#PropheticMotherhood… What DDK said

God has blown me away in recent times. I woke early Sunday morning and as I thought about the previous week and all that had happened to and with me, God used a Twitter scenario to drive it home…


So I was having this convo with Kuchi and QYM on Twitter and I said #GroupHug as I ended the convo. Kachi, a friend from Uni who runs this AWESOME blog http://www.kacheetee.com had sort of been entering my lane recently, jumps into the Twitter trail and says she’s forcing herself right into the hug. And instantly, my spirit opened up to receive her into the hug. If it was real life, I would have eased her right into it without her having to force.

And God told me that He was just opening Himself up more to me because I had jumped right into the middle of what He’s doing in this season!!!


And I pray you understand what that means and how it can be applied to our walk with God so


Now let’s just jump right into what happened at Prophetic Motherhood.


If I keep all that to myself, it will be absolutely WICKED!!!

I definitely learned plenty


I want to get the same faith and fire into as many women as possible. Plus it looks like I entered this wahala myself with all my publicity. Every single chick wanted me to share what went down there. So that’s why I’m doing this since I can’t keep up individually with everyone.

We’ll do this in FOUR parts. Yes it was THAT GOOOOD!!!

Let’s start with what DDK said at #PropheticMotherhood… Infused with some E’ flavour.

Disclaimer: I can’t capture it all. Impossible. I’ll share what I can.


So what is Prophetic Motherhood?


Prophetic motherhood is living on the fast lane of the Holy Spirit, knowing EXACTLY and doing ONLY what God wants me to do. Downloading accurate and precise directions for life concerning my seedsssssssss. (definition of seed coming up later).

It is when you restrain the forces of evil so that in your case and on your watch, ONLY that which God has said concerning your seed comes to pass.


It is staying on my knees until I see in the physical all that God has told me in my spirit. You have to pray mama. What is keeping you awake to breastfeed better be strong enough to keep you awake to PRAY, and in tongues too. I mean, moms know that if your baby wants you awake, up and pacing at 2am, you go do am. So you better be up and pacing in prayers too because YOU CAN!!! (plus the devil is not playing with you. What is confronting us is SERIOUS BUSINESS)


The physical demands of being a woman can weaken you but you must pray to God to strengthen you because you MUST find the energy to pray ooo. Love how the Bible says the Proverbs 31 woman ‘her hands are strengthened for the work…’ #NoTimeForLazinessOrWeakness

It is praying the Holy Spirit conditions my approach and regulates my heart as I raise my kids so that I am not led by my emotions. I can’t always be on a short fuse and always lashing out at my kids. As a woman, I have to express tenderness as I raise my kids and not be emotional. I must know the uniqueness of each child’s personality and receive wisdom to raise them as such.

It is understanding that the seed born of me will be OF GOD just as it was told Mary. And seed is not limited to children alone. It includes businesses, career, ministry, etc. So concerning the sector of the economy God is leading me to, I am LORD and KING and I take control for Jesus!!!

Prophetic Motherhood is understanding that there is a child within my husband and it is my job to call forth the greatness in him too.

There is nothing as powerful as a praying woman. What will be the strongest memories your kids will have of you? A praying mom? A wimpy weak or a crying mom?


My #mommygoals should be that I’m my kids’ first role model in everything… career/ministry, marriage, relationship with God, etc. All round, I’m my kids’ mentor. My kids must aspire to meet (and then surpass) the very high goals I am setting in life. I must live right before them from childhood.

Don’t let Disney Junior and Nickolodeon raise your kids. You need to download from heaven the blueprint to raise each one of them.

We should make our kids givers from a young age. Tithe from their money. Give them prophetic pledges to give (to Pastors and Fathers). They too can enjoy the blessings and rewards that come from giving directly

The moment when your kids sleep at night is critical. When the world around is quiet, their spirit is very sensitive so that is a good time to put your hands on their chest/head and start to speak LIFE into their spirit.

Pray that you receive favor with their caregivers ie nannies, homehelps, teachers in school and church, etc. Mama, you cannot be everywhere, even if you are a FT stay at home mom. You need to overtake their caregivers by the Spirit to be full of love, wisdom and faith- unable to do them harm!!!

You know DDK granted this interview January last year http://virtuedigest.com/debola-deji-kurunmi-believe-woman-can/ and something struck me there when she said she is not afraid or thinking funny thoughts about her kids when she goes out for ministrations. I mean, she is free to pursue other seeds God has helped her birth.

I know people who fear is the reason there don’t want to get help. You need to take control of these things in the spirit ooo. Because there is more to you than being a mommy and so you need HELP and I will dwell on that when I get to What Pastor Dotun Arifalo said.

There was something Pastor M told me when I was looking for a help. Infact, she commented on a post sef she didn’t tell me directly.


But we all know your Pastor’s comment is a prophesy, prayer and vision rolled into one. I started declaring it ooo. That my ‘help’ comes from the Lord. You see Nkechi, she is a help from God. My life CHANGED when she got in. At the same time God was changing my season, He was preparing a Help for me to ensure that I could RUN with the vision in this next season.

No way!!!

No absolute way I would be HALF as productive without help. My dear, it takes a VILLAGE literally, to raise a child. So dear mama, give your absolute BEST and then capture Caregivers in the spirit to do their absolute BEST too. That prayer point hit all the right notes in my spirit.

OK and the final thing I wanna share resonated especially for me who is a ‘married but living single most times mama’. Haha (Not for too long anymore tho)

Do not underestimate the role of fathers. No mama, your own prayer is NOT enough. We also need the Fathers. There is an order and plan with God and so there is a place for the Father’s blessing. So if your hubby is not around, you better call him, put the phone on speaker and have him pray over the child both of you made ok? Trust me, I’ve already started biko. Every night or day, my baby daddy is gonna be praying over the phone and speaking the father’s blessing over him. Lemme carry the one I am wired to carry and not do overload biko.

And speaking of baby making, DDK ordered us to go and release the tigeress in us in the bedrooms. Our kids need to stop sleeping in our beds right in the middle of both of you so that we can ‘lambano’ what is ours at anytime.

(Oya baby, hurry home. Lol)

Gosh, I LOVE DDK!!!


Hawt us!!! (Well according to DDK)

I mean, that’s part of prophetic motherhood ooo. She spoke of REDHOT, something her ministry is birthing soon and it will focus on basically heating up the bedroom!!!

Bring. It. On. Mama!!!

All the abstinence somebody did before marriage has to be compensated for IN MARRIAGE biko!!!

Oh plus there is a Deborah Initiative for women (that’s her Ministry name) retreat in Abuja in June. Trust me, I’ll get details and blow it up on my blog.

OK one last thing she said I wanna share is this

Children are a BLESSING/GIFT from God. They should ENHANCE the others gifts and callings of God on your life and NOT HINDER it.


I could do a 30day devotional on this line alone using my life. That was exactly my point in this post. KingDaveed has definitely enhanced my life.

There’s so much more she said and since I can’t capture it all, I’ll just stop here and jump right into ‘…what Pastor Dotun Arifalo said…’ and my people, that’s a TORNADO coming!!!


The Post is ready!!! Come back tomorrow!!! Plus I may be sharing a story about this hug tomorrow.


I love you guys. Sooooooooo much.

Let’s make Jesus proud TOGETHER!!!


Finally met PINK. And yes i gesticulate too much lol

Feel free to share to more moms and women generally. Don’t be a hoarder haha


I bumped into this picture yesterday. Had to collage it with the AFTER


The day i finished Jillian's 6weeks6packs Abs

Amazing what the human body can do when you push it. Can’t believe how fat i was. Lol. Biko lemme push myself to the gym. Need to get stronger. God’s work doesn’t allow for bolobolo loooooool

Email us today after you read this post and let us help you be HOT again!!! (I did it all from home and with naija foods so don’t fear)

I promise, this thing is not rocket science
You can really go from THIS to THIS haha.
Classes start on Sunday May 1 but we gotta do orientation for one week before so hurrrryyyy

BTW my phone where I have my BBM went blind. Just in case you sent me a message. I can’t see it. Please email… Until I sort it out.

Are we even fighting AT ALL…?

You know, this week was an absolutely emotional one for me. For some reason, I spent quite some time on the phone with women.
I took away ONE thing from EVERY conversation.


That some, maybe most of us are NOT fighting hard enough!!!

My Rev (who I am CRAZY about more now than before) said something once in his leadership school.


It was a QnA session and someone had asked what informs his preaching per time…
He gave many things but one stuck out. I have NEVER forgotten
He said that sometimes you have quite a lot of people asking him questions on the same thing.

Different people. Random people. Same questions. Same issues.

Then he knows it is time to address it in a sermon…

That’s what this week was about for me so let’s yarn in this post.

Good thing is, I’m addressing myself too. I’m gonna write this knowing that I would have to come back from time to time and read it. Matter of fact, I’m sharing mostly my fights…

Ladies, are we fighting enough for what is OURS? Are we even fighting AT ALL?

No kiddin’ but looks like everywhere I turn, the devices of the enemy seem to be pumping itself up. But we who he is attacking are on Instagram.

If the devil ain’t coming for your kid, he’s coming for your marriage, or your husband, or your job through maybe a boss or policy from hell.

Oh, he’s coming for your finances too what with fridge spoiling today and pumping machine breaking tomorrow. Or even endless hospital bills for members of your home. Oh he’s really coming for our health.

He’s coming for your prayer and study life by making you either oversleep, engaging you in fruitless activities that leave you drained and unable to engage in activities that actually bear fruits. The ones God wants to use to bless you.

He’s coming for you by constantly whispering lies in your ears, sometimes through people closest to us, that make you cower and not live out your full potential.

He’s coming for you through domestic accidents, car accidents, and even NEPA!!!

That dude is coming for our lives and he’s not even slowing down. He’s deploying ALL of his arsenals.

He of course knows how to get to you and he is NOT holding back.

But a lot of us are sleeping, yawl.

Giving up.
Holding back.
Drawing back.
Making excuses.
Blaming the wrong person.
Fighting the wrong person.
Or just lounging on Instagram.

You know what, we are in a battle guys. This is not PS3. Or candy crush. Or subways surfer.
This. Is. Full. Blown. War.


We are in a battlefield guys. Not a play ground.

Sadly some of us are giving up just because he pulled the first punch.

Honey let me tell you what you do…
You. Fight. Back!!!

Oh Jesus, YOU roll up your sleeves and shokoto and get ready to kick some devil ass without pity.


But some of us don’t know how to fight because we don’t have any weapons. Our arsenals are empty.

The weapons of our warfare are NOT carnal but they are MIGHTY through God…

Tz not to late to get in the battle field babe.
Good thing is, we have read the end!!!
We. Win!!!
We end up with Jesus on the streets of gold baby.
The devil rots in eternal hell.
We. Win guys!!!
So we fight from victory.
We fight on our knees.
We go in our secret prayer place, get out our sword of the spirit-the WORD- and do some serious damage to the devil.

So that boss will not let you be, messing up your life and making you miserable at work.

No, don’t take it as ‘one of those things…’

You get home, block out like 30mins and scabash until even you KNOW it is settled!!! Do it everyday until that which you have spoken, becomes your reality. Either he/she changes or leaves or you leave to somewhere better.


Your laptop packs up for no just cause. Or starts misbehaving. And you know just how important it is to your life and productivity.

You sigh. And just leave it lying there.
No baby!!!

You better lay your hands on it and start commanding ooo.

NEPA decides to misbehave messing up almost everything at home. Nne, fight!!!

Either you are fighting for God to take you to the level financially where NEPA has zero effect on your life, or that you have power every time you need it.

I didn’t realise how powerful NEPA can be until some two weeks back. Light was almost always absent and my inverter almost always off.

