Why am I still SINGLE? A message preached by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

I just love this message. I am not sure but I think this was the last LoveDating&Marriage seminar I attended at DCC Lagos. I love it so much that it is the last Singles message left on my phone. It just seemed soooooo practical and useful. So this is dedicated to all my Single FABers. So much to learn from it. Preached by my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo wpid-pastor-k.jpg So why am I still single? He answers this with 5 questions… Enjoy.

  1. Am I available?

Some people are actually NOT available but they think they are. Some actions or way of life make you NOT available in the ‘Singles market’ which is actually over saturated. There are some mindsets you may have which unknown to you may be sending out vibes to men that you are not available eg Do you always walk around with this thought ‘there are no good men/women anymore’ whilst praying for one? Honey, daz not ghanna wok. As a (wo)man thinketh in his heart, SO IS HE!!! Also if you are carrying emotional baggage, you may think you are available but you are not.

photo courtest intl workplace

photo courtest intl workplace

The energy flowing from you ain’t in line with what you praying for. It is like a house which has a ‘Welcome to our home’ doormat but yet a big dog right at the entrance. You know you ain’t welcome. Emotional baggages would keep getting in the way of conversations with even remotely interested opposite sex and aint nobody got time to continually hear about your ex John who dumped you or whatever horrid happened in the past. Please let God heal any hurt from your past. Also are you dating someone you KNOW you cannot marry whilst yet claiming ‘Single’? Eg dating a married man or some ‘bad guy’.

photo courtesy blogherdotcom

photo courtesy blogherdotcom

You may be thinking you are just holding that person in the mentime till the ‘Mr Right’ comes along but hunnay, you are sending signals even you don’t know about and people can pick those signals. You are emotionally involved no matter what you think. Usually when you meet someone, you are NOT as interested as a fully single person is only you don’t know.

Also, if there is this ‘Bro John’ you have been ‘claiming’ although dude has neither said anything nor is he feeling you laidat. That HUGE emotional investment in Bro John has made you less emotionally available to others but you dunno. It will be clear that there is NO VACANCY in your life for other people. Please don’t lose a good guy waiting on Bro John whom you have seen in a vision lol. Keep it moving and ‘empty’ Love. Bro John aint interested. PK tells the story of this girl in this uni who was overheard praying and claiming a certain ‘Bro John’ who everyone knows was already engaged to ‘Sister Mary’. The girl just dey pray dey claim the man calling out his name and surname sef. You see such a lady, though she is single, she ain’t available. Another way to check if you are available is to find out if you have unrealistic standards. The person some ladies/guys wanna marry is A PEOPLE- 4/5 in one person. I wrote a post on that here. Nobody is 100% and hey even if there was someone like that, guess what? That person wont be able to stand you cos you are not 100%. I want a man that is very romantic, rich, successful, Prayer warrior, Bible teacher, good singer like Don or Kirk, humble like Adeboye, have faith like Oyedepo, excellent like Adefarasin, Prayer warrior like Olukoya, funny like PK, HABA SISTER, ONLY YOU!!!??? Humans are work in progress. That spouse doesn’t have to come 100% perfect 2. Are you accessible?

Photo from Flickr

Photo from Flickr

Some people are available and eligible but they are NOT accessible. They cannot be reached. Nobody got access to her.

Photo from flickr

Photo from flickr

Almost like all those sheltered children whose father had this shotgun or a big dog for any man that dared to visit.

You are certainly not welcome on this property... Photo from Flickr

You are certainly not welcome on this property… Photo from Flickr

As a single person, you must be able to be reached. You can’t be praying for a spouse and continually sit in your room under your bed, tz only mosquito that will see you. And God. But God doesn’t wanna marry. Ain’t no eligible person gonna come under your bed and see you. Which is why it is good for instance to belong to a church and a service group. Too much stories of couples who met whilst serving in church.

photo courtesy mix949

photo courtesy mix949

Being a member of the church ain’t enough especially if you are in all those big churches. Chances that you would be seen are low when all you do is come in, worship and after service you just leave. Ah!!! Bae, how is that gonna work? Join a department/small unit/connect group/house fellowship and let people SEE you and interact with you.

