORD’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. 14You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.

15Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.b And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. 16“For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,c” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

Many men especially Christian men think that unfaithfulness has to do with not looking at another woman. Husbands need to go and read their wedding vows again to know what unfaithfulness is all about. Many men said those words but they never actually thought about what they were saying and God said He was present when you uttered those words. The traditional wedding vows read thus, ‘will you have this woman to be your lawful wedded wife, to live together after God s ordinance in the Holy Estate of Matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others keep you only unto her as long as you both shall live?

Can you say for sure that you are loving your wife, comforting her, honouring her and forsaking all others?

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When your wife is sad, depressed, stressed out and overwhelmed because of your ignorance and the many problems you cause as a man, God is angry with you! And when your wife is happy and at peace and she’s enjoying her life, God is happy and you will feel it!

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Apart from my day job and ministry as a Social Media Evangelist, I have an amazing business and I can trace it back to honouring my wife and making my wife happy. My wife needed a phone and she had never had a 18 carat gold chain before; I knew that getting her those two gifts along with all other expenses that come with having a baby and all others would turn my account to red but I made up my mind to honour her that way and she was so excited and happy. Shortly after, I started this perfume business and in 3 months I made a million from sales then I became a major distributor and now I have 8 distributors under me all of whom made their money back in a week!

 

All of this is done through the social media, I advertise and celebrate my customers on BBM, WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook and whilst I sit at my desk in the office, calls start coming in, they pay to my account and I call my courier person to send to them. I make my salary in mostly 2 weeks. No stress, no wahala whatsoever, the kind of life Adam lived in Eden!

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I am still believing God for many more but I have seen enough of divine provision in my life to know that God will perfect all that concerns us. If many Christian men can understand that their money can be traced to their wives’ happiness they would take them much more seriously. You could say ‘Oh I know many men who have money and treat their wives like crap’ the truth is that such men never end well. The bible is complete, it says in 1 Peter 3;7 (NLT) In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

John D. Rockefeller who is till date the richest man who ever lived after King Solomon had this to say about his wife “her judgement was always better than mine. Without her keen advice, I would be a poor man“. Many men need to understand that the word ‘helper’ in the bible was not talking about someone to cook, clean, wash and make babies. The word ‘helper’ or ‘help meet’ in Hebrew is ‘Ezer’ which means ‘power’ or ‘strength’. So when the Lord God was saying He would create an helper for man, He was not taking about a helper like your house girl, He was talking about a superior being who would be with man to help him achieve his purpose.

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If many men would discuss more of their business ideas and let their wives know how much they have in their bank accounts, they would be way more successful. Women have their downsides as well but if your wife is from God, she is a heavy weight and the faster you realise that the better for your life.

Another thing men must bear in mind is that God is transgenerational in His thinking; husbands must begin to think that way as well. God describes Himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

Malachi 2;15 says; Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.b And what does he want? Godly children from your union. God also said about Abraham in Genesis 18:19 I have singled him out so that he will direct his sons and their families to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just. Then I will do for Abraham all that I have promised.”

God is interested in men who will lead their homes after His pattern. How then can you be building a dynasty and not have time for your wife and children? You are chasing money? The men who chase money have it all wrong! If you build according to God’s pattern, money will be chasing you! God does not want you spending all your time working and chasing money because He wants you to focus on the most important reason for bringing you and your wife together and that is to build Godly offspring that will in turn give birth to Godly offspring and the circle continues until you have built a dynasty based on kingdom principles, that is the way you can affect the world! All the troublesome people the world has today can be traced to the families where they were raised! Someone was too busy or not paying attention. You must be available to impact deliberately into the life of your wife and children.

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The latest of anything is always an improved version and the woman was the improved version of the man although the man is the head, God made her everything the man was not. A woman is to a man what God cannot be to him. God was present in Eden with Adam yet He said, ‘it is not good for man to be alone’. I don’t care how successful you think you are but if you keep your wife at arms’ length, you are alone and the bible said it is NOT good!

Unfortunately, it was not Adam who immediately realised how powerful the woman is, it was the devil and in the twinkle of an eye, he had used her to wreak havoc. Ever since then, the devil’s most powerful weapon has been the woman; the Jezebels and the Delilahs and God’s most powerful weapons have been the Daughters of Zion. These are women who understand their role as wives, daughters and mothers who have used their influence with God to bless and protect their husbands, sons and fathers.

It is not easy for a superior to submit to the lesser, many men complain that their wives and girlfriends are not submissive. The only kind of man, a woman finds it easy to submit to is the man who is submitted to God. Mr Husband, Mr. Fiancee, are you submitted to God? Build according to God’s pattern of love and submission will come easily.

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I hope this will not bore you but this is what works for me.

****I wish we didn’t come to THE END***

No Wale, you certainly did NOT bore us. This was deep and HOT… I can’t wait to meet you and your family finally.

Oya ladies, married and especially single, please share with the men in your life.

Wale blogs the Goodnews at www.mytestimonys.blogspot.com and is on twitter and Instagram @walejana

He spreads the gospel proudly via his social media handles and his daily devotionals, told like a story are amazing.

He is also one PROUD member of COZA.

I hope this blessed you. Like I said, I would open up my blog to more godly blogposts from my readers. If you have something you think would bless us from YOUR LIFE, holler.

Suggestions? Holler too. This is a CHRISTIAN blog ooo. Ehen.

Mail as always to eziaha@eziaha.com

 

Be FRUITFUL guys,

Oh hol’ up.

Was gonna wrap this up and schedule when Wale sends me a message sharing an awesome testimony I have to share here. Recall at the start of this I mentioned that Wale is a man of great FAITH?

Please read in his own words. What a FAITHFUL God

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So it happened that someone had been monitoring my activities on Facebook: the social media evangelism and the perfume business.

The person called me and said…

‘Wale, I want you to expand your business so you can cater for all classes of people…’

Next thing he brought out his cheque book and began to write. I thought it was 100k but it was 1million naira. 1,000 000. I was speechless and he was just smiling at me. As a proper Yoruba boy, I went flat on the floor and he just said ‘Don’t worry about it.

Guess who is storming Dubai in a bit? Yep, yours truly. We are taking over the Oud market and it is world class from now on baby.

