#DoItAFRAID…Beyond hashtags

I didn’t even know it was a hashtag. I just know that this is something God has been telling me for say 5months now.
I get a lot of comments and talks on how I am SUPER HUMAN, so energetic, so on fire, so disciplined, so etc, but what people don’t know is that for MOST of what i do, I DO IT AFRAID!!!

I am talking heart-racing, tummy-running, fingers-trembling A F R A I D!!!

In our Propel 1 meeting yesterday

, of which i had TWO PROPEL groups meet yesterday, the video we saw was DECISION MAKING and Mercy Lokulutu said something, as she explained sticking to her decisions and not being indecisive or emotional about it…

‘Once God says it, it doesn’t matter how i feel, I can EAT my feelings, I can DO LOTS OF THINGS WITH MY FEELINGS, but when God says it I OBEY!!!’

Then Chris said

‘…sometimes we are just paralysed by FEAR thinking we may fail or miss the mark, BUT God can only steer a MOVING ship, and God is really BIG, so don’t worry, IF YOU FALL OUT OF THE SHIP, HE WILL PUT YOU BACK’

Oh i have also heard Gmama Joyce say (or was it Christine Caine)

Do it Afraid until you don’t feel fear anymore… (I think it was Christine, In UNSTOPPABLE)

I hate the paralysis that FEAR brings, and so I get really UPSET about that paralysis and I am now super INTENTIONAL about doing what needs to be done, AFRAID OR NOT!!!

Let me share practically how i get through the PARALYZING FEAR

First, i need to be sure this is something God has told me to do. Not my emotions, not my brokenness or ‘lockdownness’, but God!!! And one way i confirm is to check my motives, WHY DO I WANNA DO IT? Once that is sorted, i move to phase 2

I PRAY!!!

Oh Jesus, I pray up a storm in the Spirit. I pray using Scriptures ooo, so it means i go into the Word first, get a Scripture and start to confess it in prayers. I just pray so much in the Spirit and as i pray, more ideas and clarity forms in me, and gradually the fear starts to give way to FAITH!!!

Then in the course of my regular day to day activities, i FORCE myself to THINK  consciously about it, while muttering Scriptures under my breath. I don’t know about yawl but sometimes, when I am scared of something, i do NOT even want to think about it, so I block out anything that would remind me of it. BUT GOD FORBID THAT fear (and i purposely put fear in small letters lol)

I consciously think about it, while muttering PHIL 4:13 IN AMPLIFIED!!!

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You should hear Joel quote this scripture especially telling the FAITH story of how they eventually got the Compaq Centre, a former Basket ball stadium, as their Church facility. He mostly closes his eyes and fist-pumps. LOVE IT!!! Like, satan NO REASH!!!

So all the time, i think about it, because that means i am taking the power away from it. I think about how i will feel once that is in the bag, i think about how lives INCLUDING mine will be blessed and enriched, I think about how MAD the devil will feel. Ah, i think ooo. So that Scripture is infusing strength in me steady, while my mental faculties are getting used to the idea…

Then i start to read books and messages that talk about whatever I need to do. I let God lead me to those materials and my Teachers  because I truly want to be ministered to. Check my Post on 10,000 Teachers https://eziaha.com/2016/02/03/10000-teachers-guys-stay-hungry-lean-in-go-hard/

I watch videos on YouTube from my Teachers and they usually just speak to my current situation. I recall this message and how it totally spoke to me on something liver was cutting me about. By the time i got to end of this video ehn, AH!!!

Oh and then i TALK ABOUT IT!!!

I certainly talk about it OR blog about it!!! Talking about it puts more power in my hands, and makes me realize NO GOING BACK now!!!

Propel woman Catherine haha

Fear is something that makes us NOT want to talk about it because we think WE ARE NOT ENOUGH or we will come up short or run out of ‘whatever’. We are afraid of what ‘people’ will say and think of you. That is just the devil. 

There is just something about starting. When we start, it is AMAZING how supernatural supply – physical, spiritual and mental and everywise– just start to turn up. But they won’t come your way until you start!!!
So start already. Plus even if we make a mistake and it is genuine, God sees our hearts and He has a way of redeeming stuff for us. See how this motive thing played out between the King who took Abraham’s wife as his, and God in Genesis 20…

Did he not say to me, ‘She is my sister,’ and didn’t she also say, ‘He is my brother’? I have done this with a clear conscience and clean hands.”

Then God said to him in the dream, “Yes, I know you did this with a clear conscience, and so I have kept you from sinning against me.

He made an honest mistake and God let him off the hook…

Which is why my motives are super important.  Shirer said if she examines herself and sees that the ONLY thing stopping her from making a decision is FEAR, She knows that is EXACTLY what God wants her to do!!!

You know, I am working on an INTIMATE seminar for 15 Chicks where I will just pour all my fire into them to start up on their goals, and hold their hands through it for a period. More info will turn up next week but the date is 29th October or 5th November, both Saturdays (or it could be Sunday sef) and it will cost 5k. Loving our location already. 

Just seeing it pumped more fire in me to get this done. I think i will call it THE P413 XXXX Seminar. P413 being Phil 4:13, XXX is still unknown to my Spirit and I don’t even think I want to say SEMINAR!!! Either ways, we are sooo doing it!!! You may wanna book a slot down already by emailing eziaha@eziaha.com (and I might have TWO of my friends already running hard on LANE PURPOSE join me)

LADIES, NO TIME TO SLACK OO. God is up to soooo much in His Chicks so this is the time to RUN UNSTOPPABLE

 LITERALLY after your dreams. Leave fear and feelings alone. 

They truly are NOT as powerful as we think!!! Plus trust me, you can feel fear and have a BOLD FACE too. I recall sharing somethings with my accountability partner Aijay and when I said ‘I am afraid ooo’, she looked at me wide eyed and said BUT YOU DO NOT SOUND AFRAID!!!

That’s true. I didn’t care to let the fear show…

Ladies, PLEASE DO IT AFRAID… Whatever your IT is…

Ok a few more things

My Propel 1 meetings were EVERYTHING

With our Super awesome host in Propel 2 and her baby

In Propel 1; 

Ugo, our in-house photographer in Propel 1 did an awesome recap here.More Propel small groups are springing up. Propel was something i started in FEAR ooo, forget all the ginger you saw on my blog posts here https://eziaha.com/2016/09/06/eziaha-propelled-lessons-from-my-life/ and here https://eziaha.com/2016/08/27/say-hello-to-propel-lagos/. But now see, more small groups are starting and hopefully by end of the year, we should have between 15 and 20 up and running. AMEN. I will share my PROPEL fears sometime later.

Check out those posts above and then email propel@eziaha.com for details if you wanna start one and need some help. It is really simple. Grab 5 or 10 of your friends together, ONCE A MONTH, watch the videos and discus them amongst your selves. The conversations are just AMAZING!!! Propel CHANGED my life and I truly want to see more Chicks be PROPELLED into their worlds FOR JESUS!!!

OK SECONDLY,TFS Academy is open again.

TFS is The FAB Sistership Academy… Warrior Chicks Loving life and serving Jesus. My 4week online mentoring Academy for Chicks who wanna just BE BETTER and do what God has called them to do…

Please read this Post for some context first

https://eziaha.com/2016/08/03/the-fab-sistership-academy-warrior-chicks-loving-life-serving-jesus/

If you sent a mail before, please resend. You sent prematurely. Eziaha@eziaha.com

Taking in JUST 20 ladies and I have a waiting list so HURRY. If you applied for TFS 1 and i sent you that mail to chill for 2, please send me a mail using that mail trail again.

Ok I am off to get my hair and nails done

I have a video and photo shoot tomorrow

I am dying my hair RED HOT because I need a FIERCE look for my #ChicksWithSwords Devotional haha

As per video, gosh I have an exciting message on Mommy Guilt, Mommy Fears and Mommy Wars… The Holy Spirit is AMAZING!!! This will resonate with moms all over not just stay-at-home moms but the deal is SAHM usually find themselves saddled by these because they have relatively more time and if you don’t guard your heart, the devil will just come and be throwing nonsense thoughts in.

Running along now…

Oh one more thing, there is sooo much background work ongoing on my blog. I should be ready for a BIG unveil NEXT WEEK!!! Can’t wait. Thanks to Frances Okoro for the info on porting to dot org and all the amazing benefits of it (Dont worry, my blog URL remains Eziaha.com because it will auto re-route) Makera for helping me do the porting because the technicalities were CRAZY and for making sure I didnt lose anything, not ONE post, not ONE email. Phew!!! 

And thanks to SisiYemmie for the blog upgrade!!! Yay. The FAB Sister’s blog is going to the NEXT LEVEL yo. 

With the dollar rising, it costs me some to purchase all these BUT thank God we can do it jare… It would AMAZE you how 20 dollars here and 15dollars there soon add up to 5000USD haha. Lol. See why I had to open a dom account sharpaly and start earning in Dollars and Pounds biko.

Oh and please all my diasporans oya join my class. 20dollars ONLY and 18 pounds ONLY for 4weeks starting October 7, this Friday. For the naira people, 6k pere. Check this link for all details
https://eziaha.com/2016/09/08/the-6k-chriatmas%f0%9f%8c%b2in%f0%9f%8c%b2october-promo-at-esquad/

Oh and if you are in ABUJA, come through!!! 

If you aren’t, TELL EVERY CHICK IN ABUJA!!! Super Stoked for this one. Like, God has been DOWNLOADING!!! Will pay for two Chicks off my blog but I will give more info in the Post where i give more details about this event and how my crazy Sister, Funto, got me on board… Super thankful for FUNTO. Gurl, i super LOVE you…

Ok bye guys

Sooo much LOVE and DO IT AFRAID anointing.

CoachE’ (haha)

TFS Convos; Who do women say I am…?

​Hey guys,

My Happy Place and Space is when I write. I am soooo thankful for this gift. It legit makes me happy, even if i write into the night. Like deliriously HAPPY!!!

Here’s praying we all find AND EXPRESS our Gifts in such a way that it makes us reeeeeeeeaaaaallllly HAPPY!!! 

AMEN!!!

That said, hope everyone’s week is up to a good start? 

Amen, again!!!

This Post is actually funny but I believe we will grab some good lessons by the time I sign out.

So last week, I noticed that EVERYONE who had cause to ring me would actually ALMOST be shaking as they spoke. I thought that was too strange. Jesus knows how many times I had to say ‘Relax babes, I do NOT bite…’

Anyways, that pushed me to ask my Sisters in TFS Academy possibly why, and then what my online personality is like and who I remind them of. Their answers made me laugh. 

And then think!!!

Answers below… UNEDITED please (#NoTime)

My thoughts in-line and in bold italicised letters…

Abby: Lol, sorry I have to first lol it out. You have a personality that can be intimidating for someone who isn’t whole for himself or let me say someone who is still trying to figure themselves out

Majority of us still have that thing we are struggling with so when we now see someone who is setting the bar and standards so high and doing it effortlessly at least from what we see, we seem to want to cower back into our shells haha

I know how many times I have dialled your number and just stop midway 😁

Honestly for me oh, it has nothing to do with you, it’s just us

We feel we are not enough

Oh dear, phew………If I had a dollar for every ‘intimidating’ I got. And then, I want to ask, ‘not enough what?’

Bimbo: I usually think that, will this woman accommodate all my stories. I feel you have a high standard so I’m always over careful of saying things so as not to soil the relationship. And for me I do that to people in authority. It’s just me really

Abby: How can I go and talk with mama E. I’m I even sure she will get me? Mama E has passed this level oh or mama E will not understand sef

Let me just continue praying 😂

This line got me rolling… Let me just continue praying ke? Hahaha 

That’s my own reasons sha. Speaking for myself alone oh. Just this morning I wanted to call u oh, but I pushed it into later in the day 😂

Bimbo:The truth is mama, I’ve had to ask Dee and Teni to teach me how to be free with you. I’m just always over careful. Especially on a personal level. I don’t know how to explain really 🙈

I have known Bimbo for at least 4years. Plus we were even in the same Campus fellowship yet…

Evelyn: Ermmm, from the Lil I know you set a no nonsense kind of attitude like you don’t have patience for time wasters

So it makes some people uneasy to call you because they don’t know what they would say that would annoy you and you know u keep saying people should not call you on your personal number,so whenever someone would love to call they would make sure that the reason for calling must be good enough

I also think you are a very jovial and nice person but u don’t want people to over take advantage of that so u try to set ground rules

I agree with my Darling Evelyn to some extent. I have a biz line and then a personal line, I don’t want biz or ministry calls crossing that line, even if you have the number. I am super jovial and frankly, I think people already take advantage of it, I am actually still trying to balance my own emotions.