photo courtesy crossedroadsabc.com

photo courtesy crossedroadsabc.com

Not that you just rush into your car after every service without interacting with anybody. Don’t always walk sooooo fast. If you are single, reduce your pace hehehe. But frankly, I met one of my readers who said some people complained that she always walks too fast and with a straight face everytime in church and so was unapproachable. So please, catwalk ehn. Especially as a lady because these guys just dey try arrange themselves, gather stamina and muster courage to talk to you but before they reach you, you don disappear. And as a guy too, you gast be wise/. He tells the story of how in Bible school, first day he spotted this girl he thought he would like to get to know. Unfortunately, they didn’t sit so close. The next day he came early and sat close to the area the girl sat, made it a habit and kept finding reasons to communicate with her even if it meant copying notes he already had and asking questions he already had the answers to. ‘Excuse me, did you copy the assignment?’ ‘Did you get what that teacher said here?’ Of course, they started talking from there. My dear, you must be accessible as a single. Position yourself well. Have hobbies and be involved in them. Be sociable. Have friends. Obviously, he is not talking clubbing and stuff. There is healthy clean fun. Take yourself out if you have to, somebody might meet you there ooo. Nobody must take you there ooo. And while you are there, please be looking around small small. Like my Rev would say, watch and pray 3. Be approachable

From a recent shooting with Nemorosa. Thanks for the great shooting!

From a recent shooting with Nemorosa. Thanks for the great shooting!

Some people are available, they are accessible but to approach them is a different, impossible ball game. If you need to practice how to smile in front of a mirror, please do. Some ladies have a natural frowning face. A lot of men are not bold and they fear rejection so imagine they now gather courage to walk up to you and say hi or anything else to initiate conversation and you just size them up and down and are generally not very polite or welcoming.

photo courtesy flickr

photo courtesy flickr

The guy will just change mouth, turn you to traffic warden and ask you for direction or to borrow bible or something else. Anything but what he was on his mind because your countenance is bad. Please greet people and respond warmly. He that hath friend must show himself friendly. Recall Rebekah and how approachable and friendly she was to Abby’s servant and how she landed herself a rich young eligible blessed man. Another thing is when ladies always walk together like a gang and their countenance makes it hard for any guy to get that opportunity to speak to one privately. Don’t look down on people who don’t have it all now and be like ‘he is not my type’ lol. Some of these hunks we see now have not always been hunks ooo. For example see Rev and PK’s Surulere pix hehehe

hahahahahaha lol

hahahahahaha lol. I wish I can see the third man now

See them today

See them today

so some of these guys you boning now may be multi-millionaires in a few years. No use today scatter your tomorrow. Be approachable. That’s all for Part 1. Part 2 will be up same time next week. That’s Tuesday. Until then, share with your friends aii… Especially your Single and ready for marriage ones Trust you enjoyed this. Please share with your single friends, male and female and you can worship with DCC here WORSHIP WITH US DCC Lagos Victory Dome Behind PHCN Office, Fatgbems Bus Stop, Amuwo Odofin, Lagos 1st Service – 7.00am 2nd Service – 8.30am 3rd Service – 10.00am Midweek service Wednesday 6.30pm DCC Victoria Island Elegushi Beach Road, Beside Meadow Hall School, After 3rd Roundabout, Lekki, Lagos. Sunday Service – 11.00am Rush Hour Fellowship (Midweek service especially for those who work on the Island) Tuesdays:                    6pm at Silverbird Cinema, Hall 4. Instead of going to enter traffic, enjoy Rush hour fellowship and be refreshed. Love Dating and Marriage (the program where this message and such relationship messages are preched) holds at different intervals in the year. If you would call our numbers, they can send you reminder texts if you wish. Website: http://davidschristiancentre.org/ Phone number: 08077714411   And then of course we have our annual WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP coming up next week. Please click on link to get all the details. Friday June 19- Sunday June 21.

WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP 2015

WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP 2015

Ladies, you know you can’t afford to miss this one. Hosted of course by Pastor Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo

Gorgeously preggo

Gorgeously preggo

Stay blessed y’all

E’

PS

In the, an amazing relationship blogger and sister has this beautiful post up on tips to surviving wedding season. Check it out here http://www.inthemidstofher.com/2015/05/5-tips-to-surviving-wedding-season.html

Feel free to snoop around her amazing blog too

Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

#PreggE’series… Between the Old cow and the Old wives’

Location: ObGyn’s Office

Always happy to see my ObGyn

Always happy to see my ObGyn

Doctor: Mrs Olojo, today you have to take your tetanus injection

Me: Oh really? Where? Hope not on my bumbum ooo (injection on the bumbum can paaaaaaaain) cos I will soooo cry

Doctor: No. on the left arm. But this one you are scared of injection, you do know labour is painful right?

Me: *SMILES* (inwardly making mental notes of the billion and one questions I wanna ask when I am back to his office)

PAUSE!!!

In my last #PreggE’series post, I raved about how I loved my ObGyn and how he is a faith man and all. I still love him. But you see, a doctor’s gotta do/say what a doctor’s gotta say/do. Now what’s a girl like E’ to do?

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Yup!!!

You should have as much sense as an old cow… EAT THE HAY AND SPIT OUT THE STICKS!!!

Phew, the amount of information both solicited and unsolicited a pregnant woman has to deal with is an incredible lot. If you are in faith for a supernatural pregnancy and birth experience like I am, you would have to be REALLLYYYY WISE. Don’t be ignorant but Sieve the information you get.

I did say I was going to ask him more questions abi? Someone may be wondering, why scare yourself even further by asking this man more questions about the labour that he says is painful?

Good question.

You know why?

I am all for information gathering. I WANT TO KNOW ALL THERE IS TO KNOW ABOUT THIS PROCESS I AM CURRENTLY UNDERGOING!!!

Then like the old cow, I spit out the rubbishes (and dem plenty)

But there is a catch…

Col 3:16

Let the Word of God dwell in you RICHLY…

RICHLY being the operational word…

You see ehn, I have built my faith. I have and am still labouring in the Word and all it says about childbirth. My first reaction to what my ObGyn said was a smile… Cos immediately that statement jammed faith in me the moment I heard it and I remembered the Word

1 Tim 2:15

…Notwithstanding (any doctor’s report) she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety…

Saved there translates ‘kept safe and sound’

That don’t sound like pain doctor…

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But I didn’t tell him. Instead when I returned to the office after the tetanus shot, which was very painful by the way, I started shooting my questions.

Ehen, what is labour REALLY ? When does it start? How long does it last for typically? At what point does natural delivery become a problem for the woman that we need to switch to CS? (Btw, you can’t mention CS even in passing where my mom is. She will be all over you like a blood hound) and so on…

Lemme not bore you with all his answers but the one that interested me was when he said that labour for first time moms last typically for 6hours or so (something in that range)

OK!!!

Now my confession says one hour max and the bible says in  Exodus 1:19 that the Hebrew women were string and vigorous and they had their babies QUICKLY AND SHARPLY UNLIKE the Egyptian women so therefore, I fired more questions… (my ObGyn is a dream… patient and sweet)

I was going somewhere.

Me: Ehen but for some women, I hear labour lasts for under an hour. Is that true?

ObGyn: Yes, for a FEW women.

Then he proceeds to tell me a story of a Fulani woman who had her baby in NO TIME. He had to take delivery of that baby in the car. Apparently, she had been having contractions and SHE DID NOT KNOW meaning she felt absolutely NO PAIN!!!

Phew… Not what we always hear BUT  that was what I needed to hear!!!

PREGNANCY?

PREGNANCY?

Like an old cow, I chewed that hay and spat out the sticks quickly…

The Doctor had given me a REAL TIME testimony.

Like I said, my confessions started early. I haven’t had a baby before ooo but you can’t get me to believe anything less than the Word and promises concerning my pregnancy.