I just want to encourage someone. It may seem as if God has forgotten all your seeds but get ready for a shocker. Strangers will walk towards you and just bless you. God will owe no man, never forget that. He is a rewarder to those who FAITHFULLY serve Him.

 

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WOW!!! OH WOW!!!

Perfect timing. I needed to add this to this story to this post. On all his social media handles, he shares a daily devotional (his own) and then he shares his OUD perfume business.

Someone had been watching and God decides to use that person, WITHOUT HIM ASKING, to bless him.

Yaaaay!!! God is faithful abeg.

 

Be Fruitful guys,

E’

 

Why am I still single Part 2… A message preached by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

Ok guys, sorry this is coming about 2weeks later than I mentioned. My internet has been craps!!! Please read Part 1 here ICYMI

Ok so we continue from number

4. Are you able?

Do you have capacity as in financial capacity? Of course not to say you must have the whole money in the whole world but even at this level, can we see some fruits that tell us you are going in the right direction? Because some guys KNOW they cannot marry yet and not even in the near future but they keep misleading and wasting the lady’s time. They become HUMAN DELAYS and are just in a relationship for the fun of it. THE PURPOSE OF A RELATIONSHIP IS TO MARRY OOO not just to date forever.

Hello men, women don’t wanna marry a poor brother ooo please and don’t spiritualise it. Will you let your daughter marry a poor prospect-free efulefu? No. they cannot marry in faith because the landlord will not collect rent ‘in faith’. The principal will not collect school fees ‘in faith’. My brother, go and work. Marriage is an expensive venture darlings so are you able? Of course same goes for the women, please bring something to the table too.

At this point PK clarifies that story that he didn’t have anything when he married Pastor M incase any brother wanna use that as an excuse to trap a woman. Yes he was not rich but he had something he was doing with his life. He had faith and it was real because it had started producing results. ANY FAITH WITHOUT RESULTS IS FAKE!!! He was already in ministry and though he didn’t have liquid cash, he had a car already gotten entirely by FAITH (He shared the story again). He also had a place he was living and could afford the basics at least. So please PK had faith then, he still has faith and that faith is still producing. All you need to see is potential. If he says he has faith, what has the faith produced since? Are you on course? Are you making any progress? Ehen then you can now hook up with a spouse who is also on course and then things will move on upwards from there. That is how we know you are ABLE.

He also spoke on materialism. Good girls are actually not hard to impress. A good godly girl will understand even if you don’t have it all then. A woman is like an incubator so when you plant that seed inside of her she will nurture it till it grows. So if you have real faith and are bold and eloquent enough, you can convince her to marry you even if her level seems higher that yours at the time. For example, PK with an OND married Pastor M who had a Masters by then. He had a vision and convinced her of it plus promises sef (I will take you round the world) and she married because she is a godly woman and now, it is happening. (He promised her EXCITING or you can just read all the posts in that series here)

PK and PM

PK and PM

Even when they were going to marry, they didn’t have all the money (Pastor M was still doing her MASTERS then while PK was already in full time ministry) but they had faith, confidence, and were led by God and there were weddings and no, the church money no enter am. So please, no loafers whose faith have produced nothing yet not even transport fare. Siddon ehn, tighten your faith belt well, get on the word because faith works before you jump enter marriage.

And again, being financially able ain’t limited to men alone. A woman too should bring something to the table.

Socially, emotionally, mentally ability is also important. In marriage, you would have to be making adjustments and sacrifices to your life, to tolerate. He that would get married will have trouble in the flesh meaning inconveniences which is why Paul says he wants to save us from it all so stay single hehehe (Ephesians )

A mommy’s boy is NOT ABLE – (All those ‘I cannot marry anybody except my mother agrees’ comedian boys)

A selfish self-centred person is NOT ABLE

Just get the message for more biko hehehe. Now the final one

5.Are you amiable?

Are you Pleasant, good natured, likeable? Are you attractive? There is something about beauty and neatness that attracts. Nope, you don’t have to be Miss World to be attractive. Everybody can be attractive. Please order the message 7ways to be a more attractive person. Call our number which I have provided at the end.

Ever noticed that in a group, some people are more attractive than the others and everyone wants to be around them not because they are the finest ooo but because they are amiable. Are you likeable or always frowning? Are you always neat or dirty? It is possible that your physique, cleanliness, ethics and etiquette is what is keeping you single ooo. Ladies you must have your bath at least twice a day: Morning and night. Men can even get away with bathing just once. And you must bath with soap and sponge not just one of the two. The work of soap is different from the work of sponge so using one is like brushing with either only toothpaste or only toothbrush. They must go together to get the best results. You must brush twice daily too. If you have smelling breath issues, visit a dentist and fix it. (Read my dental hygiene post).

Mouth ordor cannot be cured with prayers and fasting ooo. It would even make it worse. Could be food accumulating in spaces in the teeth and the mixture cannot smell nice when you talk. Just visit a dentist and have them diagnose and deal with it. Feel free to have breath mints and co handy to keep your breath fresh.

And he tells the story that makes me laugh EVERYTIME I am listening to the message lol. Here goes

So back then in his worldly days, he went to this boutique to buy some cloths. Back then boutiques in Festac were small and all so as he was there, this girl entered and that was the end of everyone breathing. Her stench filled up everywhere. You can’t talk or laugh because you are just managing yourself to breath small small. Omo, as the girl comot, see how everyone took deep breaths lol. Dem begin breath again. The boutique owner brought out spray and sprayed everywhere hahahaha. PK said instead of her to go and buy soap and sponge, she was coming to buy cloths. Dem suppose baptize am in Izal and Dettol leave am there to soak lol.

So dear, sponge is to scrub all the sweat that accumulates on the skin, with the help of the soap. You must shave your armpit because those hair there will hold odour even if you bath twice. Pk says some people need to use that iron sponge for pot hahaha.

But really as a woman, if you are dirty, what HOPE do your kids have??? Ugh!!!

Also dress well. Not everything in vogue would fit you. Don’t be pressured. Wear what fits and look good in it. Do your hair neat and fine and let it fit. It don’t have to be Brazilian ooo. Tz not she wey get Brazilian dey marry hahahaha. Plus men don’t even know the difference.

Have good character and be polite as a lifestyle not only when you see an eligible bachelor. Use ‘please’ and ‘excuse me’ regularly. Don’t walk into a place and not greet everyone especially when new in a place. You dunno who the boss may be. He may not look like it ooo. Kai, rude girls are a huge turn off.