Tolu: I just feel like you won’t take nonsense

As in no slacking, but I feel that it should get easier with time

Winnie: You come across as a ‘no nonsense person’ and a ‘don’t waste my time person’. But you’re just a principled person, and it can be intimidating for some people. You’re strict but you are not wicked.

To which I answered something like this… ‘Winnie that’s just what we say to WICKED seniors in boarding school back then because we don’t wanna out rightly tell them they are devils…’ looool. No girl, please not the ‘strict but not wicked’ line *real tears*

Teni: You have a strong personality mama, and personally it intimidates me. And it makes me super careful, not to mess up and ruin our mentor-mentee relationship

Angela: For me I think you’re extremely honest, you’re just like an open book but still you don’t tolerate nonsense. I like the principles you’ve laid out. It might come off as proud to some people but I like it. I’ve tried to call you severally just to say hello and some other stuffs because sometimes you need someone who will just listen, but I  always stop cos I don’t want to be stepping over boundaries.

This kinda surprised me because Angela and I are ‘Bonny island friends’. She has visited with me before and she has even helped me once on a flight with my baby. Yet she won’t call me to say HI lol. You are right on principles sha. haha

Ebere:Ehmmmm….E you portray a mean, no–nonsense, disciplined personality. And because you talk out about yourself a lot on social media, anyone that follows you would just want to be careful based on the stuff you write. Again, you talk of your besties, squad, 3great men etc. a lot, that people might feel “if I no dey this inner circle, I should respect myself biko, because it’s only these people that can access her anyhow”. I can’t really say if it’s you or us/them, but this is what I think is part of the issue

3 great men got me ROLLING!!!! Ebere is just a fish!!! Chick is my secondary school friend ooo and I feel like we even have a Sister relationship. Hahahahaha I can’t!!! But I love this Chick sha 

Onyinye: For me it’s really a case of you portray yourself as a no nonsense person who has value for time. Your online personality doesn’t appear approachable like if I didn’t know you I totally might be a bit jittery if I tried to call you for the first time

I think that really explains why people relate to you like I don’t know what I could say that could get her pissed off, it’s not really fear, it’s being careful

Oh dear!!! My online personality NOT approachable??? Wow!!! Me??? The super friendly E’ *bawls*

Dee: For me personally, I put value on people’s time o, especially momma. I don’t call unless it’s important, I don’t ask if I can get the answers on the blog, I don’t holler if it’s not necessary, I consult my brain from time to time when I want to talk to you, I don’t ask stupid questions, I engage my intuition well well; personally it’s cos in a way I see a lot of me in you momma a whole lot and then I’m very careful not to pass my boundary I’m like this woman is NOT my friend, we can relate as friends but she is NOT my friend oo

Online personality, momma you are open o, as in open and very friendly but a perceptive person will know this woman has firm principles and even if anything she’s saying comes across as ‘pride’ or ‘one kin’ she’s prepared

Dee is the Chick who is most like me, so I wasn’t surprised at her answer. She has studied and continues to study me. She is the one crazy human who can random send me a text message/question/one-liner at 2am. She is the Chick who can tell you literally ANYTHING lol. I think she is me, and then some more drama (praying for your future hubs)

Ok so I further asked a question…

E’: But just to be clear u guys, is there anybody I remind u of? So I can truly get what u guys mean? Nigerian or otherwise

Dee: Chimamanda

I see a lot of you in her o

It’s just that you are the extroverted version

Somebody cannot just pick the phone on a sunny Tuesday afternoon and be calling Chimamanda to say hi

Sunny Tuesday Afternoon? I fainted!!! hahahahahahaha

Someone like Chimamanda now, that woman doesn’t engage in small talk, it’s obvious, she doesn’t do recreational chatting; the hi, I just wanted to holler kinda chatting, there must be a purpose for the chat. I think it’s the value she exudes without even trying… it’s the estimation of her importance that just makes people get their acts right when they are with her

A purpose for the chat?? Oh Dee hahahahahaha. But I love the last line… It is the estimation of her importance that just makes people get their acts right when they are with her.

And since we are on Adichie, I totally agree!!! We differ on some principles but every time I listen to her, I literally complete her answers in interviews. I LOVE watching her. When I start, I just let YouTube indulge my binge, video to video on auto-play. Adichie also reminds me of my ‘best-friend-who-says-we-are-not-besties-because-every time-we-cozy-into-that-term-BEST-FRIEND-we-FIGHT-bigtime-so-let’s-just-say-FRIENDS’ hahaha. But this friend of mine is the ONE Chick amongst my ‘3 great men’ looool who is most like me IN ALMOST EVERYTHING, so I agree. But in laughter though, my friend and Adichie are twins. I laugh like a good witch. They laugh like they are being toasted and are shy… Lol 

That’s the way you are momma

There’s this unspoken hold your brain when you are coming to talk that you exude

Hold your brain??? Choi!!!

Winnie: Gabrielle Union lol

Winnie was ready to finish me that day. It is like when we were in UI (she as an A-levels student while I was in my final year), I did her bad. Everyone knows Gabrielle is a wicked witch from the West. All I remember is DELIVER US FROM EVA. Kai!!!

Tolu: Me thinks you remind me of Bishop Oyedepo

Like he is a purpose driven no nonsense person

Bimbo:Bishop is one principled and disciplined being. Same with mama

But you know that he has a good sense of humour

Kai!!! I need to be nicer. I personally think Bishop is TOUGH on another level… I don’t wanna appear that TOUGH please.

Abby:Lol, honestly I can’t think of anyone right now

U are in a class of ur own nne

Teni:Mama reminds me of DDK, they both have this no nonsense personality. Confident women, sure of who they are in Christ. That’s who mama reminds me of, DDK

Yawl know I am keeping this right? Love DDK with a passion!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE her and for good measure, lemme throw in a screen shot of a convo we had today…

Err, NOPE!!! Lol. Will share with my Academy Sisters instead…

Dee:Yea teni;You know DDK has this kinda depth and humour too nd she’s so intelligent Jehovah!!! (Ok lemme share)

Bukky:You are just a no nonsense person and that can be intimidating depending on who you are dealing with. When I first stumbled on your blog, I was like, oh wow; I like the energy, the fire. That’s just it. Anyone that must be around you must either catch the fire or stay intimidated for life. Lol

Confession time o. I was at the first edition of when women worship, cos I saw it on your blog but I just couldn’t bring myself to say hi. I stared and stared and even gisted my friend that came with me but I was just faraway. Lol.

Adunbilivit!!!

You remind me of DDK too

Both of you are very comfortable with things people are usually uncomfortable with.

And when I watch Chris preach, I’m like this is Eziaha o

!!!!!!!!!THIS!!!!!!!!!! 

Couldn’t LOVE her more

Christine Caine is my ‘rose modem’ when it comes to preaching. Lisa Bevere too. Those women allow their ‘uncommon’ personality shine through their sermons, making the most jokes of themselves. Who else would gist you how she wasn’t wearing underwear and had a fall and did ‘free show’? Who else will tell you she was trying out for the sexual gymnastics in uni because she was a really good heathen…? Nobody but Christine Caine and Lisa Bevere!!! 

When you started your weight loss program, I’m like, yay, I’m in o. Then I saw the rules and regulations I just gentle. And then you were like if you don’t do this, I’m taking you out. I said, lemme nuh embarrass myself. See what I said earlier, catch the fire or fall out. I don’t know if I’d say it’s you or not. It’s just who you are. The unique blend of sanguine and choleric in you gives you this very fascinating, sweet and strong personality.

You can tell this Chick has done some study. I am a crazy blend of Choleric and Sanguine and THAT my people, is where almost all the PROBLEMS we are dealing with lie!!!

Anuli: Lol! Omo not meeee!!! Call mama E’?? I normally feel you won’t understand all ma drama seeing you have such hold on your life and activities around you.

It is a lie!!! I don’t!!! All of us are working out our life and salvation daily…

Victoria: Mama you are amazing, I see myself in you. I don’t think you are strict, I think you are just principled of which most great people are. And like Dee I may not want to be overly friendly with you so I don’t miss out on the blessing of your association does not mean that when I need your help I won’t tell you. I sure will.

She was LAST to speak and i thought her answer was the perfect close out!!!

You remind me of Mrs Toyin Poju-Oyemade. She is a lot like you although not exactly

I don’t really know T P-O so well so I can’t say…

Aijay: You have strong personality and if one doesn’t know you well, it will come across as arrogant, especially those not very self-confident, but you are not arrogant. Some people will admire it though. For someone to be your friend, they have to have a strong mind and accept you for who you are. If someone doesn’t have mind, doesn’t have liver, they can’t be your real/close friend because they won’t be able to tell you the truth when you make a mistake. 

You are also not a people pleaser and we are in a culture where people don’t say their mind so when they see someone who has her voice, someone that can say NO or YES without apologies, they are surprised!!! It is different but it is not wrong. You really come on strong but you are also accessible especially when you use endearments a lot. It melts hearts too, but in all you have a wonderful personality.

We can assume Aijay is being biased because she LOVES me TOO MUCH but hey, I will take it lol…

Now because I have exhausted 7pages without any spiritual lesson, let me stop and share the real post that was birthed from all these above…

I will share TWO Scriptures, and two Quotes. One from my Journal and the other from Victoria Osteen

God has packed your bags, He put EVERYTHING you need within and He has left NOTHING out…Victoria Osteen

You can be Quiet, Reserved, Introverted and BOLD!!! Why? Because you have the Holy Spirit… Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo

Elijah crossed over to him and cast his mantle upon him. He left the oxen and RAN after Elijah…1 Kings 19: 19b-20a

Now when they saw the boldness and unfettered eloquence of Peter and John even though they were common men with no educational advantages, they marvelled and they recognised they had been with Jesus…Acts 4:13

Guys, can I just unpack what Victoria means when she says GOD HAS PACKED YOUR BAGS? Btw, if I were to give GRACEFUL a human form, that would be VICTORIA OSTEEN!!! 

#TheUndebatableEnd

When God created us ehn, I believe He deposited our temperaments within us. Because the very nature of the flesh is already flawed, it means that our Temperaments would have strengths and OF COURSE weaknesses. But, see ehn, we have the HOLY SPIRIT to help us PUSH beyond those weaknesses and then maximise our strengths. Almost like our bags have A-Z but in differing measures, which is really why we are different, so we should know when to unpack X-trait and when to let Y-trait rule. 

We adjust our emotions and temperaments as we are led by God but WE NEVER USE OUR TEMPERAMENTS as an excuse to shrink back, believe the devil’s LOUD lies, and function less than He wants for us. 

I was literally screaming as I spoke to these Chicks after I heard all they said. I was especially sad that some of them, when they could have easily sought counsel on X and Y matter, didn’t because they thought I was intimidating and won’t understand. 

You may disagree BUT trust me, it is NOT my fault. In fact most of them agreed it was more them than me. Am I perfect? No!!! BUT I STILL DO NOT BITE!!!

Victoria, who I closed out with, is NOT a very extroverted Chick. I met her for the first time at BECOMING and I could tell she is more reserved. But when she needs something, she pushes past her personality and the lies the devil stays whispering of ‘she won’t understand me, she is intimidating’ and shares what she needs to share with me. 