I recall a close friend telling me how she had a VERY TRAUMATIC first pregnancy and delivery which eventually ended in CS and so for the second, she opted for CS deliberately sef. No time to push. And she regaled me with all the TERRIBLY TERRIFYING HORRIFYING experiences of first births, both hers and her friends but poooooooooof, I didn’t even shake once. I didn’t argue with her, I just kept smiling all through what she was saying and spitting out all the sticks, the only hay being a healthy mother and baby walked out of the hospital. Faith in me was brandishing its two edged sword, cutting down any fear that attempted to enter…

Faith filled

Faith filled

No need countering her story. I was just happy she had her babies finally and they are doing very well now.

of course, i don’t have anything against CS and those who opt for it deliberately (i forget the medical term now) but achoro m

And my goodness, BIRTHING videos!!! Ah!!! You know all those scenes we see in the movies when a woman is having a baby? Ah very scary sometin ooo. While I believe it won’t be bad for me. I opted out of watching birthing videos till one day the hubs asked me if I saw the feature video from Baby Centre on the daily emails they send us and I am like nope but since he watched it, I said lemme go and see.

I wouldn’t call it a terrible experience because the woman was just amazing through it all. There were points where she was so uncomfy and in plenty pain but she was a STRONG BLACK WOMAN and then after 4hours plus, baby’s head turned up, and we had a happy mom and crying baby. The video had the potential of making one scared sha (especially when they CHUKKED one LONG TIN inside her vagina and broke her water which had hubs freaking out lol) but when I saw it, I was just thrilled at when the head turned up and how the baby was removed from her. The previous drama didn’t faze me arrrraaaaallll

If you wanna see the video, enjoy. I recommend it for only the ‘old cows’ sha…

http://www.babycenter.com/2_live-birth-natural_3656508.bc

Anyways, having seen one video, I decided to see another one. It sorta just appeared when I was on YouTube looking for something else so I am like ‘ok let’s see this’

Oh my!!! It was BEAUTIFUL to watch. This woman, a white woman this time had her baby in a  birthing centre and she had her baby standing up!!! The midwife guided her through this ‘squat and stand’ exercise routine and then as she squatted and PUSHED real hard, baby’s head showed, with PLENTY WATER and practically no blood. I had read this ‘no blood’ thing on Dr N’s post on her supernatural childbirth but I wondered how possible it was. Phew… this woman had her baby in just a little over an hour. i downloaded the video and I can’t tell you how many times I have watched that baby’s head come out of her and how from her standing position, she reached out her hand to take the baby from the nurses IMMEDIATELY he dropped. Of course the nurses hand never left the baby’s head incase she mistakenly falls biko and another one kept supporting her from behind but that woman was BRILLIANT to watch. Everything in that delivery seemed like HAY mehn… Not to forget the beautiful pictures she kept posing for with her baby and her HUGE smile. She was sooo pretty she looked like Kim K.

Here is the video if you wanna see it. I recommend this for EVERYONE 🙂

I mean, why don’t I believe I can have mine as easy as this woman? Why would I want to believe that it has to be an almost dying experience? Like Jackie says in her book SUPERNATURAL CHILDBIRTH, Children are a blessing… they can start off being a blessing from pregnancy right up to delivery and after birth as they grow.

The things I hear…??? incredible. Thank God for faith ooo. My dears, pregnant or not, just have as much sense as an old cow, spit out the sticks abeg…

I am always online googling this and that about pregnancy ooo cos I want to be well informed so I know how to be firing my faith. But like I said, I make sure that the Word is dwelling in me richly such that what I am seeing doesn’t put the spirit of fear in me. Be sure that before you go about gathering info/news IF YOU HAVE TO, you are overdosed on the Word first.

Moving from the old cow’s sense to the old wives’ tales

Now one of the outward signs on your belly when you are pregnant is called the ‘linea nigra’ which translates to a ‘dark line’. The linea nigra is that vertical line on your belly, a pregnancy trademark that shows up on a good number of moms-to-be of all stripes. It runs from your lower abdomen to your navel and sometimes beyond.

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Spot the Linea Nigra?

