The REAL boko Haram….

Ndi Boko

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That’s what my mama started calling ’em after the drama that happened in UI in my final year

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Final year...Exam period. UI

when we HEARD that they had written a letter to our school (and like two more schools) that they were coming to bomb us next.
*insert your BEST ‘shuo’ face here*
I’ll spare you the details of the shutdown, students protest and refusal to write exams, and increased security presence that happened then in school and just tell you how my mom and sister didn’t stop yabbing me about it all cos I even repeated such crap to them…
So whenever she called, she will say
‘…ndi boko ha landiala?’
Literally translating to ‘have the ‘boko people’ landed?’
Tz crazy hilarious in Igbo, plus the way she always said it amidst laughter while my sis will also be laughing in the background.  Choi!!!
Momma of mine… Dramatic to the C
Anyways, the truth is rumour or not, students were taking absolutely NO chances.

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Especially cos they were anti Western Education

Exam gbakwa oku, omo, the campus hostels emptied out like we all saw the letter with our korôkoro eyès.

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Parents ringing their kids to come home. This was one rumour we didn’t wanna wait to confirm cos that would mean heaven or hell straight up!!!

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It just made sense and spirit to vamoose.
Yup…Ndi Boko had such powers. Lol.

Fast forward to later that year when my NYSC posting came out. I recall telling my parents I was posted to Bauchi. That period, ndi-boko were killing crazy in that region. Infact there had been calls to stop posting Corpers there as several had lost their lives. Mehn, trust my dad, first thing he said was ‘You are not going!!!’. And momsie? She had started calling people already to ‘effect necessary changes’.
No way on God’s green earth were they going to let me go to Bauchi!!!
And fact is, I knew plenty people who postponed their NYSC to the next batch cos they were posted to problem states. And I know a few who lied that they had all sorts of unprintable diseases just to be re-posted from camp.
That’s to show you how much we value our lives. Nobody wants to deliberately die from Boko-haram bombings and certainly not at this young age. So we find both godly and ungodly ways to stay safe. And alive.

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With my State Coordinator Lagos. Was joking when i told 'em Bauchi

Today in the news, (and I do think you have to make sure you are reading your bible MORE than you are watching the news otherwise, the spirit of despair, fear and depression would soon tackle and overpower you)

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Yup, the news doesn't smile these days

ndi-boko gist is everywhere. Where they aren’t bombing, they are threatening or jail breaking or clashing with our Security operatives.
Almost daily, certainly weekly, one drama goes down. And takes with it innocent lives. Only this year, we have lost near thousands. Kids and students not excluded.
Viewer apathy is actually starting to set in. Gosh!!! God forbid.
So why did I lay out all this Boko drama? Or is BH all I wanna talk about today?
Certainly Nope.
Ok, let’s dive in.
One week, one of those weeks when I had just heard about ENOUGH marital or relationship HELLISH news including how the kids were being affected, a friend now told me of another marital story gone BAD for a colleague of hers.

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Such heart wrenching news

Then it just dawned on me that some times, we use our own legs and walk straight into ndi-boko camp and let our lives get bombed up.
Yup, that’s EXACTLY what happens when you marry wrong.
That’s the real Boko haram. And this time, You become your own boko-haram. You too are guilty!!! Of aiding and abetting your own ‘death’. 
You get yourself into a real ticking time bomb situation when you end up with the wrong life partner and sooner than later, it will go VOOM in your face…

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Lemme talk to the ladies here. Cos most times, we suffer more in such situations. We are the casualties of this war. 
Sweetie, I beg You in the name of God, please don’t COMPROMISE your faith cos of a man!!! Don’t lower your standards just cos your life’s aspiration is to marriage!!! Now I am going to assume that I’m talking to real spiritual believing ladies here. If you aren’t, nne get right with God first ooo cos you can’t make this all important decision without Him. Don’t deceive yourself ooo. 

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Join us the FAB GOD GIRLS ooo...

Ok so let’s proceed…

If Mr Tall Glass of all things HOT n SPICY is NOT a born-again and unquestionably saved believer complete with FRUITS of the spirit NOT just the GIFTS, he is BOKO HARAM!!! Run!!! His soul z not saved/renewed and according to Eph 2:2, there is a DEMON Spirit at work in the sons of disobedience, those who refuse to obey God. Hmm, that spirit can move him to do ANYTHING at ANYTIME!!!

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**shivers**

Nne that is the real boko-haram. Don’t even think about marrying him!!! Run!!!

If he is Mr Swags-on-point, but he doesn’t have any spiritual authority or mentor over him that can call him to order when his head starts touching, and he is even one of those who talk down on Pastors and MOG, he is a ticking time bomb, RUN!!!

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An un-mentored man has already been recruited into the Boko Haram army. Don’t let him practice his skills on you ooo. Experience z NOT the best teacher for the wise.
 
If our Tall, Dark and Handsome doesn’t go to and SERVE in a church or pay his tithe REGULARLY, run!!! A man who cheats God will cheat and shortchange you of life itself… Plus he has no covering!!! Boko haram identified!!! And rejected!!! Tsk tsk tsk!!! Run!!!

If Mr Suave is also Mommy’s boy, honey, you can’t compete with his mom ooo.

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Aaaaaarrrrgggghhh!!!

Neither can you fight it if the boy aint willing to free himself from mommy’s apron.

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The ground no go level ooo. No try yasef

And no wife wants to play second fiddle in her ‘real estate’. It may seem like just a spark that would soon go out but trust me, I recently heard of an under one year divorce case cos of mummy’s influence!!! Tick tock tick tock BOOOM!!!
Bomb will sooner than later detonate in your face!!! Run baby, run. But first, gift him this sucker!!!

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Bomboy!!!

For me, the next point is probably my most important…

If your spiritual authority says ‘don’t marry this man or quit this relationship’ baby mi, don’t even think it. Of course this is me assuming you have Pastors or mentors like my PK and Rev.

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Rev Femi Oduwole and Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo. My MAINESTssss!!!

Trust me, he is NOT gaining natin by stopping you. Instead he is saving your life from being blown up!!! Listen!!! Ask him why…Then take notes to identify any other BH man and then Run!!!

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That 'love' will burn you bad

Run like Road runner. Don’t look back like Lot’s wife. Make sure that loser NEVER catches you. Your life can scatter my Love. Scatter!!! If you dare to disobey spiritual authority especially on this all-important marriage matter, and maybe even now start dodging or fighting your Pastor cos you suddenly think he wants to pour sansan in your garri…. Hmmmmmmmm.
Some mistakes are DEADLY. Even when you repent of it and attempt to get your life back on track, the scars remain. Sometimes very VERY obvious.

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Some scars remain FOREVER...

When your hands have burnt and you come back to your mentor/Pastor, he will accept you but you will deal with the consequences of that isi-ike FOREVER. 

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Listen to your spiritual leaders ooo. Hmm

Hmm, and the koko one, if he beats you in the relationship, and you go ahead, spurn better judgement and marry, please lemme know. So I can gift you a coffin on your wedding day. Sweetie, an abusive man is Boko haram’s ring leader. Someday, your corpse will be what will be taken out of that marriage.

If he is sexing you in the relationship, hmm both of you are being stupid but the girl more IMO. My LOVE, stop!!! You can repent NOW. And if he no gree, baby, madness occurs when you as a wife has ZERO trust in your hubby cos the same line you cross to fornicate is the same you cross to ‘adulterate’. You will just become a detective for nothing. Unpaid crazy one. Nne, no TRUST, No NOTHING.

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You deserve MORE darling

Then he will now boko-haramize you when you now dare to ask him questions!!! Sweerie, oso Abiola… RUN!!! Leave your shoes behind if you have to. 

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More like FLEE

Forget that He is the hottest thing Alex-Ekubo-aint-got-natin-on-him. He oozes class and panache like Paddy Adenuga. He is so charming Okija babalawos and their many charms pale when he appears.   Those things don’t matter as much ooo. The difference between Charming and Harming is the letter C…
See how Harming goes with Haram-ing if you can attempt to ‘funerize’
Harming…Haraming…

Now, my blog is NOT a strictly relationship blog but for some interesting reason, majority of the mails that come to me are relationship related from ladies. Hmmmmm. Like Inthe…, I can actually say tz my ‘bread and butter’ especially when the ladies are actually really ready to follow wise counsel. But guess where the real wahala happens?
When despite wise counsel, she tells you how hard it is to do what’s right, and then goes ahead with ndi-boko and BOOM!!! She is haramized… I wish I could FORCE them but I have learnt that I can’t… I can only talk and pray and hope you make the right choice.

My Pastor Kingsley always says ‘…you deserve who you marry…’ and he doesn’t pity people with ‘marriage drama’ anymore… Because counsel po… Wise counsel is everywhere if we open our eyes a bit. Somewhat like the lawyers will say ‘Ignorance is not an excuse in law…’ Most times, we just ignore or not heed to counsel cos we think we know better. Whatever you see in marriage, you would have seen a shadow in courtship but love dey blind and shack you.
At first, I thought PK was being harsh. Right now, I believe him. It may sound like a harsh thing to say, but tz the truth. Sorry.
Before I start pitying you, I like to ask questions. When you ask questions deeply, you will realize that the cracks were present. The red flags… The ‘Potential Boko haram’ billboard. She just ignored it or downplayed it.