If you see how my prayer life dipped ehn. Plus my productivity. I would just lay in bed almost all day, hating NEPA and doing nothing. Then when they bring it, I’m happy and wham, it goes off again and my everything dips.

I usually confess that I always have light in my home but during that time, I used to continually feel bad that all my confessions weren’t working and so I wasn’t even confessing again.

Ah, one day I heard God.

Like Eziaha, isn’t this when you are supposed to go even harder on your confession? Just some manifestation of the devil using NEPA and you wanna roll over and play dead.
I mean, NEPA!!!
Where’s your fight girl? How do you defeat the devil if you can’t defeat NEPA!!!
Go and do battle on this situation until it changes. But in the meantime, resolve that you would still maximise your day.

Oh I repented!!! I know I shared with the ladies in this group I’m in and one of them talked about not waiting till circumstances are perfect to keep our faith going.

You know what? I decided I would do battle. I would battle with the Word and keep my confessions going. I would fight until I have my 24/7 power supply (whichever way it comes) but in the meantime, find creative ways to yet maximise my day despite NEPA.
I’m not kidding, all through this week, NEPA was not even an issue.


I’m still fighting. I don’t stop.

How many of us stay fighting for the relationships God has put in our lives?

One little misunderstanding that you know you could have dealt with by putting your ego in check.

But no!!! You sacrifice a perfectly amazing relationship on the altar of self-worship!!!

You know what? I’ve decided to fight to keep the friends God has given me especially those in my inner-inner and then inner circle.

Gosh, I have decided to DO GRACE!!! Make excuses for them, forgive and fight to keep our friendship going.

This week one of my friends upset me. Or maybe I was over reacting and I just decided to do nothing. I would just leave it and well if we get to the end, we get there. Ain’t nobody got time to push.

You see, sometimes I’m like a spoilt kiddo. I hear how awesome I am a lot that sometimes I forget that awesome don’t mean i am perfect.

But this kiddo also wants to obey God so… I Shake it off and get on my face before God… humble!!!

Then in my Quiet time as I prayed, God told me to fight to keep it. Infact, God pushed me. He made me do what my flesh would NEVER do. That was when I tweeted this.


And I’m thankful I did. Because humans are not perfect. We don’t toss people just because… we fight to keep the relationships GOD Himself brought to us.


Still. Pretty. Traumatized!!!

And you know, I’m pretty resolved to keep fighting!!!

For friendship!!!

Sometimes you are not even fighting for a friendship but for a soul. Maybe God wants you to minister to XXX but a few ‘hinderances’ along the way, gets you like ‘abeggi. See someone I am even trying to help…Ain’t nobody got time for that’
No!!! Let’s not give up on something absolutely amazing that God wants to do through us just because human beings do what human beings do – misbehave!!!

You know, I was pretty done with this post and was just editing when one of my babies sent me this message.


You see, I felt like one proud mama. I told her I would add to a post I was writing. I’m so glad I didn’t give up on her when she gave me so many reasons to. Instead I loved her deep and prayed for her hard. I’m soooo proud of  you baby. You are sooo much stronger than you know.  Do you see how much stronger she sounds and how much willing she is to fight? Fight to kick any stupid soul ties as a result of past mistakes? Imagine if I got tired of an assignment God gave me in this babe.

Fight to be a blessing.
Fight to obey God.

For some of us, the fight we have cowered from is a fight to save our marriages. Our marriages have gone through a rough patch and are not exactly the ‘fairy tale’ we quite expected and so we just resolve to sha be in it, and enjoy the 50percent it is offering. Afterall, at all at all na him bad pass.


Gosh, honey fight for that dream marriage you envisaged. We don’t do half measures. We don’t take the crumbs the devil offers. We fight to take hold of ALL that God died for, thriving amazing marriages and all.

Or maybe you suspect your hubby may be looking outside or there is this one woman who you have bad vibes from. Or maybe sef, you KNOW He is flat out cheating. Don’t just sit and cry.
Or maybe cry yes but clean your eyes and go do some serious battle in your secret place.

Fight the devil. It’s really him.
Not your husband.

Attack the real enemy that wants to stay hidden.


I believe in marriage. I don’t think any marriage is exempt from the devil’s wiles. My own marriage throws me constant battles but one thing hubs and I are decided on is the fact that we will FIGHT to keep it. Keep fighting till it gets better and betterer.

I believe we should fight to save our marriages. Frankly I have a couple of people in my corner whose marriages I had sorta joined them to write off (don’t judge)but one day, as I prayed for God to help them move on, He nudged me to pray instead for a restoration.
Because He can restore.
He urged me to encourage them to FIGHT to save their marriages. And you know what, I actually believe, BELIEVE that He can heal these marriages. And I’m excited too.

You see how Elisabeth fought in War room??? You see that scene where after praying, she comes outside and starts to shout at the devil?

Sometimes that’s what you need to do. I know someone may think you are mad but you know what you are doing.

You know, a dear friend of mine shared with me how long she stays just thinking about her life every morning, what she has and doesn’t have, comparing herself with X and Y. For almost 2hours every morning.
Hian!!! That devil is a bastard. God punish him. I had to tell her it was time to do battle.
Get your Bible out, search out scriptures that pertain to that and just keep repeating it to yourself.

Or when he comes and reminds you of your single state or the fact that you don’t have babies yet? Or you don’t have a job yet. Cos trust me honey, he’s coming for you. To attack your mind. Stay ready to fight. And no matter your circumstances, resolve to be JOYFUL even in your waiting. Sometimes, that’s our most potent weapon. Our joy, complete and unshaken.

It a journey we are on and I am so convinced she’s gonna be such a fighter the devil will wish he didn’t start this fight!!!

Frankly that’s also something I do. I have an absolutely over-imaginative mind and so whenever the devil throws those thoughts in, I don’t take bait. Rather I go all 2Cor 10 : 5 and 6


For example, sometimes the devil may say what if KingDaveed falls down and hurts himself or whatever worse…
I actually stop what I am doing and say out loud…

‘…I capture that thought and I force it into the obedience of Christ and His Word. I declare that there are Angels watching over us and him and so we will not as much as smite our feet against a stone…’

I say that as often as I need to.
Because we counter thoughts with words…
Creflo Dollar says ‘…a silent Christian’ is an oxymoron.
So I love to watch that scene with Elizabeth shouting over and over again. Legit gives me goosebumps.

No way we should let the devil get away with anything. 
Are we also fighting for our health and that of our children?


The delight of my heart

I recall January 1, KingDaveed started running a temperature. Like play like play we hit almost 40 degrees.
I. Was. So. Mad.
You see, I’m a firm believer in using your faith to keep the sickness away but if you have slacked and it has come, I am not anti-drugs. Especially for a baby. Except God is leading me otherwise, I can trust Him to give the doctors wisdom in prescribing and trust that the drugs will work.

So I spoke to my bestie, she prescribed, I bought. And hated that I was spending money on drugs at the start of the year.

Trust the devil to start speaking into your mind that na so the year go dey. Since we have cucu started that way.

I got scriptures. As many as I could. On health.

I wrote them out long hand. And every single day, I speak it over my household. My baby, hubby and now my help. Of course over me too. I stay on the offensive. I fight!!! I don’t agree that ‘...it is the weather…’ I recognise that the stripes that wounded Him covers the elements too…’

So if for some reason he starts coughing, I start speaking with every cough

I declare that you are healed by the stripes of Jesus… I curse this cough smiting it from its root in Jesus name…’

Even if it looks like nothing is happening, I keep speaking. I even add that
‘…God I may not see it but I believe that you are working behind the scenes. Therefore I am not moved by what I see…’

There was this time the devil was messing big time with my peace. And joy. It was when I was looking for a help. With every sign of hope, I was joyful. With every hope dashed, maybe we don’t agree on this and that, or the agent just does the most ludicrous thing, I would be soooo sad.
One day, after my mood went from 100 to -100 because of another closed door, God had to sit me down and ask whether my trust is in Him or the Agents? The devil was messing BIG TIME with my peace and joy.
I knew I had to fight. Because this battle if I lost it, I would desperately open a door He had closed.
I gathered scriptures on peace and joy and trust. Wrote them out long hand and started eating it.

I fought till I got my peace back.
With every door that closed, I rejoiced. Because that was God closing it and saving me. My joy and peace stayed in tact.

And when God finally opened a door, I KNEW it was Him. But until then, I didn’t let the devil mess with me.

Wooooh, this is a battle of Words oooooooooooo.
See why you MUST study the scriptures for yourself and not be a comedian???


You see why you stay on your knees?

You know, there was this time in a friend’s home where she realised she was always fixing this and that. It always starts small small. The devil NEVER comes in obvious fashion.

An AC here so you call the AC repairer. The hose in the washing machine, you call the plumber. The water heater starts dripping? Plumber again? Microwave packs up? Speed dial the guy who fixes it? Cabinet/wardrobe spoils, you call carpenter.
Fridge sparks? Generator packs.
And the list keeps increasing. And the frequency too.
One day she told me ‘…but babe I am a TITHER na… it is time to pray...’

That was wisdom.
That is wisdom.

Sometimes the solution is not to call the plumber. It is to go round your home, anoint everything while reminding yourself, God and the devil that you tithe and so the devourer stays rebuked.
I love this DP…


I strongly believe that this is what we have been called to be
Warriors. In. Heels.
It don’t have to show from your outer demeanour. But spiritually, be a pit bull!!! A bull dog!!!


When you wake up, let the smaller demons tell the bigger demons to tell the devil himself that it is time to pick race.


We are not about that giving up life.
You need some scripture for that?

Hebrews 10:39
We are not quitters who lose out. Oh no we will stay with it and survive. Trusting God all the way.

Just to balance things up, there is a part for you to play.
Any fight of faith that leaves everything to God is an irresponsible faith.


Say you are fighting for your marriage, sister that is not the time to respond to everything hubs says just because you must have the last word or show that you are right!!!
You sef shut up sometimes.

Or you are fighting for your health yet KFC daily and you don’t work out?

No ma!!! No sir!!!

Eeeeek and Hallelujah!!!

A dear dear friend shared something with me this week that got me doing the Holy dance. I had encouraged her to work on her weight especially as we were in faith for her health which the devil was messing with big time. Now, her irregular period has normalized and all that hormonal drama is gone. Plus she is rocking a HOT new look.
So faith and work!!!

So as I trust God for the health of my home, I make sure that the home stays clean, we eat good food not just junk and so on.

I’m trusting God for my finances so I make sure I am tithing and being a good steward of HIS money HE has so graciously given me and putting Him FIRST!!!
I’m fighting to keep friendships and so beyond praying, I’m doing the necessary investment and inconveniencing myself occasionally for my friends.
I mean, that’s how we fight!!!


And after it dries, kick ass!!!

Sister, the devil can deal the first blow but make sure that he doesn’t KNOW what hit him by the time you gather yourself.


Let me leave you with Ephesians 6

10 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil.12 For we[a] are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

13 Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm.14 Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. 15 For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared.[b] 16 In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil.[c] 17 Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.[d]

Here’s to fighting, heels and all



My email is eziaha@eziaha.com

PPS: I have to mention my people… Joyce, Christine and Shirer.



Haha. I don’t even know what to say. I’m just thankful for them!!!

Blogging is work!!! This took me like FIVE hours!!! Jeeeeeez!!! But by Jesus, I LOVE this job!!!
But I need to learn to write shorter. Not.


An absolutely FAB update…

Hey yawl, How is everyone doing?

So sorry I went AWOL. In fact. I am so sorry that I am coming here to give an update. I was just gonna disappear for a while.

What do you think those three posts in a day were for?


Ok really tho, yawl know I got a homehelp (Betterer) and then my bedmate for the past 27months came home too so blogging dropped a few notches down my priorities list. Remember that post I did on BALANCE? Ehen…

Permit me to be off till my baby’s FIRST birthday on March 10. Gosh, can you believe it? I have been a mama for almost a year??? I don’t even have the words to describe this life changing experience but my heart is bursting with gratitude to GOD for such a privilege to parent this Giant slayer KingDaveed and soooo much love for the little human.