It should NOT matter how intimidating a human being is. It should not matter how laid back anyone is. It should not matter that your Personality is opposite my own, or you are still trying to figure life out, or you even think your life is a mess. What should matter is that YOU HAVE THE SPIRIT OF GOD, and THAT SPIRIT OF GOD OVERRIDES the weaknesses of your personality, the LIES of the devil, and the deceitfulness of our emotions, so that when PURPOSE comes knocking at our door, IN ANY WAY, we RUN AFTER IT with wisdom…

I say PURPOSE because I believe certain humans and events are put in our path to help us on this journey to purpose. We can’t keep saying ‘I am shy… I am phleg, I feel disadvantaged, etc…’ and be letting all these God-ordained meetings and relationships slide past us. 

There is also the place of NOT letting our overzealousness and over-ginger let us miss out on great relationships. 

For example, I am very sanguine and being sanguine is cool BUT has its weaknesses!!! I have the super human power to come on too strong and then ruin relationships. Which is why I highlighted the ‘with wisdom’ above. God packed my bags and made me sanguine but I have to learn where to ‘be myself’ and where to ‘NOT be myself’ because being myself at that time is NOT wisdom. 

There are some people I meet, or places I am at, and I am EZIAHA through and through. Like me or hate me, your wahala. I am just myself. 

There are some people I meet and I am EZIAHA 50% and I have to hide the remaining 50%. Not every time FULL TANK!!! Sometimes, gentle!!!

I have ruined relationships before, some for good (like me and my home help who I finally sent away) and some God has restored (like my best friend mentioned above who is NOT my best friend lol). I was going to ruin one just last month and God had to literally sit me down and teach me how to relate with this amazing human (someday I will tell her that story lol). I naturally don’t have a lot of boundaries, and so I just jaye-jaye through life with just about anybody. That’s FOOLISHNESS!!! 

Now, a lot of times like Dr N taught me, sometimes I wanna hug and kiss and tell you how awesome you are BUT I just say Hello with a polite smile or smiley, keep moving. Sometimes, especially when I find a new Squad member, I wanna chat with you all day everyday BUT I tell myself NO, Eziaha, relax… 

Trust me, that is me beating my flesh all the way down. It is just the same way it is hard for the more reserved people to even say a simple HI. But I have to, because I am wise. I have to be wise. I have to live beyond my emotions. God packed my bags but I need to know how to unpack each of the goodies within. Plus God told me something recently

Eziaha, you have to do HARD STUFF!!! 

And that would involve not just physical strength alone but EMOTIONAL STRENGTH and we all know EMOTIONS are super strong!!! 

And I am learning the art of balancing the contents of my bag from Christine Caine my ‘rose modem’. Chris is CRAZY but her craze reduces in some Churches ooo. When she at HillSong, she is Home!!! She can say anything. But I have heard her in a session with Bishop Jakes and she ‘maintained’. The FIRE is always there. She can get us all running laps, but she knows how far she can go with her ‘personality’. I am actually looking for the Message she preached at Joel’s church. 

You know you can’t come and be shouting on us too much at Lakewood. You will give Victoria a headache please. She would have to sleep for 2days straight. 

Looks like a doll

I don’t expect her to NOT BE CHRIS but I certainly expect her to be a different person than the Chick who preaches at Elevation church. 

Same gift. Different manifestations, because WISDOM!!! (Thank you Chris)

Now let’s flip the script on the quiet ones. 

But first let me throw in the Acts scripture and my Quote which came from my ACTS study.

Now when they saw the boldness and unfettered eloquence of Peter and John even though they were common men with no educational advantages, they marvelled and they recognised they had been with Jesus…Acts 4:13

So that means that…

…You can be Quiet, Reserved, Introverted and BOLD!!! Why? Because you have the Holy Spirit… Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo

I don’t think Boldness is the exclusive preserve of any temperament. I believe it is the Holy Spirit that, not just makes us BOLD but also CONTROLS our boldness (because I can be foolishly bold too). 

Not our education, not how much we have figured life out or not, not how much money we have or not, not the crew we roll with or not, just THE HOLY SPIRIT and because we all have Him, we can ALL BE BOLD when we need to be bold. That quote above was highlighted again to me this morning as I prepped for this post…

They were not learned and they were in the midst of Professors so they sure didn’t have no right to be bold. They were not rich. Their MASTER had left them hanging, so if anything, they should have been confused at the time. But no, they had the Holy Spirit and they spoke boldly. 

They seized their moment. 

I believe that Act of Peter and John formed the foundation of Christianity today. That’s how their world entered the next level WITH PURPOSE!!!

Stop all this ‘…I am shy, I don’t know how to meet people, etc.!!!’ 

If there is a purpose to meeting anyone, please reach out. 

Send that email. Ask if you can pay them a visit. Ask if you can PA them for a day. Ask if you can buy them coffee or Lunch. Send that text. If you see them in the mall and they are standing in line for 30-45mins, please go over and say hello, and something else that makes sense.  

Stop letting your personality, and the fickle emotions it brings up per time, to hinder your blessings. You have to seize moments ooo…

Because frankly, you never know ooo. You just never know. 

Your blessing is not in a car, or a job in itself. YOUR BLESSING IS IN PEOPLE and with people, you have to create and maintain relationships. 

And sometimes, purposeful relationships don’t just PARK at your DORMOT and wait for you to GRAB them. Most times, those purposeful relationships are in MOTION and we have to be intentional and RUN after them, literally and figuratively.

Enter our final scripture

Elijah crossed over to him and cast his mantle upon him. He left the oxen and RAN after Elijah…1 Kings 19: 19b-20a

I heard my latest Preacher crush Steven Furtick explain this and it tied up well with this Post as I rolled it over in my head. 

I just can’t wait to worship at Elevation Church haha.

Preacher man so cool and so fine!!! And he sings oh-so-well. If David had a face today, that would be Steven Furtick.

You see what happened in that Scripture? Elijah was passing by, and then he threw the mantle on Elisha and even though the text doesn’t mention, we know he didn’t stop. He probably even walked faster sef, because the next verse says Elisha had to chase him to catch up with him. 

You see… destiny doesn’t have a parking spot ooo. 

That’s too good I have to repeat in BOLD BLOCK LETTERS

DESTINY DOES NOT HAVE A PARKING SPOT!!!

Elisha may have been tired, grumpy, sad, phlegmatic, melancholic or whatever, but he was wise enough to seize that moment, and we know how his life went from there on.

STOP LETTING YOUR EMOTIONS OR PERSONALITY RULE!!!

YOUR PERSONALITY IS NO HINDERANCE. IF ANYTHING IT IS IN YOU TO HELP YOU!!!

But because all that personality/temperament thing falls under the part of the human called the mind/emotion, you need to know that it is NOT born again. It is NOT saved automatically. Only your Spirit is saved so you need to constantly bring that emotion under the Spirit control, which is why I mentioned the Holy Spirit above. 

That is also why Tim Lahaye wrote THE SPIRIT CONTROLLED TEMPERAMENT.
I hope you receive this and apply it as wisdom demands to your life. GOD Himself packed your ‘bags’, He put ALL you need and left NOTHING out. 

Moreover, I don’t think anybody will slap you if you walk up to them. At all at all!!! 

Last last, they will ignore you abi? Move on. We have 10,000 Teachers guys. 

No excuses!!!

Muah

E’

PS

This Post was to come up Monday. I apologise it didn’t. I was BUSY lol.
  

Yawl know my hubs was around so we had to re-order priorities, AMEN!!!

PPS

Read the PROPEL post? 

Find it here. Interested? The email is up now. Propel@eziaha.com 
Super-duper excited!!! 

Praying that God is stirring the right hearts and not just Chicks who are looking for ‘the next thing’ to join. 

And hey, if you are interested in hosting a Chapter or Group, and you need help, holler too. Send an email. 

Super excited about women coming together to do BIG things for Jesus THE RIGHT WAY

PPS

Hey, speaking of women doing BIG things, two Chicks having meetings you wanna attend

First my accountability partner and her prayer meeting.

I get to lead a prayer point and I am excited because it has to do with Prayers for our womanhood!!! Yay!!! Biko join us. Tz this Saturday.

And then the next Saturday, one of my Sisters,Renny, in the #Sisterhood I spoke about here is having a conference and trust me, you wanna be THERE!!!

Registration is JUST 2k so holler!!!

PPPS

Humour me though. Who do you think I am? What is my online personality like? Who do I remind you of? The answers above kinda shocked me because I am mostly unserious lol. At least I think so. Anyways please just tell me lemme know abeg. Be anon if you wanna. Just humor me please…

I am surprised no one said Heather Lindsey tho. Somedays i scream like her. I watch her too much lol

10,000 Teachers guys…Stay HUNGRY! Lean IN!! Go HARD!!!

After all, you have 10,000 teachers/guides/tutors/instructors/Chrises/Joyces to direct/lead you…1Cor 4:15

Guys, I WISH I was doing a vlog instead on this topic!!! I want you to SEE my heart and how it beats about this. But since I ain’t doing no vlog, I just pray that my writings are alive indeed… AMEN!!!
(But I’m gonna start vlogging soon. As soon as I get my nails done. Hahahahaha)

Can I just start by saying that in this day, age and time, you are absolutely INEXCUSABLE if you are ignorant?
Gosh, information is absolutely EVERYWHERE all thanks to technology. One of my biggest 2016 lessons has to be ‘When the student is ready, the teacher will appear’. 

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But what we have these days are a bunch of lazy people who want you to spell EVERYTHING out to them personally and won’t do no work. 
You know, I listen to PK a lot and have for at least 5years.

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There was a time he used to go on about how people come to him for counselling on BBM or so and he tells them ‘oh I have this EXACT message/book where I dealt with it indepth. Please get it’. And then the comedian will say ‘ehn Pastor just type it out for me now’
I mean, REALLY???
Even if PK was jobless. 
I can’t tell you how many times this has happened to me. 
You send me a message telling me this and that and I tell you ‘oh I blogged about THIS exact thing last week’ or ‘lemme recommend this video on YouTube. Please download and watch’ then the person tells me to please just type it out for her. 
Or tries to make me think her own is unique.
No hun, it is NOT!!!
I mean, aside this being unfair and impractical, it is just you being lazy. 
Only this year, I’ve had at least THREE encounters where I have suggested ways and the person makes it look like ‘what am I doing now that I can’t answer again’ and I am just W O W E D!!!
Then the next thing is ‘what am I even feeling like blablabla’
One person actually basically called me proud!!!

Phew… thank God I am F R E E of people pleasing. I have a darn good relationship with God and a resident holy ‘pokenoser’ in the person of the HolySpirit.

#ConstantChecks

Do you KNOW how many questions I wanna ask Joyce? Or Chris? Or Heather?

But I KNOW that these people have a TON of resources ONLINE and if I put in the effort, I will find it. So I won’t waste my time disturbing their peace with long emails. 
Except of course to tell them how absolutely amazing they are. 

Like I say, when the student is ready, the teacher appears. 

Look, literally we have TEN THOUSAND teachers, resources, etc to guide us through life. 

Example. 

There was just this time I needed incredible wisdom on some certain issues in my marriage. And wham, God led me to Heather. She had some videos from the marriage retreat last year and God used those videos to answer EVERY question I had. 
Another time, I had some questions of balancing life and everything. Priscilla literally read my mind and answered it in a video. 

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God didn’t open my browser and chuk the video there. I went searching and God led me to my answers. 
Infact there was this night I worried so much about something till I got a headache. I slept and the next morning, God told me to go watch a certain video. The title had NOTHING to do with my issue but I obeyed. 
It was JUST one line the speaker said and my answer came with PEACE!!!
Sooooo many times I am stuck about something and as I listen to PK or Rev, I get clarity. I don’t have to blow up their phones to get my answers. I can go HARD on their resources and get my answers. 
Same thing!!!