Now the old wives’ tale is a widely held traditional belief that is now thought to be unscientific or incorrect. In the case of pregnancy, they are signs that can help you predict you are having a boy or a girl using some signs. I find the old wives’ tales particularly hilarious so I am always reading them and trying them out.

Really FUN

Really FUN

One of my favourite has to be that if you are not blooming in pregnancy, you are carrying a girl so she is stealing all your shine. Choi!!! So any one who is blooming seriously is having a boy cos no competition. Hilarious!!!

Then if you dream you are having a boy, you are having a girl and if you dream that you are having a girl, go BLUE baby!!!

Then if the baby daddy gains weight, you are having a girl, if not, a boy. Lol.

Then if you are carrying all out in front, tz a boy. If your are carrying to the side too, tz a girl. I kinda believe this one sha. Choi!!! See what old wives’ have turned me into. Hehehe.

The silliest has to be that if you tie your wedding ring to some thread, hang it over your stomach and it swings from side to side, you are carrying a girl and if it goes around in circles, it is a boy…

 

just silly

just silly

 

Loooooooooool, Seriously, of course I can make my ring go in any direction. It doesn’t just go on its own. But I am always trying it sha. And as you can imagine, this second it swings right to left and the next it goes in circles. That thing is just time wasting and predicts nothing. But I find it fun to read and play.

Ok back to the linea nigra, that’s how yesterday night ooo, I got an email that mentioned linea nigra so I am like lemme even check and see if I even have it and WHAM I see it. It was sooooo cool. Actually it has no effect on the baby tz just a line that has always been there but at your skin color but pregnancy hormones make it darker and visible. I was excited. So I decided to see what the old wives had to say about the linea nigra. Choi!!!

The old wives tale is this – if you get a línea nigra and it runs from your pubic area to your belly button only, it’s a girl, and if it goes all the way up from your pubic area to the bottom-most part of you rib cage, then it’s a boy.

Anybody wanna know where my own stops? Looooooool. Not telling. Since I believe the old wives’ on this one.

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Yup, heels hehehe

But looking at this picture of mine and the mini cutie baby bump I am sporting, I wonder what the old wives’ have to say about err, other bumps… hehehe. I shared this picture on my mentee group and on my FAB group and tz my bumbum people were seeing. Imagine!!! Dee i still owe you the knock ooo.

So over to the old wives’, what does this mean? Boy, Girl or Twins?

For more old wives’ tales, click http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a550468/can-old-wives-tales-predict-a-boy-or-girl#ixzz3ERQK1dKR

And this http://www.bellybelly.com.au/pregnancy/old-wives-tales-boy-or-girl#.VCWbqWddVyw

Like I said, tz all fun.

But seriously, isn’t it just easier to do a gender scan?

CLEAR boy!!!

CLEAR boy!!!

Before these old wives’ make someone go all pink and wham you have boy so you are forced to wear him girl cloths. And there is no one to sue since we don’t know these old wives’ and where they live hehehe.

Of course I will be doing a gender scan to be sure but if I go with the old wives’ tale, well I am having a …..

See ya next time darlings…

Have a FAB weekend

Muah

E’

 

PS

Have you heard of FEAR.LESS

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JUST US GIRLS CONFERENCE

and the #RedLipstickChallange?

i LOVE this pose

i LOVE this pose

AS IN SERIOUSLY?

Oya click on this link sharply. Not too late to join in and also attend the program. this Sunday 4pm at DCC Lagos. Ladies only please. All the details are on the link.

http://justusgirlsnaija.com/2014/09/23/i-dare-you/

PPS:

My BBM crashed. So people need to stop accusing me that I deleted them. Just find a good way to send me your pin again.

PPPS:

My linea nigra runs way beyond my navel up to my ribs… Hello BLUE hehehe.

