Why am I still single Part 2… A message preached by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

Ok guys, sorry this is coming about 2weeks later than I mentioned. My internet has been craps!!! Please read Part 1 here ICYMI

Ok so we continue from number

4. Are you able?

Do you have capacity as in financial capacity? Of course not to say you must have the whole money in the whole world but even at this level, can we see some fruits that tell us you are going in the right direction? Because some guys KNOW they cannot marry yet and not even in the near future but they keep misleading and wasting the lady’s time. They become HUMAN DELAYS and are just in a relationship for the fun of it. THE PURPOSE OF A RELATIONSHIP IS TO MARRY OOO not just to date forever.

Hello men, women don’t wanna marry a poor brother ooo please and don’t spiritualise it. Will you let your daughter marry a poor prospect-free efulefu? No. they cannot marry in faith because the landlord will not collect rent ‘in faith’. The principal will not collect school fees ‘in faith’. My brother, go and work. Marriage is an expensive venture darlings so are you able? Of course same goes for the women, please bring something to the table too.

At this point PK clarifies that story that he didn’t have anything when he married Pastor M incase any brother wanna use that as an excuse to trap a woman. Yes he was not rich but he had something he was doing with his life. He had faith and it was real because it had started producing results. ANY FAITH WITHOUT RESULTS IS FAKE!!! He was already in ministry and though he didn’t have liquid cash, he had a car already gotten entirely by FAITH (He shared the story again). He also had a place he was living and could afford the basics at least. So please PK had faith then, he still has faith and that faith is still producing. All you need to see is potential. If he says he has faith, what has the faith produced since? Are you on course? Are you making any progress? Ehen then you can now hook up with a spouse who is also on course and then things will move on upwards from there. That is how we know you are ABLE.

He also spoke on materialism. Good girls are actually not hard to impress. A good godly girl will understand even if you don’t have it all then. A woman is like an incubator so when you plant that seed inside of her she will nurture it till it grows. So if you have real faith and are bold and eloquent enough, you can convince her to marry you even if her level seems higher that yours at the time. For example, PK with an OND married Pastor M who had a Masters by then. He had a vision and convinced her of it plus promises sef (I will take you round the world) and she married because she is a godly woman and now, it is happening. (He promised her EXCITING or you can just read all the posts in that series here)

PK and PM

PK and PM

Even when they were going to marry, they didn’t have all the money (Pastor M was still doing her MASTERS then while PK was already in full time ministry) but they had faith, confidence, and were led by God and there were weddings and no, the church money no enter am. So please, no loafers whose faith have produced nothing yet not even transport fare. Siddon ehn, tighten your faith belt well, get on the word because faith works before you jump enter marriage.

And again, being financially able ain’t limited to men alone. A woman too should bring something to the table.

Socially, emotionally, mentally ability is also important. In marriage, you would have to be making adjustments and sacrifices to your life, to tolerate. He that would get married will have trouble in the flesh meaning inconveniences which is why Paul says he wants to save us from it all so stay single hehehe (Ephesians )

A mommy’s boy is NOT ABLE – (All those ‘I cannot marry anybody except my mother agrees’ comedian boys)

A selfish self-centred person is NOT ABLE

Just get the message for more biko hehehe. Now the final one

5.Are you amiable?

Are you Pleasant, good natured, likeable? Are you attractive? There is something about beauty and neatness that attracts. Nope, you don’t have to be Miss World to be attractive. Everybody can be attractive. Please order the message 7ways to be a more attractive person. Call our number which I have provided at the end.

Ever noticed that in a group, some people are more attractive than the others and everyone wants to be around them not because they are the finest ooo but because they are amiable. Are you likeable or always frowning? Are you always neat or dirty? It is possible that your physique, cleanliness, ethics and etiquette is what is keeping you single ooo. Ladies you must have your bath at least twice a day: Morning and night. Men can even get away with bathing just once. And you must bath with soap and sponge not just one of the two. The work of soap is different from the work of sponge so using one is like brushing with either only toothpaste or only toothbrush. They must go together to get the best results. You must brush twice daily too. If you have smelling breath issues, visit a dentist and fix it. (Read my dental hygiene post).

Mouth ordor cannot be cured with prayers and fasting ooo. It would even make it worse. Could be food accumulating in spaces in the teeth and the mixture cannot smell nice when you talk. Just visit a dentist and have them diagnose and deal with it. Feel free to have breath mints and co handy to keep your breath fresh.

And he tells the story that makes me laugh EVERYTIME I am listening to the message lol. Here goes

So back then in his worldly days, he went to this boutique to buy some cloths. Back then boutiques in Festac were small and all so as he was there, this girl entered and that was the end of everyone breathing. Her stench filled up everywhere. You can’t talk or laugh because you are just managing yourself to breath small small. Omo, as the girl comot, see how everyone took deep breaths lol. Dem begin breath again. The boutique owner brought out spray and sprayed everywhere hahahaha. PK said instead of her to go and buy soap and sponge, she was coming to buy cloths. Dem suppose baptize am in Izal and Dettol leave am there to soak lol.

So dear, sponge is to scrub all the sweat that accumulates on the skin, with the help of the soap. You must shave your armpit because those hair there will hold odour even if you bath twice. Pk says some people need to use that iron sponge for pot hahaha.

But really as a woman, if you are dirty, what HOPE do your kids have??? Ugh!!!

Also dress well. Not everything in vogue would fit you. Don’t be pressured. Wear what fits and look good in it. Do your hair neat and fine and let it fit. It don’t have to be Brazilian ooo. Tz not she wey get Brazilian dey marry hahahaha. Plus men don’t even know the difference.

Have good character and be polite as a lifestyle not only when you see an eligible bachelor. Use ‘please’ and ‘excuse me’ regularly. Don’t walk into a place and not greet everyone especially when new in a place. You dunno who the boss may be. He may not look like it ooo. Kai, rude girls are a huge turn off.

Have you been blessed today/tonight?

Lol.

This is how PK and now PM end their preaching. Even other Ministers in church

Evening, morning, afternoon or today, once you hear that, sermon is over in DCC Lagos.