Gosh!!! Our God is soooooooooo sooooooo good!!!

No, we are not having a party but feel free to send us gifts and everything.

(My sister says we don’t celebrate first birthdays in our family. She says it is a pure waste of money so do a nice photo shoot to capture his first year and get him something nice to mark it. Dazall. Anything else is a waste of money. Save it for his third when he will totally be a very aware birthday boy and party rocker. I agree. But hey, if you are a first birthday party thrower, enjoy hun.)

Ok moving on…

I will be taking on another set of five ladies after this first batch of five. Pink, I will auto consider you so let’s do this. My requirements will most likely be the same as here but I will add a few more. Hehe. Just watch this space. We kick off in April. I make them do a weigh in forthnightly and imagine my joy when most logged in a 5kg loss in the first two weeks.

Even though it is a lot of work, I am too excited at the success stories so far especially the ones that have to do with increased confidence and self esteem. Because I walked that road, I KNOW just how that feels, so I want more ladies to toss that FAT and pick up some HOTNESS!!!

Btw, thanks everyone for all the love. Will definitely miss blogging but it is just two weeks abi?

Tz amazing what you find when you REALLY start digging or stalking.
I feel like I am in a school with Chris and Joyce and Shirer as my major lecturers and so I am just learning, and growing and being pruned and getting all the funk brought up to the fore and all that PAINFUL stuff. I mean this picture just wrecked me

Just trying to build that light in me guys.

See yawl on March 10 and up until the end of April, we will have a steady stream of posts. I am excited about writing because when you listen to and actually LISTEN to Christine Caine and open your heart to an open heart surgery by Doctor Jesus as you apply, your life changes!!!

It absolutely CHANGES FOR LIFE!!!
Plus you get really CRAZY too haha.
Tz awesome!!!

(Doesn’t have to be Chris for you. Anyone God is leading you to)

So stay glued to this blog. Subscribe too. When you scroll to the end of the page, I think you see the ‘subscribe’ button.

Hey but I’m on IG (@eziaha) Twitter @eziahaA and Facebook sometimes Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo.

Have a Fruitful and Blessed week guys


Happy Sunday

God loves yawl like craaaazzzzzzyyyy


Funny story.
My ‘betterer’ actually told me last night while I was prepping dinner…
‘Aunty, you no dey eat ooo. I no dey see you eat. Only garden egg I dey see
I almost died from laughter.
I don’t even know what to say. I actually eat but she probably considers what I eat ‘not-food’
Lol I am still laughing. In fact I even overeat sometimes that in one week I moved from 79.3 to 80.4kg haha.
And in another week, this one that just ended, I worked it all out and went down to 77kg.
This weight loss business is now fun walahi.
Which is why I decided to do another FIVE ladies.
OK I am off to church

Dear Stay-at-home mom/wife…

I am super excited about this post because I am sharing lessons from my life with wives and moms. I realised that in my circle these days are a lot of young wives, new moms and stay-at-home ladies, and as we interact, I feel a divine need to share some in a post.

Stick around tho even if you don’t fall into any of the above category. You would defo learn a thing or three. Plus you can share post with others who might need it.

So like yawl know, after I had my baby, I quit work, relocated, and became a FT stay-at-home mom and work-from-home mom in transit.
It has been plenty challenging, especially considering the kinda person I have always been plus the future I chose for myself as a high-faluting career woman, but one thing and one thing alone has made it easier… God told me to!!!

On this rather interesting journey, I have learnt a lot. And I have GROWN!!! Oh I have so grown and matured tz just beautiful. Just walking the journey with Him has never thrown up a dull moment. I have learned and continue to learn but I am inspired by the Holy Spirit to blog and share what I have learned so far…

You don’t have to agree with everything I say but it is my prayer that the Holy spirit, THE TEACHER, takes all of this and customizes it to your own reality.


Shall we?

7tips for the Domestic Queen…

1. Start your day early.


Pix courtesy dreambigstartsmall

Don’t give in to always sleeping in and waking up at 10am or later just because you don’t have an ‘official’ resumption time. Personally, I learned that I get a good start to my day and then ultimately have a productive day when I wake at 5/6 unlike when I wake at 8. Or later. Like my Rev says ‘Champions seize their day early’.
So be intentional about starting your day on time and not just staying in bed all morning. And that goes without saying ‘early to bed’ too when you can help it.

2. Have a schedule.


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Don’t just let the day happen by.
Write down what and what you wanna achieve that day and tick boxes as you accomplish them.


If you are casual about the day, you might end up checking LIB and watching Africa Magic all day. Personally, I recommend you include some PDP in your day. That’s Personal Development Programs. Say read a book, apply for jobs(if you are staying home for a while only), take Coursera free/premium courses, update your CV, Google and do some research on parenting, life, entrepreneurship, and your career so you are not totally out of touch, just do something (anything) that makes you a better person than when you woke. Might I also add that you read sensible blogs like mine, Inthe’s, Iplus, Dr. N, JUG, etc.

3. Be mindful of ‘mindless actvities’
Especially social media, TV and movies.


I think this is a HUGE challenge with stay-at-home mamas. There is the inclination to be on Twitter, browse Facebook, check IG, watch Telemundo/Zee world/AfMag and repeat cycle till 9pm. Sweetie, you really DO NOT need to follow any new telenovella that debuts. Internet is so affordable these days but it doesn’t mean you have to stream all those movies on YouTube, Netflix and IrokoTV. Be wise. Keep entertainment minimal. Don’t let it all overwhelm you please. Use your Internet wisely. There is a well of resources to access online that would change your life so please engage your mind right.

4. Watch your diet.


Oh this one is HUGE. Because you are fully home, chances are your mouth keeps moving all the time especially as you watch those movies… chin chin, puff puff, chicken, minerals (lol), juice, rice, garri, gala, biscuit, sausage, bread, tea with milo, etc.


You just keep eating. And you don’t workout even if minimally. Can I be truthful with yawl? It was this stereotype of ‘fat housewife just sitting home eating her husband’s money‘ that  made me give loosing weight EVERYTHING!!! Someone had already implied it when she saw me (not in a rude way tho) and I said MBA, not E’. I might be a Domestic Queen but i’ma be one HOT mama, thank you very much!!!


Prouda me mehn!!!

So please eat right, in moderation and get some exercise in often. Even as little as 30min walks daily.

5. Don’t belittle your role. YOU ARE PRICELESS


I did this a whole lot. I would beat myself up that I wasn’t making ‘regular money’ all I do is change diapers and stuff. I would be so grumpy and sad. But God worked wella on me, hallelujah!!!
Darling, if you are making this sacrifice because of your baby, I don’t know many things that top it.


I recall my MIL came visiting once when KingDaveed was 9months and after a couple of hours, she started hailing me that this boy is a FULL TIME JOB ooo. My son has ENERGY tz incredible. And God has really helped me with him because his health, growth, development, etc has been perfect!!! Praise God.
You dear mom are doing a GREAT job. Don’t let anyone belittle what you are doing. You may NOT be bringing in the money but hunnay, you are saving your home a lot of money(and I will share some ways later in the post). Plus you are doing one of life’s greatest jobs, impacting the next generation.


Like a dear friend told me, enjoy doing this and let your kids see and feel you enjoying it, not having them think they are a distraction to your life. God forbid!!! How would you like to have your life withOUT the child??? #Perspectivecheck

5. Take occasional baby/child free breaks!!!


Mommy day-outs are a MUST. You need to relax and refuel. You will burn out if you don’t. At least, once or twice a month. If you can do it weekly, please do. Get someone to babysit or engage the grandparents for a weekend and enjoy some me-time. With friends? Even better. Catch a drink.


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See a movie. Browse the mall. Shop. Drive around town. Visit a friend. Buy something nice for YOU. Go to the spa. Attend a wedding/party. Whatever. Even if all you can afford is a long walk while talking on the phone to your bestie or sis. Just take some time out to do YOU!!!


Just last week, I was telling one of my dear friends that we pay way too many sacrifices, deprive ourselves of a lot so our babies and men and home are more comfy yet neglect ourselves. There is a thin line between prudence and sufferhead ooo. Don’t cross it.


Spend on yourself too cos YOU MATTER!!!

6. Shrug-therapy


Got this term from my mama Joyce. Honey, sometimes you have planned out the PERFECT day but a blip occurs early in the day and messes it all up. Or maybe your baby decides not to sleep at all. Or NEPA strikes, Gen and inverter are also out so there goes your day. Nne, roll it over to God, apply the shrug therapy and just shrug it all off. Somethings you can’t control jare so you won’t kee yourself. Don’t let it steal your HAPPY.


Infact if it gets too much, go watch a movie or play music and start dancing with your kids. Goof around. Order pizza and enjoy guilt free. Leave the plates in the sink, cloths scattered, etc and just have a good time.


One bad day won’t hurt anyone. So shrug it off baby…

7. I saved the absolute best for last!!!
OVERDOSE on your time with God.


Oh darling, you can’t do this on your own. You will be frustrated. You will cry A LOT. You will fight your husband. You will be a wicked witch from the west stepmom mom. You will beef all your working class friends. You will quarrel with your neighbors. Hunnay, you need GRACE every single day you wake. Spend crazy lengths of time with God.


I suggest you have your special place e even if just a corner.
Pray for your hubby. Ask God to give him wisdom and knowledge in dealing with you (cos they are prone to say/act ‘one kind’ sometimes). Pray for the finances of your home. Ask God to show you even more creative ways to save money and even bring in money to the home, even though you ain’t working. Pray for things that money can buy and things money can’t buy. I personally enjoy this grace. This past year, so much financial and material blessings have come into my home from my end tz incredible. Pray for your kids, their health, social life, growth and development, studies, spiritual life, etc. Health is so important. You don’t wanna spend your finances and emotions on hospital bills and stress.


Pray for the home. That everything works well and the devourer stays rebuked. All this AC spoiled today, iron blew yesterday, pumping machine is broken, no light so soups and stews in the freezer spoilt, they are devourers ooo. Pray against them. Pray that light is constant. Pray for safety and security. Pray for hubby, his career/business/ministry. If he needs to take God more seriously, pray for his soul. Let your hubby know that anything he mentions to you, you will pray about it and miracles will happen. Pastor Kingsley in one of his books says Men love women that pray. Pray for your people and inlaws. Babe, there is a LOT to pray about so go into your prayer room/closet/corner/secret place often and PRAY!!!


Spend crazy time at His feet studying the Word. Pray with your baby too. Pray aloud and let him/her/them hear you even if they are just 3months. Their spirits are getting something. Teach your kids to pray. Model a life of prayer to them


Go on the ‘Tube and download tons of videos from men and especially women of God. I heartily recommend Heather Love Lindsey’s videos. She’s amazing with her life and she will inspire you. I also recommend Priscilla Shirer and Joyce Meyer and Joel/Victoria Osteen. I don’t spend extended time in the kitchen without my laptop watching one of the above mentioned. Then my dstv moves from Disney junior for my baby and Faith channel for me (or Daystar esp The Green room. That couple is adorbz). On your dvd, keep gospel jams jamming everywhere at home. Somedays I don’t have time to have a full quiet time but I make sure the Word gets into me in other ways.


Get scripture cards and paste around your home so that you constantly bump into it and take it in. Be creative. Your time with God is soooo important so you MUST be intentional about creating time for it. And please go to church. Don’t sleep in on Sunday mornings. Especially if your hubby is not really the ‘church type’. Please go. And take your kids with you. Join a unit in church and serve fully and faithfully. Soon hubby will join you.
I can’t over emphasize this point darlings.


Be the PRAYER WARRIOR of your home

Tz soooo important.