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Then the fall inevitably happens...

Don’t come in here and be telling me ‘people change, you just never know what you will see in marriage until you enter or you are still in the creche of marriage and things may change so don’t talk yet (I had a comedienne tell me that once. I was amazed as to how the devil has blinded and deceived people. I immediately prayed for her cos she sounded like a Haramized wife)…’ And all such absolute rubbish…
Our heavenly Father is NOT wicked. He will NEVER leave you without a witness and neither will He lead you into something that has the potential to change for the worse. No baby, not my Sugar Daddy. 

Singleness is NOT a sin. It is NOT a curse. It is NOT a disease. You won’t be sent out of heaven if you don’t marry BUT marrying the wrong person can take you straight to hell, boko haram style. 
Psychologists have even proved that the wrong person can reduce the quality of your life by 62%. Wow!!!! That is HUGE. Tz way better to be single hoping to be married than to be married, living with the fear of Boko haram and craving singlehood ooo.
Shine your eyes, shine your brain and of course, shine your spirit.
Don’t sacrifice your future on the altar of just being a Mrs…
Let’s do this exercise baby…
Tz simple.
Get a mirror…look at your beautiful face therein. God-girl that you are.
Tell yourself
I am worth more than any Boko-haramization!!!
I am Priced far above rubies.
Too precious to God.
Sugar daughter of THE only Sugar Daddy.
I am God’s biggest deal. He’s invested His ALL in me so I can’t miss it marriage wise cos He’s got His eyes on me.
He will perfect it for me at the right time. He that would come will come and not tarry. I will patiently wait for him while working on myself to be the best mum for my kids.

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Single is FABULOUS too

And I do owe my kids the best Daddy too.
I deserve more than a ticking time bomb.
I will let that loser go… I release him even though it hurts. I sow him as a seed to God. He will bring me a bountiful harvest. My very own David. My perfect slice of heaven. My heaven. My very own ‘Love like a movie’.
*feel free to add more darling*

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Love and Pamper you...

You are a King’s daughter baby. Don’t settle for less. Don’t reduce your standards so low that even lizards can apply and of course at the same time, don’t raise them so high even the Pope can’t apply. Wisdom!!!

Like I said, information is everywhere yo!!! Good ones ooo. Don’t even think your speaking in tongues alone will teach you all you need to know. Try learning to drive by just scabashing and come back to tell me how that goes. Please nne, deliberately read good books, attend good seminars (like LDM), buy messages, etc.

Now I know there will be some married women who are in some kinda haramic situation reading this. My heart bleeds for you. Gosh!!! So what do you do? Can I be sincere with you here?
Yeah…
I dunno. Truth. Cos situations are peculiar. I can’t say what you should do here but I do know you can get counselling. Customised counselling. If you really do need one, I could hook you up. More than anything, you can too pray. Yes PRAY. Gragra won’t do shingbai. God can and  will teach you what to do.

Which is why I love to talk more to the Singles. You have the opportunity to get it right. You can still press the CAUTION button and check out every man to be sure He is not a Boko-haram member.

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Caution baby CAUTION

Which is why I’m delighted to invite you to this month’s LDM seminar in Abuja themed
CAUTION for Singles!!!

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Love Dating & Marriage Abuja

I mean, if you don’t know, you can learn yeah?
Cos that safety sign C can be the difference between heaven and Boko-haram.

Of course you know David’s Christian Centre got relationship on a lock down yeah?

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To the blood!!! Wherever life takes me...

Like we do relationship right. Right from our Senior Pastor to the Ministers and then Eziaha (loool) and the rest of us, we just dey enjoy heaven on earth in our marriages. So when we call a relationship seminar, clear your schedule and come!!!
This Sunday April 13. Petrus Hotel, off Gimbaya street (after Toprank Hotel), Area 11, Garki Abuja. 4.30pm
My Pastor drops it like He hears it. Undiluted and Powerful!!! You don’t wanna miss it. Single or married, this meeting will bless you…
See you there *winks*

Stay FAB darlings.
E’
Testifying FORWARD…

PS:
Yes. Posts come up here once a week now. At the weekends. Seldom twice.
I know, stop protesting already hehehe.
By the way, you guys major rock!!! #FAB4Life
Oh btw, you can reach me on eziaha@eziaha.com or on Twitter @eziahaa

PPS:
Cos I am super nice, I have attached a couple of links to posts that can help my Single Sisters out there…
@inthemidstofher The measure of a (1st Tim 3) man http://www.inthemidstofher.com/2011/03/my-criteriathe-measure-of-man-part-1.html?m=1 (while on her blog, snoop around for Part 2)
Don’t marry Him if… by E’ https://eziaha.com/about/messages-i-have-transcribed/ (Just click and enjoy the relationship posts there)
Why don’t you have a Pastor? By Pastor Mildred Okonkwo http://justusgirlsnaija.com/2014/03/29/why-dont-you-have-a-pastor/
Dangerous men by my Booski http://dumebie.com/2014/03/17/dangerous-men/
Guys, you can actually just read between the lines and know the kind of ladies who have enlisted in the BH army.
Someday God will help me transcribe ‘Don’t marry her if…’ By Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo.
Until then, just believe God. Lol

E’s.Mail…Pre-marital Counselling

Airport lounges are a great place to blog…
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I have done quite some blogging every time I wait…
I actually thought I would spend some time reading this book while I await my flight,
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but I decided I would read the book in-flight since all electronic gadgets would have to be off then…
I am also praying that I get an extra meal pack seeing as I am super hungry and in my hurry, I didn’t have either brekkie or lunch and I am too prudent/stingy to buy airport food…
Tz past 2pm BTW…
Meanwhile, I  have enjoyed all sorts of favor flying ooo… From being upgraded to first class, to extra snacks, to taking a picture in the cockpit…
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He he he. At the checkpoint today, they didn’t even check my hand luggage. Didn’t let me remove my sandals, didn’t do that annoying touching all over they do… Nothing. They just kept saying ‘ah fine original African girl/lady/etc…’ My hubby said that’s how I would have passed with bomb and they will be hailing me…loooooool
Let’s see what happens today…
#opentoverypleasantsurprises#
Free tip: Always wear a blinding smile at the airport… Works!!!
OK this really mean man just came to sit across me with a plate of steamy sweet smelling snails…
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#PureEvil#
Back to the subject matter… With TY Bello’s Yahweh playing nonstop from my phone, lemme welcome you to this segment called E’s.Mail…
So a darling FAB’er sent me this mail…
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Because I have been asked this question time and again, I decided to answer this publicly. Someone else may need the info…

First off, nothing awkward here darling… You know E’ now… Awkward is getting overrated 🙂
Thanks darling… For writing in and for the love… And of course, we know who gets all the glory yeah… #SugarDaddyOfMine

Yes, hubby and I lived in different places for 4+ of the 5+ years we dated…
And believe me, we did counselling with our two different churches tho we were wedding in mine only. He is a leader in his church and dearly beloved of almost every pastor and member so he had to bring his intended to be very checked out and approved first…
Now, while I subscribe to pre-marriage counselling (ranges anything from the popular one week or /two to four weekends crash program to the very rare intensive three months in different churches I think…), I daresay it is NOT enough. Especially the  crash courses…
My opinion tho…
Now I say this because most churches I know won’t join you until you have undergone their marriage counselling classes but has that impacted on the number of divorces, seperations and all sorts that we see even in the church today?
I sincerely believe that marriage is such a HUGE deal so the same we study for our degrees, we also need to study to make this institution which is lifelong work…
Now what am I saying?
I recall as a student in unibadan, there was this time Rev TJ (Rev’s darling babe) was transferred to pastor my branch (Shabach centre). Since it was opposite UI, students were about 3/4 of the congregation. One of the first things she told us then was those in relationships should let her know and bring their intended to her so she can get to know them and counsel along…
***side note… Second and final boarding announcement. Gotta run.
FreeTip2: Avoid the rush,and the queuing especially if you don’t have a huge hand luggage. Always board at the final call 🙂 Catch y’all soon***

8.50pm… Long trip…  But the show must go on…

OK where were we?
So she wanted us to bring our ‘boifwends’ and girlfriends…
I am sure a lot of people wondered why and thought she probably just wanted to hear gist…
But she had her strong reasons…
Anyways,me, even before she said, there was no way I was going to be dating someone and I would not have informed my pastors… Especially because my church was a relationship church and they really understood relationships, evident in the kinda marriage they had.