Sometimes if I can’t find something, I actually ask one of my many teachers ‘Please can u RECOMMEND any resource/book/study on XXX
I think for me that marks a healthy mentee. Most mentors LOVE that. It shows you are hungry and teachable. Not lazy and lazy.
Recently I did that to one of my mentors. I just needed to go HARD on a particular topic so I asked for references. 
There is absolutely NOTHING you should be permanently lacking knowledge in today. 
You have wayyyy too many teachers at your disposal.
Literally 10,000
Instead you prefer to use your data to watch nonsense on YouTube and waste away on Twitter. Don’t get me wrong, have your lil’ social moments. But when you find yourself lacking on any topic, find your teachers, lean all the way into them, and GO HARD!!!

Stay hungry guys. Don’t always want a QUICK FIX!!! Put in some effort and you will see your teachers. 

Sometimes, you may even find your ‘Elizabeth’. The person who makes the baby in your womb leap. 

And when you find them, stay even hungrier. STALK them!!!

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Some of my teachers and ‘Elizabeths’ are Heather, Joyce, Chris and Shirer. 

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Shirer and Meyer

Best thing about Americans (and well Greeks lol) is that they are quite OPEN in sharing their lives, both the good and the ugly. We Africans have a more ‘hiding’ culture. So info on them are plenty. 

Look, I am sure I can author a tidy biography of these ones. 
If you check my phones, my laptop, my journal, my browser history, you will drown in teachings from these women. 
Guys, I go hard, I lean all the way in and dig deep!!!
When I listen, I listen for the ‘story behind the story’. 

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Same way if I need wisdom on a certain area eg in raising my boy, I get on YouTube and find Christian resources. Or just Google. 
I go hard, get scriptures and go get a Doctorate on it. 

Recently, I had challenges with just running my home. One morning, I switched off every distraction and sat with Proverbs 31 and Titus 2. Then God led me to some resources and blogs online. Wham!!! Questions answered. Wisdom downloaded.

I pray to do the post God gave me from that encounter.. ‘ Home maker with a sense of purpose’ (may rename tho)

I didn’t leave my job in the UN in Abuja even when doors were opening for me, and relocate to‎ Lagos to be slothful in ‘business’. MBA, I am crazy with getting wisdom and knowledge. 

Lemme just share this I picked up from Diche, Pastor M’s sis.

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She’s an amazing script writer and so she said after seeing War room, she went to see it again, this time as a professional/scriptwriter. A CHRISTIAN one. She wanted to LEARN more about the craft from a Christian perspective so she was going hard on the Kendrick brothers.

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I recall she asked me quite some questions too and from time to time when I run into some professional info she could use on them, I share with her. 
(for instance, any near romantic scene you see in any Kendrick brothers’ movie, they use a body double, the spouse. Eg that kissing scene in Fire Proof. He kissed his real wife. That moment between Liz and Tony when he was apologising in War room, it was his wife’s leg he was romancing not Shirer’s. Etc. Lol I went HARD on War room. )

Frankly I am a certified stalker. Some of my ‘teachers’ are Christian bloggers. The way I folow Inthe’s blog ehn. I’m sure I can be arrested. Ditto Pastor M. And Dr. N. I learn. I apply. I connect the dots. I see the ‘whys, how’s, etcs’
I’m the crazy person that would remind you of something you blogged about 3years ago. Haha

One of my mentees is crazy like me. Dee.
When she reminds me of something I blogged about, I’m like ‘hi stalker‘ Haha. But I absolutely LOVE her for that. She makes me soooo happy to mentor her. She won’t just say ‘mama I love your post’ or ‘that was for me’. She will give me details of what she loves and how she applies it in her life. 
Gosh, she makes my heart so happy. 
I’m soooo proud of her. Even when I delay in answering her, you bet she will keep on reminding me. 
Any mentor would LOVE you for that. And even seek more ways to bless you. Because you can see a HUNGER!!!
OK back to my teachers. 
These are women in ministry and so I’m not just hearing the word, I’m learning how they treat their husbands, run their homes, recruit staff, spend their quiet time, relate with their mentors, how they spend vacation, raise their kids, relate with their girlfriends, early days in minstry, turning point in ministry, why they live where they live, etc. I also do a lot of ‘connect the dots’ from various messages. So you and I can listen to the same message but we sure didn’t get the same thing. 
At all!!!

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Joyce and Chris

I dig real deep and go hard!!!
Infact I literally start studying for a Doctorate. I stalk articles written about them by people who met them either formally or informally. 
Recently, I have been on Joyce and Chris. Oh I just finished with Heather and I’m applying all the knowledge I got from her openness about her marriage and home. So my study on her has paused for now. 
Just on Monday, I was cyber stalking Joyce and Chris….
Oh before I go on. How these two met amazes me. 

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About 20years ago, Joyce was attending a conference by the church where Chris was a youth leader. Babe made herself the person chosen to drive Joyce from the hotel to the venue and kept believing for it even though they had told her she won’t drive her. She saved up for weeks and kept detailing her car daily for two weeks in the hope and expectation she will drive Meyer. As God would have it, the night before, she got a call that she would drive her. 
Pick up time? 8am. 
Chris arrived at 530am because she didn’t wanna be late. She said she borrowed a suit because she didn’t have money for one. 
Then went to stand 3doors away. Joyce sees her when she came out to get her brekkie and again when she rolled the trolley out. Of course Chris kept flinging her face. 
Then Joyce walked up to her and asked if she was there for her. Long story short, mama invited her into her room, they got talking and that my people birthed this absolutely beautiful and refreshing ‘Mother-daughter’ relationship I covet with all my soul.

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Chris actually says she had been a Mentee of Joyce LONG before she met her.

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She followed her teachings and books sooo closely and so you can imagine the kinda conversation that would have happened that fateful morning in that Hotel room that made Joyce literally adopt her and start supporting her ministry. 
You know, some of you are real comedians. You ask the funniest shallow questions and conversations with your teachers. 
How was your night?
Happy birthday!!!
Have a great week!!!
What did you eat?
Etc
Aaaaarggggghhhh!!!
I’m puling out my dreadlocks!!!
Can anyone imagine what would have been coming out of Chris’s mouth that day in the Hotel room?
Plus both have similar pasts of sexual abuse
Some of you sef have mentors and teachers you NEVER visit or lean into personally even when they have given you the gift of access especially on Social media. You abuse it by asking stupid questions or even worse, FOR MONEY. But you are happy to say ‘I have XXX on my BBM’ or ‘XXX follows me on Twitter or IG’ or I have YYY’s number. 
Oshay!!!
Have you actually ‘used‘ that teacher well?
Do you ‘study‘ his/her updates and posts?
Do you ‘see’ a pattern in how that person lives?
Do you ask vital questions that gets the person’s heart happy to answer you?
Do you MAKE the effort to book a LIVE session and actually SEE that person???
You see Rev!!! I follow Rev like a tradition. If I have to push myself some, I do, and attend a meeting he is preaching at in my location. Just to be physically enriched listening to him. 

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And the best part about a hungry student is the fact that the teacher is going to start looking out for you too. 
Rev had told me three weeks earlier that he would be in DCC that last Sunday. I cleared out everything. I had to see him. Not for anything but just to SEE him. E don Tey. 
Now you see the funny thing, I had questions on some areas in life and my Rev covered it in his message. 

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Plus I got him to pray a blessing over my family too. 

Don’t confuse having someone on your social media with actual relationship ooo. There are some things we would NEVER hear/say on Social Media ooo.

Of course we can’t discount SM relationships(that’s all I have FOR NOW with those four ladies I mentioned) but what if one day God gives me a chance to meet them, you bet they will adopt me. 
As either sister or daughter.
Cos they will be like ‘this girl is ready for some real one-on-ones. She is really HUNGRY!!!’

Side story: I recall the day Pastor M introduced me to PC, the choir director in DCC Island.

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As we spoke, I kept downloading info on his career and album to me and he was like ‘ ah, you really dug deep ooo‘. I just smiled. I told yawl I was a stalker. Haha.

If I get on your case, forgerrit. 
Ditto when I used to stalk Funmi Iyanda. I ended up anchoring her show, New Dawn.

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Too tired to look for clearer pictures

Why?
Because after studying and stalking, I sent her the kind of email she would LOVE to read and wham, I get invited on set. 
Awesome. Stalker. Chick. 
Side story over. 

Was talking to one of my mentees late last year. She is number one on BBM to wish me happy new month, good morning, blessed day, how are you, etc. Then an opportunity came for her to actually VISIT with me and sister girl stood me up soooo many times. I told her that look, sending me have a nice day and God bless you and how are you is not where this whole thing starts and stops. 

You can NOT claim a relationship with me if you can’t gooooo hard to meet me. Forget shyness or feeling inadequate (she would later confess that to me). Mehn, don’t let the devil make you miss out on stuff with lies ooo. 

I recall when I was into Stars and Celebs. I absolutely adored 2Face and then somehow a friend invited me to a Christmas party he was performing at. Trust me, the security was plenty around him but if I tell u the stunts I pulled to reach him and take a picture ehn. I tell you, even Tu was surprised. He kept on WOW’ing. 

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But you see, I wanted a picture. I got a picture. 
Ditto when I was at an event with Stella Damasus. I walked right up to the front, in the middle of the ongoing event ooo, and requested her to snap with me. I didn’t care who was looking or not looking. (Can’t find that picture)
I wanted it. I went for it. 
Today I don’t care for entertainment stars. Lol. I actually cringe at how I used to follow all these musicians then. Hahahaha. 
I care for my Elizabeths today tho. I am HUNGRY!!! I go HARD!!! I study them. 
Someday, if I am opportuned to meet them, I’ll be soooo ready with the kinda questions that would get them to adopt me. 
Oh I was gonna tell a Monday afternoon story. 
I was cyberstalking my mama and sister when I ran into this blog. (Joyce is my mama and Chris is my Greek Aussie sister) The blogger was actually one of the 20 invited to a mentorship forum all day with Joyce and Chris. And she shared her experience. 

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It was beautiful. All day with Joyce and Chris. With them pouring into you and answering questions!!!???
I jumped up from my bed and flew to Laterna, bought a journal and called it my Mentorship 101 journal.  

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There I would write out lessons from the everyday lives of these women. 
And my other teachers and mentors. 
I have never been more excited at a black leather bound journal in my life. 

And you see, this doesn’t only go for ministers and preachers. 
Are you a TV presenter? Who are your ‘elizabeths’ or teachers in that field? Find them and go hard!!!
Follow them on every available platform they have. Write tips. Study them. 
You don’t have to copy their entire lives. Be led by God on what to emulate and what to nicely ignore. 
The Internet has made information cheap. Infact it is so cheap we despise it. 
This also applies to our spiritual life. 
If there is any area you feel you are lacking in, sit down. Get scriptures. Get materials. Go on YouTube. Type in keywords and let the Holy Spirit lead you to the perfect one for you. 
The beautiful thing is that God has sooooo many preachers. I mean the variety is beautiful but the message is the same. If you don’t like A, try Q. 
And even if you don’t like A now, you may like him later. I didn’t like Joseph Prince before. Now I drool. Literally!!! 

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Handsome? Check
Funny? Check
Worded? Check Check Check!!!

Ten thousand teachers guys!!! 10,000!!!
You must find your specs among them.

Don’t die in your ignorance. Don’t let laziness or whatever rob you of your blessings. 
And this even also applies to the seemingly mundane stuff. 

I recall when I was looking for a help, I spoke to at least THREE Christian wives/moms for counsel. Had not been down that road before and they had so they became my instructors. 
Look out for this. Be careful of this. Etc. 
Infact just before I settled for one, I still rang one of them and as we talked she advised me on how to control those ‘off days’ issue. 
I mean the wisdom she gave was so sound that even my bestie had to applaud it. 
Some of yawl are way too proud. 
You won’t humble yourself with your teachers. You call them once, twice they don’t pick and wham, ‘who does she think she is sef’
Well, she’s apparently she’s all that which is why you are calling her. 
Like PK said once, that person is obviously busier than you so be persistent. But not stupid. 
Don’t give 12 missed calls at once. 
Call once, twice. Then send a text. 
If response is delaying, pray and/or send a gentle reminder. 