Trust you enjoyed this. Please share with your single friends, male and female especially your Single and ready for marriage ones. You can worship with DCC in Lagos.

Victory Dome Behind PHCN Office, Fatgbems Bus Stop, Amuwo Odofin, Lagos

1st Service – 7.00am 2nd Service – 8.30am 3rd Service – 10.00am

Midweek service Wednesday 6.30pm

DCC Victoria Island, Elegushi Beach Road, Beside Meadow Hall School, After 3rd Roundabout, Lekki, Lagos.

Sunday Service – 11.00am

Rush Hour Fellowship (Midweek service especially for those who work on the Island) Tuesdays – 6pm at Silverbird Cinema, Hall 4.

Instead of going to enter traffic, enjoy Rush hour fellowship and be refreshed.

Love Dating and Marriage (the program where this message and such relationship messages are preached) holds at different intervals in the year. If you would call our numbers, they can send you reminder texts if you wish. Website: http://davidschristiancentre.org/ Phone number: 08077714411

See you this weekend with WEEKEND BANTS. Since we are publishing Friday, weekend bants will appear on Sunday.

Blessed weekend guys…

E’

Why am I still SINGLE? A message preached by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

I just love this message. I am not sure but I think this was the last LoveDating&Marriage seminar I attended at DCC Lagos. I love it so much that it is the last Singles message left on my phone. It just seemed soooooo practical and useful. So this is dedicated to all my Single FABers. So much to learn from it. Preached by my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo wpid-pastor-k.jpg So why am I still single? He answers this with 5 questions… Enjoy.

  1. Am I available?

Some people are actually NOT available but they think they are. Some actions or way of life make you NOT available in the ‘Singles market’ which is actually over saturated. There are some mindsets you may have which unknown to you may be sending out vibes to men that you are not available eg Do you always walk around with this thought ‘there are no good men/women anymore’ whilst praying for one? Honey, daz not ghanna wok. As a (wo)man thinketh in his heart, SO IS HE!!! Also if you are carrying emotional baggage, you may think you are available but you are not.

photo courtest intl workplace

photo courtest intl workplace

The energy flowing from you ain’t in line with what you praying for. It is like a house which has a ‘Welcome to our home’ doormat but yet a big dog right at the entrance. You know you ain’t welcome. Emotional baggages would keep getting in the way of conversations with even remotely interested opposite sex and aint nobody got time to continually hear about your ex John who dumped you or whatever horrid happened in the past. Please let God heal any hurt from your past. Also are you dating someone you KNOW you cannot marry whilst yet claiming ‘Single’? Eg dating a married man or some ‘bad guy’.

photo courtesy blogherdotcom

photo courtesy blogherdotcom

You may be thinking you are just holding that person in the mentime till the ‘Mr Right’ comes along but hunnay, you are sending signals even you don’t know about and people can pick those signals. You are emotionally involved no matter what you think. Usually when you meet someone, you are NOT as interested as a fully single person is only you don’t know.

Also, if there is this ‘Bro John’ you have been ‘claiming’ although dude has neither said anything nor is he feeling you laidat. That HUGE emotional investment in Bro John has made you less emotionally available to others but you dunno. It will be clear that there is NO VACANCY in your life for other people. Please don’t lose a good guy waiting on Bro John whom you have seen in a vision lol. Keep it moving and ‘empty’ Love. Bro John aint interested. PK tells the story of this girl in this uni who was overheard praying and claiming a certain ‘Bro John’ who everyone knows was already engaged to ‘Sister Mary’. The girl just dey pray dey claim the man calling out his name and surname sef. You see such a lady, though she is single, she ain’t available. Another way to check if you are available is to find out if you have unrealistic standards. The person some ladies/guys wanna marry is A PEOPLE- 4/5 in one person. I wrote a post on that here. Nobody is 100% and hey even if there was someone like that, guess what? That person wont be able to stand you cos you are not 100%. I want a man that is very romantic, rich, successful, Prayer warrior, Bible teacher, good singer like Don or Kirk, humble like Adeboye, have faith like Oyedepo, excellent like Adefarasin, Prayer warrior like Olukoya, funny like PK, HABA SISTER, ONLY YOU!!!??? Humans are work in progress. That spouse doesn’t have to come 100% perfect 2. Are you accessible?

Photo from Flickr

Photo from Flickr

Some people are available and eligible but they are NOT accessible. They cannot be reached. Nobody got access to her.

Photo from flickr

Photo from flickr

Almost like all those sheltered children whose father had this shotgun or a big dog for any man that dared to visit.

You are certainly not welcome on this property... Photo from Flickr

You are certainly not welcome on this property… Photo from Flickr

As a single person, you must be able to be reached. You can’t be praying for a spouse and continually sit in your room under your bed, tz only mosquito that will see you. And God. But God doesn’t wanna marry. Ain’t no eligible person gonna come under your bed and see you. Which is why it is good for instance to belong to a church and a service group. Too much stories of couples who met whilst serving in church.

photo courtesy mix949

photo courtesy mix949

Being a member of the church ain’t enough especially if you are in all those big churches. Chances that you would be seen are low when all you do is come in, worship and after service you just leave. Ah!!! Bae, how is that gonna work? Join a department/small unit/connect group/house fellowship and let people SEE you and interact with you.

photo courtesy crossedroadsabc.com

photo courtesy crossedroadsabc.com

Not that you just rush into your car after every service without interacting with anybody. Don’t always walk sooooo fast. If you are single, reduce your pace hehehe. But frankly, I met one of my readers who said some people complained that she always walks too fast and with a straight face everytime in church and so was unapproachable. So please, catwalk ehn. Especially as a lady because these guys just dey try arrange themselves, gather stamina and muster courage to talk to you but before they reach you, you don disappear. And as a guy too, you gast be wise/. He tells the story of how in Bible school, first day he spotted this girl he thought he would like to get to know. Unfortunately, they didn’t sit so close. The next day he came early and sat close to the area the girl sat, made it a habit and kept finding reasons to communicate with her even if it meant copying notes he already had and asking questions he already had the answers to. ‘Excuse me, did you copy the assignment?’ ‘Did you get what that teacher said here?’ Of course, they started talking from there. My dear, you must be accessible as a single. Position yourself well. Have hobbies and be involved in them. Be sociable. Have friends. Obviously, he is not talking clubbing and stuff. There is healthy clean fun. Take yourself out if you have to, somebody might meet you there ooo. Nobody must take you there ooo. And while you are there, please be looking around small small. Like my Rev would say, watch and pray 3. Be approachable

From a recent shooting with Nemorosa. Thanks for the great shooting!