Have you been blessed today/tonight?

Lol.

This is how PK and now PM end their preaching. Even other Ministers in church

Evening, morning, afternoon or today, once you hear that, sermon is over in DCC Lagos.

Trust you enjoyed this. Please share with your single friends, male and female especially your Single and ready for marriage ones. You can worship with DCC in Lagos.

Victory Dome Behind PHCN Office, Fatgbems Bus Stop, Amuwo Odofin, Lagos

1st Service – 7.00am 2nd Service – 8.30am 3rd Service – 10.00am

Midweek service Wednesday 6.30pm

DCC Victoria Island, Elegushi Beach Road, Beside Meadow Hall School, After 3rd Roundabout, Lekki, Lagos.

Sunday Service – 11.00am

Rush Hour Fellowship (Midweek service especially for those who work on the Island) Tuesdays – 6pm at Silverbird Cinema, Hall 4.

Instead of going to enter traffic, enjoy Rush hour fellowship and be refreshed.

Love Dating and Marriage (the program where this message and such relationship messages are preached) holds at different intervals in the year. If you would call our numbers, they can send you reminder texts if you wish. Website: http://davidschristiancentre.org/ Phone number: 08077714411

See you this weekend with WEEKEND BANTS. Since we are publishing Friday, weekend bants will appear on Sunday.

Blessed weekend guys…

E’

Why am I still SINGLE? A message preached by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

I just love this message. I am not sure but I think this was the last LoveDating&Marriage seminar I attended at DCC Lagos. I love it so much that it is the last Singles message left on my phone. It just seemed soooooo practical and useful. So this is dedicated to all my Single FABers. So much to learn from it. Preached by my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo wpid-pastor-k.jpg So why am I still single? He answers this with 5 questions… Enjoy.

  1. Am I available?

Some people are actually NOT available but they think they are. Some actions or way of life make you NOT available in the ‘Singles market’ which is actually over saturated. There are some mindsets you may have which unknown to you may be sending out vibes to men that you are not available eg Do you always walk around with this thought ‘there are no good men/women anymore’ whilst praying for one? Honey, daz not ghanna wok. As a (wo)man thinketh in his heart, SO IS HE!!! Also if you are carrying emotional baggage, you may think you are available but you are not.

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photo courtest intl workplace

The energy flowing from you ain’t in line with what you praying for. It is like a house which has a ‘Welcome to our home’ doormat but yet a big dog right at the entrance. You know you ain’t welcome. Emotional baggages would keep getting in the way of conversations with even remotely interested opposite sex and aint nobody got time to continually hear about your ex John who dumped you or whatever horrid happened in the past. Please let God heal any hurt from your past. Also are you dating someone you KNOW you cannot marry whilst yet claiming ‘Single’? Eg dating a married man or some ‘bad guy’.

photo courtesy blogherdotcom

photo courtesy blogherdotcom

You may be thinking you are just holding that person in the mentime till the ‘Mr Right’ comes along but hunnay, you are sending signals even you don’t know about and people can pick those signals. You are emotionally involved no matter what you think. Usually when you meet someone, you are NOT as interested as a fully single person is only you don’t know.

Also, if there is this ‘Bro John’ you have been ‘claiming’ although dude has neither said anything nor is he feeling you laidat. That HUGE emotional investment in Bro John has made you less emotionally available to others but you dunno. It will be clear that there is NO VACANCY in your life for other people. Please don’t lose a good guy waiting on Bro John whom you have seen in a vision lol. Keep it moving and ‘empty’ Love. Bro John aint interested. PK tells the story of this girl in this uni who was overheard praying and claiming a certain ‘Bro John’ who everyone knows was already engaged to ‘Sister Mary’. The girl just dey pray dey claim the man calling out his name and surname sef. You see such a lady, though she is single, she ain’t available. Another way to check if you are available is to find out if you have unrealistic standards. The person some ladies/guys wanna marry is A PEOPLE- 4/5 in one person. I wrote a post on that here. Nobody is 100% and hey even if there was someone like that, guess what? That person wont be able to stand you cos you are not 100%. I want a man that is very romantic, rich, successful, Prayer warrior, Bible teacher, good singer like Don or Kirk, humble like Adeboye, have faith like Oyedepo, excellent like Adefarasin, Prayer warrior like Olukoya, funny like PK, HABA SISTER, ONLY YOU!!!??? Humans are work in progress. That spouse doesn’t have to come 100% perfect 2. Are you accessible?

Photo from Flickr

Photo from Flickr

Some people are available and eligible but they are NOT accessible. They cannot be reached. Nobody got access to her.

Photo from flickr

Photo from flickr

Almost like all those sheltered children whose father had this shotgun or a big dog for any man that dared to visit.

You are certainly not welcome on this property... Photo from Flickr

You are certainly not welcome on this property… Photo from Flickr

As a single person, you must be able to be reached. You can’t be praying for a spouse and continually sit in your room under your bed, tz only mosquito that will see you. And God. But God doesn’t wanna marry. Ain’t no eligible person gonna come under your bed and see you. Which is why it is good for instance to belong to a church and a service group. Too much stories of couples who met whilst serving in church.

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photo courtesy mix949

Being a member of the church ain’t enough especially if you are in all those big churches. Chances that you would be seen are low when all you do is come in, worship and after service you just leave. Ah!!! Bae, how is that gonna work? Join a department/small unit/connect group/house fellowship and let people SEE you and interact with you.

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photo courtesy crossedroadsabc.com

Not that you just rush into your car after every service without interacting with anybody. Don’t always walk sooooo fast. If you are single, reduce your pace hehehe. But frankly, I met one of my readers who said some people complained that she always walks too fast and with a straight face everytime in church and so was unapproachable. So please, catwalk ehn. Especially as a lady because these guys just dey try arrange themselves, gather stamina and muster courage to talk to you but before they reach you, you don disappear. And as a guy too, you gast be wise/. He tells the story of how in Bible school, first day he spotted this girl he thought he would like to get to know. Unfortunately, they didn’t sit so close. The next day he came early and sat close to the area the girl sat, made it a habit and kept finding reasons to communicate with her even if it meant copying notes he already had and asking questions he already had the answers to. ‘Excuse me, did you copy the assignment?’ ‘Did you get what that teacher said here?’ Of course, they started talking from there. My dear, you must be accessible as a single. Position yourself well. Have hobbies and be involved in them. Be sociable. Have friends. Obviously, he is not talking clubbing and stuff. There is healthy clean fun. Take yourself out if you have to, somebody might meet you there ooo. Nobody must take you there ooo. And while you are there, please be looking around small small. Like my Rev would say, watch and pray 3. Be approachable

From a recent shooting with Nemorosa. Thanks for the great shooting!