Don’t abuse a relationship. Don’t abuse access. Don’t just give up because you feel the person is being proud. Sometimes they aren’t. They are actually busy. Or they wanna see how serious you are. 

Don’t ask for money. Had to call out someone who did this. You don’t ask your mentors or teachers for money, no matter the good deed of saving the world you wanna do. You ask them for WISE counsel. And prayers. 
Imagine if Chris started asking Joyce for money? Haha. 
You see, Joyce’s ministry has actually partnered with Chris’s since that meeting to fight human trafficking. I’m sure Joyce saw sincerity and her spirit and decided to work with her. 
Please don’t spoil a mentoring relationship by asking for money. Ask for wisdom. And as God leads them, they may actually decide to bless you financially. 
Then when corrected, repent!!!
Don’t now start acting funny.

Moving on, also fight to get what you want from your teachers. 
There have been TONS of people who send me invites to speak here or write there. 3 missed calls later, they move on. Or maybe they asked me a question on this or that or want me to help with this and that and a few ‘unavailable’ moments make them fashi me totally. 
Makes me laugh how easily people give up. 
Guys, how BAD do we want this?
Can you FIGHT for what you want?
The proof of anything is your desire and how much you are willing to fight for and pursue it. 
A good mentor will pick up on that.

Frankly if I need something from you, I will fight to get it. 
I don’t care how busy you are. I will be persistent. Cutely so. You must answer me. It also helps that I have a great personality and know how to build and maintain relationships (I’m taken tho. Incase there are new guys reading this blog. )
Ah some of yawl give up too easily. It makes my heart break. 

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Imagine if Caine gave up on fighting to drive Meyer, just because of a few NOs!!!
Oh my!!!
Funny story. 
Nick, Chris’s hubby actually did go hard in his pursuit for Caine. In Bible school, she was his teacher and he fell in love with his teacher (same age tho). So he did some sneaking and found out from her best friend that she went swimming everyday at 6am. That’s how dude started forming 6am faithful swimmer too. Took his chances one early morning and now claimed that he LOVED swimming EVERY morning at 6am so that meeting was purely coincidental. 
Lol.

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Both of them are 50 this year

20years married now and bae says not ONCE in their marriage has Nick stood up to go swimming at 6am. 
Hahahaha
But you see, for what he wanted, he was willing to go HARD. He literally went HARD on his teacher. Haha. 
Let me not go into how absolutely fruitful that union has been. 
Nick is handsome tho. Choi!!!

When I started my weightloss journey too, I went hard with my teachers. And they were a LOT. 
So many resources available even in Nigeria from BBM channels to blogs to Instagram etc. I meant business and any ‘teacher’ I encountered, I bookmarked. And followed as God led me. I don’t even have to like you. But if you have anything I need, I learn.

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Some of yawl wanna lose weight but you want me to spoon feed you every thing. Even when I say it is on my blog, some people won’t visit, they will still come and ask me questions. 
Oh my generation can be L A Z Y!!!
I’m just saying it as it is. Me inckudu
Sometimes too, people flat out tell me ‘Eziaha, I want you to mentor me’ and I’m like ‘oh cool. Praise God’ 
Then they actually want me to be the one chasing them. 
This life is funny ooo!!! Hahahahahaha. 
Lemme just explain something incase the long story above hasn’t explained enough. 
You CHASE your mentors. They don’t chase you. You are the one who needs this and that. When they see your eager spirit, they open up even more. 
Not that first few days, you are alright. By day 3 you disappear. .Mehn, I can’t!!! 
No wonder some Pastors lament. It must be real hard with some mentees.

I’m just thrilled when I see thriving healthy mentor-mentee relationships. Where the mentor glows about the mentee. I did a post about it here (Give them something to be proud about)I see that between Rev and PK. Rev and Rev Victor. And of course Joyce and Chris. 

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Gosh Joyce is soooo proud of Chris and Chris literally CHASES Joyce. Even till tomorrow. 
Tz sooo beautiful. 

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You know ehn, Rev is my numero uno. If I go to him on any matter, I OBEY.

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Infact, I get into trouble with myself cos once he has counselled me, end of discussion. No matter how hard, I obey and give him feedback. 
Some of yawl just disappear after your teacher has poured into you.  Then when another wahala bursts, you come again. 
No. Give feedback. Sometimes Rev can give me a short answer or even not respond but I make sure he gets my feedback. 
If he mentions any resource or preacher, I go look for the person. Or stuff. I follow. I obey. And hard too. Because frankly Rev is not just my teacher, He is MY FATHER!!!

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For even though you have ten thousand teachers, you do not have many fathers. For I became your Father in Christ…1 Cor 4:15

Which brings me to my next point. 
With all the many teachers all over the globe, you need a ‘Father’ (it could be female). Someone who knows you and can vouch for and mentor you personally. 
It would be funny if all I claim is Meyer and Chris. 
No, I have Rev. I have my Pastor M. I have PK. I have Pastor B.

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PM. PK. PB

These people are my ‘Fathers’. I am their daughter in Christ. If something is killing me, I fly to them as the Lord leads me. 
One of the BIGGEST issues I have faced in my life has to be my Ex. He somehow came back into my life after he got married and from ‘we are just friends’ clap entered dance. 
Worst part? It was mutual. Even worse from his end. 
People, I struggled!!! It was soooo HARD to shake him. Ask my best friend Valerie. And to think this was someone I didn’t sleep with ooo. 
So one night, I got tired of struggling. I sent a message to Rev and confessed my sins. Next day, I’m in counselling in his office, bawling my eyes out. 
He kept passing the box of tissues and listening patiently. Few words and a prayer later, I received strength to shake the brother off!!!
No judgement. No guilt tripping me. 
No indulging me either. Just plain Father’s love. 

Guys, you need that kinda person in your life. 
And to make that above story less interesting, I was SINGLE then!!!
But hey, I could have been married too. The moral of the lesson there is HAVE A FATHER too!!! One who can closely mentor you one-on-one. But be a teachable and cool daughter or son too. 
And something else you can pick from that story is this
Rev is the BEST anyone can have out there.

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Rev& PM

I’m so thankful for him. 

Before this turns into a full blown book, let me end by saying that God (best still the Holy Spirit) is our ultimate Teacher. No human is perfect but God can lead and guide you on how to relate with your teachers. 
Let Him lead you to other teachers per time. 
So be sure to live LED!!!
#GodOverDustParticles
I think I can sneak in a Caine video before I sleep. 
Yup? Nah. I am sooo sleepy. Tz 1am.
You can enjoy this short one. A clip from Joyce’s conference 30th anniversary. 

Chris is too funny I tell ya. 
Funny story? Just as I put this post together, I bumped into a short vlog by Chris on, wait for it, Christian MENTORING. 
Lol
Was just telling my best friend Enny that Chris must have somehow read my post even though her video is some 2years old I think. 

Cool stuff. Told you she was my twin. 
Plus tz funny that Joyce and Chris both have the same deep masculine voice lol

Guys sleep calleth.
Love yawl like crazy.
God loves you too.

E’

E’s mail… Dear E’, how do i hear from God? A FAB mentee responds.

This morning, I have resolved to not do anything at all till this blog has been updated. So I won’t even let my boss know I am in yet. Anything short of him breaking down my door, I won’t respond.

Hehehe

Hey, how is everyone on this FAB lane? Been what? 22days!!! Over three weeks!!! Kai.

In those three weeks, life has been all the shades of amazing, fabulous and then some.

I LOVEEEEEEEE my job!!! Two weeks working here and I have received three mails from my boss hailing me ‘You are doing a real amazing job’, one free lunch from him, another from a senior colleague and a gift too (The first of many he said) yaaaaaay.

Life is good… nay FAB!!! #LeSigh

***just went out to peep. Boss ain’t here yet. Yaaaay!!!***

Ok let’s do this fast.

Today is FAB FRIDAY!!! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

This Post is totally dedicated to all my FAB mentees. I love you girls mega (and more when you stop calling me mama) *tongue out*

Ok, I have a group of amazing young ladies I mentor on Whatsapp… Met them all off my blog.

Every Friday, we have something called FAB Friday where they get to ask me all sortsa questions and all. I think it starts at 6pm, 8pm or 9pm. Not sure again sef. But this week, I think Chi said the topic was gonna be relationships. Ah!!! My bread and butter. #iLikey

Anyways, still on my mentees, today, I am going to share Ify’s testimony here… She is one of my FAB mentees.

I met Ify when she was in a really bad place. Her issues didn’t attract me (I am not Jesus Christ abeg) but her spirit did. Ify is one person who knows how to be very very real and down to earth. She has a really beautiful spirit. She needed help, she wasn’t ashamed to request for it and bare out her mind to you. Yes there was anxiety and all but her beautiful spirit filtered through it all and I just knew I could take her in and let God work on her.

She requested to be added to the mentee group and I agreed. Interestingly, she is the only married woman there (though she got married pretty early and so she fell within the age range) and I feared for how she would cope but like I said, Ify knows how to just LEARN. Ok the word I am looking for is ‘ify has a teachable spirit’

And trust me, this is not common.

Anyways, the mentoring journey started and little by little, I saw changes in Ify. Then I started seeing major changes. Ah, it was like a dream to me. She was just sooooooooo open. If Ify needed help, she would ask. She was never ashamed to ask questions or make her confessions. If she erred, she would tell me even if she had to do it in tears. She is amazingly open kai.

On the group, she is everyone’s sweetheart. They all call her mama ejima and they have all booked her twins down for little bride and page boy lol… At least, Godmother space is exclusively mine hehehe. They all absolutely love Ify and most of them have been hosted by her in her school in Ife.

Ewa, Ify and Chi

Ewa, Ify and Chi

I hear she is a great host too.

I met Ify for the first time at Akikitan (and she brought me and her other sisters giftssss ah).Some of my mentees came too.

Dee, Bella, Ify, Chi, Ewa and Glow

Dee, Bella, Ify, Chi, Ewa and Glow

I gave Ify a 4G flash filled with messages and she would listen and give me feedback on them. I told you Ify has a teachable spirit. And she would have question for days…….

So after I did this post on my birthday, Ify was one of those who asked me ‘How do I hear from God like you’? I told her I was working on a post and it would address that. Interestingly, little did I know that it would be Ify who would end up answering the question for the scores of persons who asked me. In those three weeks, God gave Ify a testimony and the night she shared it on the group, I knew I had to run it here so I asked her to mail it to me and she did…

Please enjoy Ify, unedited…

My responses and thoughts are in asterisks

 

 

 

 

Honestly am short of words. This came as a surprise to me. God has been so awesome and merciful to me. I can’t thank him enough for the wonderful sisters (which I never had) that He brought into my life through the FAB lane. Am one of mama’s mentees on mentoring on the FAB lane. Am Ify aka mama Ejime. My walk with God has been a struggle until recently. I have grown in faith and being positive has become a lifestyle as a result of being mama’s mentee. Few weeks ago, two of my sisters (from our mentee group) graciously came to visit me in school.BeautyPlus_20140725101815_save One of them by name Ewa bought me some books.

Immediately she gave me those books. She told me we would pray in tongues for 30miuntes during prayer time. I was shocked because on my own, I have never prayed up to 15 minutes in my understanding and you tell me I would pray for 30miuntes in tongues. I gave her all the reasons in the world why is not possible. I can’t. Like what will I be saying in those 30minutes? She told me the Holy Spirit will give me utterance. After so much persuasion, I reluctantly agreed.