From a recent shooting with Nemorosa. Thanks for the great shooting!

Some people are available, they are accessible but to approach them is a different, impossible ball game. If you need to practice how to smile in front of a mirror, please do. Some ladies have a natural frowning face. A lot of men are not bold and they fear rejection so imagine they now gather courage to walk up to you and say hi or anything else to initiate conversation and you just size them up and down and are generally not very polite or welcoming.

photo courtesy flickr

photo courtesy flickr

The guy will just change mouth, turn you to traffic warden and ask you for direction or to borrow bible or something else. Anything but what he was on his mind because your countenance is bad. Please greet people and respond warmly. He that hath friend must show himself friendly. Recall Rebekah and how approachable and friendly she was to Abby’s servant and how she landed herself a rich young eligible blessed man. Another thing is when ladies always walk together like a gang and their countenance makes it hard for any guy to get that opportunity to speak to one privately. Don’t look down on people who don’t have it all now and be like ‘he is not my type’ lol. Some of these hunks we see now have not always been hunks ooo. For example see Rev and PK’s Surulere pix hehehe

hahahahahaha lol

hahahahahaha lol. I wish I can see the third man now

See them today

See them today

so some of these guys you boning now may be multi-millionaires in a few years. No use today scatter your tomorrow. Be approachable. That’s all for Part 1. Part 2 will be up same time next week. That’s Tuesday. Until then, share with your friends aii… Especially your Single and ready for marriage ones Trust you enjoyed this. Please share with your single friends, male and female and you can worship with DCC here WORSHIP WITH US DCC Lagos Victory Dome Behind PHCN Office, Fatgbems Bus Stop, Amuwo Odofin, Lagos 1st Service – 7.00am 2nd Service – 8.30am 3rd Service – 10.00am Midweek service Wednesday 6.30pm DCC Victoria Island Elegushi Beach Road, Beside Meadow Hall School, After 3rd Roundabout, Lekki, Lagos. Sunday Service – 11.00am Rush Hour Fellowship (Midweek service especially for those who work on the Island) Tuesdays:                    6pm at Silverbird Cinema, Hall 4. Instead of going to enter traffic, enjoy Rush hour fellowship and be refreshed. Love Dating and Marriage (the program where this message and such relationship messages are preched) holds at different intervals in the year. If you would call our numbers, they can send you reminder texts if you wish. Website: http://davidschristiancentre.org/ Phone number: 08077714411   And then of course we have our annual WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP coming up next week. Please click on link to get all the details. Friday June 19- Sunday June 21.

WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP 2015

WHEN WOMEN WORSHIP 2015

Ladies, you know you can’t afford to miss this one. Hosted of course by Pastor Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo

Gorgeously preggo

Gorgeously preggo

Stay blessed y’all

E’

PS

In the, an amazing relationship blogger and sister has this beautiful post up on tips to surviving wedding season. Check it out here http://www.inthemidstofher.com/2015/05/5-tips-to-surviving-wedding-season.html

Feel free to snoop around her amazing blog too

Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

What Price would you be willing to pay for a Ring?

Recently I asked on Twitter if it was true that till today in the year of our Lord 2014, men still throw the line ‘Get pregnant first before I marry’ and I amazingly got answers in the affirmative with most people even wondering what kinda no-brainer question that was. And frankly, it was a sincere question.
I knew such happened in the past but today, girls suppose don wise up and guys suppose don sense up…
Why did I ask? Ajoyo who blogs at http://thepassionchronicles.wordpress.com/ has been doing this series of ‘Beneath the sheet’ and tz centred around this silly guy who thinks he is God’s gift to (silly) women and so insists that you must be preggy before marriage and there were girls doing all sorts to land his ring. Serious iberibe indeed.
Y’all know how they say ‘art imitates life’ but still I just still assumed uncle A was being over imaginative.
Then wham!!! I heard and saw something. That prompted me to hit twitter and then my fears were confirmed.
Why? Oh why would any lady do this to herself. Tz bad enough that you are indulging in pre-marital sex, then for the man to INSIST that you get pg first and you agree and start doing all sorts just to get pregnant and get him to marry you?
Jesus didn’t die for this ooo. And (no pun intended) Chukwu di oooo!!!
Do you realise that
1. You can get pg and the dude will still NOT marry you?
2. You can get preggers and dude can drop dead tomorrow?
3. You can get preggers, get married to him with the pg and LOSE the pregnancy or worse still the baby post-birth?
4. You are most likely NOT the only one he is sexing so darling, you are in a cheap fertility competition?
5. All of the above and MORE!!!

To him, you are just a baby-factory and not a companion. He loves children and NOT you. So children are now the ONLY reason why we marry? So those couples who don’t have kids are incomplete? Hian.

It seems so unfair!!! Sex is NOT love ooo. Like my pastor said at the last LDM tagged CAUTION FOR SINGLES, ‘If sex is love, then prostitutes should be the best marriage and relationship counsellors now’. I truly feel we are sooooo precious to God that no man should even open his gutter to suggest pre-marital sex not to talk of knocking you up. He should be scared that you will slap him sef. It just seems really unfair.
Nuffair!!!
Ladies, if he choses to degrade you, should you indulge him?
Should you sacrifice so much for a ring?
Tz very painful.

And I’m aware ladies are paying prices they shouldn’t afford to pay to land a ring?
Some ladies have moved in and are not just playing wife but playing omoodo (househelp) too.
Some ladies be putting their lives on pause, swallowing any rubbish they won’t take (from their pops or bros) from any male cockroach just to land a ring.
Some ladies are investing their money on an efulefu without any vision or drive just so he can make them Mrs.
Lemme not talk about the ones who are lying, living false lives, etc.