Now Aku m wasn’t in Ibadan but after I was sure that it was him I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, the next time dude came, fiam I had him visit Rev and his wife for them to scrutinize him wella and probably throw in a few ‘you better don’t mess with our very precious daughter E’ or we will go all ninja on you’ threats… I wasn’t at that meeting but when Rev called me, he was like ‘…ah Eziaha, this one is a good one ooo… I like him. I can’t threaten him…’ and all that. Rev teju also loved him too. Intact, I tell her she loves him more than me, because they both have reserved personalities while Rev and myself are the sanguines yo!!!
My dear, that was where our counselling began ooo. At the very beginning of the relationship… Every time we were together in town, we would visit them, there were many calls, many individual sessions, many counsels, a few quarrel settlings lol, but basically, they were involved.
Because he attends winners which is NOT a relationship church, I made sure I over-dosed him on books, and messages on relationships from Rev, Pk, Pastor Bimbo and others like Gary Chapman and co…  We would read together, discus OVER THE PHONE most times, ask questions, etc.
That formed part of counselling too…
Then I also wanted him to meet pk…I wanted pk to ‘shake him up’ a bit since Rev had shown him love. He he he. Balance jare… Don’t judge
Infact, i used to invite him for DCC programs but he couldnt make most till MAN UP… A relationship program just for men. He bought a ticket and came all the way to LAGOS just to attend Man up and see pk if possible. He didn’t see him but he got his pin. Then they got talking on Bb. Intact, pk had to move him to his personal bbm because he is his daughter’s fiancée…  Phew, two appointments gone awry, they never met till the wedding day but on Bb they talk. Infact Bolaji used to say that whenever he puts up my picture, pk will ping him as if to say ‘…hmmm, I am watching you ooo. No just try yasef where my daughter dey…’ Loooool
No slacking oooo… I couldn’t be dating anyone and the spiritual authorities won’t be carried along…
So now, when Bolaji proposed,
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we were back to Rev and his wife THE NEXT DAY Loooool.
Both to inform them and be prayed for…
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Cos we were going to see my people and God knows we needed the prayers, counsel, etc being that I had been warned not to bother bringing a Yoruba person…
All though the drama that ensued during the whole wedding process, rev was carried VERY along… Ditto pk…
What was all that? Part of marriage counselling because dealing with the in laws comes with the package…
Now when we started the marriage counselling proper, my hubby was coming from his base to IBADAN  every time. Kai… The flight tickets no be here Loooool.

The good thing was that with that sort of foundation, we did fewer classes than the ‘regular’
In fact on two occasions, we left Rev’s house at 10pm (bless the Oduwole’s for me dear God). The the next day we would be back to Lagos and hubby would fly back to base…
Then we also had a session with another of my pastors in school, Rev Bunmi… Choi
That one was sex counselling… You will hear tinzzzzz and trust Rev Bunmi na… God bless him he is also a medical doctor hehehe… But I loved it…
Then I had to travel to his church too for counselling and marriage interview. It was going to be a crash course since I wasn’t wedding in Winners. This one caused wahala ooo, I won’t lie. Cos I didn’t want to go, especially as I had come earlier and it didn’t hold and the wedding was drawing close and most weekends were busy and my parents weren’t excited about me travelling weekends plus I was still working. I think hubby had to report me to Rev first and then, of course (who born me), I found myself making the trip two weeks to the wedding… Choi.
If you see the drilling for the interview at Winners eh…  Infact after drilling us together, they now seperated us, asked us very intimate questions and then compared answers to be sure we weren’t lying… Lol. Frankly, I didn’t expect all that and to God be the glory, we passed their interview in flying colours. In fact the head of the panel (yes they were three) now said they were very impressed with our session and that they had not interviewed a couple this in sync before and who seemed to understand and were well prepared for what they were going into. They said so many glowing things about us and coming from Winners, you know that is a big deal yeah? I remember calling rev very excitedly to gist him… Aside the interview, we did a two day marathon counselling session with different pastors handling different topics. My favorite was the one on communication. The facilitator did an amazing job. Then my least fave was ………………….lol. No comment

So my darling J, we did counselling-a-plenty:-from dating days, to pre-engagement, post-engagement and pre-marital counselling…
And the truth is, it never stops…
Infact one thing we started doing in marriage was to listen to marriage tapes together and then discus it. Tz our very own Love Dating and Marriage seminar…
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And reason ooo… Any reason!!!
So that way, we are sure we will keep hearing the right voices all through this journey…
If we are going to have the marriage of our dreams, we have to deliberately build it…

Now, of course many people have good or even great marriages without all of this. Oh well, I aint sure but I guess…
Me sha, I know say in the multitude of counsel there is safety….
I didn’t want to go into this marital journey ill-prepared and walahi I know I have a lot of wahala  and plenty to learn so I took advantage of all the arsenals within my reach…

I hope this helps…
Cheers

E’
Going Forward…Still Testifying

PS
Started this post on Monday… Concluded it Tuesday right in Unilag auditorium where we are having one job awareness thingy as part of our POP activities for batch A Corps members…
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Feb 13 in view… Thank you Jesus.
#Can’wait #BatchA2013

#31F.A.B.Voices…E’ testifying

Happy New year my darlings!!!
Now let’s kick this off with me sharing my 2014 plans with you. Some at least.
Since we have 31 Favored.And.Blessed Voices testifying, I figured I’ll go first.
Not just because it is my blog but I’ll also love to give direction and clarity as to what I meant when I introduced this…
First let me state that this year ehn, I no dey play. Satan, hol ur ear!!! I am still testifying and each testimony will cause the devil to twist in pain. Like my Booski saiud, this year, I am personally burying the devil… I dunno about you. This year, tz FORWARD 2014… Still testifying.
And I don’t wanna testify alone. Mba… I wanna be sharing mine and hearing and sharing yours too. E go sweeter that way. Which is why I wanna share this 31FAB Voices testifying with y’all. WeWontJustStopTestifyingYo!!!
You see this Word… ‘FORWARD 2014…Still testifying’ I will SQUEEZE all the testimonies out of it. Nothing will be left by December 31, 2014. I will go forward. I will testify yet. I will bury the devil. I am loving the year already. Too excited!!! Lemme let you in on some of my plans!!! The direction my life will be taking this year as my Sugar Daddy does His thing!!!
I know I can bank on your prayers…
In the spirit of 2014… Lemme share 14 things with my darling FAB’ers…

The Vision 2014…
The first three would focus on relationships cos I have realized that relationships are EVERYTHING. If you are blessed enough to work the right people into your life, ah!!! No words on the kinda amazing life you would have. There are three kinds/levels of relationships in my life I would love to work on in 2013-Higher, Same level, and Lower. Let’s shed more light on each…
1. Relationship with my mentors!!!
Like I wrote on Chioma’s blog, I truly can afford my mentors. This year, I intend to invest more into being mentored. And while I have my primary mentors in men like Rev, PK, Joyce Meyer and co, there are many others who are success stories in their fields and from whom I can learn to be a better person, both in my walk as a Christian and just a good Citizen of Nigeria and the world. I mean there are many brilliant young persons out there in Nigeria making a big difference. The secret of great men are in their stories and I wanna learn from their stories. Otto Orondaam of Slum2School for example is a major inspiration. Nmachi Jidenma too. TY Bello too. Amazing woman. Okey Ofili. Imperfectly Perfect featured a set of twins on her blog. They abound. Some popular, some not. These people definitely don’t have perfect lives but you can definitely pick the good in their stories. I think the more we read about people better than us, the more we are motivated to do more. Now, some of these people may be older, younger or same age as me but where there is Grace, it aint about age. Sometimes we miss out on important life lessons just because we are thinking ‘…how old is she sef…? Is it not this girl who was very dirty in secondary school? Or is it not so and so who used to borrow money from me then?’ Hmm!!! I will be humble enough to catch what I can from people’s stories. Nigerian Youth are really making a difference ooo. No need feeling like a SuperStar in my small world. I wanna be further inspired to greatness from this set of persons especially the Youth among them. I will not be able to meet them all but thank God for social media especially Twitter and blogs, thank God for books. Oh, this 2014, no time ooo. Na me and my mentors ooo…

2. Relationship with my Peers/Friends
Ah!!! This one na serious matter ooo. If one is not careful, one would just have many friends with no real impact or meaning to the friendship. So this year, deliberately, I would be sure that my relationship with my friends and my besties would be more impactful. We have to share our goals and dreams with each other and be the needed push we would need to achieve them. And if I realize that you are not doing enough to move you from your current level to a higher one, I can harass you to, and vice-versa. If I am aware of your dreams, then when I run into any information or person that can help you, I can hook you up. I want us to be able to share with each other if for example, you feel a dimmer in your prayer or Word life and then we work on rekindling the fire. I want to be able to ask you what, as a believer, you are believing for per time and do what I can to help. Friendships have to come with depth and meaning ooo even with the attendant familiarity that most close friendships have. I am trusting God for this much this year and of course going forward.