**** Lol God bless you Ewatemi darl.

Ewa

Ewa

That is how Ify used to protest too at the beginning in the group when it was her turn to take the Word or pray and I never used to excuse her hehehe***

Fast forward to prayer time. We began praying in tongues. How the spirit came upon me and I did it for 30miuntes was a mystery to me. We prayed over an 1hr that day. I never knew something great has been deposited in my spirit. 2days later we were heading to our various destinations. She gave me her flash filled with loads of messages from her pastor on tongues and prayers. It was a series. I got home and listened to those messages at least two every day and my spirit man grew. Pastor Segun Obajide dwelt so much on tongues that I started praying in tongues on my own. First day. I prayed over 1hr. I tried to stop but I still continued. I prayed more in tongues than my own understanding. I start studying from 12am and 3am. Something I dare not try. One amazing transformation in my spiritual life these few weeks is my Love for the bible. I search scriptures myself and get answers to all I need. Normally I hate reading the Bible even as a Christian. I confused when people talk so much about the bible and am like ‘what are they saying?’ The bible had been so boring to me. I read my devotionals and skip the scriptures for the day. I had no business because it doesn’t make meaning to me. All that makes meaning used to be Psalm 113:9 and Ps 37:4. I only read a scripture because someone makes mention of it. Am thrilled how my eye lights up anytime I read the bible. The Holy Spirit Has helped me to enjoy every aspect of reading the word of God. I never knew what I was missing all this while by not praying in tongues and studying the Word of God. I STORE UP so much lately that every areas of my life has begun to change. I must add that the indwelling of the HOLY GHOST has been a wonderful experience and I have a regular fellowship with Him. My marriage has changed because of the way I pray too. You need to see how my dear husband holds and cuddle me when I come to bed early hours of the morning every day. His embrace tells me a lot that u might not want to go into details now.

***The REAL SEXY wife is the GODLY one ooo. Forget Hollywood/Nollywood***

Hubs told me yesterday that he is enjoying his marriage with me more now than the 3years we have been together. Tz like honeymoon to him. He has been on holiday for 3weeks and we spend time together in each other’s company and we have no arguments. Not that we fight but my temper could be so ‘blessed’. I get angry at every little thing and shout, carrying a long face for hours. Honestly all this changed because I was blessed to have someone that encouraged me to pray more in tongues. I found out that my mentality about childbirth has changed. It becomes the last thing I confess or pray about. Growing in the knowledge of God has become my greatest priority

*** Ify is in faith (actually we all are in faith) for her twins.

Don't twins just look amazing on Ify? Can't wait abeg

Don’t twins just look amazing on Ify? Can’t wait abeg

Like I used to tell her at the beginning when she used to worry so much, God is NOT interested in giving you a child as much as He is interested in having you grow in your knowledge of Him. Children are the cheapest things for God to give (and jobs and husbands and ‘fill in the gap0 but frankly, with her level then, I didn’t think she was ready for children yet***

My friends noticed I talk less and stopped being critical about others. I couldn’t have done this on my own. God used my two wonderful sisters to change my life. I could go on and on.

Mama, I must confess when I was added on the FAB lane. I felt embarrassed. I wanted to beg you to remove me because I was married and am 5years older than most sisters.

*** Lol. I think just one is 17 or so jor Ify…***

Something kept on stopping me from making that move. When I saw the spiritual level of all the sisters. I felt like an ant. I buried my head in shame and said to myself ‘If young girls this age could be this devoted to God. What have I been doing?’ plus mama said something one time – Christianity is not judged by one’s age. I was so loved in the group. I felt so special. I had sisters I never had biologically. Their support through trying times amazes me. They pray with me and for me. Encouraging me not to give up, they have helped me to know that am not perfect but God loves me. Another mentee that helped me more is Olivia.

Olivia

Olivia

On BBM, she will just send me a message, “Sister Jesus loves you. Sister God loves you despite the sins you have committed’ Olivia is a TEN Abeg. I always struggle with sin. A very bad secret sin and I shared with her. I never knew she understood where I was coming from and shared scriptures with me. All my sisters on the group have been so supportive one way or the other. From sharing quality gospel songs with me that edifies my spirit, to encouragement and love when I share my experience. Each of us from the group have a wonderful testimony from the FAB group.

*** I love hearing their testimonies ehn. Chai!!! The ones that are bloggers are supposed to run a personal post ‘Mentoring on the FAB lane, the journey so far…’ Then ahn, I recall one week we read a chapter of Jakes ;The Lady, He Lover and Her Lord’ and my goodness, there was healing that week as TD Jakes talked about past hurts and abuse and all. Omo ehn, I was amazed as to what God did…***

Mama mii, my most Fabulous mama. You know all this wouldn’t have been possible without you. You availed yourself as an instrument to be used for hurting ladies like me. Where will I start from with you?

Ify and I

Ify and I

You know how you have helped me. Mama you know how I was when you meet me. Am sure you know now that your girl has grown.

***Mehn!!! Tell me about it!!! Thank God I didn’t give up***

You have been a major part of my life that I will never forget. Am eternally grateful I came across your blog through PM’s blog and she encouraged me to speak with you. Mama, our own na another blog post. Well, I still reminisce on your smoothing hug. I longggggg for more.

***Woooh, I will start charging for this hug ooo. Lol. Ify had to ask me if I hug guys like that too and I am like OF COURSE NOT!!!***

My testimony on the FAB group plenty o. But I will stop here o. I hope I wasn’t a talkative. God bless all the FAB family.

Did I mention all the activities we enjoy on the FAB lane?

(1) Mentoring on the FAB lane

(2) FAB mentees word sharing

(3) FAB Book club

(4) FAB mentees prayers only

Plus the latest addition. FAB Friday. Where we get tips on marriage, relationships, career etc. It’s been awesome. I bet with all this. You will beg to be among the FAB Mentees group.

***Hehehehe. Did I mention that Ify is such a toaster too. Ify can toast you for ages. Lol***

Mama, you know I have been disturbing you about a particular blog post. (How to hear from God). If you noticed I have stopped doing that. The HS has taken charge. I hear now and know the mind of Christ. God knows me by name and He speaks to me specifically. So you can take your time on that. Just chill and let it come at your convenience.

***No Baby, you just did the post. I will just add something I heard Rev Victor Adeyemi say that Kenneth Hagin said… ‘The will of God is inside you. If you pray LONG ENOUGH in the spirit, it will jump out of your inside into your head/conscious and it will become clear to you…’ So I am NOT surprised at Ify’s growth. All the tips I would have loved to share are in her story…

  1. The right association
  2. Your BIBLE (AINT NO ESCAPING IT)
  3. Prayers especially in tongues (oh btw, Ify is catholic ooo)
  4. A teachable spirit
  5. Messages and Books
  6. Etc etc lol

This blessed me. I know it blessed you too…

Ify I am super proud of you boo. I feel like one proud mama…

Ok time to work and best part of working in the UN, aside from loving this job incredibly and endlessly, has to be that Fridays, the UN closes at 12.30pm. Whooooooop!!!

 

Can’t wait for today’s episode of FAB FRIDAY!!! Whoop!!!

Hopefully, I would have come in long before from braiding my hair and rested some.

And yeah, just in case you are wondering, pregnancy has been FABULOUS too. I know I promised a series ‘The PreggiE’ diaries’

Just cross your fingers, it will soon start. Hehehe. I am outta office all week next week so hopefully when I am back, I will debut…

 

Loveesssssssssss

E’

 

PS

So I attended the CHAYIL 2014 CONFERENCE organized by Pastor M and DCC Married women’s group known as CHAYIL. It was amazing.

E', BLESSING AND ADA

E’, BLESSING AND ADA

I am working on a post that would bless married women but it would be on @Marriagebydbook‘s blog sometime next week.

I LOVE this picture hehehe. Ada and I

I LOVE this picture hehehe. Ada and I

Btw, I now KNOW @marriagebydbook but I am sworn to secrecy until comes out herself or annoys me hehehe. She is a REAL AMAZING FABULOUS BEAUTIFUL woman hehehe

 

For the FAB wives and moms… #LetUsPray

First things first…
Happy birthdays to my darling mentees who don’t stop haranguing the rest of us with twinees to triplets to Quads cos they are four born at the same time.

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Dee Voke Bimz and Chi

Dee Dee Dee Dee Dee…
Fell in love with her blog from my first visit. Derinsola love, I am proud of you. I hope I say it enough.
Voke my latest mentee. You came in bang at the right time and you get a mention here. Lol. I’m surely loving getting to know and mentor you, Ovoketina. (Love your name btw)
Bimz Bimz. The latest graduate on the mentee lane. And from my Alma mater too. Whoop!!! Keep living for and repping Christ Abimbola hun.
And Chi… Kai. Where do I even start from? Chi and her trailer loada drama and theatrics. Chi can talk for Africa… Both in English and in French. Choi!!! But don’t try her when it comes to Bible study. She drops it like tz hot. Chi came into the FAB mentee lane late o but was overwhelmingly voted group leader by the rest of the girls. Very strong, unmissable presence, plus she is a very effective Chief Whip too lol. Chimamaka my darling, don’t ever lose your effervescent spirit and keep on reppin’.
Love you all my darlings and have a Happy and Blessed Birthday and year and life indeed.
*Group Hug with the Quads*
Ok now that your birthdays have come, can we now ‘hear word’ on the group? Ugh.

Ok so today is Prayer day. Whoop!!!
And I’m led to focus on the moms and wifeys. If you are single and you feel left out, don’t worry, just sow seeds of prayers into our lives and your future.

Quite a couple of moms and wifeys were among the 31 FAB testfiying voices but just so we are clear and you know I have you in mind, I’ll list our names.

Eziaha
Dumebi my Booski
Eniola my Sapphire
Mienye my amazing Prayer Partner
Water Walker
Priceless
Naija wife
Carolyn
Cannime
Tomiwa
Adeolu

And cos I know some more FAB wives and moms, I’ll have to add them. Tz one big happy FAB  family after all…

Pastor M
Fey’licious
Rosebud
Diche
Inthe’licious
Nonye
*insert your name here if I missed it*

I had to read through all our posts and specifically pray for the requests you shared with us here.

You can refresh here

E’ testifying
https://eziaha.com/2014/01/01/31f-a-b-voices-e-testifying/

Booski Testifying
https://eziaha.com/2014/01/02/31f-a-b-voices-booski-testifying/

NaijaWife
https://eziaha.com/2014/01/27/doubledelight-naijawife-and-afoma-testify/

Ebele testifying
https://eziaha.com/2014/01/31/31f-a-b-voices-celebrating-testifying-ebele/

Priceless Testifying
https://eziaha.com/2014/02/09/31f-a-b-voices-priceless-testifying/

Tomiwa and Cannime Testify
https://eziaha.com/2014/02/19/from-across-the-waters-two-moms-tomiwa-and-cannime-testify/

Mienye and Carolyn testifying
https://eziaha.com/2014/02/23/still-mommy-lurvin-on-the-f-a-b-lane-mienyecarolyn-testifying/

F.A.B. Mrs. O Testifying (Sapphire)
https://eziaha.com/2014/02/28/grandfinale-f-a-b-mrs-o-testifying/

Our God is faithful. Faithful to do all He promised. Hold on darlings. And don’t stop praying for your home, kids, and all. Prayer is work but it works ooooo. And we should pray lest we become preys to Ekwensu.

One thing is undeniable- You can’t run marriage on the power of flesh alone. You will crash. So I certainly don’t play with praying for my marriage. I recall reading on http://www.inthemidstofher.com where she said she has not had to pray for anything as much as her marriage. At the time, I didn’t quite get it cos I was single. Now tho, I get it wella. BTW, you should visit her blog for some of the most amazing marriage lessons she shares. Now I don’t have kids but hey, tz not too early to start praying for them ooo. David is one of my second fave Bible character and we have been studying him on my FAB group. One of what we are learning is that David missed it mega when it came to training his kids. Ah!!! A whole DAVID. And the terms the Bible used were harsh sef. 

1st Kings 1:6 His Father had spoiled him ROTTEN as a child, NEVER once reprimanding him…. #Adonijah #CoupPlotter
2nd Sam 13:21 ‘…but he didn’t discipline Amnon. David doted on him cos he was the firstborn son…’ #Amnon #Rapist

They certainly brought him wahala. Omo, you need wisdom ooooooooo.
And the bible thankfully says we can ask wisdom of our GIVING God and He will give liberally…

Never too early to start praying for them ooo. Yesterday during our prayers, Rosebud raised a prayer request for our kids. I loved when she said that our kids will bring us joy and be a delight to our souls. Choi!!! And then Tobi said ‘Our kids dont do drugs, they do GOD!!!’ Kabaye!!! Amen!!!