Bonus point: GET HELP.


Stop all this NONSENSE of trying to be a superwoman. You are not impressing anybody. Don’t kill yourself.


The moment I moved into my Rehoboth, I told hubs I was getting someone to come in twice a week to clean and wash pending when my FT homehelp comes. And I did. I don’t wanna burn out abeg.


The amount I pay her is NOTHING compared to the stress she saves me. In whatever way you choose,(live in, come and go, come once a week, creche or afterschool services) get help. No medals for sufferhead!!! Nobody is impressed!!!


Yes I am pissed because I have heard some comedian women talk nonsense about this help matter and because some read my blog, I will not say more lol. Dang, even the Proverbs 31 woman had help


Peek verse 15

That’s all mamas. At least this is all I can recall for now. Please if anyone has more tips, share in the comment box. And also share post with any Domestic Queens (in the words of the amazing TD Jakes) you know. Esp if she is sprung on ZeeWorld lol…

Love yawl and Merry Christmas.
And don’t over eat on World Food day aka Christmas. Hehe
Come back before the new year for one last post…


Look mama we did it!!!


So prouda me and thankful to GOD!!!
And to think I had on a waist trainer in September.


Fab mama

No easy way out guys. Hard work and eating clean!!!
And yup my hair z locked yaaaay. Sewed it in to let harmattan do more work without interruptions

B A L A N C E… A definition!!!

Has anyone ever told you to strike a balance with your life, especially when you are finding it hard holding it all together?


Maybe you have also told yourself several times but maybe have not quite gotten a hold of this ELUSIVE but highly coveted BALANCED LIVING!!! Especially when everything on your plate is really a GOOD thing that would give God the glory…

Hmm. Dunno about ya Sis/Bro but my entire life, I am always always tryna find a BALANCE to my life.

I heard a definition/explanation of balance from, OF COURSE Priscilla Shirer (She’s my Mary who gets the baby in my womb leaping) and I thought to share…

my allday err'day ADDICTION!!!!

my allday err’day ADDICTION!!!!

She heard it from an older, wiser mentor lady.

She said that a lot of times, a lot of us define balance as having say TEN boxes each representing all the stuff in your life at the mo and having all of them full to the same level in such a way that they are all equal. That is anything BUT balance hon. That is C H A O S!!!

I can imagine how many of us have tried to arrange the stuff in our lives to be equal and perfect and how often we have ended up frustrated, dissatisfied and stretched too thin, simply because WE CANNOT and frankly because THEY SHOULD NOT BE EQUAL!!!

Lemme quote Priscilla Shirer on the definition of a balanced life

A balanced life is when you prayerfully consider which of these ten boxes are most important to GOD in this season of my life RIGHT NOW. Then you push those to the front and pull everything else to the back…You allow those two or three to the fore while the rest of them have just a small amount of your time… (Ask yourself) what is God’s priority for you in this season and then you act immediately pouring into those boxes…

The seasons in our lives are constantly changing and it is only wise that our priorities change with some taking the back burner (or totally getting off the stove) EVEN IF THEY ARE GOOD STUFF.

Yes, saying NO to even the GOOD STUFF is a MAJOR part of BALANCE!!!


Let me put this in some perspective by painting some real and fictional scenarios…


My marriage for the better part of the almost TWO years we have been married has been long distance. My hubs is a CHURCH BOY but when I am around for say anything from a weekend to a week, BALANCE is that he, for that period of time I am around, HE CUTS DOWN on his church activities and FOCUSES on his family.




Because the first assignment God has given to him is his family NOT the people in church. Choir or the Youth church will NOT close down with everyone spiralling downwards into Hades if he CHILLS for that temporary season!!! I love that my husband gets that and strikes a GOOD BALANCE.


I recall in school then, there was always this buzz/guilt trip about how people become less committed in fellowship during exam periods and all EVEN when meeting times dragged longer than normal or UNNECESSARY meetings were being called for.

Very very funny. And UNWISE!!!

There is sure a time for everything and for someone like me who was plenty committed, it was NEVER a bad idea to RUN OFF 2nanoseconds after the main meeting is over during exam period, PLUS not turn up for any unnecessary impromptu meetings that CAN WELL WAIT UNTIL AFTER EXAMS and move some CHURCH-RELATED activities to the back burner until exams are over. I know this sounds controversial but hon, WISDOM!!!


Exams are gonna last just two weeks so please honor your parents (and the fees they are paying) and prioritise for that period. You are afterall in that fellowship BECAUSE YOU ARE A STUDENT!!! For some students who read my blog, this is a RHEMA for you right there.

I certainly wasn’t a party to that overje lol. I was a HOD at several times and during exam periods, I would finish my meetings ON TIME and push my people to go and study.

B A L A N C E!!!


When I used to run the FAB group with some 10-15 ladies, at some point, one of the MORE COMMITTED ladies sends me an email saying she had to leave for so so and so reasons. I think she had been in the group for say 6months or more. The GROUP had been such a blessing to her and I KNEW because we had grown soooo close but several other boxes in her life needed to get to the fore burner and so she had to sacrifice the group for them, EVEN THOUGH IT WAS A GOOD THING!!! I was going to miss her incredibly BUT that decision was THE WISEST DECISION at the time because the group was fully engaging and all.

B A L A N C E!!!


Still on the same thought, I recently told my prayer sisters in a Prayer Group I am in to give me some time out to sort out myself. My baby was getting more demanding, I had taken on some added responsibility to my life recently plus other things sha so our prayer time together actually became the time I REALLY NEEDED TO SLEEP or do some other stuff I sacrificed for sleep earlier in the day otherwise I would burn out and blow up some boxes of higher priority.

I LOVED praying with my Sisters 6x a week BUT at this point in my life, I could NOT cope and balance meant pushing it OFF THE BURNER!!!

B A L A N C E!!!

Please note, that was not my Quiet time with God ooo. It was a Prayer Group!!!

Still on Groups, (and I am using the Groups example because I have a very active online/virtual life which is part of what I HAVE BEEN CALLED TO DO), I have had cause to shut down two groups I was in charge of. One is the one listed above that my friend had to leave, and then the other was my Mentoring group. The former I shut down because my life was changing so much and I could not manage it like I would have wanted to at the time. Moreover we had been together for almost a year and I knew it was best to ‘leave when the ovation was loudest’ and then begin afresh with ‘fresh blood’and make wider impact. I had to move on. So I gave my lil speech, we said our goodbyes and I took everyone out ready for the next batch of ladies.

My mentoring group too, same thing. I needed to move on with a fresh set of mentees and at first I thought I could run both parallel but what did I know? Haha!!! Wisdom demanded that I give my goodbye speech and release them. Plus my mentees had become FIERY WOMEN OF GOD themselves haha so our time together, which had been AMAZEBALLS was up and I had to move to a new season, and let them too.

Group dissolved.

And I still have not started a new one because that Box, though a very good one, has to take a back burner now while I sort out other boxes and also prepare prayerfully for directions on the new Mentoring Group.


Same thing with my blog.

You know, there was this post Pastor M did belatedly for PK’s birthday. She was actually supposed to put up a blog post celebrating him and all and she had actually carried her laptop to, when the HS intervened. Long and short, that post didn’t come up because SHE PUSHED that VERY VERY GOOD THING(Blogpost) to the back burner and went instead at that time to SERVE her husband in a way that he would really know that it is a happy birthday indeed… FOOD!!!

Yes he would have ‘preciated the post but that FOOD?

‘…so i headed straight to the kitchen and whipped out my chef hat *wink wink* I gat skillz like that…;-) and by the time I came out of the kitchen my pk had a tray laden with prawns sautéed in coconut milk, stir fried chicken, peppered snails, chicken gizzard sauce ….need I say more? sorry guys no pictures but if you guys are really nice to me I just may put up the recipe 🙂 …especially for new brides like E’…’

Yup I am stopping right there where my name appeared but feel free to read the rest of the post here. Btw you won’t believe the keyword I used to retrieve this post…

Coconut milk!!!

Lol. I love coconut and I never forgot coconut milk in the food.


But really, you get my point right? It would have been funny if she decided to blog AND cook. One would have suffered and it would have been the food even though blogging was  important as it would have blessed lives too. But HUSBAND FIRST!!!

Same thing I apply on my blog ooo.

I wish I could post everyday.

Maybe I have things to post every other day that would bless yawl, yup BUT I would BURN OUT DRY!!!

I am NOT tryna get a medal or compete with anyone else who blogs daily. My blogging has reduced progressively since I got married and then had a baby. HUBBY AND BABYBOY COME UNDISPUTABLY FIRST.

Kiss kiss before I go take a LONG walk

Kiss kiss before I go take a LONG walk

Maybe someday when I have put my life in order like I dream, I can be a more regular blogger (this October seamless flow we have been having took me a WHOLE MONTH to plan ahead for it) but on a lot of days, my blog has to take a BACK SEAT!!! I LOVE yawl my FAB readers but I have to consider my life’s seasons and pace myself… There may be a Christian blogger too who blogs daily but I cannot be her. See why comparison ain’t good? She may actually be blowing up other boxes or she is living balanced. That is her own life. And boxes!!!

B A L A N C E!!!

That said, I am accepting offers to babysit. Maybe if you come sit for 4/5hours every week, I can do other stuff and then do at least ONE blogpost…


Plus you get to hang out with the Cool E’…

Funny right now it is 3.40am (I wrote this post sometime in September) and I have been blogging since yesterday evening… Trying to write at least 3 or 4 posts at least. You see why this cannot be regular at THIS STAGE OF MY LIFE?




I just recalled one of Heather’s video where she was LIVE on Periscope for her monthly Bible study (I think it was the one on Conflict) and just before the hour mark when she was answering questions LIVE, we heard hubby’s voice saying she NEEDED TO STOP NOW because her baby girl was awake and there was no more milk for her so she needed to come nurse.


She could have finished that question ooo but mba, she said her goodbyes and went to serve her family.


That question was so important but it had been one hour and so after that one hour, it took the back seat for Taylor to take the front seat.


One other scenario is that sometimes, when I feel like I am burning out from TOO MUCH ACTIVITIES even if good, and say a public holiday is coming. If there is any activity in church fixed for that day, I take my permissions and DO NOT ATTEND but rather I retire into my closet and spend time ALONE refreshing with God!!!

Is that program GOOD?


But so is my personal time with GOD too,


Missing one program or two won’t change the course of humanity. Of course, be sure your timing’s not off… and make sure you are actually not a loafer kinda Church worker.

Look, I know most of yawl that read my blog are church people and all but sometimes, you need to PULL A MARY and just step away from all the meetings and activities and just go SIT AT JESUS’S FEET ALONE!!!


Take the necessary permission and please go for a private fellowship with Him. It could even be that YOU NEED TO GIVE YOUR FAMILY MORE TIME!!!

Look honey, if your GOD-GIVEN family especially wife/husband is not happy, you better sit your behind down and settle stuff at home. No need going to serve others in Church when your home is suffering.

See ehn, when I used to attend Fountain of life church, Pastor Taiwo would tell us how he always says to his female Pastors (and we had the HEAVYWEIGHT business woman Pastor Ibukun Awosika on board)

‘Look, if your husband EVER comes to complain to me that church is taking all of your time and he is not feeling you at home, I WOULD RELIEVE YOU OF YOUR ACTIVITIES and send you home to GO SERVE your hubby till I have his permission again…’


Oh bless Pastor Taiwo. He knew family should come first even for his Pastors.

And Pastor Bimbo of blessed memory.



She was everywhere with her hubby’s blessings but she knew when to pull the brakes from being ‘Pastor Bim’ and be ‘Mrs. Odukoya’ and ‘Mommy’.

B A L A N C E!!!


Even with your regular work/job, I certainly believe that sometimes, deliberately CLOSE EARLY and come home and just fellowship and hang out with your kids and family.