3. Relationship with my mentees. I have come to understand that, like it or not, at some point, you become mentors to others and you have to, not just live for yourself, but live to reproduce some good and God in others. So if there are people looking up to me, then there must be something worthy of emulation in me. But because it is just me, only me, I know I can’t reach out effectively to as many young women that want me to mentor them. I get a lot of such mails and as much as I try, I don’t do my follow up well and I’m sure some people get upset 😦 Tz just me and I can only do so much. Thing is, everybody God brings our way is a precious soul and we should nurture them to some level of maturity at least. So thank God for the healthy relationships I am building from my point 2 (my Peers), I would be happy to say something like for example ‘…hey Valerie, there is this girl who is having issues with her academics and tz affecting her faith, I need you to mentor her for me…’ Or ‘…Booski, this young woman has major relationship issues and she needs a clean break in her life, biko help me guide her through this…’ You know, stuff like that. Just like Jethro counselled his son in law Moses Exodus 18 esp from verse 12. I am totally wowed especially by the teens that mail me and share stuff with me. Sometimes, I do cartwheels literally. That from such a young age, there are girls who wanna do right by God. Incredible!!! I do know that peer pressure is real and it would go a mighty long way to know that someone is checking with you, cheering you on as you live this Christ life on a FAB lane… I would also like to kick off a group online, most likely whatsapp where we can also share stuff with each other occasionally in addition to the one-on-one’s.
That’s all for relationships… Moving forward…
4. Being that my NYSC khaki is giving way to a suit by mid February, I am super excited about my career which will kick off by mid-March. I need the one month to lounge and finally relocate and get settled in Abuja. And then I am trusting God for a 6week training in an African country. The focus of my career is continental, beyond Nigeria and then my Sugar daddy and I are settled about my work conditions and pay. Oh, I am so excited. The work world’s waiting, and I am so discovering it… #ExcitedMuch

5. My hubby and I are in faith that he would be speedily transferred to Abuja, our land of Milk and Money, to join me before the end of the first quarter of 2014 so we don’t run two homes. I don’t know how my Sugar daddy wants to get this done but I trust it would be a seamless transition for us…

6. I do know I have a ministry especially to women. Young women. I spent 2013 getting the mandate, and preparing with retreats both personal and group. I can’t even say I have the big picture yet but I would love to launch out this year with monthly meetings. Yes I would start in online space and it would involve my blog readers too but we would have live meetings once a month. My Rev has prayed with me and keeps counselling me and I am so sure God will do the work He wants to do just as I yield myself a vessel.

I want to inspire more women or even one more woman into greatness. To live right and stand on the Word till results come. Strong women. Balanced women. The Proverbs 31 kinda woman. I know that as a group, we can definitely do more. Now, this is not about titles and all what not, it is about E’ yielding herself to His use and helping one more woman to live a FAB life indeed!!! My God is able jare. I’m done being scared. Like my mama Joyce Meyer would say, feel the fear and do it anyway.

#JustLikeMeyer
This year, I’m launching out in His might. He called, abi? He is faithful enough to do!!! #Dazall#

7. Attend Joyce Meyer’s conference. Joyce is my momsy in the faith. Totally amazing woman. I have learnt so much from her podcasts and books. I feel like she is my mommy indeed. The only thing missing from this is that I am yet to see her live and where better than the ‘Love Life Women’s conference 2014’

in St. Louis Missouri, USA from Thursday Sept 25 to Sat 27th 2014. See I have that date marked. And I am even trusting God for a photo op with JM herself. Ah!!! I hope I don’t pass out when I finally see her. Loooool. Oh and I am definitely making this US trip with my hubby. Whoop!!!

8. Ok this is the point Lizzie, Sapphire, Booski and Valerie stop reading. Thank you. I am really trusting God for a healthier lifestyle this year… Eating right, less chocolates and sweets and exercising regularly. I want to get used to it so that when my kids start coming, a healthy lifestyle would already have been formed in my family. Plus, all these hot mamas all over the place don’t have two heads abeg!!! #TeamHotBod#

9. Ah, please get in here Water Walker. You inspired this!!! This year, I wanna speak more positively. Everytime I am around Water Walker, I am always blessed as to how she speaks. Even when the situation is bad, she never confesses it… It is not uncommon for her to say ‘…My daughter’s health is PERFECT that’s why I couldn’t come to church…’, ‘…Festac roads are so BLESSED…’ (This one she said of roads that can destroy cars ooo). I mean, WW speaks positive a lot. I so wanna be a lot like that this year and going forward. Say positive and mean it ooo. PK once said something that stuck… I don’t recall the exact terms he used (any DCC person wanna remind me please) but there are two ways to talk about any situation… Explanatory and the Faith way. So if say I have a bloated tummy for example, I say ‘ Though the tummy looks bloated now (explanatory), my health is perfect, my tummy is blessed (Faith)’ So don’t stop at the first one, always speak in faith too. Not just into my life but also to the lives of those around me. I think sometimes as Christians, we wanna be careful to not sound ‘holier than thou’ in the midst of the world meanwhile the world is very brazen when they talk and act. This year, I would speak more like my Sugar daddy expects me to. If I need to pray out (under my breath, yes but loud enough for you to hear) in tongues before I answer you when you come to me for a situation, I will. A lot of times, I am talking to someone and I feel strange tongues well up within me to speak and I hold back because I don’t want it to seem like I am showing off. Not anymore. If I need to counter something you have said with wisdom and the Word, I will do same happily but politely and firmly irrespective of who you are. I wouldn’t just shut up especially when I know I can speak words that can set things right. If I need to explain to you the reason I am turning down a food offer is cos I am fasting, I will. People need to see us Christians live more this life of Christ. Now this is not to say I will be going around with phylacteries and a giant halo with a huge sign of ‘Unbelievers, stay off!!!’ No Sir. I just know that I would be ‘prouder’ about my Jesus and all things Christian. Sad to say, I have held back some in times past just because…………. Sigh. This year 2014, tz all for my Sugar Dadaboooooo. With wisdom of course.

10. Ah!!! Marriages and Births. If I miss your name, feel free to add it in the comments so we pray along but I am trusting God for marriages for my friends Valerie, Tani, Tope, Cheech, ChuChu, Tunde, Ogochukwu, my Sister,Sis-in-laws and brothers, JMAD, SomSom, Berny and so on. And then births- my Booski, Sapphire, Tope and my siblings (yup the same ones getting married this year). Amen.

11. I am trusting my Sugar daddy to be Pregnant by October 2014. Infact, I would love to gift him an ‘I am pregnant’ news for his birthday and gift myself a set of twins/triplets by June 2015. Yup tz no coincidence that our birthdays are exactly nine months apart.

12. A prayer request journal. I realize that a lot of times, people ask me to pray with them for one thing or the other. You know all those ‘I will pray with you or I am with you in prayers…’
Sometimes, it piles and I forget too. #OnlyHumanE’#. So this year, I’ll love to take it more seriously… Have a journal with which I can keep records of not just my prayer points but more that of others. And of course, the testimonies as we start testifying, especially testimonies that have a time span. Standing in the gap for my friends is one mandate from God for me this year… Ah, we must testify ooo. The devil don enter!!!

13. One question hubby kept asking me this season was ‘How can we reach out to people this Christmas?’ I am trusting God that together as a family, we reach out to people in need every month. It would amaze you to know that for some, as little as even 5k can go a really looooooooooooooonnnnnngggg way. Thank God the bible says ‘…He who gives to the Poor lends to His Maker and God will repay him…’ Proverbs 19:17.
Btw, we Christians should be the ones to lead a LOVE REVOLUTION!!! And how can we say we love if we cannot give…

14. Finally, something a bit more fun and less ‘spiritual’ lol.
In the area of fashion, I intend to wear more brights… Orange, royal blues, bright purples, Greens, etc. No to the nudes and beiges anymore. In addition to my white glasses, I intend to rock an Orange one too (Hint hint Belated Christmas present Sapphire). I’m taking off my dreads by this weekend after over 25weeks and will be rocking my natural TWA again (that’s Teeny Weeny Afro) this year and I’m so ready for all the many things I would do with my hair…

Dyes/hair colors, twist outs, baby ‘locks, etc. I will also do more bold ethnic earrings and bangles. Not been a necklace girl and I don’t see that changing. But, this year na new look ooo… Trust me to regal y’all with pictures na…

So that’s it… I just shared 14 of my plans for this ‘FORWARD 2014…Still testifying year’ with y’all…
Do some of them scare me? You best believe that!!! (Funny thing is my hubby still thinks I am not dreaming big enough loooool). I see the devil sneering… ‘Let’s see how she will achieve this…’ But I have a BIG GOD!!! Nsogbu adiro…
Incase you didn’t notice, we dream NO SMALL DREAMS here. If your dreams are not yet scaring you, baby you may need to dream again ooo. I’m not saying you should start building castles in the air, all I am saying is dream like someone who has a Sugar daddy. If you need to watch some Nollywood flicks to know how girls with earthly sugar daddies and Aristos dream, please do. Give your angels assignment this year… You also need to share your dreams with the right set of people. It keeps you accountable. It will be easy to give up when all you have done is dream by yourself in yourself and not involved anyone. But if you have told me, I wanna do this or that, then I can harass you when time is going and you are yet to do. Then be very set to play your own part to help make your dreams come true. No lazy dreamers here. You can also bank on the prayers of the FAB family, E’ inclusive, yeah people?
Great!!!
If you still wanna re-write your article (for those who have sent already), feel free to. And if you haven’t sent, please do already. Space still dey!!!
Remember, we will be back here testifying by the year end and/or as we have the testimonies. Burying the devil, one testimony after another.
Tomorrow I have another big dreamer. Oh how I love this girl. The day she mailed me her entry, I had goosebumps, burst into tongues and tears simultaneously!!! No spoilers dear. Tomorrow…
Happy new year again dawleens…
Love, Peace and Testimonies…
E’…
Going Forward… Still Testifying!!!