#AttitudeO’Gratitude… Day 13

I figured that I always breeze in in the same boring ways…
“Hello people
Howdy…
Hi…
Hey People…
Hello FAB’ers”
Etc…
*yawn*
Even I am getting bored.
So what do I do now eh???
How do I start my posts???
I’m open to suggestions… But in the meantime, lemme just say…
Good evening FAB’ers
Hehehhe
*boring to the third degree*
How was your day?
So here we are walking down the FAB lane of Day 13…
And I haven’t missed a day. Ditto my bloggers-in-gratitude…
http://www.elisabethezekiel.blogspot.com
And http://www.giantsparkle.wordpress.com
Boy, am I grateful in all hues or what???
So I got a mail from someone today who is a FAB’er.

I love getting them emails of course… But something about that message (I suspect it was sent by a girl) made me have a rethink on today’s gratitude post.
She mentioned stuff about the whole gratitude thing being cool because I have an exciting life so I can afford to be thankful. Unlike her who’s days are just plain boring… Hahahaha
Made me laugh…
Thanksgiving I have realized is a deliberate thing… Conscious effort we have to make if we are to speak this dialect of thanksgiving
I have blues in my day sometimes.
Some days I cry… Some days I am down. Some days I’m tetchy. Some days are FAB in all the shades. But one thing is constant, I am committed to finding reasons to be thankful. I make happy moments if I have to, cos I desperately wanna say ‘Thank You God for this and this’
🙂
Gets easier as the days progress I must say…
Today, I am gonna be especially thankful for the seemingly “little” things we sometimes take for granted… Cos I want us all to be involved…
Let’s roll
1. The gift of waking up… And of course sleeping. To think that some people passed in their sleep. Oh wow!!! I didn’t just wake, I managed to snuggle back into bed when day broke and covered myself totally with my very snuggly duvet and steal a few more minutes of sleep. I woke up refreshed and happy to hit the day…
2. One of the first things I read today was Pastor M’s blog and when I got the email notification, I quickly opened… Oh my, I’m grateful for absolutely fabtastic pastors who rubbish popular opinions that have ridiculed and yet ridicule the absolutely amazing institution of marriage. My Pastors make marriage look very good. You can’t convince me otherwise. Marriage is beautiful. Even tho PK has totally destroyed the bars that he set and I’m increasing my prayers for DCC guys to catch up and overtake *insert 3halos here* , I’m just grateful for good, nay great examples to look up to. That post had me grinning like a fish… Chai!!! Oya read the post here and understand what I’m on about
http://wp.me/p2uKuk-t0/
Like Pastor M will say to me,

if you don’t enjoy your marriage, who you go resemble? See Rev na and wifey.

See PK and wifey…

Abeg, I’m grateful for amazing Pastors with whom I have a close relationship…
3. I’m grateful for two people who checked up on me today… Eky who just called to know how I was doing… Eky is just sugar sweet. And when I was hailing her on the Bond moves PK pulled with her as an accomplice, she had this VERY hearty laugh as she gave me the deets of the surprise, which just resonated. I heard that laugh long after she had dropped the phone. I love when people just check with me without asking for anything. Just a simple ‘How are you?’ Tz divine…
Second person is my darling Father Patrick…

Oh… He knows how to just send messages that leave you with a very silly grin in the middle of your day… He just wanted to check in with me and see how I am doing. Oh and he has a real hearty laugh too and I heard it today again. I usually talk to him with endearments tho sparingly. Like today when I said ‘…my one and only Father…’ He laughed… That laugh touched my spirit. If that dude was gonna get married, I for link am to my sister abeg. That man should be in my family jor. And dumebi this is the point where you shut up… I introduced you to Fr. Patrick. You can’t come an snatch him…
Askor…
So I’m grateful for these two people who called me today…
4. Oh my BBM swelled by two names today. Not just any body ooo. Two of the people I have crushes on in church. Yup you should already know I have crushes on some people na… I want to say they are all females but I have a few male crushes but wild horses won’t let me mistakenly mention them… Cos some are even married… At least one. Chai!!!
*covering my eyes*
I hinted Tani today and she yabbed me eh, so I’m keeping my male crushes close to my chest. Hahahah. E’ you are so unserious chai.
Warrevz…
So as I was saying, the two female crushes are Blessing and Onyinye… Incredible women… Super stars… When your crush wants to add you on BBM, you make room FAST…
Oh my!!! I know I’m shameless. And might I add #NoHomo
So two more crushes don enter… Now I gotta behave myself on bb lol…
Don’t worry, I will do a full blogpost on my DCC crushes…you will see pictures then…
Watch out for that one
😉
But I’m grateful for these amazing additions to my fabulous BBM contacts. To know that these ones are just a click away… Oh my!!!
5. I’m grateful for a particular post I did today… It is a transcript of a message by PK titled ‘Your Girlfriend is NOT your wife’
Arguably my best message ever from PK. Too much sense. Been planning to do that post for like ever but time. Today, I’m grateful for the 3hours plus I had to transcribe it and then schedule it for publishing next week… Sorry loves, you gotta wait for a few days…But it is in 3parts so you will enjoy it wella… By the time I got up, my joints hurt like crazy. But I’m grateful I got it all done…
That’s it people…
The seemingly little things. I hope it inspires you to be thankful too…
Sleep well Hun’