I use the Power of a Praying Wife as a guide to prayers.

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This Book is the BUSINESS... Infact 'The Power of a Praying' range of books

I’ll just pick out some lines from some of the chapters, pick out some points from all the momma/wifey posts shared and we can pray together. Both for our selves as wives and moms, for our husbands, for our marriages and for our homes. Of course this won’t cover all but tz a good start…

Let us pray…

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Father, first, we are soooooooo grateful for the men, the kids and the home you have given us. Beyond words grateful.

We ask today that you help us to be model wives and mothers. The ones whose husband and kids bless and speak well of everywhere. Wisdom to build our homes on the right foundation, we receive Lord. Where we need change and transformation, we yield totally to you to do a quick work in us and keep perfecting us. Teach us and Make us indeed our hub’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend and support. We satisfy our husbands in EVERY WAY. Their hearts safely trust in us they would have no need of help from outside. Help us raise model children. Help us to be the kinda parents our kids would be proud to top-list as their role models. The seeds we are raising are godly.  Let our homes be rooted and grounded in Love and Peace. 
A submissive spirit is released upon the FAB wives in this lane. The spirit of LEADERSHIP z continually released on our husbands. They hear God. They know what to do. They command and lead their families in the ways of God. Our husbands are men of Faith. Men of courage. Men of God hallelujah!!!

Lord we ask that you teach our husbands how to be great fathers. Where it wasn’t modelled to him, we ask that you teach them. Let the heritage they pass to their kids be one rich in the fullness of the Holy Spirit. Help us Lord to discipline our children right and not pamper them to stupor.

We speak wealth and riches in our homes. We use our wealth for the kingdom of God halleujah!!! In our homes, we walk by faith. We live by faith. Our homes are super abundantly blessed. We lack no good thing. The desires of our hearts in accordance with your will are granted. Whatever we agree together on as a family, stands. The devil has absolutely zero foothold in our homes. No thoughts of divorce or infidelity in Jesus name.

Model Christian homes are our lot… When examples are needed of how a home should be run, our homes will come up…

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Thank you Lord cos our marriages are protected from anything that can harm it. We enjoy the godly marriage of our dreams, we ask in Jesus name, amen.

Now to more specifics…

Father we pray for myself, my Booski and Sapphire…

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My wifey delights

Thank you for making our marriages increasingly the dream that we want it to be with the incredible doses of fun, spirit and love. Thank you cos my besties and I enjoy the most amazing marriages ever. 

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This man has 'my number' mehn....

Thank you cos we have the wisdom to balance our lives well in such a way that our marriages and husbands don’t suffer. We may be new on this but wisdom of the aged is released on us in Jesus name, amen

Thank You for giving NW and NH more beautiful marriage stories to share with their teeming readers. Their marriage remains a blessing and ministry. Thank You Abba for NaijaChildren coming. We know that the wisdom to raise them is released on them in Jesus name. 

Lord we commit Water Walker and her hubby MK to you. Thank you for your increased blessings on their home. Thank you for all the FORWARD 2014 plans. We know you are working it out already. Thank you especially for her hub’s ministry and equipping her to keep birthing his vision.

Daddy, we thank you that Priceless is hub’s perfect helpmate. Her eyes are increasingly open to ways she can help him. Thank you for their amazing kids.

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My darling Ariel

Oh and thank you for more and more culinary skills for her as she desires.

Cannime’s hubs and son remain the perfection she said. They have the wisdom to train their son. And she remains a perfect wifey to him.

Thank You Lord for an overdose of wisdom on Tomiwa and Adeolu as they raise their kids… Thank You for the right and godly family you will raise with them. 

Caroline has the wisdom needed to strike the balance between discipline and love. Wisdom to train her kids. Even as she takes the Sunday school class, she also imparts to the children godly values for life in Jesus name, amen.

Hot and sexy wifey is my darling Mienye. She cooks up storms for hub’s culinary delight. She understands hubs perfectly and picks all his signals. Her small oga at the top too is growing up in you. More and more married Christian friends you are bringing her way in Jesus name, amen.

Lord we also commit Inthe, Fey, Nonye, Diche, Rosebud and other Fab wives here that we haven’t mentioned to You.

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I LOVE this picture... Diche&hubs Diche z Pastor M's sister

You know the desires of their hearts concerning their marriages and homes. Grant them Oh Lord in accordance to your will. You know what needs fixing, Lord wisdom to fix it. We call their marriages testimonies and delightsome in Jesus name.

Daddy’boo we are super grateful for my darling Pastor M and her marriage that you have made this beautiful testimony we all draw from (fly to her blog to understand why I say that. http://www.justusgirlsnaija.com ). Father, continue to pour your very life into her marriage. Continue to make her marriage an inspiration to the world.

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Pastor M's Davidaaaaaaaaaaa ❤ She z soooo pretty

Continue to place her marriage on that pedestal that shows the world that you can have the marriage of your dreams. Continue to bless her, bless her PK, bless ‘dassah and ‘vida, bless her ministry and bless all the amazing people and children that are in her life in Jesus name Amen.

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PastorM's children @ DCC Married women's fellowship... #HOTwifeys

Father thank you cos you are helping the Weight watchers here. (Hehehe). And those who wanna lead healthier lives as wives and in their homes (kitchens). Discipline be released on us all including me, WW, Priceless, Mienye and the rest

Father those that are trusting you for family Vacations, thank You for making it a reality. Sapphire, Mienye, Booski, Cannime, E’ etc.

Those who are trusting you for the fruit of the womb and are expecting, thank You cos their desires are granted them and at the right timing where things are perfected in Jesus name, amen

Of course, we can’t forget those FAB Singles who are planning marriages this year/early next year.
Chinwe, Valerie, Tani, Ruth and others (feel free to add your name ooo). Lord make a way for them and cause things to go even better than they have planned it. I certainly can do with wedding plannings biko.

Oh and those trusting you for Davidic men?

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Men that it is in them to fly you through 4continents for your wedding anniversary. #HoneyMoonistry #RevRocks abeg

Divine match-making we ask oh Lord. We will testify and rejoice with them too in advance in Jesus name, amen

And generally, I pray for my readers. By association with this blog, dear God, bless them and make their lives Favoured And Blessed indeed in Jesus name, amen.

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To You our Sugar Daddy’licious who hears and answers prayers, we pray in Jesus name, amen.

Phew… I am a prayer-addict walahi.

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Boko-haraming the devil and his kingdom

Did you feel this?
I hope you prayed ooo. If you didn’t, oya scroll back up and pray now now.

Hugs,

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This wife's hotness (and natural hair) is going NOWHERE!!!

E’

PS
While we are on mommy-lane, lemme ask y’all a question. So I was watching Moments with Mo (abi with Bolanle and Dolapo) and the topic that day was ‘Child stars’. So I actually asked myself if I’ll let my child be a CHILD STAR. My answer (as well as Bolanle’s who I absolutely love btw) was a BIG FAT NO!!! Lol. Mehn, you gotta be at least 21 before I let you do anything ooo. 😐 Then I thought of KKB show and how my nieces was on the show cos well, they were using her school and some of the students.

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My KKB niece

I guess I don’t mind stuff like KKB show, drama in church and school. As in proper children’s show in Naija ooo. But you see all those Disney kid star tins like HM, Reality shows, music stars like Willow Smith, etc, I no gree ooo. Lai lai to lai lai.
Ah, especially anything that would require they do music videos and apply make-up as kids. Mba ooo
There z dis beautiful young girl singer, I think she’s under 10 or so, won a reality show and mehn, when I saw promo pictures of her album and video? Choi!!! Why didn’t they leave her as a child? Why make-up and grown-up dressing?
Anyways sha, I’m not saying tz sin or is bad, I’m just saying tz certainly not for me. I’m all for ‘let kids be kids’

So would you let your kid be a Child star?

PPS
Any wife on the lane wanna pray more, holler at me. I could help encourage you. My prayer partner Mienye and I darriz…

A F.A.B. #OpenLetter…

This is an #OpenLetter from E’ to my darling FABers…

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When I decided to run the #31Voices, I thought I was just doing something fun on my blog. I didn’t realize I was doing MINISTRY!!! I didn’t realize I was actually running with a vision.
It hit home after I got the very first post from Booski and I was teary complete with goosebumps. I knew she sent it in a hurry.
The dream had to be out. I knew she had to send it so that she knows she has committed herself and would need to be accountable. No going back now, mba!!! First thing my head told me was, ‘Hell NO!!! This girl is building castles in the air…’ Then I heard God tell me very clearly,
‘Is it your business? Is it you she is trusting to get all this done? Please don’t interfere in MY BUSINESS…’
It hit home, I promise.
It was HIS business and not mine.
As the mails kept coming in and I saw people’s 2014 dreams, I’d hear Him say again and again,
‘…Not your business…’
I got used to it fast so I now started saying it too
‘It is NOT my business oooo…’
It however is my business to pray and keep you all accountable. And by God, we will testify. 

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Let me tell you, I poured BLOOD into this. That’s why I couldn’t publish everyday. Half measures is NEVER my style. I was involved. I would read through, pray, believe God, see what I can do to help, mail people back privately, etc!!! It was emotionally draining. Some days I sat by my Tab and just cried!!!
I asked myself who send me message ooo.
Then in between all that, I was getting tons and tons of mails from girls who needed counsel on one thing or the other. Or just needed me to agree with them for som’in. Or they just needed to ‘up their spiritual game’.
Then I also kicked off mentoring about 10 amazing teenagers and young adults. Aside from the general talks we have, they still mail you privately for counsel or just gist. Mehn…..
Hmmmmmm.
Then my virtual Prayer Group kicked off too.
Many days I looked at my E’Pad wondering what even gave me the guts to dare. But reluctantly, I started it. At the same time, Pastor M sends me a request to join CHAYIL, another virtual Christian group for married women and being in that group just gave me both the ginger and the direction to JUMP!!! Thanks Momma’Vida. That invite was timely.
Generally this year, my blog really became family for me this year. #FABfam#
Or in DCC style, my blog started its own FORWARD journey with all this.
I knew it started blessing lives on a different level through this. Some mails I’ll get and I’ll ask myself, ‘na you be this? ‘. Imperfect me? And one thing I kept telling myself to keep my head firmly on my shoulder was

‘…it is NOT and will NEVER be about you. It is about God so just be an Usher and keep leading people to Christ…’

When people let you in their business like that, it is a major MAJOR privilege. You can’t repeat it to people in gist. You can’t take it lightly either. And while you can’t do whatever it is for them, you can pray for and with them. And also keep them accountable as much as you can.

This can get really draining. I can’t even explain it. God bless Pastors with a true heart for the sheep. I have committed to praying more for Pastors ooo. Ise oluwa no be play ooo.

And the funny part was that I’m used to picking up my phone and ringing my darlingest Rev up when I need to let off some. I talk to him, get counsel, have him pray for and with me, etc.
But all through this year, he has been in America starting off and stabilising Triumphant Assembly Nashville, USA and this talk no be BB talk ooo so I had to chill.
You see Rev, he is I-N-C-R-E-D-I-B-L-E. I have stopped trying to figure him out. 14 churches all over Nigeria, One now in yankee, Guest minister all over the world (he travels EVERY month around the world including countries with names I can’t pronounce sef looool ), Father to very many children,

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husband to the BEST woman for him

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(my darling Rev TJ who calls me a huggy somebody loool kisskiss), biological father to 3 including teenagers, mentor to MANY, marriage counsellor extra-ordinaire, Publisher of very many books and yet Rev still manages to make EVERYONE feel special.

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With his incredible schedule, He will still ask me
‘So how is so so and so thing you told me about?’ Or
‘hmm how come I don’t know this your friend?’
You sef you go wonder, hello???? How do you have time for so much biko? Loooool. He even remembered to congratulate me on my POP all the way from yankee. Rev is a TEN abeg. So see me with this small thing about to cave in. I really truly missed Rev ooo.
But one day, I spoke to my Booski.