Thank.Full.E’… Part2

**PLEASE NOTE: Pictures will be attached to this Post before the end of friday. Right now, I am blogging from my bb and I’m too tired and sleepy to do the stress now***

So let’s jump right into Part 2…
Btw, incase you didn’t notice the rhyme up there, sigh!!!
Thankfully… Thank.full.E’…
*rolling my eyes at you too*
I love how I can work my name into most titles… Cool!!!
Ok…
Now where do I start from with this woman… Who else will tell me that she has such sinister plans for me (lemme not share the plans here. I almost died laughing when she told me today…). Who will call me a ‘…poor corper and so U deserve to be spoilt a little by your rich friend, Me…’ Looooool. Who will throw a gift at me and then yab me in the process and when I attempt to kiss her to say thank you she will call me ‘rotten’. Who will fight to save our friendship even with all my very baseless shakara (hindsight vision is perfect lol). Who else will have me dedicate exclusive posts to her for two consecutive birthdays? Basically baby, you have crossed the line with me and I do know we are stuck for life as friends… You are clearly that annoying but super sweet friend everyone should have. Alika. You know yourself but lemme sha write your name. Chinma the Cheech Asogwo. Terrorist of a friend.
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You missed my wedding cos you were cruising Mauritius and Dubai, okwaya? Alika squared… Yet you knew where to get ‘crotchless panties’ for me as a bridal shower gift. Spoilt rotten girl. I will be at your wedding (by God’s special grace) and I will take the toast, whether you let me or not and I will so embarass you, you won’t believe it… Thank you baby… 2013 was REAL… Love you mega and yup you know my Sugar daddy is yours too, yeah? Position yourself for the kinda things that only Him can do in 2014. Smooches, kisses (with tongue:p) and hugs dawleen…

The one Angel confirmento in my life!!! Babe you have over-wowed me with love. We have indeed come a really long way. 8years yeah? I am not just thanking you for 2013. I am thanking you for these 8years. For being a constant K through good and especially bad times. For NEVER stopping for a moment to sow into and cultivate this friendship. For interrupting what you can to hear me out whenever I come with my wahala. I know you think I deserve it. Forget story Nne, I don’t. Truly. You just have an incredible heart. What we have is covenant. That’s it. Unshakeable. And yup, I’ll invest more in 2014. Afterall, you will be getting married then so I will have an opportunity to do stuff that will wow you too. I mean, lemme share a little story here to EMBARASS this Angel. A day to my wedding, I was at the salon getting my nails done. She came in a coupla days earlier to help out and that friday, she was out too and I had to pay my MUA some money asap. Couldn’t do it so I asked her if she had a certain amount to pay for me and I’ll settle her asap. She did. Ok time to pay back. I called babe, oya please account number and bank. See fight… She rolled over and played dead… ‘Account number for what? Did I give you any money? I don’t use a bank… I frankly don’t understand what you are talking about…When did I give you any money? Noooo, it wasn’t me… Maybe it was Eniola…’ My people, I was stunned. Cos I knew it was a lot of money and we are both Corpers, I tried to form vex and insist she sends me the number and babe cuts the phone on me… Hian!!! How someone will just sit down and say she MUST be a blessing to another girl is beyond me. No baby, I don’t deserve it. You really are an Angel Doctor Valerie Edetanlen…
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Only God can reward you. I won’t even decieve myself and say I will pay back… Thank you so much darling. For being my most fiercely loyal friend. Love you forever and a weekend…
And yup I had to use this picture with man cos… #ProphecyBaby…

Tamariii, thank you for all your comments and love. God bless you dawleen. Hope you are planning to join my 30voices ooo. It would be such an honor to have you here. Deal?

Tomiwa Ayorinde, I am specially praying for you to marry well too. You are too much of a sweet God girl to miss it. If you need any help, holler at me and let’s watch our Sugar daddy sort us out k… Love you girl. You are really a sweetheart.

D-lu/Olu blaiz… I am hoping it is the same person. And I think this is a guy too. I feel like you are my blog brother. Some posts are just not complete without your comment and then a mail. Ah, you really touched a part of me this year and God reward you my darling.
Thank you sooooooooo much love.

Ah!!! If there is one thing I have come to love about this girl, it has to be the fact that despite the fact that we are close friends, we have mutual respect for each other. Familiarity hasn’t spoilt nothing and that’s rare. Nne, I respect you gan. The grace you carry, the wisdom you have, I feel so privileged that I can call you my friend… Like I said, if I could handpick a sister, it gotta be you darling.
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Beautiful without and even more within. GraceFULL. And very on fire for God. My prayer warrior extra-ordinaire. I have learnt to always make Ruth be the one to lead prayers where we are together. Babe can pray the devil to the cross walahi. When I had a ladies’ retreat last year, babe led us for almost three hours of prayer and she was still smokin’… Gimme a praying woman anyday ooo. Biodun really found a good thing. Can’t wait can’t wait… *winks* For being such a sweetheart nne, reading my posts, encourage me and just living a Christ fab life, thank you!!! Love you mega dupa supa much darling Ruth Warrens.

Tunde my darling. One of the BEST men I know… You really did sow a lot of your time (and money too abi? Lol) into my life this year, sometimes at short notice. This is the year abi? 2014. Blessed woman walahi… It better be in Lagos ooo!!! Looool. Thank you darling. I totally appreciate and love you.
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Uche, Bunmi, Yomi and Kemi. Four triumphant ladies I love so much. Uche love, special thanks to you and hubby. For all your love… Kemi I love your energy and zest. Keep it up love. Thanks for your friendship, blog love and all the ‘Showers promises’. Yomi darling, I dunno what you see sha but thank you for just being this sweet sister and Bunmi, another prayer mama, thanks for all the prayers and those out of the blues calls to check with me. God bless you girls

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Dinma and Cheks… Had to put you both together for obvious reasons. Thank you for the spectacular rendition of the duet ‘Miracle’ at my wedding. Cheks, last minute and you cancelled something to be there for me. Thanks darling. Dee, thank you for letting me be all I am to you. Thank you for those long calls to check up on me (btw, you know Prof Udegbe told me you told her… Lol). And the last minute bridesmaid decision, thanks baby. Got your back physically and in prayers. Devil no reash at all… I love you darling.

Chuchu of life and destiny!!! My brother indeed. My brother in whom I am well pleased!!! Darling Chuchu!!! I don’t even know where I would start. Was it the endless phonecalls, the time and money invested, the visits, the pizza and ice cream lol, the hugs, the shoulder and listening ears (sometimes even when all I was doing was crying and making absolutely zero sense lol), the prayers, the counsel, haba!!! Brother of life!!! You have sown too much into our life that’s why we can’t let you be and we won’t let you be until… (You know na…)
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Oh btw, Chuchu surprised us with a spectacular wedding gift. Choi!!! My darling, you must marry well. Nobody sows like that and doesn’t provoke a harvest. Pressed down, shaken together and running over… I am beyond words grateful dear. God bless you…

Ike Amadi… You are just a REAL man. I covet the fire you have for God and His kingdom and God will help me in 2014. Please pray for me nwanne m… The fantastic job at #TheLAFamily? Gosh!!! You are such a blessing. Thanks for having my back. Thanks for making me feel special, like a super star when we all know your are the real star. Thanks for those calls even when you were in Germany. Thanks for being a cheerleader indeed. More than anything, thank you for inspiring true leadership in me…You are an effortless true leader. I truly deeply love and cherish you nwanne m… Please don’t stop… You inspire plenty of us. I hope we get to see this new year…

Ayomikun my soul sister… Another terrorist. My constant K. It doesn’t matter the ‘drought’ as per time that has passed, we catch up real fast. The one girl that knows me inside out and will never indulge me (terrorist much). Who again will I suffer to gist something that is paining me only for her to laugh endlessly at me. Which friend understands the security of her place in my heart enough to say ‘…they don’t know you. They should come let me tell them who MY FRIEND is…’ You are you sha, nobody else can be this Soul Soeur to me…I am super glad the fact that you relocated is not doing any damage at all.
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I really do miss hugging you darling but I’m just glad we are friends. You know I love you baby…

Chinwe Ikele… Thank you soooo much for being a faithful FAB’er. I’m sure you didn’t think I would forget you. Sending all your loving back to you baby… Muah.