Some prices are too high for a ring babe. You shouldn’t afford it.
And guys, some prices are way too high to wife a woman.

I don’t even have anything more to say.
There is the right price to pay for a ring.
Anything else is just wahala you can’t afford.

That’s why I’m super excited about this month’s Love Dating and Marriage seminar at David’s Christian Centre. This Sunday, May 11, 2014 at 4.30pm.
Tagged The Price of a Ring!!!

How much can you pay?

How much can you pay?

You really wanna make this one if you are in Abuja or order the CD after the program if you aren’t.

Petrus Hotels Royale
Agatu street, off Gimbiya street Area 11, Garki Abuja.

Feel free to invite anyone you know in Abuja. Single, Married, Male, female. Holler!!!

And yes, you may visit http://www.dccabujablog.com for more details on the program and much more about our church.

May I just end with this.
In the past two weeks, curiously and without looking for, I have met (online and offline) several girls who just opened up to me on how they quit pre-marital sex. Because I met them back to back, it just released something on my inside. One of them, a very very pretty girl, talked about how she would rather sleep on the streets and starve than indulge any more. She spoke with so much passion I wished I could just lift her up and spin her around in excitement.
And she said even though it was hard, it is possible. Her passion moved me to tears. If I never believed it was possible, that girl made me a believer.
Darling, have you been indulging in PMS? Tz not too late boo. Stop, confess that sin, receive mercy, forgiveness and grace, do an overhaul of your (close) friends if they are not willing to change, and stay accountable. And of course, never put yourself in compromising situations. Avoid living life on a cliff. Don’t tempt yourself.
I wish I could interview that girl. I mean, she shared so many stories with me I had goosebumps. She said something like when you truly decide that you would not compromise whether for marriage or money, God himself becomes your source and He won’t leave you stranded. All you need to do is throw those emotions and desires to Him.

Nuff said abeg.
Just be sure you are paying the right price for that ring and if you don’t know, then you can learn.

This weekend is looking goooooooood. I’m thinking of seeing Single moms club by Tyler Perry. I hear tz a good one, plus I love TP so…
Enjoy yours too.
And FAB Adadioramma 1 of Igbo land, happy belated birthday.
Ada the Ada... hehehe

Ada the Ada… hehehe

I redeemed myself yeah? Hehehehe. God’s blessings shower on you and your fam. Amen.

Muah
E’

RandomlE’ speaking

I miss my friends. My inner circle.
Sapphire
Booski
Angel o’ love
Cheech
Soul Soeur
Olaedo

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Booski, Angel o' love, Olaedo

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Sapphire, Soul soeur, Cheech

I actually teared up watching Oluchi hug Rulani goodbye with both of them in tears on ANTM last week Thursday. I knew I missed real real sisterly hugs and talk. And you see these girls above? They know how to give and receive the best hugs. Especially Olaedo and Cheech and Soul Soeur and infact everyone!!! *tears* My mainest forever girls. I truly really miss you girls. Le sigh.

But God doesn’t leave us without a witness. Hehehehe. As Jesus would have it, I got a good dose of hugs yesterday. You see, two of my fave bloggers also live in Abuja and while I had met JMAD before, I was yet to meet Femmetotale. So we made plans to hook up on Sunday.

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Food, Faith and Fun

I had a Sunday of my life yo!!! Aside them putting me on the spot as a ‘married girl’ (smh at you ladies), it was just an amazing time. We met up in JMAD’s house and she was such a dream host tho she knows how to harass. And we had another very delighful and abs beautiful drama-full babe Oma join us. Best part of it all was that are all absolutely Fabulous Christian ladies.

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When you hang out with Christian ladies, you just come out feeling very Christian lol. 
Plus my JMAD is a hugger and a half and before long, I’ll get FT to the huggies club too. Plus we toasted to the most hilarious stuff. Twas almost a prayer session lol.

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That said, it was abs awesome meeting y’all. Can’t wait for our next outdoor hangout. JMAD has this crazy idea which I’m kinda liking and buying so… Hehehehe. Thanks girls. Especially for the hugs… And Oma, we could totally be friends!!! Yup JMAD pass the message. Ok JMAD made me watch Nigerian Idols sponsored by Etisalat. Tacky. Tacky. Tacky, especially with all the ‘oil money’ lol. Sorry to say. I also decided to see the highly acclaimed 12years a slave. Look, I LOVE Lupita especially cos she has a very spirited spirit (whatever that means) plus she’s a delightful sport to interview (loved the Post-Oscars interview with Ellen)

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The Post-Oscar interview. She has a laugh that is alive

Plus she gives the best speeches (Your dreams are valid). Obviously intelligent young woman. Plus she went to Yale. Hehehehe. So I said lemme see this Lupita movie ooo. 55mins into the movie, patience disappeared, goodluck wearing thin, and way TOO MUCH Chinwetel in EVERY scene, then Lupita shows up in the cotton field. Ugh!!! I’m sorry but I didn’t last 20mins after that. I don’t even know what to say so lemme just say I don’t like slaves/slavery movies. Same reason I didn’t last 15mins seeing Django Unchained. It was just too sad and unhappy. So I didn’t see more than 4 scenes that featured our idol Lupi (lol) before I turned it off. Sleep was even calling my name and initials while watching it. I’ll just chill till she stars in some romantic comedy that sees her throwing her very spirited laugh and energy around. I’m sure someone is wondering what I was expecting seeing the name is 12 years a slave… Well somehow I didn’t think start to finish would be clearly about class, caste, slavery, proletariats and bourgeoisies. Abeggi… So as I ranted on Twitter, some kind hearted sweerie tells me the message was that of hope. I suppose. But I think I prefer HOPE as portrayed in The Pursuit of Happyness, thank you. Btw I also didn’t see that movie till the end. Too teary. Lemme just stop this Slavery thing. I’m with that ‘white’ ‘celeb’ who says she studied enough slavery in history class than to be watching slaves biko nu. Romance, Comedy or best still Romantic Comedy ANYDAY yo!!!
Just to be clear, Lupi acted great in the movie. I hear especially at the end, it was brilliant!!! (Patience Lord). I’m just not into suffer head movies. Chinwetel suffered no be small. I guess I also learned TRUST in the movie. He trusted the strange people who now sold him into slavery. (I hope that’s what happened ooo). Anyways, now you know which kinda movies never to get E’ to watch. #JumpNpass
In all though, Sunday was a real amazing day. Thanks to everyone who made it awesome. Been meeting quite a few of my Abuja peeps who I had invited to church, some off my blog. How it was only Chi I managed to take a picture with beats me.