Hmm, some things are VERY important ooo for example FAMILY!!!

Strike a GOOD BALANCE with LIFE and make sure that FAMILY remains your number ONE PRIORITY because they are YOUR FIRST ASSIGNMENT

Since I started with her, lemme end with something I heard my ‘MARY’ Priscilla Shirer say…

One time she was being asked about how she balances ministry and the home and she said

‘…bla bla bla and it is my joy to serve my family of FOUR BOYS first and then on the side, serve others in ministry…’

I mean, look at the wisdom drippin’ in that statement!!!

Her church and ministry ain’t number one but her FAMILY even though she is a Preacher.


And you can tell that this INCREDIBLE Bible study teacher undoubtedly puts her husband and 3 boys FIRST because she preaches a lot with their story…

Fam, please sit down, get those boxes out, and PRIORITISE based on the season of life that you are in at the moment…

Cheers… to a BALANCED life and livin’

God loves yawl like crazzzzy






I got a BONUS post coming up tomorrow. It will be an AWESOME giveaway and EVERYBODY can . I just realised that I have never done a BLOG giveaway and that is so strange because I am a very generous person. Anyways it will have something to do with the BIBLE BATHROOM CHALLENGE I blogged about here. It will come up at noon on Saturday.


Have yawl got your JOYCE MEYER STUDY BIBLE? I really dunno what you are waiting for ooo lol. Those who have bought it have been giving me good feedback. Plus how is the Bible Bathroom challenge going?


My TOILET Bible lol

Hope you have been dropping your phone at the door of the toilet and taking your Bible instead? My experience has been awesome like I shared on IG



Do you know I actually FORGOT that I had to do a post today? Lol. I MADE IT TODAY BEFORE MIDNIGHT Yaaaay!!! The days are flying but I don’t intend to MISS even one schedule this October. I really hope I get to write the one I would love to post next before the 19th ooo. Though I have some pendings but I reeeeeaaaaaallllly need to write this post on AUTHENTICALLY ME & SURPRISNGLY SATISFIED!!! I am too excited about it oh my goodness!!! If it is not up next (aside the bonus giveaway post), then I would share my weight loss journey so far, something of an update from #FitFABFam.



But I am running a 45day challenge on IG documenting the entire process too



so you can choose to follow me if you are on IG @eziaha or FB, Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo or Twitter @eziahaA as I would share to Twitter and FB simultaneously.

Btw, what is above is cabbage soup which I made for the FIRST time today. It was SINFULLY DELISH!!! AND VERY FILLING GOODNESS!!!

My Hub’s Birthday Pressie… and other stories

Teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts to wisdom/grow in wisdom/get a heart of wisdom… Psalms 90v12

Hi guys.

How’s everyone doing today? How did your week go?

This week was a birthday week in my family mehn. Started off with BIL on Sunday,


Hubs on Tuesday and Popsie’s 71st on Thursday


which wraps up Birthday season for the year in my family.

Pop’s birthday certainly had us all in an upbeat mood especially after what happened some 3weeks back with stupid armed robbers. The fact that it was a weekday didn’t stop our #TurnUp ooo. Plus my Sister gifted him a Highlander and I was the one that planned the entire surprise and presentation. Actually it was my hubs that suggested we just don’t present it in a dry manner, instead we should act small drama. Since I hold the drama franchise in my family, the buck ended on my table. So we had my sis driver bring it after we had gotten there. I told him to just call me and not come in. I came out, ensured he was blocking the gate, got the keys and papers, and dismissed him. Meanwhile my parents had no idea what was happening at their gate. Anyways, my sis later tells them she wants to leave and then I went out, came in and told popsie someone was blocking his gate. At first, he was like NOPE, someone cannot be blocking MY GATE, go check again. My dad HATES any manner of rubbish hence his insistence that it wasn’t possible. Finally he decided to come out with momsie and then he saw the DEFAULTING SUV. He was so upset lol, then he asked the guys opposite my house in the mechanic workshop who dared to block his gate. In the middle of all that drama, my sis brings out the papers and goes ‘daddy, this one is for you…’

Popsie and Momsie

Popsie and Momsie

Let’s just say I can’t put into words all that happened thereafter. I had to video the moment for my other sibs absent. It was such a beautiful moment, they never hexperredit. My sis was just like, please can you REMOVE your car so I can drive mine out? Momsie was just like ‘a ma m na owu Eziaha ga eme udi ihe a’ (I know it is Eziaha that would plan this kinda thing). What a time to be alive and a blessing to your parents.


My dad is such a warrior, a STRONG MAN hence I chose the wordings for this cake especially.


Ok all that is by the way, or maybe it kinda all comes together with what today’s post is all about.

Btw, thanks to everyone for all the blog LOVE ooo. Thanks to everyone who has commented, reached out to me, publicised, shared their own stories with me, especially from my last post on THE SPIRIT OF SHUT UP, encouraged me and just generally hung around the FAB lane. God bless yawl. Keep it up especially the sharing and publicity. And don’t even apologise for writing long comments ooo. That is what I love the most. Feel free to write an epistle if you must haha. One love ma people… Yes please, share on your various Social media platforms.


Ok so it was Hubs birthday on October 6 and he was coming into town on the 8th. When you have a baby, there is a tendency for wives to just shift all the attention to the baby and leave hubs which is NOT RIGHT. So I was just thinking of what to do for him that would really let him know my heart for him.



I had also been praying a WHOLE LOT for him in recent times and every SINGLE TIME I prayed, I would hear NEXT LEVEL, Call forth greatness for the NEXT LEVEL… The more I prayed, the more God used 3 characters in the Bible to drive home the point… Abraham, Joshua and David. Even a basic Bible knowledge would show you that these three men were GREAT LEADERS, first of their homes and then of people. I knew that this next level of GREATNESS for Hubs had plenty to do with LEADERSHIP so I wanted to get him a gift that captured all that perfectly.


On Sunday preceding, it hit me. PASTOR SAM ADEYEMI!!! EVERYONE knows that Pastor Sam breathes LEADERSHIP like no other person in Nigeria


plus he is such a HUGE MENTOR FIGURE for Hubs BUT him not being in Lagos has sorta affected the way he would have loved to be a good mentee. I mean, there were some things hubs had told me earlier about his life that I knew needed to jumpstart already. So I thought I would get him some of Pastor Sam’s materials/leadership packs if available, for him to REALLY study and get wisdom from.


I rang up a friend who attends DayStar where Pastor Sam is the set man and she said she would make some calls and get back to me the next day to know what they had but even then, she didn’t seem all positive that I would get it before Thursday because you have to place an order first and everything. I was already giving up when on Monday morning, I needed some time to do this and that around the house so I turned on the TV for my son and surprisingly, it was on Kingdom Africa. I was about to change it to Disney Junior for KingDaveed when the Holy Spirit nudged me to let it be. They were showing music videos and I thought that would be captivating enough for him anyways. After some time, I came to feed him and soon after, Pastor Sam came up on the TV. Long story short, there was an ad for his Leadership DVD packages and when I saw the contents of those packages, My GOODNESS, I KNEW THAT WAS IT!!!


I quickly rang the numbers and placed an order. He told me Wednesday would be delivery date if I paid today. They were quite pricey but do you really place a price on WISDOM? I didn’t have all the money and I couldn’t of course involve hubs so I did some ‘kurukere’ moves, paid and Ladies and Gentlemen, the delivery guy from DHL was at my dormot Tuesday morning to deliver,

Hub's gift

Hub’s gift

the same day that was his birthday, one day after I placed the order. I was so excited when I opened it because the topics covered, the guest speakers and ministers, the packaging, the EVERYTHING was just what I KNEW GOD WANTED FOR MY HUBS. It was such a wise investment and I knew he would love it.


It was my dad’s birthday the day he entered Lagos so we were still surprising my parents. He saw the package and rang me to know if he could open and I said NO!!!

He didn’t.

I wasn’t going to miss his reaction now, was I?

Anyhoos, when I got in, I watched him open it and take it out one by one and then HE SCREAMED with joy. He said he had tried severally to get it but something always hindered or he just forgot so this was just a PERFECT GIFT!!! Fam, my joy that day was full!!!


‘…In the last days,… your sons and daughters will PROPHESY, Your young men shall see visions…’ Acts 2:17

I once heard a sermon on this scripture above and Pastor Mildred related it to marriages, that you as a wife have been called to HELP and part of your assignment is also to keep speaking, prophesying, into his life in anyways that you can. Know what God has told him and if he ever forgets, you be the PROPHET IN HIS LIFE and keep reminding him in any way possible.


See ehn, I could have easily bought cake as that is standard birthday tradition, but what would that have profited him aside putting it on his DP and people ohing and ahing? Plus my house was/is brimming with cakes from the other 2 celebrants, plus I know hubs, he will have a slice and dazall

But you see this gift I got him, we are talking DESTINY here and I am just so glad I am able to HELP him and PROPHESY as he moves on to the NEXT LEVEL in his life this year, going forward and leading the way for his family too.


Guys, watch out for this tall glass of hot chocolate


Yup, THE Bolaji Olojo.

Guys, not every time you have a celebration that you buy cake for someone as a gift. Frankly, I think it is really wasteful if I get like 5/10 cakes on my birthday. I would definitely be talking to the givers lol. Cos all they good for is DP, lol. The scripture I shared above says we should apply our hearts to wisdom. My BIL had cake because he has a large family of 4kids plus neighbors and everything to share with. Cake was a wise thing to celebrate with. My dad had cakes because there was a celebration- kids, grandkids, staff, friends and all in his various clubs, etc. Of course he also had the car. But getting my hubs cake would have been THE MOST FOOLISH THING EVER TO DO!!!

Can I just talk to wives here? Especially the young ones like me. Go ask your hubby what God has told him, then you go before God in PRAYERS EVERYDAY asking Him for wisdom on how exactly you can help that man achieve his vision!!! Do it and come back and thank me… Hey and this can apply to friends too and those engaged. Just make up your mind that on this person’s birthday, you will actually give a gift that makes that person ‘apply her heart to wisdom’, and then you can add cake to it.

Hey, I ain’t knocking birthday cakes ooo. I just think we can have more, you know, WISE pressies… personally, I can skip cake on my birthday for now. 2 years ago, hubs got me cake and I gave it ALL away after it stayed in the freezer forever haha. This year, he knew better and got me more stuff I could actually use.

That, ladies and Gentlemen, is the koko of this post… WISDOM in giving especially on those days when we ‘number our days’ literally ie Birthdays.

And of course to show off to yawl that I am such a PERFECT and WISE wife.

*straight face*


And finally, to say that my booboo is actually 7 months today.

Smile on booboo

Smile on booboo

Yup, tz been one month since I did that post when he was 6months.


God bless my baby. And my baby daddy. And yawl. And me too.

God loves yawl like crazy,




I must commend DAYSTAR as a church. their professionalism is to be emulated. the guy who picked the call was not only polite, he was refreshingly knowledgeable too. He had answers for all my questions and could advise me appropriately. I know you may say ‘Hello!!! He is Customer service and should know’ but try calling any of our mobile phone operators’ CC!!! Then come back and tell me about KNOWING!!!



Just look at my NATURAL HAIR!!!


Peek my workout buddy there


Ignore the gory picture, I had just finished my Night workout… It has been ONE MONTH plus guys and I have been VERY CONSISTENT, clean eating and exercising and the weight is dropping. I will share in subsequent posts. My target is DECEMBER tho. KIMK Body (without the ‘work’ haha) loading… Yaaaaay!!!