Anna est belle. First lemme spank you!!! Get to blogging jor. You can’t call me an inspiration and be slacking ooo. After I started loving your style of writing, you go AWOL. Lemme not catch you ooo. Loool. You see babe, you have a catchy fun yet sensible way of writing, don’t rob us of it ok… Well you made my thank you list cos you are also a true FAB’er. Thanks babe.

Dowen College, Lekki. The school that is my proud PPA. You know what, I pass out in february and then I will do a proper thank you for DCL. I have enjoyed too much favor from the school… The Chairman Board of Governors (the nnukwu mmanwu himself) , the Principal (who has practically adopted me as her daughter), the VeePee, DFA, everyone and even my fellow Corpers ( a Batch C corps member walked in and asked me if I was Eziaha the Blogger. Apparently, when he saw he was posted to Dowen, he googled it up and my blog came up and all the glowing things I say about my school. Lol. Imagine if na rubbish I dey talk…) !!! Can I even talk about the investment they put into my wedding? Choi!!! And all this for a Corper who is not even looking to be retained… Na wa ooo… For now, let me say thank you and God bless. More gist when I am passing out…
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I really miss them ooo and especially my front desk office. Was given the whole of December off as a new bride (Corpers usually don’t go on break there as the admin arm of the school never shuts down #TushSchoolTinz) and I truly miss school sha, but I can wait to be back abeg… 🙂

Ah my dearest Jibola. The only reason why I am still in ‘that group’ looool. You are such a great guy sha, even though you naughty gan… Thanks for being there for these past years and also in 2013. I see you in many more years darling. Love love love.

Afoma and Jae. For providing amazing blog content that I actually enjoy on their blog. Lovely lovely girls with lovely blogs and with whom I share a love for Subway surfers. Allow me to brag some on my Subway Exploits because I am sure I pass una……
I unlocked Fresh
I hit well over a million points (1.4+)
My trophies are all complete
I have upgraded my magnet to the last. And am almost done with the jetpack and coin multiplier upgrade. I don’t care to upgrade the super sneakers. Lol
I feel like a real subway guru
The baddest surfer ever liveth…
:p :p :p
Lmao…
Ok this is for Subway Surfer fans. I love that game and now I made a lover of Aku m… Hehehe

This is a good place to end, no?
I need to play some Subway surfer before I crash. Looool. Aku m has slept. I feel for him. He has work tomorrow while I get to sleep in… Btw, hope y’all been having an amazing holiday? I am a home-body/buddy so I have enjoyed a quiet one but 26th, Aku m wanted us to at least step out so I rode my bicycle around the RA while he drove cos he can’t ride a bicycle.
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#thatsmystoryandimstickingtoit#
And yes Lizzie, Valerie, Eniola and Dumebi, this is how I intend to lose the weight and stay HOT :p
Then we visited some couple friends. Then went shopping. I felt a tad guilty when we got the bill especially when the kids we were with were like ‘wow, the bill is loooooooooooonnnnggggggggg’ but hey, tz Christmas jare… I don’t get to splurge everyday.
The ice cream I had eh, no be here ooo. Dear Jesus, please don’t let me be FAT!!! 😦 o:) lmao…
Love love love y’all
E’

PS:
Ok still on the 30FabVoices, some of us are still missing it.
I would really want a futuristic, dreamy, faith-filled article rather than a 2013 review. If 2013 should feature, let it be just to lay a foundation… Things we wanna trust God to help us do this year… Both the serious and the fun stuff…
Eg,
I really wanna start a monthly meeting for ladies where we can just have healthy spiritual fun. Started it in 2013 then life happened and it paused but I’ll like to be very regular this year…
Or…
I gained admission 2013 and this year 2014, I would really love a GPA of 4.0/5 so I am trusting God to help me modify my study habit, create a great study group, etc.
Or like one of us wrote…
I would like to do something crazy like have sex on a beach with my hubby this year (y’all can guess who wrote this na…)
You know… Stuff like that….
Breezy yeah?
Thanks to all who have submitted. Feel free to make necessary adjustments.
Let’s move the deadline for everyone to next weekend. That’s about the 4th of January. That should work yeah…?
Please send to ajaeroeziaha@gmail.com
Remember, not more than 1000 words.
Lezzdodis FAB’ers… 🙂 Let’s bury the devil… We go live January 1. Can’t wait!!! Woooooooooooooot!!!

Blog’imony… Chisom’s victory

***POST UPDATE: The Testifier’s name is actually Chisom NOT Amaka. The mix up came as a result of the email of the testimony she sent me. The name there was AMAKA so I thought that was her first name, She later clarified that she mailed me from her momma’s email addy that night so… I have decided to change the Blog title but everywhere you see Amaka in the body of this Post, feel free to insert Chisom in your mind. Or best still let us just rename her CHISOMAMAKA LOL. Please enjoy…***

So I already mentioned in this post here that I was going to start sharing some testimonies right here on my Blog. Enjoy this one from my friend and blog reader Amaka.

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I knew I totally had to share this testimony to encourage (someone or many someones as the case may be) to STAND IN FAITH till you get a VICTORY ON THE WORD.

I met Amaka in Abuja earlier this year and I knew when she had to resign and move back to Lagos. I saw Amaka stand in faith and I am so happy at a VICTORY ON THE WORD…

For me, it is the ‘testing of her faith’ in this sort of thing that builds our faith for even bigger things so AMAKA, I CELEBRATE YOU jare…

Ok I have edited what she sent to me without of course losing the essence, and interjected relevant scriptures but the body of the message is all hers. It is a long read but well worth it…

Here we go… In Amaka’s words…

THE BEGINNING…   

I finished from Unilag in 2009 with excellent grades, convocation in Jan 2012 and NYSC June 2010 to July 2011 and I had high expectations of getting a job immediately. But God has His ways sha.
After NYSC I started applying to different places and I was called for aptitude tests and interviews, and I kept failing sometimes at the final stage of recruitment, because I trusted more in my own ‘smartness’ and less in the help of God.

Psalms 20:7 Some trust in horses and others in chariots…

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I repented and started praying and holding on to God’s word but things seemed to get worse. My friends kept getting jobs and I was so ashamed when they asked me

‘Oh Amaka where do u work?’

Aaaarrrggghhhhh…

The only thing that kept me going was God’s word and I made sure I never missed church service because I was certain that a word would come for me.
The pressure from home wasn’t funny at all as my family started suggesting meeting so, so and so for prayers or so, so and so with connections. I had been plenty disappointed in the past so I didn’t succumb.

I had crying days sha… Kai. And all night tears too. But in the midst of all that, I still trusted that God had a plan and that thought brought me increasing peace despite…

‘…You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you… Isaiah 26:3

In the meantime, I kept my self busy doing my professional exams and improving on my cooking skills, while yet attending interviews still from Aug 2011 to Feb 2012.

THE TESTIMONY? OR NOT?

By March 2012, I got a mail from STANBIC IBTC PENSION MANAGERS for an aptitude test. Long story short, I got the job.

Yay!!!

Finally. But the issue was that it was in Abuja and I didn’t wanna relocate but I did. In Abuja, I joined a very good church that helped me grow and stay focused in the faith… My love for the Word grew daily.

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‘Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is…’ Heb 10:25a

I started work but after a little while I realized that I wasn’t fulfilled with the job role and gradually found myself dreading going to work. Plus my boss didn’t even seem to see anything good with what I did even though I was working hard and giving my best. Six months went by and I wasn’t confirmed.  I was writing my final ACCA exams then and I wasn’t even given time off to study.

With all the issues I had at work, I made sure I never missed midweek service and I just kept rolling it over to God. 9months went by still no confirmation. I was led to talk to someone in HR about it . Holy Ghost move I say…

‘…but the Lord takes His upright into His confidence. His secret is with the righteous…’ Prov 3:32b

I was then told that my confirmation wasn’t approved by my boss and the company had decided to layoff and I was advised to resign voluntarily before then.

WOW!!!

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I felt like my life was falling apart and was confused so I took to prayers and  felt peace in my spirit and so I sent in my resignation, to take effect in Jan 2013.  That period coincided with the January Fasting and Praying program in my church which I heartily participated in and I also kept sowing seeds in faith for a new job.

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I sowed to the extent that I didn’t even have money to travel back to Lagos to my family. My friends and I also organized some charity visits even in my ‘broke state’ to a hospital where we shared the Word and some material stuff with them and also prayed for them.

THE WAIT AGAIN???!!!

It took courage for me to move back to the all-familiar Lagos where almost all my friends had jobs and here I was returning with nothing. It was NOT the coolest thing to admit that I was still looking for  a job… But I kept believing and confessing.

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My favorite confessions at the time, among others were

Prov 4:18 But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, That shines brighter and brighter until the full day.…

Isa 50:7 For the Lord GOD helps Me, Therefore, I am not disgraced; Therefore, I have set My face like flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed.