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I hugged this babe so much she had to commend me lol

Anyhoos since some are becoming members, there’ll be more photo ops.
But life has had its fair share of downs though. Like I was gisting JMAD yesterday, peculiarly, I have WILLED myself to tears which have eluded me. Now no doubt, I’ve turned on the water works a bit but I realise they have been more about other people than me. Just listening to or reading someone share their challenges with me, I’m all teary eyed. Then when something hits me that’s personal, I just can’t cry for myself. Several times, and no kidding here, I have tried to cry just to ‘feel normal’ but no dice ooo. At those instances, I now hear God. Most times He just tells me OK what will the tears solve? Then instantly, He gives me a Word. At that instant, life becomes surreal!!! How a WORD assumes life and becomes real and breathing to one is inexplicable. I truly can’t explain but I feel an incredible blanket of loving from my Sugar Daddy. On my bb status, I have ‘E’… God’s biggest deal’ and I can say I understand that. I feel really really privileged.

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E' Favoured and Blessed

The doors he opens, the people I meet, the responsibilities I have, the testimonies He gives, tz absolutely awesome. Cap it up with a Word for every single season!!! I truly have a Sugar Daddy.
Awesome feeling…
Ok lemme brush on the subject of ‘rehearsing on stage’ for a minute. First heard this term from my girl Ru. Basically,it just means (in the Faith that is) waiting for a problem to come upon you BEFORE you start praying about it. I mean, why don’t you just keep building on your faith even before the challenges come? I was in a theatre group back in UI. Imagine that we don’t do no rehearsals until the day of performance, we now come and start rehearsing on stage. What a flop!!! Tz the same way we flop when we have been all slack on our faith and then tz when the trouble comes that we start running helter skelter. Tz just wrong. The best time to prep for war is in time of peace. Simples. I’ll tell you my own ROS story. This year, I’m ashamed to say I’ve fallen ill 4/5 times starting right from Jan 1. Before then, I truly can’t recall when last I fell ill. So imagine sickness coming back to back. And guess what, they always came just before something major was about to happen. By the second time, shouldn’t I have gathered all my faith and scriptures on health and swallowed till even the devil go fear. Such that when he comes with his package, he takes it back cos he meets my shield of faith brandishing. No ooo. Tz when I start feeling the symptoms I start praying. That works somehow yup but sweethearts, Jesus didn’t die for that. Mehn, was sick last week and after I spent money I didn’t care to spend on drugs, I knew it was time to actively find, confess and overdose on the Word as per my health. Now health totally restored, I wake up each morning speaking over my body. I’m done mehn. Jesus didn’t die for this… He died that I may enjoy perfect health. Zezezeze. So FABers, in every area of your life, no rehearsal on stage please.
Almost the same way I feel about our Nigerian situation… Plenty rehearsals AFTER the show sef. The security situation is really something and truly, tz a case of God for us all. That’s why I recommend prayers especially esp from you and I. Face it, some of us have tied hands except to pray.

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Not everyone will step out to protest and frankly, not every protest would yield much. But hey, we can labour in prayers. Pray for large doses of wisdom for our leaders and advisers. Pray for ‘Daniels come to judgment’ They know exactly what to do (cos you can see pure naivete sometimes) and they have the courage to do it. Pray for high level confusion in the enemies’ camp. Keep praying for the safety and rescue of the kidnapped school girls and indeed keep speaking peace to those highly volatile areas and infact every where in Nigeria. Pray for those still in the hospitals and those who have lost loved ones in all the numerous attacks all over Nigeria. Look sweetie, don’t just tweet it. Don’t just discus it at round tables and over lunch. Truly spare some of your prayer time for them. I saw this post by Ife and I was tripped.

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Ife just has the best updates on SM sites walahi

I think we talk about praying more than we actually pray. Especially that wisdom prayer. And that’s all I’ll say on this matter before I say something really wrong.
Oh BTW, the second stanza of our Anthem is an incredible prayer. Feel free to pray it too.

I’ll just sign off with this…
So what is the price of a ring?
Sooo many things some ladies would give to land that ring and what some guys would do to have their ring accepted…
Some pay the right price, land the ring and enjoy the marriage of their dreams.
Some pay the absolutely wrong price, sometimes land a ring and end with a Boko haram and just live in hell…
At least if you don’t know the right price, you can learn…
Which is why this month’s LDM is tagged The Price of a Ring…

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Love Dating and Marriage Seminar

This Sunday May 11, 2014
Right in Abuja, David’s Christian Centre.
Petrus hotel on Agatu street off Gimbiya street. Area 11, garki Abuja.
LDM is an acronym that stands for Love Dating and Marriage. Tz a once a month, actually 2nd Sunday of the month in Abuja DCC at 4.30pm so you can go to your church and join us in the evening. Tz always an incredible time. So you wanna mark your calendars if you are in Abuja.

Ok let me get some work done this beautiful Monday.
I thought I’ll blog some leadership tips I’m learning from DCC Abuja especially for my readers who are workers in Church and wanna do more for God. Awesome stuff. And tz amazing how leadership tips from the church can also work in our secular jobs too.
Some other time though…
May 11, 2014. Sunday 4.30pm.

Oh I almost forgot this. Just have to share it. So one of my mentees, an amazing amazing girl, Chinwe who looked plenty to me for inspiration and encouragement in school just graduated with a FIRST CLASS.