I am just here wondering what the next post should be… Maybe I should share my WEANING, The journey so far abi? Lol, I see some of yawl waiting for THE SPIRIT OF SHARRAP pt 2 but sorry it is not yet coming. That post don’t wanna be written yet so I wont force it. So it is either THE WEANING JOURNEY or something on my workout and eating clean routine or One Post I CAN NOT wait to share… BALANCE, A DEFINITION!!! Either way guys, see yawl on the 13th, by God’s grace. Please don’t forget to share this post if it blessed you. Thank you. And hey, if there is something you want me to write about, let me know and as God helps and leads me, I will write.



Hian!!! All my favourite bloggers unu biko start blogging again na. Just be like me haha. But really, I MISS CLEAN CHRISTIAN Blogging. My Reader and Blog roll is sooo dry. Let me not name names biko but if you have ever seen my comment on your blog, I mean YOU!!!



Hey everyone who decided to go on a DETOX after my post, how is it going? Gist me abeg haha. Mine is going still well. Living a very detoxed life now with proper control of any and everything in my radar.

#MomE’Diaries… The 6month old journey so far


Mo ri re Mo ri re …. O SEMILOORE, Morire gba (abi what do they sing lol)

Praaaaaaaiisssssse Master Jisos!!! Hallelujah!!!

Call: Amem!!!

Response: Amem!!!

Umu Chineke, I just wanna thank Olisa bi n’eluigwe for the life of MY SON KingDaveed Oluwasemilore Somotochukwu Bolaji-Olojo who I gave birth to on Tuesday, March 10, 2015 has attained the GOLDEN AGE of 6months, alive and kicking crawling…


Guys I am so grateful and so happy. It really feels like a birthday indeed.

My joy knows no bounds.

Somedays I still don’t believe that this handsome healthy young man with sparkling eyes and dimples is ALL MINE!!!


I didn’t really see him until the next morning because I had complications after Labour and he too had to be attended to at the Neonatal unit. At first, I was too tired and weak to feel a rush of emotions but as the days went by, I fell endlessly and absolutely IN LOVE with him.


He has changed my life in many ways but people, I CANNOT EVER IMAGINE HIM NOT BEING IN MY LIFE!!! Nope I cannot.

Ok so the journey so far…

First thing I would say would be something I read off Inthe’s blog which I NEVER forget because in this part of the world, too many ITK’S abound and everyone and their dogs actually believe that their USELESS and UNSOLICITED personal opinions count hence their INSISTENCE on you obeying them.


Yours and yours alone. Your private HOLY PLACE!!! Only what you BOTH decide for your kids STAND!!!

Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes you will hear superior (medically and otherwise) arguments and wisdom demands should actually ‘bow’ to them, but when someone random decides to enter your baby’s matter WITH THEIR OPINIONS, please remove their nose from your business and don’t feel guilty about trashing their opinions. Even if they have 11 children. Lol

Yes, I am pissed…

With that out of the way, lemme present the rest of this post with subtitles…

On exclusive breastfeeding

Honey, I ain’t even gonna lie to yawl (you all), exclusive breastfeeding, EBF, is a lot of work. Sometimes it felt like that was ALL I did morning to morning with some break in between to bath and eat. And then pumping between feeds to encourage steady supply. But I wanted to do it. I was determined to do it as it is recommended best for baby and I was home FT anyways so technically, that was my FT job.


I recognise that some women, for one reason or the other cannot EBF and hey, your baby your rules. This is not to beat it down, cos usually on most mommy forums anyone who does EBF for 6months is quickly shut down because ‘afterall I wasn’t ebf and I turned out just right’ and ‘there is no difference between ebf and formula-fed babies’ and co… But I am feeling all shades of amazing and like someone needs to gimme a medal or som’in for reaching the finish line. Tz just easier (and sometimes medically advised) to start on the formula, cereals and stuff early on, no doubt like I was temoted severally to, and sometimes, ain’t nothing a working mama can do or a mama who ain’t lactatin’ like a mama cow. But guys, when you meet an EBF mama, give a double thumbs up. Was chatting with one of my readers yesterday and I loved all the hailings I got from her as she shared with me that she had to stop ebf at 4months.

Bottom line, should you EBF or FF?

Your call baby. Whatever is best for  your baby, do.

I trust God for twins next time and baby, don’t even ask because ain’t no way in heaven I am EBF’ing lol.

On Immunization…


Ok I had to learn all these things hehe. You do some at birth, 6weeks, 10weeks, 14weeka, then 6months, 9months, etc. Bless God for Fashola and his primary Health centres in Lagos. Not only are they free, the one I used in Festac was new and very very efficient. My sis said BCG is 50k in one private hospital she used for her son lol. Hahahahahaha. Same thing ooo. And these PHC follow the WHO guideline for Nigeria. Though I hear there are more which are more expensive and you have to pay for if you want but frankly, I just thought the ones they give are just fine. Recall when I was going to give KingDaveed a pneumococcal vaccine cos we were travelling and then when I took him to the paed and told him, he said NO NEED… So those basic ones were just fine. Then you sprinkle the blood of JESUS on him… That’s all the immunisation you need baby…

On Bath time


Oh my booboo loves water and then being face down on the lap. But turn him in a way as to wash his face and head and you have a screaming and stretching baby. Because he is so tall, he will almost stretch out of your hands, kicking your chest so hard in the process. Mahn, tz such war. Tz like his face is the ORACLE of God… Touch NOT!!!

Hubs started bathing him at about 15weeks and has become quite the pro though a lot of times, he will start singing ‘I want my mommy to bath me, My mommy know how to bath me fast. My mommy is a strong woman, My mommy is yokozuna, My mommy is Yokohama’ Kai, Bolaji. All because he wants to escape bathing him. He usually wins.


On allergies and skin issues


Oh I just bless God for his health and his skin. When I initially got to Bonny, he developed a nappy rash and then rashes on his neck. I guess change of water plus he was drooling buckets hence the neck rash. But it was not so serious and with sudocream and constant wiping his neck with a face towel and water, we were fine in no time. Aside that, my baby’s skin is like a baby’s. Literally. I just LOVE and SWEAR by my coconut oil abeg…

On allergies, this time it was raining daily in Lagos, he caught a cold. I HATED IT cos his nose was stuffy, he was coughing and it lasted all of two weeks!!! I became a pro at sucking his stuffy nose because I frankly found a suction bulb too much dramz and my baby was uncomfy. Sucking it out was easier for me. Went to the hospital after that two weeks again and the consultant, bless him, said I should stop all the drugs earlier prescribed and just keep doing a steam inhalation 4-6times daily. Wham!!! Worked like magic. I just hate loading babies on drugs. All those funny things that we do in Nigeria… start loading them with Ampiclox, Abidec and Gripe water from birth, paracetamol EVEN BEFORE immunization because you expect he would run temperature etc… Hian. Oh at the PHC, they were serious about lecturing mothers and warning us to STOP taking advice from unprofessional people just cos they have had kids. What worked for their kids just MAY harm yours.

And there were sad stories they used to share with us. So no matter what anyone says, I got my doctor bestie on speed dial. I can’t go through labour and now let one stupid mistake cause wahala biko.

Ok that’s all on his health. I just bless God that this boy has not carried us in and out of the hospital. Yup I am a pretty good mama but we all KNOW that NA GOD ooo, last last. Even his teething was seamless. One day we just started seeing the pearly whites peeking out from under the gum and say a week plus later, they had made their grand appearance.


On comparing babies…



Aren’t we mamas all guilty of this? I seriously was gonna do a separate post on it. Started right from my parents, tensioning me when he turned 3months that he needed to start sitting ooo. And everytime they had him, they would put him to sit by force. Lol. By the time 4months rolled around, he was still not sitting without bending forward like the tower of Pisa lol. I just imagined that if my parents saw him then, they would talk. Lol. Me I didn’t even tension myself. I really idnt understand the hurry. That your kids sat at 3months don’t mean mine sitting at 7months is late. Kids develop differently. I recall one of my nieces didn’t walk well till she was 1plus. Today, she no dey waka?

Even today when I took him for his 6months immunization, he was like the only one with teeth there and I recall a mom teasing her daughter saying ‘see your mate’ and we all laughed. Yup he cut his before them but ain’t nothing over special about that because they all gonna cut their own teeth pretty soon. I have met plenty mamas who just don’t stop the comparison, tho without bad intentions. But if you say anything about your own baby, they always counter it with theirs…

Oh my baby started walking at 7months

He crawled at 3months

She made complete sentences at 11months

Oh my baby did not reject any food at all ooo

Oh my baby wore 9months clothings from 3months


Of course saying all this in some context is good, maybe even helpful. But when you just wanna show me that your baby deserves a Nobel Prize cos of that feat, I just smile and change the convo.

While some kinda comparison is healthy and maybe encouraging, I just don’t like that kinda tensioning one…

On strangers and stranger anxiety


Oh my baby is so sweet, has a cute smile for everyone especially in church. If he is outside, he is usually calm and quiet so some people whp have encountered him will be like ‘oh he is so quiet’ and I would say well he is not so quiet inside ooo. Frankly, they stopped believing me. I recall an older wife I visited with before I left, after she had seen how calm he was all through our stay, she said ‘Eziaha abeg I don’t believe you. This boy is quiet. You are just lying on his head’. Even my Dentist friend Vivian don’t believe too cos everytime we hang out at her house, he is an angel, literally. Her kids and her househelp adore him cos if I leave him with the help, he doesn’t stress her at all.

My baby's buds

My baby’s buds

He will eat his food, sit in his car seat and be just calm lol. But with me at home, trust me KingDaveed is a gumbody and attention master.

There was a time he used to wail when his popsie carries him. He will want only me to be carrying him. I thank God that phase passed quick.

But there have been some people he didn’t have no smile for…

Two incidences

  1. I was looking for a salon around to wash my hair and this woman comes to me and says that why did I not cover his head, didn’t I see the weather, etc and was just touching my baby and his head anyhow. Funny things is the weather was just ok ooo. I was so mad lol. But I didn’t need to say anything cos my baby was shouting at her. It was so cool. Lol. #dontmesswithmymama #mamaknowsbest
  2. had this couple who visited with us and all the time they spent was spent saying ‘oh you have added SO MUCH WEIGHT’. Now the man’s wife was FAT and had never met me before aside pictures ooo. It was a tiring visit and trust my baby, he WAILED all the time they carried him and kept wailing till they left. Hahahahaha #mymamaisbeautifuljustthewaysheis #gerrarahere mehn!!!


On diapers and poop and all…

Me? Poop!!!??? Mama stopeeet

Me? Poop!!!??? Mama stopeeet

Ok, I have used 3 types of diapers and all have been good. Huggies, Pampers and Costco. I will recommend any really but for wipes, I swear by Huggies and Huggies only. Err, just a quick note on pampers premium, please don’t waste your money. Just buy the regular pampers cos ain’t nothing special abourrit… Lol.

Ok so when you ebf, the baby don’t poop like an FF baby. But there was this time dude didn’t poop for almost 5days and every time I would check his diapers anxiously. My dear, what a waste of emotions. He finally did, without issues. Recently it repeated itself and I didn’t even bother. The day he pooped ehn, it was a poonami (Poop Tsunami). And he pooped TWICE in that day lol.

Btw, I have not seen anyone who HATES poop like hubs. Haha. If he wants to bath him and he poops, hubs is gonna use wipes first to wipe and I am like but he ia bout to bath now and he will just gimme one evil eye cos ain’t no way he is gonna touch no poop. Lol. Ajebo hubs.


On screen time, and baby vids


These obodo oyibo people be talking about how screen time is not so good but frankly, the wonders cartoon does, whether from my phone or on the TV is amazing. Biko I dey on cartoon wella. Lol. I download usually from Hoopla kids. Don’t worry, I will find a way to ration it plus he is not permanently watching jor.


On clothing and co

They really varied ooo cos some were perfect for the label as in he wore 3-6months at between 3-6 months. There were others which though labelled say 3months and he wore them at 5months and then vice versa. Cos he had a LOT of cloths thanks to my sister in the US who was sending dresses in their numbers, and then some other people, I gave out quite a bit both new and worn but I was sure to not ‘over wear’ them. And I love that the people I gave it to REALLY needed it.