From a recent shooting with Nemorosa. Thanks for the great shooting!

Some people are available, they are accessible but to approach them is a different, impossible ball game. If you need to practice how to smile in front of a mirror, please do. Some ladies have a natural frowning face. A lot of men are not bold and they fear rejection so imagine they now gather courage to walk up to you and say hi or anything else to initiate conversation and you just size them up and down and are generally not very polite or welcoming.

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photo courtesy flickr

The guy will just change mouth, turn you to traffic warden and ask you for direction or to borrow bible or something else. Anything but what he was on his mind because your countenance is bad. Please greet people and respond warmly. He that hath friend must show himself friendly. Recall Rebekah and how approachable and friendly she was to Abby’s servant and how she landed herself a rich young eligible blessed man. Another thing is when ladies always walk together like a gang and their countenance makes it hard for any guy to get that opportunity to speak to one privately. Don’t look down on people who don’t have it all now and be like ‘he is not my type’ lol. Some of these hunks we see now have not always been hunks ooo. For example see Rev and PK’s Surulere pix hehehe

hahahahahaha lol

hahahahahaha lol. I wish I can see the third man now

See them today

See them today

so some of these guys you boning now may be multi-millionaires in a few years. No use today scatter your tomorrow. Be approachable. That’s all for Part 1. Part 2 will be up same time next week. That’s Tuesday. Until then, share with your friends aii… Especially your Single and ready for marriage ones Trust you enjoyed this. Please share with your single friends, male and female and you can worship with DCC here WORSHIP WITH US DCC Lagos Victory Dome Behind PHCN Office, Fatgbems Bus Stop, Amuwo Odofin, Lagos 1st Service – 7.00am 2nd Service – 8.30am 3rd Service – 10.00am Midweek service Wednesday 6.30pm DCC Victoria Island Elegushi Beach Road, Beside Meadow Hall School, After 3rd Roundabout, Lekki, Lagos. Sunday Service – 11.00am Rush Hour Fellowship (Midweek service especially for those who work on the Island) Tuesdays:                    6pm at Silverbird Cinema, Hall 4. Instead of going to enter traffic, enjoy Rush hour fellowship and be refreshed. Love Dating and Marriage (the program where this message and such relationship messages are preched) holds at different intervals in the year. If you would call our numbers, they can send you reminder texts if you wish. Website: http://davidschristiancentre.org/ Phone number: 08077714411   And then of course we have our annual WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP coming up next week. Please click on link to get all the details. Friday June 19- Sunday June 21.

WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP 2015

WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP 2015

Ladies, you know you can’t afford to miss this one. Hosted of course by Pastor Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo

Gorgeously preggo

Gorgeously preggo

Stay blessed y’all

E’

PS

In the, an amazing relationship blogger and sister has this beautiful post up on tips to surviving wedding season. Check it out here http://www.inthemidstofher.com/2015/05/5-tips-to-surviving-wedding-season.html

Feel free to snoop around her amazing blog too

Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

Brainwashed!!!

One of the things I LOVE this most about being a bonafide DCC member and a true CORRECT daughter of PK (lagos) and Pastor B(Abuja) has to be the way my mind has been spiritually brainwashed with the water of the Word.

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See my Pastors ehn, they don’t know how to ‘sugar coat’ the Word. It doesn’t matter who you are, if you are looking for the truth, and looking to grow spiritually, I proudly recommend David’s Christian Centre.

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It is not uncommon to hear PK punctuate his teachings with ‘Are you people angry…?’ And angry or not, my PK/PstB will still hit you HARD and if you are wise, you will see the love and adjust!!! In my final year, I fell ill right in the middle of my first semester exams. So I pinged PK and our convo went something like

‘…pk, I’ve been sick for a while and I’ve been COLLECTING prayers from everywhere…please pray for me..’

Now if you KNOW pk, you won’t be saying such rubbish as ‘collecting prayers’ anywhere around him talkless of to him but I didn’t KNOW him then so I typed such rubbish. I’ll just skip the ‘finishing’ I got lol and jump right into the fact that he now used me to preach at a special program in Church titled FULL SUPPLY that evening. I was in Ibadan so I had no idea but the next day, he pinged me to ask how I was doing and now told me how he preached with my ‘COLLECTING prayers’ and how I should go and get the message and listen. My people, I got it when I came to Lag and like Pastor M told me then, at least you can rejoice that at least he also called you ‘Correct daughter’. PK attacked that faithless mindset that made me think prayers was something to be ‘collecting’ like a beggar rather than using my faith to activate my healing esp as it was simple malaria once and for friggin’ all!!!

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As a DCC member, I’ve been positively BRAINWASHED. My vocab has changed. If the Word doesn’t prescribe it, I don’t care who is saying it, I don’t buy. I don’t believe. I live my life by ONLY what the Word prescribes. Tradition, religion, culture, etc are lost on me. Worst of all, popular opinion. Before I take in anything, I ask myself ‘Who said it?’

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Without such an attitude, you will just run mad in this life with all the absolute stupid and mad opinions flying around.
Eish!!! I can’t deal!!!

Blessed is the man, oh the JOYS of those who do not follow the advice/counsel of the wicked/ungodly…’ Psalms 1:1

Has anyone noticed that the UNGODLY and Anti-Christ like to give advice? Sweetie, don’t even bother thinking of any devil/witch/babalawo, please look inwards. Any talk, any advice, any suggestion, any way of life that is NOT spiritually grounded with a strong foundation in the Word is UNGODLY and Anti-Christ. Simples!!!

Something happened on my birthday and my goodness, I expected it. And I loved that it happened cos I have needed a ‘relatable to me’ story to buttress my point in this post.