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Congrats Chinwe love

Feels like my own personal victory. Just being such an inspiration to someone who now outshines you is incredible. Go girl!!! I’m sooo happy for you. Got me all teary eyed on Friday when her result was released. And she was the ONLY ONE!!! Whoop!!! She was just a year under me in Sociology and my, we did countless tutorials, she kept in touch even after I graduated, didn’t stop asking me questions and I’m just glad that the whole tension of waiting in prayers and praise to see how she’ll cross from a 2-1 to 1st class in final year will go (which was exactly same for me). It was really really a miracle.
Congrats girl. Work that first class babe… Whether tz for further studies or work, it opens doors. Of course that’s cos it is a gift straight from God. Whoop whoop. Mega happy for you. My mentoring wasn’t in vain. Hehehehe.
And on that final note, toodles…
Stay FAB darls…
Favoured and Blessed.
And Happy stepping into all things FAB this May.

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Muah
E’

Jesus did NOT die for this…

*music*
‘There is Power in the name of Jesus… X3
To break every chain x 3’

Grammy award winner, Tasha Cobbs may not be very popular YET in 9ja but her ‘Break every chain’ song is one I sing EVERY DAY.
That simple short song for me is beyond a song. Tz a prophecy. Tz a hammer/gun/grenade in my mouth for the devil.

DCC Lagos Choir (The Rock Image) has got the best rendition of the song ever especially when Jacqueline leads. I always pray it is led by her every time Communion is served. I LOVE the song to fine pieces. Smithereens.

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Live in Abuja!!!

So imagine when I heard that the owner of the song was coming to Nigeria, not just to Abuja and to COZA just at my backyard, on an evening when I didn’t have any church commitments at my own church. Omo, wild horses, tornadoes, bomb blasts and hurricanes COMBINED couldn’t have stopped me from making it there Tuesday April 15,2014 .
But on getting there, I knew God took me to COZA for something else.

So sometime in the course of the service. they aired this short video of the crucifixion of Jesus. Now I’m a blood wimp… I don’t see or watch anything bloody. For some reason, I had the liver for this though I covered face at different points. It was BLOODY. It was HEART WRENCHING. You could hear a pin drop in church that evening. I have NEVER seen a human so tortured before. That a man would go through all of this to save the world!!! And the Holy Spirit kept dropping such words in my heart

‘I did this for you. I went through ALL of this for you. You can not afford to settle for anything but the BEST in this life… You can’t afford a mediocre or an average life darling…That is the least you can do to show me your appreciation. I DID NOT die for ANYTHING less than the BEST for you to enjoy in life!!! ‘

Dear absolutely FABULOUS Reader of mine, if you ever settle for anything less than the best, you are of all men most UNGRATEFUL and ignorant.

If you settle for a mediocre life, you just SPAT in his face and threw His priceless gift of LOVE back at Him.

Remember I am saying SETTLE. Settle implies an END. You may NOT be enjoying the BEST now but never ever settle there. Understand that you may not be where you can exactly call BEST now but also KNOW that you will NOT be there forever.

That pain and torture I saw was INTENSE. And I don’t even think they acted out what He really went through.
The least you can do in appreciation is to BE and LIVE YOUR BEST.

Don’t let the devil ever ever lie to you. God wants you to have the BEST OF EVERYTHING!!!
The BEST of health
The BEST of jobs
The BEST businesses
The BEST husband/wife
The BEST of houses (in my case ESTATES)
The BEST of friendships/relationships
The BEST of cars
The BEST things in life
The BEST and nothing less!!!
He wants to show off to the world through YOU. He wants You to use this BEST to take over the world for Him.

Anything less is to make light of that torture he went through. Anything less makes you a most ungrateful creature.

Lemme preach to you for a second here…
*in Bishop TD Jakes voice*

I don’t care who around you is settling for less. I don’t give a hoot what Nigeria’s economy is saying. It matters absolutely NOT what phase you are in at the moment. YOU can rise above it and be the BEST.
Sweetheart, take advantage of this season and understand that you are GOD’S BIGGEST DEAL!!! His Most Valuable Player (MVP). He would have died for only YOU if you were the only one on earth. You are sooooo important to Him. You can’t afford to settle for anything less. Anything mediocre. Anything average.

Jesus did NOT die for anything less

My darlings, at COZA that night, though Tasha Cobbs didn’t come eventually but I did get my own Easter Miracle for which I am oh-so-grateful. COZA is a very beautiful church btw.

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I missed the tweets. Easy peezy guess as to why she didn't come 🙂

Now this Easter season makes even more sense to me. I feeeeeeeeel so special. Sinach’s ‘I know who I am’ has new meaning to me.
Which is why I am super excited about Easter service at my church DCC Abuja which is themed MVP!!!
Kabaye!!!
Most Valuable Player.

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Easter Special Service #DCCAbuja

A footie luvurrr would understand what it means when a player is crowned MVP.
You see how Real Madrid played absolute RUBBISH cos C. Ronaldo was absent. Ditto ManCity against Sunderland when my darling Yaya Toure was absent.
That’s who we are in this game of life. Take me out and the world starts spiralling downwards. Zezezeze!!! I KNOW who I am abeg. Even devil knows.
MVP baby!!!

I am excited about the message my Pastor will be preaching that day yo!!!
If you are in Abuja and you are NOT yet in the Easter spirit and you don’t really know your worth or you need some good ginger…

Petrus Hotel Royale off Gimbiya street, Area 11. Garki, Abuja.
9am
Free transport all over Abuja.
You can call 08096863992 08096863993 for enquiries

Open invitation darling…
And yup, I have moved to Abuja.
Whoop Whoop!!!

You have no idea how happy I am just being in DCC Abuja, getting the Word in with all the inherent power and serving with all my heart. Oh my!!!

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God is sweet ooo. Abeg don’t miss it if you dey Abuja and are church-less.
And of course, feel free to join us as a permanent member. We are the finest people in ALL of Abuja (apologies J.Osteen hehe)

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DCC Abuja fam

Oh and my NUMBER ONE Naija artist Sinach is LIVE in concert in Abuja tomorrow Good Friday April 18,2014.