Btw, can’t wait to have girl children cos their cloths are OH-SO-BEAUTIFUL!!!

There were some dresses I did get attached to of his. Finding it hard to give them out sef and I manage to wear him until he practically removes it himself, lol.

Then laundry, I handwashed until just about a week ago cos I didn’t have a washing machine. Now ehn as I don see washing machine I con realise say HANDWASHING na SUFFERHEAD lol. Please make a washing machine a priority.


On gifts and all…


I am not sure WHY I didn’t expect he would get a lot of gifts and cash. Oh my friends were amazing. I recall one day Tani came to my house with a HE envelop. A couple of them got together and decided to give me this HUGE amount. It was too touching cos almost all of them were from my blog and most I had yet to meet. Oh it was the coolest stuff how KingDaveed got gifts especially off this blog. I just bless God. We even decided to use part of his money to bless people who needed it. Yup my son is already a giver like David. Oh we got plenty cloths too and other baby stuff. The only thing I got I couldn’t use were toiletries cos I wanted to be real careful for his skin.

Actually I hear you don’t visit with or see a baby and not give gifts. Tz like our tradition in Africa. Omo with how KingDaveed was getting, me sef started giving ooo.

On Bottles and Sterilisers


I basically used Avent and Tomme Tippee bottles and then I used to microwave sterilise and then cold water too using Milton tablets. Either methods worked for me but cold water is easier. Lemme just mention that I didn’t use pacifiers though hubs did when I would leave him with him. I just didn’t see a need when I knew what he really wanted was the boob. Interestingly the pacifier worked for my hubs.

On beds, cribs and co-sleeping

Abeg my booboo sleeps right with me. So that should he wake at night, I just breastfeed him nice and easy to sleep. Hubs had to vacate the bed for us Hahaha. I KNOW for a fact that this is the case in most households. (I see yawl cosleeping mamas) I really would want him in his crib back though now that I am weaning him but in our room. Thankfully we got him a mobile bed. Plus did I mention that my baby was one of those who would sleep through the night or if he wakes, just feed him and wham he goes back to sleep. Mahn, my heart breaks for mamas whose babies who would wake in the night and think it is day and want to play or be demanding attention. Choi!!! Not once did brother keep me up at night. I just bless God for that.

His crying and vexing


I am one of those mamas who believe that a baby should cry. Somedays when I really need to get something else done, I let him cry ooo, so long as I am sure he is not hungry, wet or uncomfy. If all he wants is a cuddle and mama never chop or baff, you best believe I’ma leave him to scream. And dude can shout ehn. He will now stiffen his body, close his eyes and SCREEAMMMM. God help you if he peeps and sees you, he will now close it again and scream even more. Lol. My dear, tears don’t kill no baby. I just pick him up late and start speaking words to him that he is not an angry vexing hot tempered baby ooo. And that whatever his temperament is, I declare that it is SPIRIT CONTROLLED. Haha.
And I don’t sing ‘cry cry baby I want to see my mommy, shame’. Lailai. I call anyone out who does cos you can’t be speaking shame into my son’s life. I certainly call them out. I sing MY BLESSED BABY instead and skip the shame part.

On keeping a Baby journal

I love keeping one. I can tell you categorically when he hit major milestones by the week because I documented it all.  Chances are that if you ever visited or gave him stuff, your name is in that book lol.


It was a gift from a dear dear friend Bridget. Btw girl holler at me…

On visitors…


It was always a joy to have my own friends visit. And quite a lot of yawl came around. Some more than once. Some came ready to help me work. Helpful visitors are the best. Almost all came with gifts and cash. A lot were LONG visits and I LOVE long visits. Some came with issues for counselling lol. It made me laugh but I loved taking time off baby talk and counselling, ALL took pictures. Wasn’t so keen for pictures at the beginning but later I got in the groove. Some wanted to visit but things always came up either from my end or theirs. One person who I can’t wait to meet KingDaveed has to be my bestie Dumebi. Girl, you better make that happen BEFORE he starts walking or we are stripping you of your godmama status.

On Prayers and confession


I pray for my baby every single day and take his confession for him day and night tho sometimes I miss night. And I anoint him too. His confession is so powerful and I cannot wait for us to teach him to start saying it himself over his life. I also read from the Book of David daily (because DAVID really should have a Book) and then just repeat the blessings and lessons over his life. He may not understand me yet but ddoesnt stop me from praying that with him. I also mention all his names and bless him with them

KingDaveed: The One who RULES and is BELOVED by God

Oluwasemilore: God has done me well/a favour

Somtochukwu: Join me in praising God

I speak over his life that he would enjoy the realities of these names in JESUS NAME, AMEN

I recall once in church when someone asked me what his name is and when I said KingDaveed, he said ‘don’t do what david did in the Bible ooo’

At first I am like, what’s that? And then it hits me that he is talking about the adultery with Uriah’s wife. I laughed… I KNOW too much of the kinda covenant that God had with David to focus on his one mistake. Tah!!!

Just perfectly illustrates what the devil will do to an ignorant believer…

And which brings me to the final one

His name… KingDaveed

My name is KingDaveed and I am ROYALTY

My name is KingDaveed and I am ROYALTY

One word.

No, I didn’t miss the spelling. No, I do not need to explain to you WHY I gave MY son that name. No it is NOT ‘King David’ or ‘david’ or Daveed’ It is not even Kingdaveed. It is KingDaveed simple. One Word. Pronounced KingDAHveed… No I also would prefer you do not shorten it but if you must, KingD it is. NOT KD!!! Lol

Oh I can’t begin to number all the various murdering of both the spelling and pronunciation. Tz funny. He sure will have to be patient a-plenty when he starts introducing himself. Even though it is his decision to make when he gets older but I would love that Titles are skipped when he is being called. Mr KingDaveed is killing it lol. Ditto Uncle KingDaveed, so I would rather everyone just says KingDaveed. But where you have to absolutely add a title, then we go to Somtochukwu or Semilore. But come to think of it, back then in school, one of our Pastors name was King and we all used to call him Pastor King. I guess Mr KingDaveed ain’t that awkz anymore

I dunno if I missed anything out…

I think this is LONG enough though.

But this post would not be complete if I don’t talk about the challenges being a mom brought my way…


I decided to share this because I was chatting with one of my readers/friends today and she is preggy and quite emotional about this and that. And then she tells how she is NOT allowed to be emotional, to say she is tired, to say she feels bad and stuff like that. She is NOT allowed to BE because there are women who don’t have kids and are desperately searching or there are those on permanent bedrest etc. I told her to please OWN the emotions. That is the first step to getting the required solution or healing not denying it, because it was beginning to affect her spiritual life too. That a pregnant woman is emotional doesn’t mean she is not grateful. SHE IS. She is just sick and tired of being sick and tired and the fact that she is not ALLOWED to be sick and tired and CRY if she wants to frankly can make her SICK AND TIRED even more. A very sick and tired and VERY GRATEFUL pregnant woman lol.


And I proceeded to share my own struggles with her post baby and how I healed.

Looking back, I do not know if/that I had post natal depression but one thing I certainly knew was that I was not exactly the Eziaha pre-mommy and that PND is real. There was a time hubs told me that I sounded very frustrated. Looking back I think I was. I am not a lazy person, actually I am one of those super women who can do it all but frankly mommyhood drew everything I had from my tank and reserve so I was always running on empty. My life was no longer my own and because I could not take it out on my baby, guess who took the heat. Yup hubs. It looked like I was no longer the high flying Eziaha but now a househelp as all I did was wash, clean, cook, change diapers, breastfeed, do dishes and repeat all over again day in and day out. I desperately wanted to do things FOR ME but whosai, impossible. I didn’t regret that I was not working. I just regretted not having a life outside all this. I certainly was not ungrateful ooo. Any effort I made to ‘live’ would die a natural death for lack of time. I HATED NOT HAVING A HELP and hubs frankly didn’t/couldn’t do much around to help. I would complain, gripe, whine, etc. I mean here he was, he could go to work and actually LIVE and leave me home and I would quarrel with Him all the time. I just hated the fact that life at that point had reduced me to a househelp lol. I hope yawl get what I mean. IT WAS HARD. Many days I cried. Bless God for good friends mehn!!! I dunno if you can really understand this if you have not walked this road. But if there are mamas who understand me, say uh huh uh huh… Lol.


Taking care of a child may seem easy and fun but IT IS ALSO A LOT OF WORK NOT only fun, forget what all those cute bibs say. GET HELP BEFORE YOU POP THAT BABY lol. Some days I would forget if I had bathed or not. And lemme tell you the WORST part. My spiritual life started to dwindle. I couldn’t spend time in prayer and word study like I used to before because my flesh was constantly tired and I hated the fact that I couldn’t, because I desperately wanted to. Sleep would just carry me. Oh I HATED IT. All through the day I would talk to God and complain and stuff BUT ONE THING I KNEW WAS THAT GOD ABSOLUTELY LOVED ME AND WANTED ME TO COME BACK INTO THAT LEVEL OF FELLOWSHIP. It frustrated me that I could not. I would just literally sit in His presence but be too tired to do anything. My prayers were short and listless. My Bible study was poor. My flesh was WEAK. IT WAS HARD. Maybe, just maybe I was depressed. I CRIED A WHOLE LOT. I imagine some of yawl reading this thinking ‘How is that possible?’


Anyways everyday I would tell GOD to just help me. I missed my HOT spiritual life. It just didn’t seem right. But like I said one thing I was sure of was HIS LOVE for me. I knew even if I didn’t feel it, it hadn’t changed.

Now don’t get me wrong, if Jesus came, I was going to heaven ooo. I just wasn’t getting the fullness of the Christian life and living here on earth. And yawl know if you have reached a certain level, nothing less will do. It was not like going from 80 to -10. It was like going from 100 to 40. I had something, but it was POOR.

Lemme tell you how God restored me… He somehow made my darling Titi mention WAR ROOM movie to me.

My people, I saw trailers and I went back to my secret place in prayers. Oh my gosh, those Kendrick brothers did some prayer before that movie because only previews, reviews and interviews my spiritual mojo kicked back in…
What an impact!!!! Have you heard the testimonies so far???



So WAR ROOM and the ministry of the Kendrick Brothers

Stephen and Alex Kendrick

Stephen and Alex Kendrick

Priscilla Shirer and Heather Lindsey also helped me. Somehow I stumbled on their videos and teachings and I saw plenty of me in them especially Priscilla. I think it was a reader who mentioned that she was a preacher when I did the post on WAR ROOM

Guys, these women now are my REAL LIFE Heroes!!! I am SPRUNG!!!

Priscilla Shirer in WAR ROOM

Priscilla Shirer in WAR ROOM

She teaches the Word like I would teach it. She is AMAZEBALLS… I feel like she is my bigsis. so worded and so fun.

Now? SPIRITUAL LIFE check check check check DOUBLE CHECK!!!

And because everything else is predicated on that, ALL IS WELL WITH ME AND THE WORLD!!! Whoop!!!

When I shared this with my friend, she said ‘I NEEDED to hear that. WE SHOULD SHARE OUR STORIES AND STRUGGLES. Now lemme go find a way to get my own mojo back…’ (In my own words)

Fam, my baby is 6months old!!! Alive and very well. Even though he spat my Cerelac back at me, took the ogi with resistance, we won’t give up… Hahaha
Cerelac and breastmilk .no be mates…


Longest post ever, thankfully I am an AMAZING writer otherwise you woulda been so bored.
Toot toot…
That’s my horn. Haha
Don’t steal any of my pictures without Royalty ooo, or else…

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Marriage, through the eyes of a young Christian man, @walejana

When Eziaha spoke to me and told me so many nice things about myself, I was blushing!