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So I am pregnant. And my goodness, I am happily openly unshyly pregnant. Hey, I respect those who DENY vehemently the fact that they are pregnant (and happily married) until the 6th month. Cool. But I draw a line at two points

1. Why are you hiding it?
My blood Sis, She’s fiercely private. I recall one time someone bashed her car so in the period it was being repaired, she had to add the guy up on her BBM to be getting updates and pictures. In that period, she NEVER used any of her pictures or kids’ pictures cos of the guy.

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Ah sister of mine. She would NEVER announce her pregnancy till she’s rolling around town. Privacy is her ‘why’. I respect that. But daz NOT me!!!
I belong to a BirthClub on the BabyCentre App (My Pregnancy Today)

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once the Topic was ‘When do I announce?’ People had different answers but aside privacy, another reason some wanted to keep it private was cos they had a medical condition/complications and the Doc wanted to be sure they had passed the stormiest stages first. Infact some ladies with complications said they still announced as soon as they found out so that people around them help out where they can and  should a miscarriage even happen (God forbid), they will have help/support through it all.
Good reasons.
But I PAUSE where you are hiding and denying your pregnancy (complete with classic symptoms) just because WITCHES and WIZARDS are waiting to yank the baby from your womb. The App is an American App and NOT one single person mentioned that. This African DEVILISH mentality of witches sha!!! Before I jump into what happened, lemme state my reason number 2.

2. I pause when you even attempt to suggest to me to hide under the bed with my pregnancy just because I should fear ‘strong people’ who have the powers to remove my pregnancy!!! Why in God’s powerful name do the ungodly like to give advice? Look I’m not averse to advice but if it is fear/experience/popular-opinion motivated,

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SHOVE IT!!! With a cold glass of ginger ale for easy digestion.

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I put up this picture above on BBM and see what this Sistur-in-the-Lord had to say… I have done well to remove her name.

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I showed Diche because I was looking for a classic response Diche-style and trust her, she was like for someone who is NOT married and has NEVER been preggers, she seems to ‘know’ an awful lot and awful WRONG too.

Look, I certainly believe that the world has evil people ooo. No friggin’ doubt. But Shattah!!! Are these people DAFT enough to be playing with fire? Why should I be scared of them please? Why should LIGHT fear darkness? Why? Bikonu WHY!!!???

John 1:5 ‘…That light SHINES in the darkness and darkness can NEVER extinguish it…’

Let’s analyze this pregnancy scenario for a second and lemme attempt to brainwash you with the water of the Word…

These ‘strong people’ , whether I announce it or not, in the spiritual realm, hope we know that they KNOW these things too. We know, the devil z in charge of these ‘strong people’. As I’m pregnant now, as soon as I found out (maybe even before), devil knew too. He hears me pray for my baby. He sees me take my pre-natals. He sees me anoint myself and take the communion daily. Except he is world-class daft (and he isn’t) he couldn’t have missed it. He certainly doesn’t need me to announce it first before he sends his demons and ‘strong people’ to try themselves. As soon as he found out, he started putting plans in motion using his strong people. So please tell me if my announcement or not can stop this devil? Lemme tell you what can stop the devil and overcome the ‘strong world people’ –

1John 5:4 ‘…For every child of God defeats this evil world and we achieve this victory through OUR FAITH…’

My FAITH and KNOWLEDGE and APPLICATION of the Word. That’s my weapon for guaranteed victory.

‘… While men slept, the enemy came and sowed tares/thistles/fear/weed/thorns/etc…’ Matt 13:25

Who will the bastard catch sleeping? Or fearing? Certainly not E’.

BTW, we all know that even if you hide it taya yet you are not using your faith and the Word, strong people can still catch you abi?

With fear ehn, the devil will mesmerize you. So rather than spend my emotions and time being scared and hiding under the bed with my good news and blessing seeing as I am NOT like my sister, I invest it in the Word and books like ‘Childbirth without Fear’ and Supernatural Childbirth.

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Btw CWF is written by a Christian ObGYN… Shaaatttaaaahhhh!!!

Now let’s for a moment assume the devil and strong people will ONLY find out WHEN I go public either on BBM or Blog (and keeping a straight face while typing this is so hard here), and I decide I will NOT announce. But how about the Doctor that did the test and knows? What about the Pharmacist from whom you bought the PT strip and pre-natals? Who’s to say they are not (potential) ‘strong people’? What of that house guest/colleague who sees you taking those drugs? What of your boss who will need to know so that some kinda work gets past you? What of that person who just suspects you may be preggers and asks you? Will you now turn to a liar because you fear ‘strong people?’ There is ABSOLUTELY no way only you will be pregnant and ONLY you will know. Since you cucu like to fear, you best be fearing everyone else but yourself?

And of course, the ultimate. The absolute ultimate. When you finally start showing and you will, are you safe then? Where in the big book of BALDERDASH did any get that the ‘strong people’ have powers only when you are NOT showing and suddenly become powerless when you start showing? Last I checked, miscarriages and complications happen at various levels. Plus someone can have a stillborn, or a baby who can later die. Come on na, this fear will you carry it forever?

Instead of fear, why not be using your faith from the moment you conceive through pregnancy to the moment you die not without pumping faith through the children too. I certainly don’t want a child who is afraid of ‘strong people’ and any cockroach that crawls past him at night cos in Sinach’s Words, I KNOW WHO (and WHOSE) I AM

Mehn, we need serious brainwashing with the Word ooo. And this babe who said this is a BORN-AGAIN CORRECT Christian Sistur ooo. Even we BA need brainwashing too. We need to be BORN AGAIN all over AGAIN. The world has sold us too many lies. The world teaches us to RUN from darkness rather than flood the world with light.

‘…You are the light of the world…here to be LIGHT…’ Matt 5:14

The bible says we are NOT to be ignorant of the devices of the devil but nowhere does it prescribe FEAR them.

‘…And having SPOILED principalities and powers, He made an OPEN SHOW of them shaming them publicly…’ Col 2:15
MSG ‘…He stripped ALL the spiritual tyrants in THE UNIVERSE of their SHAM AUTHORITY at the cross and marched them NAKED through the streets…’

Kabaye!!!

That certainly doesn’t leave out the ‘strong people’ does it?

My church in Abuja used to use a Club for service on Sundays.

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Evangelism used to be hard ooo. Once you mention ‘Cubana lounge‘ the questions start flooding. For the life of them, they believe that the spirit of the club will enter us as we worship. I dunno why we don’t think that the spirit of worship which we leave behind (and carry around too) will enter the clubbers and they too start worshipping. We even have precedents in the bible.