Isa 48:21 They were not thirsty when he led them through the desert. He divided the rock, and water gushed out for them to drink.

I confessed them daily and believed that they would soon find expressions in my life…

‘…This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have success…’ Joshua 1:8

THE TESTIMONY…
Finally a friend of my submitted my Resume for a job test at STANBIC IBTC bank, which is a subsidiary of where I had resigned. Of course, I was reluctant about it but I kept praying still and trusting that He would perfect all that concerns me. All through the process, I felt PEACE… Before the, I had interviewed with an Oil servicing firm and I was dropped at the last stage

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I bawled my eyes off eh lol.

Anyways, I got a mail for my final interview at STANBIC IBTC and gbam, I got the job with no help or influence of man as my friend who submitted my CV is a Trainee and could not influence shishi.

On getting the job, I had to go to training school for 5weeks prior to starting. I struck a covenant with God that I wanted to be…

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THE BEST GRADUATING STUDENT IN MY SET.

‘…Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it…’ Hab 2:2

I also wrote it down. I kept tying seeds to that prayer point too and I kept praying using Eziaha as my point of contact.

***Err, Editor’s note here (lol): Eziaha was the BEST graduating student too ooo after she had once FAILED out of one department and ported to another in the same school. Read a little here. Btw, why didn’t you sow into my life you this girl…??? Hiss. YOU OWE ME your second salary COLDSTONE ICE CREAM AND PIZZA OR ELSE…***

Anyways, during the training I fell ill and being the Best Student seemed impossible as I couldn’t write much during exams.

***(E’s note; Sweetie, I think you HAD to fall sick. So that our Jehovah can take ALL THE GLORY just as he did with an old aged Abraham and a VERY barren Sarah)***

I kept believing and speaking God’s word that says

‘…For my own sake I would I will do it for how should my name be profaned? And I will not give my glory to another…’ Isaiah 48:11
Our induction ceremony was for days and before then we had heard the results that I was the 2nd best student I was excited about that. The graduation was on Friday September 25, 2013 and to my surprise I was called out as the BEST GRADUATING STUDENT.

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That shocked everybody and I realized that God doesn’t do ordinary things, He does the extraordinary. He is a covenant keeping God.

I also got posted to the best unit of the bank which all my other colleagues wanted but God gave it to his special daughter me lol.

‘…No, I will not break my covenant; I will not take back a single word I said…’ Psalms 89:34

STILL TESTIFYING…
The highlight of the testimony happened on Monday September 30 when my picture and name was in The Punch Newspapers as I received the award for the OVERALL BEST GRADUATING STUDENT for STANBIC IBTC GRADUATE TRAINEE PROGRAM OF SEPTEMBER 2013.

I got calls and pings from people who never remembered me before. My former colleagues and bosses also started calling to congratulate me.

‘…And Sarah Amaka said, God has made me laugh, so that all that hear will laugh with me…’ Gen 21:6
I testify that we serve an amazing God who does only amazing things. He has fulfilled His Word to me which says for your shame I would give you double. I realize that God didn’t let me get the other jobs I wanted because he wanted to show forth his glory through me IN THE SAME PLACE. i end  this testimony with one of my favorite scriptures…

Isaiah 50:7 – For The Lord God will help me, therefore I have set my face like a flint and I know that I will not be ashamed.

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God has indeed blessed me. His Grace shines on me therefore I rejoice.

***Amaka’s end***

Now you see why I had to absolutely share this yeah? I mean, I had goosebumps all over again as I was editing this story. Our God has the final say, He is a JUST Judge and HE IS FAITHFUL…

Amaka, now you are DOUBLY ACCOUNTABLE. You have to constantly give your best and shine as LIGHT there and I am too sure that there would be even more testimonies, AMEN

Feel free to share your testimonies wherever and whenever.

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Don’t keep it. If you wanna share with me too so I run it here either anon or not, please do, I am all ears. It does three things at least…

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1. It glorifies God. Thanking Him for what He has done.

2. It encourages the Faith of others. The testimony of one is the possibility/prophecy of others.

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Sometimes, we are all the Bible that people need to read and believe.

3. It establishes your victory. I mean, the devil can’t steal it not after you have testified before God’s people. You decree a thing and it is ESTABLISHED (Job 22:28)

I will end this with one of my own favorite scriptures.

…Instead of your former shame, dishonor and reproach, you shall have a twofold recompense, DOUBLE HONOR in the same land. Because you got a double dose of trouble and more than your share of contempt, your inheritance in THE SAME LAND would be doubled and your joy would go on forever…” Isaiah 61; 7 (E’s mix version)

Love and Peace…

E’… Powered by God

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In the SAME place http://eziaha.com/2013/06/26/in-the-same-place/

Holier than thou? http://eziaha.com/2013/09/10/3267/

Guard your heart… http://eziaha.com/2013/09/18/e-guard-your-heart/

Fab lane musings…

Ok first, major shout out to my cousin who called me all the way from Abuja to harass me for not blogging again… lol. And I am like dude since I said ‘Brb… Life be happening’ darling, I have blogged three times… he said he was heartbroken from checking and checking and seeing nothing and so he stopped… Loooool. Ok cuz, please start checking again. Thank you. Hehehe.

These are the three posts incase you missed it…

My Super fabulous weekend

Dear diva, you need a REALITY CHECK

Managing your finances, the AMBER MONEY way

He also asked how NYSC was going and he was sure I was having fun cos he knows I have a way of just enjoying anything I do. Hehehehe. Sanguine E’… To the very last drop. Well, work has been good though mega stressful especially recently. My friends and ex-Corper colleagues have passed out today!!! Mega congrats hun. Enjoy a favor filled work life. I miss you girls esp Nwanne whose early morning hugs I had grown used to. Ugh… this life eh. Make the most of it all cos when a phase passes, you will need the memories. So make good ones. Thanks Nwanne hun for FABULOUS memories….

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Besides having a DROP DEAD gorgeous exterior (she is a model too), you have a beautiful super sweet heart. I love that our paths crossed here in Dowen College.

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Love you mega and feel free to always swing by and give a sister a hug anytime. Oh Nwanne also made a first class in Computer science so she is the complete package… Beauty, Brains and God. #Score. Sorry guys, she is OF COURSE taken.

Congrats y’all again. God’s very best

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Speaking of hugs, yesterday I put up on BBM that I needed a real girlfriend hug.

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Mega shout out to y’all who sent me like a billion. Awww, am I really this sweet. Awwwwwwwwwzzzzzzzzzz. Loool. My brother Chuchu even offered to swing by and drop a hug a week. I told him not to tempt me cos I just may take him seriously and e go turn to fight if he reneges. Thanks guys. You guys stay rocking yo!!! For now, let my Sugar daddy be hugging me… My hug-o-meter is absolutely EMPTY!!! Ugh…

My girl Daiquri be hailing me in her latest blog post. Looool. Recall that post I did on Just in case I stop blogging? She said she missed reading it so she ‘ran into’ it today and has thrown a party. She even munched and framed it. I know right. Loool. I have another friend, or better still Lover, Crush etc (kai that girl is mega to me). I once wrote something about her on my blog and she had it framed too on her iPad. So when we had a falling out, she just went back to read it and she is like No, what me and this girl share is real jor and now all is well, lol. Shout out to all those who frame my words ooo. I hope I am doing some major ‘Pay it forwardssssss’ in advance in case I err in the future, juts remember that at some point, I said so many sweet things about you. Hehehehe. I can’t seem to find a link to this Daiquri’s post. Maybe she took it down to amend but babe blogs at www.ebonycynic.wordpress.com Her blog rocks!!!

To end these randomisity- THREE ARTISTS I AM mega feeling atm have to be Chris Delvan, Joe Praiz and Chris Morgan. First time I heard their songs, walahi I didn’t know they were Nigerians. Please nobody can tell me we don’t have gospel artistes here ooo. Just look closely. I have been downloading any song that has their ame on it like cray. I have this I AM FREE song by Chris Morgan. What I love most about it is the language he speaks at the end. That was even what made me know he was Nigerian. I dunno what he is saying but it sure sounds good. So when I get into the I am Free Mode, I let it play on repeat. I just know it sounds like something TuFace says too in his songs. Listen to Baby Jowo by Victor Olaiya and 2face. I did a post on it here. There is this funny line Tu has (also in Nfana Ibaga) and what Morgan says sounds like the same language. So today I contemplated going on Facebook and Twitter to ask if they were from the same place. In the meantime tho, I got a break from the students and was chatting with my High School Sweetheart Ebere and sending her songs while playing and downloading more and listening too using my headphones. At some point, I remove the headphones while I AM FREE playeth. Smart Holy Ghost move I tell you. The security detail attached to my office (who btw takes all the office pictures I have lol ) suddenly starts humming it. Huh!!! I am like WHAT!!! You know it? She says Yes, he is from MY PLACE!!! I ask where and she goes IDOMA!!! Dang!!! I was spot on right cos Tu is Idoma too. Instantly I ask her to come and gimme the lyrics and meaning. I know I spelt rubbish so lemme share the rubbish with you and the meaning of course. Walahi the language HARD!!! Gosh

Nnu walu ye/we/do geno owecho lekun iyagome… (I don’t have any problems, God has given me wife, job, this that… He keeps inter-changing)

Nnu welu oooooo (Repeat forever)

Abu nleche ta to nuwa, ga modano cho ya gamoooo

(Come and see what God has done for me…)

Oye no oooooo

Again, I know I spelt rubbish but it werks for me. Plus if you have the real spelling, holla at ur girl. And please don’t laugh. I WRITE PERFECT IGBO.