*Hold that thought*

So what exactly did I tell Wale that got him blushing?


Wale and Toyin Aladejana

A lil history first. I have never met Wale physically nor his beautiful wife Toyin but they are my BBM buds.

I frankly don’t recall how I met Wale but I know it has to be on a social media site. He has also featured me on his blog here. I recall telling my hubs after Wale told me he and his family were moving to The ‘Buj that at least I am sure of ONE young FAB Christian couple we could be friends with as most of the couples I knew were, well, one kain.


We talk occasionally and he is such a man of GREAT FAITH. It encourages me all the time. Then the way he talks about his wife is absolutely amazing. Both in the little things and in the big things. He literally ‘carries her on his head’ Hahaha. I knew I would want to feature Wale and Toyin on my blog but I had yet to find the perfect time, until now.

Btw, I want this to be a regular feature, where some other FAB person(s) get to feature on my blog. Suggestions for what it should be called? Please guys.

Ok on to the ‘nice things’. They are actually ‘little things’ but every one/wife/woman knows that it is the LITTLE things that make a BIG difference.

I connected with Toyin for the first time when she was pregnant in November ’14.

Wale's Oluwatoyin and Dumdum

Wale’s Oluwatoyin and Dumdum

All my plans to visit didn’t pull through. She had just moved to the ‘Buj following her husband’s transfer from Benin. Wale had come earlier alone to prepare for her coming so she had just joined him. I imagine that she left a life behind and followed hubby. I don’t even recall what Wale and I were talking about but I guess I was trying to find out how well she was settling in especially as she didn’t exactly have people here. And he said something like

‘…No, she is not working. I GOT HER A JOB to keep her busy but she decided against it because she would soon put to bed so didn’t think there was any need…’

Sounds small abi? But when you have packed your bags and followed your hubby across the Nation and are bored in a city without friends and are pregnant and home alone and the man is proactive and thoughtful enough to do the work of looking for and getting you a job to keep you busy because you don’t really know your way around town enough to job hunt, you would REALLY know what I mean. It is not so much the job but the fact that ‘my wife’s welfare and happiness is MY RESPONSIBILITY.’ Trust me guys, an average man would NOT.


Second thing was after Toyin had put to bed. Btw I love this line from his birthday message to her…

‘…I was there at the labour room when you were giving birth to our princess, you stayed strong and pushed her out without any complications whilst looking as beautiful as ever. Thank you for giving me this beautiful, feisty princess…’


Ehen, so again I don’t recall what we were talking about but it had to do with how they were doing since Dumdum their daughter appeared especially as me I was getting set to pop, and he said something like

The work is too much for her. I am looking for a good help for her. This is like the third one we have gotten…

I had to ask, but she just gave birth under 3months ago na and he was like

Yes, but the first was this, second this, third that…

You could just see a man that was not ready to have his wife die from house and baby work lol. Trust me, I was swooned. A lot of people don’t understand that a baby is a trailer load of work. Add house work to that and even a good woman can get depressed without any/much help EVEN IF SHE IS A FULL TIME STAY AT HOME MOM. (Any body wonder why househelps are PAID?) I for one knew Dumdum was nursing exclusively so I KNOW first-hand how much work it would have been for Toyin.


You could FEEL it, that Wale needed a good help like yesterday to relieve Toyin, and if it meant we get 50 until we get the right one, NO WAHALA!!! And he was going to be INVOLVED.

Trust me darlings, it is a HUGE deal.

It was the day he told me that he met his wife on FACEBOOK and the story behind their courtship, proposal and wedding that I knew I wanted to feature them here.IMG_5710 (2)

Maybe someday I would feature that story on my blog or maybe he will feature it on his own blog and I will share the link here. Wale knows how to celebrate his wife mehn

But today, I wanted him to just talk about his marriage

Enjoy, unedited…


When Eziaha spoke to me and told me so many nice things about myself, I was blushing!


Dumdum at her naming… I think

Glory to God! It still feels like a dream that I am married and I have a princess. It is a lot of responsibility but God has been faithful.

My wife is a very loveable woman, she is so easy to get along with, I believe I am the difficult one and we have our moments like all couples. I need a lot of grace when it comes to patience; I am the shouter and the horn blarer, I am the door banger with a tongue like a whip, I guess the good thing is we never sleep over any offence, we always settle. Many times I would go out of the room and she would call me a coward for running away from arguments but I always come back to the room, never liked the couch and also because I am so intertwined with my wife and daughter. I feel homesick if I am away for more than 2 days. I can’t take any job that will take me away from my family, they are too crucial and too important, no job or amount of money is worth it.


If men understand how crucial their wives are to their success, accountability would not be very hard. Jesus is married to the church, the man is married to the wife; Christ is the head of the church, man is the head of the wife. Jesus is submitted to God the Father, man is submitted to Jesus. There is a structure which guarantees a flow, Jesus loves the church unconditionally; He respects her, does the best for her and churches bloom! You will agree with me that churches today are synonymous with wealth so much so that pastors are accused of embezzlement and all that. The same way, when a man loves his wife and does the best for her, he will succeed!


One of the scriptures that have kept me grounded is Malachi 2; 13-16 (NLT)

Here is another thing you do. You cover the LORD’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. 14You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.

15Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.b And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. 16“For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,c” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

Many men especially Christian men think that unfaithfulness has to do with not looking at another woman. Husbands need to go and read their wedding vows again to know what unfaithfulness is all about. Many men said those words but they never actually thought about what they were saying and God said He was present when you uttered those words. The traditional wedding vows read thus, ‘will you have this woman to be your lawful wedded wife, to live together after God s ordinance in the Holy Estate of Matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others keep you only unto her as long as you both shall live?

Can you say for sure that you are loving your wife, comforting her, honouring her and forsaking all others?


When your wife is sad, depressed, stressed out and overwhelmed because of your ignorance and the many problems you cause as a man, God is angry with you! And when your wife is happy and at peace and she’s enjoying her life, God is happy and you will feel it!


Apart from my day job and ministry as a Social Media Evangelist, I have an amazing business and I can trace it back to honouring my wife and making my wife happy. My wife needed a phone and she had never had a 18 carat gold chain before; I knew that getting her those two gifts along with all other expenses that come with having a baby and all others would turn my account to red but I made up my mind to honour her that way and she was so excited and happy. Shortly after, I started this perfume business and in 3 months I made a million from sales then I became a major distributor and now I have 8 distributors under me all of whom made their money back in a week!


All of this is done through the social media, I advertise and celebrate my customers on BBM, WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook and whilst I sit at my desk in the office, calls start coming in, they pay to my account and I call my courier person to send to them. I make my salary in mostly 2 weeks. No stress, no wahala whatsoever, the kind of life Adam lived in Eden!


I am still believing God for many more but I have seen enough of divine provision in my life to know that God will perfect all that concerns us. If many Christian men can understand that their money can be traced to their wives’ happiness they would take them much more seriously. You could say ‘Oh I know many men who have money and treat their wives like crap’ the truth is that such men never end well. The bible is complete, it says in 1 Peter 3;7 (NLT) In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

John D. Rockefeller who is till date the richest man who ever lived after King Solomon had this to say about his wife “her judgement was always better than mine. Without her keen advice, I would be a poor man“. Many men need to understand that the word ‘helper’ in the bible was not talking about someone to cook, clean, wash and make babies. The word ‘helper’ or ‘help meet’ in Hebrew is ‘Ezer’ which means ‘power’ or ‘strength’. So when the Lord God was saying He would create an helper for man, He was not taking about a helper like your house girl, He was talking about a superior being who would be with man to help him achieve his purpose.


If many men would discuss more of their business ideas and let their wives know how much they have in their bank accounts, they would be way more successful. Women have their downsides as well but if your wife is from God, she is a heavy weight and the faster you realise that the better for your life.

Another thing men must bear in mind is that God is transgenerational in His thinking; husbands must begin to think that way as well. God describes Himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

Malachi 2;15 says; Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.b And what does he want? Godly children from your union. God also said about Abraham in Genesis 18:19 I have singled him out so that he will direct his sons and their families to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just. Then I will do for Abraham all that I have promised.”

God is interested in men who will lead their homes after His pattern. How then can you be building a dynasty and not have time for your wife and children? You are chasing money? The men who chase money have it all wrong! If you build according to God’s pattern, money will be chasing you! God does not want you spending all your time working and chasing money because He wants you to focus on the most important reason for bringing you and your wife together and that is to build Godly offspring that will in turn give birth to Godly offspring and the circle continues until you have built a dynasty based on kingdom principles, that is the way you can affect the world! All the troublesome people the world has today can be traced to the families where they were raised! Someone was too busy or not paying attention. You must be available to impact deliberately into the life of your wife and children.


The latest of anything is always an improved version and the woman was the improved version of the man although the man is the head, God made her everything the man was not. A woman is to a man what God cannot be to him. God was present in Eden with Adam yet He said, ‘it is not good for man to be alone’. I don’t care how successful you think you are but if you keep your wife at arms’ length, you are alone and the bible said it is NOT good!

Unfortunately, it was not Adam who immediately realised how powerful the woman is, it was the devil and in the twinkle of an eye, he had used her to wreak havoc. Ever since then, the devil’s most powerful weapon has been the woman; the Jezebels and the Delilahs and God’s most powerful weapons have been the Daughters of Zion. These are women who understand their role as wives, daughters and mothers who have used their influence with God to bless and protect their husbands, sons and fathers.

It is not easy for a superior to submit to the lesser, many men complain that their wives and girlfriends are not submissive. The only kind of man, a woman finds it easy to submit to is the man who is submitted to God. Mr Husband, Mr. Fiancee, are you submitted to God? Build according to God’s pattern of love and submission will come easily.


I hope this will not bore you but this is what works for me.

****I wish we didn’t come to THE END***

No Wale, you certainly did NOT bore us. This was deep and HOT… I can’t wait to meet you and your family finally.

Oya ladies, married and especially single, please share with the men in your life.

Wale blogs the Goodnews at www.mytestimonys.blogspot.com and is on twitter and Instagram @walejana

He spreads the gospel proudly via his social media handles and his daily devotionals, told like a story are amazing.

He is also one PROUD member of COZA.

I hope this blessed you. Like I said, I would open up my blog to more godly blogposts from my readers. If you have something you think would bless us from YOUR LIFE, holler.

Suggestions? Holler too. This is a CHRISTIAN blog ooo. Ehen.

Mail as always to eziaha@eziaha.com



Oh hol’ up.

Was gonna wrap this up and schedule when Wale sends me a message sharing an awesome testimony I have to share here. Recall at the start of this I mentioned that Wale is a man of great FAITH?

Please read in his own words. What a FAITHFUL God


So it happened that someone had been monitoring my activities on Facebook: the social media evangelism and the perfume business.

The person called me and said…

‘Wale, I want you to expand your business so you can cater for all classes of people…’

Next thing he brought out his cheque book and began to write. I thought it was 100k but it was 1million naira. 1,000 000. I was speechless and he was just smiling at me. As a proper Yoruba boy, I went flat on the floor and he just said ‘Don’t worry about it.

Guess who is storming Dubai in a bit? Yep, yours truly. We are taking over the Oud market and it is world class from now on baby.

I just want to encourage someone. It may seem as if God has forgotten all your seeds but get ready for a shocker. Strangers will walk towards you and just bless you. God will owe no man, never forget that. He is a rewarder to those who FAITHFULLY serve Him.



WOW!!! OH WOW!!!

Perfect timing. I needed to add this to this story to this post. On all his social media handles, he shares a daily devotional (his own) and then he shares his OUD perfume business.

Someone had been watching and God decides to use that person, WITHOUT HIM ASKING, to bless him.

Yaaaay!!! God is faithful abeg.


Be Fruitful guys,