In 1Sam 19, comedian Saul sent men to capture David, see what happened in verses 20 and 21

20 Then Saul sent messengers to take David. And when they saw the group of prophets prophesying, and Samuel standing as leader over them, the Spirit of God came upon the messengers of Saul, and they also prophesied.
21 And when Saul was told, he sent other messengers, and they prophesied likewise.
Then Saul sent messengers again the third time, and they prophesied also.

Then in verse 23, Saul decides to go Himself…

23 So he went there to Naioth in Ramah. Then the Spirit of God was upon him also, and he went on and prophesied until he came to Naioth in Ramah. 24 And he also stripped off his clothes and prophesied before Samuel in like manner, and lay down naked all that day and all that night. Therefore they say, “ Is Saul also among the prophets?”

I LOVE that story.

Why???? Why are we so scared of darkness when we have infinitely more power?

Maybe in the past, I was like that too. I believed I had to fear too. But like I said, I’ve been brainwashed. Very brainwashed. I’m always checking ‘who said it? Is it in the Word?’

While still on pregnancy, a colleague confided in me she was preggers. I knew she was sick sometime earlier so I was like ‘…Oh that’s why you were sick…’
And almost like a blood hound, she was all over me….

‘…I have NEVER for one day had any pregnancy sickness. That was just me being sick. Had nothing to do with PG…’

I love how she attacked me ooo. Cos that thing I said was ungodly. Where did the Bible ever say ‘Pregnancy was a disease?’ What right did I have to ascribe sickness to her blessing?
Omo I adjusted immediately. (I’m sure she’ll be shocked I’m saying this here) And y’all best adjust too. If I say, ‘…oh I’m tired…’ You best not say I have pregnancy sickness ooo cos baby, I’ma be all up in your face with my fangs out like a Pythonic Cobra. This babe is rocking the otherwise popularly stormy first trimester like a Rockstar. Several times I have googled

‘… I’m in my first trimester but I don’t feel pregnant. Is that normal?’

Lol.

Absolutely NO troubles.  For which I am so thankful.

That’s cos I have a better testimony in the Word. I have my confessions. (Though you best NOT spray any perfume beside me lol. I’ve turned off all the airfresheners here. Can’t stand the smell and frankly, I like that ‘symptom’ and the day I stop liking it, I pray it away. Simples. This Body needs to know I’m in charge and I have only wha’ I say)

But jokes aside, you get my point. Be careful to filter even pop opinions with the Word. Does it pass the Word test?

Another thing that upsets me has to be BBM broadcasts.

Look, I know Nigeria is super unsafe naturally speaking now and I’m all for passing info across and being security conscious but why is Psalm 91 in the bible? To put under your pillow? Then some ungodly person will now send the kinda BC that seeks to inspire FEAR in people under the guise of ‘passing relevant info’ and also end it with ‘IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE!!!’

Seriously!!!???

I know that statement seems right, and maybe I would have said it in the past but hey…

‘…If you diligently hearken to the voice of God, none of these diseases/calamities/infirmities/insecurities etc will come upon you…’ Exodus 15:26
‘…God spoke to me with a STRONG hand, grabbed me with both hands and warned me NOT to go along with these people. He said ‘…Don’t fear what they fear. Do take on their worries/THREATS…If you must fear, FEAR GOD…’ Is a 8:11ff
‘…Come out from among them and be separate from them who will pollute you…’ 2 Cor 6:17
‘…No enemy attacking our walls. Peace everywhere. No crime/terror in our streets…’ Psalms 144:14

We can’t be making casual statements that gives the devil legal rights over us.
We can’t let experience colour the truth of God’s Word in us.

‘…Let God be true and EVERY MAN a liar…’ Romans 3:4

Some of these things sound right ooo but be sure you are not giving the devil a legal right in by virtue of what you say, hear or see. Let the Bible be a filter through which you sieve all you say and believe. I once did a post about Hustling.
https://eziaha.com/2013/06/09/ima-hustler-ima-ama-hustler/
When you keep calling yourself a ‘hustler’ hmmm. Little wonder you work so hard and make so little.
Let’s be careful ooo…

The problem is we don’t know the scriptures enough. We haven’t STORED UP  enough. Like Pastor Chris says, it is that you don’t know what to say.
I like how Jesus answered in Matt 22:29…

‘…Your mistake and your problem is that you do NOT know the scriptures or the power of God…’

MSG says You are OFF BASE on two counts
1. You don’t know your Bibles
2. You don’t know how God works.

When you store up enough, your mind will be renewed, your vocab will be different. You will just find out that you have the right Words for every situation.

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I recall the sad day Kefee died, my mentees were discussing it and I was sorta busy but I was following through the discussions without saying anything till one of them said something about being scared of dying while pregnant (as it was alleged she was sick and pregnant and co which her Team denied) and how it can happen to anybody.

Shattah!!!

I dropped what I was doing and jumped right in. Say what???!!!

I don’t even know how the scriptures jumped right into my spirit but I was all up in their faces dropping the Word ooo and cancelling all that was said. One of my them, Chi now said
Ah mama always has the right Word for everything…’
I smiled.
In the beginning it was not so. No it wasn’t. I used to speak like ‘them’. But I had to learn to study (God bless PK) and STORE UP!!! Like Baba Adeboye says, in the time of trouble, it is what is already in you that will come out. We started a Joshua study this July in my online group and like one of us Nk said in response to Joshua 1:8 (open your bible) was that God doesn’t expect us to rush and start searching the scripture when the devil comes. He expects that we have stored up enough such that it just flows and that bastard runs away tails between his legs.

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This second half of the year my darling FABers, it is time to STORE UP.!!!

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The devil is re-strategizing for the second half but he will meet us ready!!! Don’t be caught napping baby. Don’t just say words loosely. Remember you shall have what you say (Matt 11:23). Why not say the right things?

God bless PK.

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God bless Pastor B. God bless DCC. I am thankful i have been brainwashed.

Do you need a BRAINWASH? I proudly recommend THE WORD!!!

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Muah

E’

PS
Heyyy thanks for all the birthday wishes guys.