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Tony's GOOD thing... Forever

It took one line she said to put some things in perspective. She said, among other wisdom nuggets,
‘…don’t be engrossed in the pain and forget the reward…’
Ah, it struck home again.
I was getting too engrossed that I was losing sight of the reward. And by God, the reward cometh… It won’t be long now. Hehehe.
Please don’t forget to remember to NOT beef me ooo. Biko ehn. And like my darling PM said, ‘…hope you got your sunshades on?…’
But there are other rewards too I almost lost sight of…
Hmmmmmmmmmm
Do you have an idea how rewarding it is to hear one girl I have NEVER met commit to living her life for Christ just because she reads my blog?
Or when someone mails me and says she wants to become a secondary virgin just because……..
Or just another girl with guts enough to walk away from an ‘efulefu’ because she really wants what Aku’m and I share (I pray you even more)
You have NO idea how rewarding that it.
I am like ‘…God this blog I started just to be gisting with people…’
I am actually amazed as to what some people pick out and relate back to me. Just some random line I wrote casually sef is what gets quoted back to me in a mail as something that changed her life.
Mehn, it is hands up amazing what my Sugar daddy can do with an imperfect but willing heart. If there is a person who can yield, there is a God that can use… And when God uses you,… Hmmmm.

So why all the story above?
I said all that to say this…
THANK YOU!!!
Thank you for sharing your 2014 visions with me.
Thank you for sharing your lives with me.
Thank you for every kind word, every email, every text, every phone call, every comment, EVERY… All through this series.
May God, my Sugar Daddy that knows how to branama, bless you.
While the series has come to an end, the testimonies are just starting.
Feel free to share your testimonies with me as they start rolling in, especially in line with what you shared here.
Please go back and read the vision from time to time to be sure you are making progress. (Frances hun, just saw your comment. She just read her own and gave me some feedback as per how far she has gone). Please never lose sight of the vision.
When I ask you for progress reports (and I’ll ask), I hope you indulge me.
When I harass you too (and by Chukwu, I’ll harass too), just read it as me saying ‘Sit up babe/dude…Time is going’
If you need me to agree with you about som’in, you know where to reach me.
Eziaha@eziaha.com
I will put the links of all the #31Voices that featured on a single page on my blog for easy access. Just click menu button if using a phone and you will see it. Should get that done by Sunday latest. Bella, Dee and Ewa you girls will help me yeah… He he he.
Every Tuesday, I would take out time to pray for us all in line with our dreams and vision. And I’ll also run a prayer blog post here on some Tuesdays like this one I did… Please feel free to join from wherever you are.
This also goes without saying you need to play your part. God won’t play your part and His. God is not a magician biko. Don’t make our prayers useless ooo.
Basically, all I’m saying is this is not the end!!! Mba we just got started. If anybody is going to give up, it will be the devil NOT US.
We will keep at it till we testify…
This has been a real ride yo!!! A project indeed. I feel drained so I will be away from blogging for two weeks to just chill and refresh… I am actually considering a vaycay. Everyone needs some TLC err’once’n’a’wyl jare. I pray it pulls through.
So I’ll be man-loving and E’-lurving too. Speaking of man, shout out to Aku’m, for just leaving me to do my thing whenever I get into the blogging mode. For all the ‘alone times’ I need to meditate that doesn’t disturb me. For all the time I spend with my mentees and praying sisters that he graciously lets me enjoy. For listening to all my gist, whining, questions, etc. For listening ever so patiently even when I can see that sleep is calling his name and initials. For counselling too. My husband is a TEN!!!

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The many faces of TRUE LOVE

Thank you baby. You are the REAL star. 
I will also take this time to put some things in place for my next levels!!! Yaaaaaaaaay. #OnToFORWARDtins#
March 14 or 15th (which doubles as my sweet momma’s birthday and my darling friend’s wedding) I’ll be back… God willing!!! Hopefully, I won’t be tempted to take the whole of March off. He he he.  I’ll be on Twitter though @eziahaa , FB Eziaha Omoteniola Ajaero and Instagram Eziaha. And of course, if you need to send me a mail, holler eziaha@eziaha.com
Aku’m says I’m prouding with this email Addy… He he he. I say it all the time. Loooooool. I love my name ehn… I am considering giving the name to the girl child we are thinking of adopting. E-Z-I-A-H-A. Lemme catch any of you giving that name to your child he he he.
Of course you know I will still be lurving and caring for my natural hair

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Hubby says this style is good for carrying water on the head, imagine.

Still doing my workouts with Kate Henshaw

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Didnt have the ball so i used coconut #creativemuch

And of course, still cooking up a storm #ChefE’styleeeeee

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Yamarita, gizdodo,pasta n salad, potatoes n veggies :p

Of course, I am still eating healthy
Sooooo long FAB’ers. I noted some other FAB blogs I love just incase i stop blogging. They are sure to keep blessing you so holler at them and bookmark and thank me later. I should actually update that list cos there are more I have discovered. This would have to do for now though…
http://eziaha.com/2013/09/16/just-incase-i-stop-blogging/
Miss me :p
Muah
E’
Going Forward…Still Testifying

#DoubleDelight… Bella and Ewa testify…

Ok so we are back to double delight…
I chose these two girls purposely because they are absolutely delightful. They are two of my mentees and they are super duper awesome girls/teenagers andi love how both have a heart for God. Too delicious!!!
Bella sent in hers first so let’s hear her first
I met her for the first time last Wednesday in DCC which she attends sometimes…
Such a cute buggy sweetheart…

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Blessing Mayei-Aweda 😀 (Bella Mayei)
Below 20 (I’m just 17)
Student
I live in Lagos,Nigeria

MY BUCKET LIST
Make Heaven                                                                                        
Just if the trumpet sounds in 2014, I want our sugar daddy to grab me and tell me “Bella, well done”. I also need to grow spiritually to make this happen.I am a new convert who hasn’t received the gift of the Holy spirit yet.
So my number  2 is…
Be able to receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. I desire this soooo much and i see it,flowing in 2014.I want to speak in tongues that would send the devil to yabaleft  straight. lol
*you know, when she mentioned this to me, I totally forgot to pray with her to receive it last Wednesday. Thankfully, we are making this happen this Wednesday yay!!!***
Embrace Photography Professionally                                            
This has already taken baby steps in 2013,I want it to be at the peak in 2014,I want to be that “Really young female photographer making a difference in her generation”.
***Amen. This is super cool. And she has promised to give me a free photo session… Whoop***
Further my education.                                                                        
 I need to go back to school oh! and not just any school.The BEST school,and also finish with that result that will turn heads.JAMB is too small to hold me back this year,especially now i have got Jesus on my side.
This  request is settle,iyaff already agreed with my sugar daddy,Yimu to the devil.
Reach out to people with my blog                                                  
If anybody had told me i will own a blog,dis time last year,i probably would have laughed it off,but here I am,a certified blogger (That gets mentioned on E’s blog :D).                                
2014 on my blog would be… (I have no words for it yet),but i am expecting a blast.          
***Her blog address is http://www.themindofbella.WordPress.com***
                                                                  
This my bucket list for 2014,and i am standing on Psalm 37:4,100% sure that God’s word NEVER fails.
Happy New Year.

Thank you so much darling…
Muah!!!

The next up is Opalana Ewaoluwa.

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Ewa is seriously a drama Queen . I can’t get over her… Ewa is just 19. Yet to meet her. Hopefully this year when we have our FAB mentees hangout… OK enjoy Ewa…
Hello FABers. I’m Opalana Ewaoluwa. A 250 level geology student of Obafemi Awolowo University(also short for Oba Adaniduro University). I love this sweet father of ours and I’m going all out for Him!
So nice to be in 2014 and this year I’ll definitely testify! Last year was fabulous even though I didn’t have any plan. This year must be better so I’m making a list of things I must achieve this year. I can sense in my heart that this year would be my best ever! I mean it can only be brighter for me now. Everything in my list boils down to repping this Kingdom better. Ours isn’t a Kingdom to be ashamed of jare.
1. Fellowship with the father:- I know this has always been His age long desire. So here am I saying ‘Lord own me, possess me’. Ama enjoy being in His presence and just communing, taking in all of His glory and just basking in the euphoria. This way I’ll get to know Him intimately and hear him clearly. See You in the secret place Lord.

2. Tap into the supernatural. I’m not gonna be like those Christians that get to a particular point and plateau. No! I’m gonna push more, press on, go deeper. I’ll stir up the supernatural in me and attract God’s glory. I’ll have a serving of it all, the unlimited power of faith, the anointing and God’s glory. This of course means studying more and praying more. I’ll also have to do a lotta listening and obeying more. So help me God.
3. Evangelize more:- like I said, I gats rep the kingdom more. No more slacking with the Gospel! The world has to hear this Gospel.
4. Make a 5 point GP for the semesters in the year. No more ‘I don’t care’ attitude with my academics abeg. Everything about me must scream KINGDOM. I hope to draw unbelievers’ attentions to my results. Amazing way to preach Christ.
***very amazing way I tell ya…***
5. Put a little more in my dressing. I usually don’t put any effort in my dressing. I just don on a pair of jeans and t-shirt or blouse. I intend to pay more attention to details and be more ladylike( I still hate skirts tho, so I’ll probably have to get more dresses). I’m already on it sha, already wowing people.

***oh please, do this already ooo. When we meet, I expect ‘ladylike’ oooo***

6. Give more. Considering its my year of exceeding grace and abundant prosperity, I’ll be dissipating grace and prosperity as I receive so I’ll definitely be giving more.

*** Awesome darling. If it is in your heart, He will bring it to your hand…***

7. Join a mentoring class. So this year I’ll be joining Pst Funke’s mentoring class finally. Can’t wait.

***OK, I hear so much about pastor funke on the mentoring group. Apparently, three or so people there passed through or are currently in the same uni and attend(ed) GLT fellowship/church. Pastor Funke must be a real amazing pastor.

8. Visit a gold mine in South Africa. Ever since I started geology I’ve dreamed of visiting a gold mine( and maybe working there). So y’all FABers pray for me.

***cooooooool. Men see dreams ooo. We will pray. Just bring gold for us oooo***

9. Make more time for my friends. God has so graciously blessed me with amazing friends and I intend to spend more time with them. Iron sharpeneth iron buh there has to be contact na. Also plan to meet more amazing people and befriend them.
***see them a!!! There has to be contact first. God’s grace with that. Good thing you guys in the mentorship class have been flowing well already ***

10. No boy plans this year abeg but I’ll be praying hard for him so he’ll show face at the right time and in the right state if you know what I mean

***absolutely NO boy plans please. Let’s focus on what’s important now aii sweerie***
11. One goal that I’ll be leaving up to Sweet Daddy alone is getting my car. Dunno how He’ll do it but I’ll testify.
*** At 20? Definitely not too early to drive ooo***
12. Last but not the least is to send at least one message to Mama E’ everyday of the year. Get used to it soon ma’am.
*** Loooool. She has been trying. Not daily share which is fine but she just sends me the most random emails going on and on with gist as if I was there when it all happened… I just laugh and laugh and laugh… Smh for you MAMA Ewa***
Love you all and do not stop praying for me. Shalom

***love you too darl. And love you too Bella***

Ewa too blogs at http://www.youthtoadults.wordpress.com

I trust you guys enjoyed my girls… I love the relationship they really have going with God. I just bless God for their lives.
Please guys, don’t stop praying for these people who have shared their dreams with us on the F.A.B lane…
Sow a seed of prayers please. It sure is affordable yeah…
God bless us all, amen

So this week is my passing out parade POP for NYSC batch A 2013. Thank you Jesus. So grateful.

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I recall this day. I took more pictures than I did the sanitation.
Loooool. But thank God I took pictures. Twas the same pictures I took that was featured in our Year book.
Hehehe
My NYSC days were fun mehn…

Muah

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E’
Going Forward…Still Testifying