E’

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MY LOVE FOR WOMEN…

I mean, that is just as true as it gets. Simple, I love women.

If I had just one slot to favour someone and I had a female and male, I would choose the woman.

If I were picking team members and all are equally competent, chances are higher that I would build a female-only team.

I apologize, I am not one of the women who say ‘I have more male friends than women. Women are too complicated, too petty, etc’ Abeg, I love the drama that women bring into anything, so I definitely do not have more male friends. In fact, aside le boo, I would say I have two guys that I would talk to IF I have to, where I have an issue. And no, it is not because they are DROP DEAD GORG, but because they are WORDED mehn. They know how to drop the word like it’s hot!!! Nothing as HOT as a BORN AGAIN SPIRIT FILLED guy.

Holla Chu chu

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and my booski.

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Lol. A friend of mine Fisayo says that I am more partial towards fine people and so all my friends are fine. Hahahahaha. Well, me I don’t know ooo.

Anyways, back to my love for females, it is serious ooo. Let me paint a coupla scenarios…

I  realized that I usually notice only the females in my choir. Usually we have 6 back up choristers. The two in the middle are guys but my eyes just dart left and right and ignore the middle. Crazy yeah? Lol

I belong to a FABtastic Christian female only group on Facebook- BABES REDEFINED. The exciting thing for me about that group is the fact that it is GIRLS ONLY. I doubt I would have been that active on a Christian group that involved men… Sorry.

At several times in my life, I have been a part of different prayer groups. Usually, I have a few of my girlfriends come together and we pray for all kinds of stuff, but especially women. Even on bbm, I have had, at different times, prayer partners/Prayer projects and  they have been all girls. Infact, there is one I have now made up of 6 amazing WOMEN in godly altar bound relationships where we come together and pray for our single friends and our relationships too. A lot of times, I forget I have single male friends. All my mind is on the single females.

Recently, God laid it on my heart to start an online bible study. And nope, not girls only. I am still receiving the grace to include the men. I mean, it is just easier for me to have a girls only bible study..

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JUST US GIRLS was the program that made me start attending the church I attend now David’s Christian centre. I heard of this program on facebook or so and the caption JUST US GIRLS attracted me. I love anything that involves only girls abeg. I attended, met with Pastor Mildred, and that brought me to DCC today.

I don’t know but I find the company of girls much more interesting. Do I have a problem? Looooooool. Toh! I usually love to attend such as that fellowship just has a way of strengthening my physical and spiritual self.

Err, does that make me a feminist? Maybe a SPIRITUAL FEMINIST…

Recently, a friend of mine and I got talking. She was at a point where she was burning out and fast too. She wanted to go on a personal retreat and wanted me to put her through some things- the where, the how, the what…. As I was explaining to her, I got the most amazing idea to call two of my mainest chicas and disappear for like a weekend. Reason? A GIRLS ONLY RETREAT!!!

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Peculiar thing is that all three of us are getting married at the same time and I wanted us to do a weekend getaway where we lock ourselves in a hotel room, pray, study, read books, listen to messages and stuff all related to marriage. Did I mention PRAY? Ah, Prayer works ooo.