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And the Congrats on the new job and new baby. BABY not babies yet please. My twin girls are still in heaven. Thanks soooo much. Wow!!! God bless y’all. If I haven’t yet responded to your message, forgive me please. I will.
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PPS
A Reader sent me an iTunes Voucher for HillSongs latest release ‘No other name’ on THE VERY day it came out cos ‘she knows how much I love HillSongs. I thought that was super sweet and super thoughtful. God bless you babe. Another sent me ‘Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize’. Ah!!! Blessings on you.

PPPS
I will be kicking off a series called PreggE’ diaries. I’m excited. Can’t wait to share this journey with y’all. Starting from screaming at the nurses in the hospital for attempting to ‘kill me’ with a wrong prescription. Looool. Watshaaaatt!!!

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So another FABer shared with me her job testimony too. I have her permission to run it anon here. Kai!!! That girl did crazier stuff than I did ooo. Ah!!! I feared her no be small. Can’t wait to run it. Watsssshhhhhaaaaattttt too!!! Maybe my next post.

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In case you don’t have a Word for the second half of the month, please let STORE UP be your mantra. Even if you do have a Word. Trust me, you will need it. Thank me lerar…

Tz a FAMILY AFFAIR!!!

I love to observe my environment.
Not just casually, but scientifically.
Before, I used to be a participant-observer (read ‘get into arguments’). Then I got my fingers burnt some. So I flipped to non-participant observation. 
And as a Social Scientist, it behoves on me to not just study and criticise but proffer solution as much as I can. And cos I am a Sugar daughter, I’ll have to do this my Sugar Daddy way. 

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So what exactly am i saying? And why all the Sociological talk? Aside showing off that is
Simples.
I did some Twitter and Blog studying while I was away. In some instances, my heart bled. Bled at the sheer ignorance of some believers. Paul actually calls it STUPIDITY!!!
At this point, may I emphasize the fact that I am writing this to BELIEVERS please.

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You know, like Paul wrote most of his letters to the CHURCH and the LEADERS. So biko ehn, don’t come and send me one email blabbing one rubbish. That’s how after I wrote the Post on what I thought about the gay bill, some atheist FINISHES me in a message. I had to patiently tell her that it really wasn’t an open letter per se. I was writing to Christians, Sweetie. Believers. And I made that clear enough in the Post, no?

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It would not be right to address us all the same way....

Which throws me right into what I wanna talk about… Somethings are FAMILY AFFAIRS. We certainly don’t need no outsider butting in our business but we also need to be very certain we are not taking our business out there, inviting outsiders to come and judge.
This is going to be a really long read…
Popcorn on you. Drinks on me… Just be sure you are drinking water.
Enjoy!!!
So let’s jump right into it… Starting from a scripture God opened my eyes recently.
Ist Cor 6. A letter from Apostle Paul to the CHURCH in Corinth.

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I don't agree with 'lesser known' tho

Quick clarification before I continue. You do realize that Christians are not perfect, yeah? Of course this is not license to keep walking in sin but my darling, there are absolutely NO perfect human beings. Much as I love my Pastors, I am aware they are NOT perfect. Ditto my hubby. Ditto the Pope. Ditto me. Ditto you. The difference between us has to be the fact that we do not continue to deliberately live in sin. So when we fall (not if we fall but WHEN), we collect grace and forgiveness and keep going. And our God? He loves us perfectly. Warts and all.

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Yup!!!

He too understands our ‘humanity’ hence His cleansing/sanctifying us daily by the washing of water with the Word… (Eph 5:26,27).
I love that God, the perfect One understands that occasionally, we would be far from perfect, we would offend/hurt one another, we would make mistakes, we would have fallings out even amongst ourselves as believers. We would not always agree with each other. And that itself is to be expected. So how do we handle it? How do we handle a believer stepping outta line? How do we handle a Pastor, Deacon, President of PFN/CAN/whatever who crosses a line? How do we handle a Saint whose sin has become apparent (sometimes to you only)? Again, recall this has NOTHING to do with someone who makes a practice of sin. I am talking TRUE BELIEVERS here.  Misunderstandings and stuff, Believer to believer. Saint to Saint.

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Bible as a weapon...literally

So how do you handle it?

Let’s ask our brother Paul…

“… 1-4 And how dare you take each other to a secular court! When you think you have been wronged/have a dispute, does it make any sense to go before a court that knows nothing of God’s ways, men neither upright nor right with God instead of a family of Christians? Don’t you know that one day, we Christians will form a jury that will judge the world? Even Angels. Isn’t it a good idea to practice on these smaller petty everyday affairs/cases? As these disagreements and wrongs surface, why would you ever entrust them to the judgment of world people you don’t trust in any other way? Men who count for least and are without standing?…”

I mean seriously? How dare you!!! How dare you take a family affair to Twitter or your blog for ‘outsiders’ to take it apart?  Don’t you realize that we are FAMILY?

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LOVE!!! Like a movie

Tz just like my hubby and I have an issue and I go and call someone who is not only a Christian but has divorced five times to handle the matter? Am I not being STEW-PEED? Why would I take to my blog to rubbish a man of God? As in a really REAL MOG who has made a mistake or made what YOU think is a mistake? Why would I tweet and RT such filth? Why would I dare make such ‘inside gist’ popular? Someday, we would settle our ishs but we would have tarnished the family name with people who were waiting to take us apart before. Tz a real battle we are fighting here. We don’t need no outsiders in the ring, thank you!!!

Ok E’ I hear you. So what do I do when someone has really really hurt me? Or when a believer is doing blatant wrong?
Let’s continue with Paul….

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“… 5-6 I say this as bluntly as I can to wake you up to the STUPIDITY of what you’re doing. I say it to move you to SHAME. Is it possible that there isn’t (at least) ONE level-headed person whose actions are governed by piety and integrity among you who can make fair decisions when disagreements and disputes come up? Those who are wise and competent enough to decide the PRIVATE grievances, disputes, and quarrels between members of the brotherhood? I DON’T BELIEVE IT!!! And here you are, brother taking another brother to public court right in front of unbelievers!!! People who don’t even believe in God!!! How can they render justice if they don’t believe in the God of justice? Gentile Judges and unbelievers without faith or trust in the Gospel of Christ, haba!!!