I have a class to invigilate in like 15mins. Lemme wrap this up and run.

By the way, I dressed totally DOWN to work today.

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So far no one has complained. I could make this a habit ooo.

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then I came so late today lol. I practically was running the moment my boss dropped me cos I had a class to invigilate. Phew… Made it just in time before our ‘CHIEF WHIP’ got to the class. Shout out to Aduwa our new male Corper for holding forte for me in the meantime

Olaedo hun, if you read my blog before we talk, I need to see you. First for the hug, two for the kisses, three for the quality time. Ha ahn… yeah, warreva

Muah Dawleens

E’… powered by God

PS; My girl is writing ooo. Fiction series. You wanna click and enjoy. My girl being Sapphire… Wow… I will be back with the link. Can’t find too and can’t reach her.

My SUPER FABULOUS weekend… and sturvz

*kiss kiss* luscious ones ooo… Loool

I KNOW I know…

It is October 4 already. eziaha sha *covering my eyes*

I promise, next week I would so be in your face you would just totally forgive me… I am not really back, i just had to put up this timed post…

How are you Dawleens? I have missed you as much as you have missed me… And Inthe… I see you ooo. I see your naughty E’ Love… Btw, you guys need to check out Inthe’s latest post here. It is a REALLY real FAB ‘dear Inthe…’ moment… ‘What does LOVE look like?” is the title… Shout out mami… You know I got love for you, but I love your blog more than you 😛

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Anyhoos, this Post is to talk about how lovely my weekend is gonna be and invite you all to join me in this Roller coaster weekend…

So this Saturday, the Business unit of my church has this FABtastic Business conference tagged EXCELLERATE.

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BUSINESS SEMINAR OF THE YEAR

The line of up speakers is just incredible.

Funke Obruthe of Zappire events, (she does all the big weddings in town sha… She needs to share her secrets abeg…lol)  David Wej, the super fabulous Clothier (He used to be a colleague of my sister at Glo before he left and my sis never stops talking about how his life has just changed because he followed his dreams of cloth selling), Jason Njoku of Iroko TV (Once a friend of mine was in church and was star struck because JASON was sitting beside her. She was so gushing wondering if she should open her mouth and say something. Don’t worry babe, I will leave your name out, but next time, say Hi. Jason is cool people. He will say Hi back and maybe give you a Card looool) and Michael Afolaranmi of 12 baskets, a top notch caterer who does like the best small chops in town… I hear his peppered snail is outta this world… Courtesy Pastor M .

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And many more people…

How much is it?

Now this is the SWEET part… *smacks lips like the monster in Temple run*

FREE… Absolutely FREE. GRATIS.

In the corporate world, we all know how much this kinda seminar with all them big wigs would cost. But at David’s Christian Centre, WE GOT YOU COVERED yo!!!

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You don’t wanna miss it.

Date; Saturday Oct 5, 2013

Venue; The Victory dome, David’s Christian centre, Fatgbems bus stop (off Oshodi Apapa express way) Amuwo Odofin, Lagos.

Time; 8.30am.

Tickets; FREE (Whoop)

Johnson gave us more gist on his cool blog here http://johnsonmadichie.wordpress.com/2013/10/04/excellerate-2013-join-davd-wej-funke-bucknor-obruthe-jason-njoku-michael-afolaranmi-and-kingsley-okonkwo-for-the-business-conference-of-the-year/ He has profiled the speakers in more detail… Shout out BOSS…

As if that aint enough o, that Sunday evening is our once-a-month relationship service LOVE, DATING and MARRIAGE.

This month’s theme is (PK I really dunno where these titles come from oooo) DATING MY CHRISTIAN BOYFRIEND

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I wish I could say I have an idea what slant PK will take this from but I don’t ooo. I just know one thing is sure… Whatever stuff our darling PK shares with us would be from the WORD… And I would be learning a lot.

You really should come. There is free transport from all over Lagos.

Call 08077714411 for details.

Date is Sunday Oct6, 2013 at 4.30 pm. Come early. For LDM, seat dey quick full ooo. Venus is same as above…

And finally, in the spirit of independence

You know I see so much green in Nigeria. This is inspiring program e-box inspiring and for independence day, they have put together some GREEN stories in Nigeria. This would inspire you, I promise. Watch, be inspired and thank me later…

Cheers to a fab weekend dolls.

My School DOWEN COLLEGE LEKKI has her 16th birthday today and there is a flurry of activities starting this afternoon,

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culminating in a dinner tonight which i Doubt i will stay for… .

I had to just rush and do this post. I am so swamped with work and the other Corpers have passed out. Gosh i miss them much.

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Anyways, i love my job so……

Happy sweet 16 to my FABULOUS school. Many more giant sparkly years, amen…

Ugh, some one just brought me more work… Ugh. I miss you girls oooo

If there are typos, I will sort later… Forgive. Hehehehe

Peace ++

E’

Back to WORK…

Ok for those of you who don’t know, I am currently serving. In one of those top notch elite schools in Lekki.

Summer break let today and so work resumed for me. Actually work resumed last week for the teachers but we Corpers didn’t show till this week.

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I had been kinda ZERO in my feelings about resumption, NOT because I don’t like my job (The heck I do) but I just zeroed everything school because I wanted to have a proper holiday abeg.

I work in different capacities… I am in charge of the Alumni body (almost all of them are abroad) acting as liaison between them and the school. I also work sometimes as a Front desk (the Alumni desk is in the reception so…) and then I cover for some subjects sometimes (Sociology, Government, English and Literature).

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Overall, the work is fun. Most of the teachers like me and I am seen as the Principal’s baby because I ride with her daily. The Corpers I work with are cool too.

Now our main front desk is on mat. leave and I guess I would have to now be fulltime here (I expect them to get a proper replacement though because front desk needs a full time staff).

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This morning, waking up was the HARDEST part. Ugh… Too sad. I whined and whinged. But hey, I had to drag my butts up, pray and shower as early as 5am. Ugh!!! I decided against going with my ride today as I knew I would be not-too-cheery company and my Princy likes to chat. So I took the BRT because I wanted to sleep all the way…

I slept past my stop but thankfully, where the BRT finally stopped me was also a favorable place. Whoop!!! Got to Phase 1 at a few minutes past 7.

I had pschyed myself to smile and give plenty handshakes, E’ hugs (female) and side hugs (males) today to the staff amidst all the ‘You look good, How was your summer? Etc’. Then I was prepared for the students drama too… with tales of where and where they went to and of course the groaning of those who didn’t travel.

What I wasn’t prepared for was the new students and new parents who had come to see their sweetie settle down (especially the JSS1). Oh my!!! The joy and pride of having your kid in secondary school is so beautiful. The first parent asked me to please direct her baby as to where to go to. I promptly handed her to a prefect and got into the reception. Oh brother!!! The exchange of pleasantries started. My teeth was permanently like this… I stood up severally to hug people. For some, I jumped up to hug them. One IT staff who is such a sweetheart I couldn’t even shake cos he is Muslim. But he was all smiles because his wifey had out to bed last week. He practically was carrying his baby’s picture on his head…

Such joy…

I had to suggest he take a paternity leave. Cos I felt his head was too in the clouds to work. But no dice for him jor…

I settled in to get some paper work done with his company while the assembly was going on… I really don’t like joining them for that and thankfully I don’t have to. But I hear all they say from the reception. Today’s assembly was particularly winding…

Parents keep coming in and out to pay fees and stuff, teachers keep coming to ask or one thing or the other, sometimes bribing me loool (One just said I should consider my lunch for the week taken care of if I help him do stuff…), My director of studies who is Indian and doesn’t tolerate slacking of any sorts already asked me if I rang the bell (the bell is just beside my desk) even before he did all the pleasantries with me. Loooool. Regaling me with his Indian vaycay. His wife too came around for a quick hug…

Phew…

Assembly over… Barrage of children out with all the ‘Good morning ma, Good morning Miss E’, etc’

I need to get work done. Today, DAY ONE, is a tres busy day… I am swamped already…

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For one, see those papers there. They are CVs for last month. And they won’t sort themselves out by themselves…

Then I have to do a headcount of the students to get a rough estimate for the caterer. Kai, I will just target when they are in class so that the hugs and greetings will be less…

Good to be back. I LOVE MY JOB!!!

E’

PS;

This evening my #AttitudeO’Gratitude finale will be up. Watch this space…