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My numero uno Naija Gospel Artist

Easter is looking good yo!!!
Do you know how I have dreamt to be in her concert before? Just to hear her sing in tongues LIVE. OMG!!! So my girl Ru who will also be singing there says at rehearsals, people were slain in the spirit. Rehearsals ooo.

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Rehearsals toh HOT

No surprises sha. Just playing ‘The presence of the Lord’ during my Quiet time changes the atmosphere. That woman drips anointing. And I hear she is singing an IGBO song too. Can Friday the 18th come already. I always wondered why her songs had sooo much power, praying in the spirit and prophesies in between. I now heard she records LIVE in concert and NOT studio. Abeg difference dey!!! Choi!!! She is my Woman Crush DAILY ooo. Move over #WCW hehehe. Infact as I type, I am watching the last concert she had in SA where she recorded the SHOUT IT LOUD album.

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Worship at its finest!!! #Sinach

You don’t even know when you JUMP up and start speaking and singing in tongues as you watch it. Now talk of being there LIVE.

I recall watching Nathaniel Bassey once in concert.

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Nathaniel at IMELA last year in DCC. #NoWords

That day the spirit of worship jumped into me. Cos I am very sanguine, I can be jumpy jumpy so Praise? I’m gooooooood. But worship? I struggle. So I went with that desire. To grow my Worship life. After that day with Nath, hmmm now E’ can worship forevuuur. Complete with tears and soul totally in sync with God all alone in my room sef. Tz like the most romantic thing. Just worshipping my Sugar Daddy. Oh!!!

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Camp meeting 2013

Now I’m looking to take it to the next level. Most times, raising my hands in worship is hard. It just seems heavy so I go up and down intermittently. I raise and it goes down in like 5/10secs. Hmm. With this Sinach concert, that’s my desire ooo. To truly be able to lift my hands for longer periods and just worship my Sugar Daddy. And Sinach is just anointed. I can’t wait to just worship God with other believers and Sinach singing, loving on my Sugar Daddy on the day that symbolizes the greatest act of LOVE ever. If people dey fall for over night rehearsal, wetin the real day go be like abeg? Anything short of the trumpet blowing, E’ will be there LIVE. To take over this Abuja for God, I need to EAT plenty abeg. Mehn, if you dey Abuja, Good Friday na public holiday ooo. Come!!!
Tz holding at ThisDay dome 5pm and tz free. Yaaaay!!!

Ru actually hugged her and was rubbing it in so I am beefing Ru. Hiss much.

But really I am so excited that I will be there as she does a LIVE concert that would find its way to CD soon. If this isn’t MVP/VVIP screening, what is please?

Happy Easter darlings.

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Easter is the reason Christmas happened

And if this season should leave you with anything, it should be an everlasting knowledge that Jesus didn’t die for LESS. He did it all for you to enjoy His BEST and NEVER settle for less. Carry yourself with ‘pomposity and sagacity’ cos you are God’s MVP!!!

I came that they may have and ENJOY the REAL life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it [a]overflows) MORE than they ever dreamed of… John 10:10 AMP/MSG

Huggy Bunnies Darlings
E’
Testifying FORWARD…

PS
On a lighter note, Subway Surfers World Tour in the spirit of Easter has moved to Rome!!! Yaaay.

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And tz so beautiful. Plus you get to collect Easter bunnies too. How cool is that!!!

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Plus the Spray can awards… Awwww.
If you don’t know Subway Surfers, don’t worry 🙂 But Play Store is ya fwend. And chew and swallow your opinion very slowly… :p

PPS
Just incase you are asking or wondering, NO I don’t run adverts for churches and ministries on my blog. I only run DCC programs and then any other one that pleases me. Cos I’m getting incredible requests and I truly can’t afford to start what I can’t sustain. Tz still a personal christian blog 🙂 but I LOVE my church so… 🙂

PPPS
If you missed CAUTION FOR SINGLES, you missed yo!!!

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LoveDating&Marriage Relationship seminar in DCC Abuja

My Pastor used biblical principles to bring the FULL House down. But hey on Twitter, we put out as much as we could.

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It was amazing!!!

Follow @dccabuja1 for what went down (you gotta scroll down a bit but we used the hashtag #CautionForSingles)
We also have a billion tapes and books on relationships especially that can change your life forever. Just holler at the handle and anywhere in Naija, we can get it to you.

PPPPS
Also the very first ‘Just Us Girls’ in Abuja holds this Saturday at 9 to 10.30am pere. Whooooop.

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Can't wait...

Ladies this would be high fun, high spiritual, and high FAB. You know you wanna TURN UP. This one is packed full of amazingly cool and fabulous stuff. Tz at Kado estate and you can holler at the number above or twitter handle for deets. Meanwhile, anyone have suggestions for Charades items/articles/Words for me? Hard tough ones ooo. Email please. Don’t type here hehehe. eziaha@eziaha.com

I tol’ ya…
Easter is looking real gooooooooood

The REAL boko Haram….

Ndi Boko

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That’s what my mama started calling ’em after the drama that happened in UI in my final year

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Final year...Exam period. UI

when we HEARD that they had written a letter to our school (and like two more schools) that they were coming to bomb us next.
*insert your BEST ‘shuo’ face here*
I’ll spare you the details of the shutdown, students protest and refusal to write exams, and increased security presence that happened then in school and just tell you how my mom and sister didn’t stop yabbing me about it all cos I even repeated such crap to them…
So whenever she called, she will say
‘…ndi boko ha landiala?’
Literally translating to ‘have the ‘boko people’ landed?’
Tz crazy hilarious in Igbo, plus the way she always said it amidst laughter while my sis will also be laughing in the background.  Choi!!!
Momma of mine… Dramatic to the C
Anyways, the truth is rumour or not, students were taking absolutely NO chances.

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Especially cos they were anti Western Education

Exam gbakwa oku, omo, the campus hostels emptied out like we all saw the letter with our korôkoro eyès.

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Parents ringing their kids to come home. This was one rumour we didn’t wanna wait to confirm cos that would mean heaven or hell straight up!!!

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It just made sense and spirit to vamoose.
Yup…Ndi Boko had such powers. Lol.