Hmmm. Ok E’. Seen. What if I do that and still no change. Nothing happens still?
Please continue with Paul…

“…7-8 These court cases, the very fact of your having lawsuits with one another are an UGLY BLOT on your community/family. A defect, a defeat, an evidence of positive moral loss for you. Wouldn’t it be far better to just TAKE IT, to let yourselves be wronged, defrauded, robbed, deprived of what is your due and just FORGET it? Leave it at that!!! All you’re doing is providing fuel for more wrong, more injustice, bringing more hurt to and cheating the people of your own spiritual family by treating them so….”

Seriously, Paul is actually saying that!!! And truly, sometimes I believe you should just shut up and forget it. Let’s be sincere for a second, most times tz just for gist sake that you mention it. Or just to fuel your bloated opinionated status. ITK tinz. Trust me, you can just SHUT UP!!!

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So now, you are wondering, how will these people who do this wrong be punished? God can’t just give us all these rules and regs and let them get away with hurting us/others, no?
Like Abraham, you ask ‘Will not the Judge of all the earth do right?’

Of course. Like my mama Joyce Meyer says, you don’t have to worry about people getting by with sin or giving vengeance. Sin will always have its consequences.

But Paul isn’t done
Verse 9-11 answers that question…

“…Unjust people who don’t care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. The unrighteous, the wrong doers, Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don’t qualify as citizens in God’s kingdom.
The unrighteous and the wrongdoers will not inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived (misled): neither the impure and immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor those who participate in homosexuality. Nor cheats (swindlers and thieves), nor greedy graspers, nor drunkards, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor foulmouthed revilers and slanderers, nor cheats, nor extortioners and robbers will inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God…”

I am sure one of the sins/hurts mentioned here are part of what your issue with that believer may be… That’s just God simply saying, I’ll deal with them myself. Don’t worry your sweet little head especially if you didn’t find a way to resolve it in the family.

Oh how I love verse 12…

Cos sometimes tz easy to fall into the trap of ‘…Afterall what I am saying is right. I am not lying about what so so and so did…’

Verse 12 is for you… Served Triple Delight

1.  Everything is permissible (allowable and lawful) for me; but not all things are helpful (good for me to do, expedient and profitable WHEN CONSIDERED WITH OTHER THINGS… AMP

2.   You may say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything… NLT

3.   Just because something is technically legal doesn’t mean that it’s spiritually appropriate. If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I’d be a slave to my whims… MSG

Gbam! Gbamer!! Gbamest!!!

You see ehn, a Believer who sins is not a Sinner. He/She doesn’t auto become an outsider just because…
If you are looking for a perfect sin-free Christian, you are sleeping on an okada.
You will soon crash.
Listen up, I have heard a billion thousand things that have totally broken my heart from and about Christians. Pastors inclusive. Ministers not excluded. Some practices in some churches are not exactly my kinda thing. Some may even be ‘questionable’ especially by an ‘elite’ or ‘intellectual’ crowd. For example, the rules and regs that come with wedding in the church? Or why this church allows this and another doesn’t? I can discus it with my spiritual authorities. I can discus it with a sensible mature believing friend like my Booski or hubby.

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Booskiiiiiiiiii... FAMILY!!!

But I am the LAST person to discus it with an outsider. To bring it on Twitter. To blog about it. Or take it to any platform that is ‘open’. 
My dear, you know why we can’t afford to?
Cos a house divided against itself can NOT stand…
Plus the outsiders are waiting. Waiting for any loophole to attack the church. To attack Christians. To attack Christianity. 
True true, these things are an ugly blot on our community. Someday, we will settle it. And will wanna move forward. But we have already done major damage. These outsiders will NEVER forget. They will use it against us. They will bring it up when it won’t favour us. Trust me. Something happened last year and I was surprised when some Christians I knew kept messaging me… ‘…You should blog about it. Have you heard? That’s how these Pastors deceive people. Etc…’
One actually said to me
‘…I hope you have heard. All this love and follow follow you do with your Pastors…’

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Daddy's Fave Girl....Forever!!!

Loooool. iLaugh. Of course I ignored them. But what I found the real trip was when this ‘outsider’ on/from twitter sent me a Post, asking me to run it on MY blog and in there she was rubbishing our kingdom cos she had ‘facts’.
See guts ooo. Choi!!!

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Inukwa biko...

This is a problem in MY Kingdom. Among my people. My family. You, an outsider wants to be the one to cast the blames? No baby, you don’t qualify. Leave us alone.
Now you can now imagine a believer being the one to propagate and spread such.
Ignorance and/or stupidity much?
We really have to protect our kingdom. Not to endorse rubbish or turn a blind eye always but settle ishs without outsiders coming in. I am amazed as to how Boko Haram gets their members to be so unflinching and faithful to such a cause!!! And I’m trying not to qualify the cause here. But we, we who have something far better are quick to tear it apart when one of us errs. And publicly too. Inviting those without moral standing in to join in the massacre.
Sad!!! Too sad!!!

Christianity is a PERFECT religion/relationship.
Tz we Christians who are not.
The outsiders sadly don’t know the difference. And a lot of times, the full story is not even known. They move from attacking the Christians to attacking Christianity as a whole. They rubbish it, making a joke of it.
Oh and that’s the painful part… The generalising. Have you seen these hounds attack such on Twitter and blogs? Or even in person? Ah!!! It moves from one person to ALL Christians.
Darling, we don’t want that. Don’t join them. We have a lot of people fighting us without us fighting ourselves.

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Do what you can to help a family member up... Even if tz to just PRAY for them

Disagreements will come. Christians will sin. Believers. True Believers that is. And dear brother/Sister in the family, for the love of our Father’s name, please RESPECT YOURSELF!!! But when we err, can we handle this our way? Can we have ‘private discussions’? Can we NOT tweet RT, broadcast, or re-blog anything that paints a true believer and Christians generally in bad light? Can we still treat that erring person as a sister or brother indeed? Can we have wise, competent, level headed spiritually mature persons handle the ‘buts’? Can we even just let it go and roll it over to the Judge of all the earth if all else fails? Can we just SHUT UP especially when you know that the stuff you wanna say or write gives outsiders a vote against us? Can we have private discussions and private ‘fights’ but out there protect our own with our blood, especially but not limited to those who hold positions of spiritual authority when they err? Can we keep the outsiders out?
Why?
Cos tz a FAMILY AFFAIR!!!

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No OUTSIDERS allowed

#GroupFamHug#
E’
Testifying FORWARD!!!