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Especially when one is doing the single to married transition… Trust me, the wedding aint half as important as the marriage proper…  I have run it by them and by Juve, we are certainly looking forward to it. Especially me… hehehe. Infact, I have been on the phone for like one hour talking to one of them. Her birthday is tomorrow, Children’s day.

I am sure you are feeling left out already. I am talking to the ladies ooo. Guys, I really don’t care how you feel right now. Sawry… 😛

Ehen ladies, because I am a very nice someborry, allow me to invite you to an all ladies program coming up pretty soon… Sunday, JUNE 16 at 4pm.

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WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP…

I no dey use ear hear LADIES ONLY ooo. Especially this particular one hosted by my dearest Pastor M. Oh my!!! Did you see the roll call of Guest artists? Nathaniel Bassey? Pita? Ibironke? Oh my!!! Did I mention Nathaniel Bassey? Oh I did LOL.

The theme of this program comes from one of his songs and indeed one of my BEST worship songs… IMELA. That is Igbo for THANK YOU or YOU HAVE DONE WELL. Ladies coming together in thanksgiving!!! Oh my!!! I don’t pity the devil right now.

Pastor M will also be sharing her THANKS-timony IN FULL!!! I really can’t wait to hear it… June 17, can you come already?

Ladies, if you are burnt out, just come…

If you are feeling hopeless, just come…

If you are getting tired of waiting on God and you need your faith strengthened some, please come…

Cos in the atmosphere of THANKSGIVING, ANYTHING GOOD can happen…

And if you are a guy, don’t come. Please don’t help us with anything. Just set up and GO…

And if you are looking for a wifey, please stand OUTSIDE the gate and WAIT till we are done, while praying in tongues all the while…

Pastor M, PK must NOT be there ooo…

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I recognize that there are a few of you who would really love to come but maybe you live so far away and you know how Lagos gets at night… Good news is, there will be free transportation ALL OVER LAGOS… No kiddin’ We got ya covered like that.

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And for those of us you who have curfews and stuff, or you stay outside Lagos, and you really wanna attend, because I am so sweet, I can host you for that night.

First tho, I gotta know you ooo. As in, we are friends or acquaintances before now loool. And I have space for just three people. So you wanna holler at me on time yo!!! Do me an email or call me… You have my number/email…

Please bring your own food if you don’t like indomie… I can’t guarantee you anything else… Sawry :p

Speaking of curfews, I should blog about that soon *wink*

Have a blessed week ahead Sugs…

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This week, I am WORK-FREE… Ok I gotta show up on Tuesday 9am to 1pm but after that, E’ is GOOD TO GO… Whoop!!! Anybody wanna have a cinema date that tuesday? GDC ooo. Bills on YOU… Holler…

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I love this picmix I made…

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Like Father, like daughter. Meanwhile, Rev will be in Triumphant assembly, Lagos city church on Sunday, June 16… That is the morning of WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP!!! Whoop!!! Blessed Sunday. Obvioulsy great day to be born. If you wanna meet with and hear this man preach and know why I am all so in love with him, COME…

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Someone told me seriously jokingly that one day they will kidnap me. Because it is easy to know where I am, and what I am up to from my blog. LOOOOOL… hahaha… Well… I think I give out harmless info here now. Trust me, a WHOLE lot happen in my life that I do NOT put on here. TRUST ME. Recently, Rev asked me, I have NOT read about ‘so so and so’ on your blog ooo. Lol…

BTW, why would anybody wanna kidnap me… Who kidnaps an angel biko?

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Don’t just run off, drop a comment. All of you who just run off, I SEE YOU ooo. I have plans for you people. I just dunno what they are yet.

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Happy birthday to Minister Ekamma James. God knows watching you so selflessly serve in DCC is an inspiration. And everytime I hug you, I pray for you and I tap into your grace. I love you so much sis… May all your beautiful dreams happen. God bless you sweerie. And oh! I envy your husband already!!! Muah!!!

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I can’t find a finer pix ooo. But this one will do, so that you people don’t kidnap her… LOL