Fast forward to later that year when my NYSC posting came out. I recall telling my parents I was posted to Bauchi. That period, ndi-boko were killing crazy in that region. Infact there had been calls to stop posting Corpers there as several had lost their lives. Mehn, trust my dad, first thing he said was ‘You are not going!!!’. And momsie? She had started calling people already to ‘effect necessary changes’.
No way on God’s green earth were they going to let me go to Bauchi!!!
And fact is, I knew plenty people who postponed their NYSC to the next batch cos they were posted to problem states. And I know a few who lied that they had all sorts of unprintable diseases just to be re-posted from camp.
That’s to show you how much we value our lives. Nobody wants to deliberately die from Boko-haram bombings and certainly not at this young age. So we find both godly and ungodly ways to stay safe. And alive.

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With my State Coordinator Lagos. Was joking when i told 'em Bauchi

Today in the news, (and I do think you have to make sure you are reading your bible MORE than you are watching the news otherwise, the spirit of despair, fear and depression would soon tackle and overpower you)

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Yup, the news doesn't smile these days

ndi-boko gist is everywhere. Where they aren’t bombing, they are threatening or jail breaking or clashing with our Security operatives.
Almost daily, certainly weekly, one drama goes down. And takes with it innocent lives. Only this year, we have lost near thousands. Kids and students not excluded.
Viewer apathy is actually starting to set in. Gosh!!! God forbid.
So why did I lay out all this Boko drama? Or is BH all I wanna talk about today?
Certainly Nope.
Ok, let’s dive in.
One week, one of those weeks when I had just heard about ENOUGH marital or relationship HELLISH news including how the kids were being affected, a friend now told me of another marital story gone BAD for a colleague of hers.

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Such heart wrenching news

Then it just dawned on me that some times, we use our own legs and walk straight into ndi-boko camp and let our lives get bombed up.
Yup, that’s EXACTLY what happens when you marry wrong.
That’s the real Boko haram. And this time, You become your own boko-haram. You too are guilty!!! Of aiding and abetting your own ‘death’. 
You get yourself into a real ticking time bomb situation when you end up with the wrong life partner and sooner than later, it will go VOOM in your face…

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Lemme talk to the ladies here. Cos most times, we suffer more in such situations. We are the casualties of this war. 
Sweetie, I beg You in the name of God, please don’t COMPROMISE your faith cos of a man!!! Don’t lower your standards just cos your life’s aspiration is to marriage!!! Now I am going to assume that I’m talking to real spiritual believing ladies here. If you aren’t, nne get right with God first ooo cos you can’t make this all important decision without Him. Don’t deceive yourself ooo. 

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Join us the FAB GOD GIRLS ooo...

Ok so let’s proceed…

If Mr Tall Glass of all things HOT n SPICY is NOT a born-again and unquestionably saved believer complete with FRUITS of the spirit NOT just the GIFTS, he is BOKO HARAM!!! Run!!! His soul z not saved/renewed and according to Eph 2:2, there is a DEMON Spirit at work in the sons of disobedience, those who refuse to obey God. Hmm, that spirit can move him to do ANYTHING at ANYTIME!!!

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**shivers**

Nne that is the real boko-haram. Don’t even think about marrying him!!! Run!!!

If he is Mr Swags-on-point, but he doesn’t have any spiritual authority or mentor over him that can call him to order when his head starts touching, and he is even one of those who talk down on Pastors and MOG, he is a ticking time bomb, RUN!!!

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An un-mentored man has already been recruited into the Boko Haram army. Don’t let him practice his skills on you ooo. Experience z NOT the best teacher for the wise.
 
If our Tall, Dark and Handsome doesn’t go to and SERVE in a church or pay his tithe REGULARLY, run!!! A man who cheats God will cheat and shortchange you of life itself… Plus he has no covering!!! Boko haram identified!!! And rejected!!! Tsk tsk tsk!!! Run!!!

If Mr Suave is also Mommy’s boy, honey, you can’t compete with his mom ooo.

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Aaaaaarrrrgggghhh!!!

Neither can you fight it if the boy aint willing to free himself from mommy’s apron.

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The ground no go level ooo. No try yasef

And no wife wants to play second fiddle in her ‘real estate’. It may seem like just a spark that would soon go out but trust me, I recently heard of an under one year divorce case cos of mummy’s influence!!! Tick tock tick tock BOOOM!!!
Bomb will sooner than later detonate in your face!!! Run baby, run. But first, gift him this sucker!!!

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Bomboy!!!

For me, the next point is probably my most important…

If your spiritual authority says ‘don’t marry this man or quit this relationship’ baby mi, don’t even think it. Of course this is me assuming you have Pastors or mentors like my PK and Rev.

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Rev Femi Oduwole and Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo. My MAINESTssss!!!

Trust me, he is NOT gaining natin by stopping you. Instead he is saving your life from being blown up!!! Listen!!! Ask him why…Then take notes to identify any other BH man and then Run!!!

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That 'love' will burn you bad

Run like Road runner. Don’t look back like Lot’s wife. Make sure that loser NEVER catches you. Your life can scatter my Love. Scatter!!! If you dare to disobey spiritual authority especially on this all-important marriage matter, and maybe even now start dodging or fighting your Pastor cos you suddenly think he wants to pour sansan in your garri…. Hmmmmmmmm.
Some mistakes are DEADLY. Even when you repent of it and attempt to get your life back on track, the scars remain. Sometimes very VERY obvious.

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Some scars remain FOREVER...

When your hands have burnt and you come back to your mentor/Pastor, he will accept you but you will deal with the consequences of that isi-ike FOREVER. 

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Listen to your spiritual leaders ooo. Hmm

Hmm, and the koko one, if he beats you in the relationship, and you go ahead, spurn better judgement and marry, please lemme know. So I can gift you a coffin on your wedding day. Sweetie, an abusive man is Boko haram’s ring leader. Someday, your corpse will be what will be taken out of that marriage.

If he is sexing you in the relationship, hmm both of you are being stupid but the girl more IMO. My LOVE, stop!!! You can repent NOW. And if he no gree, baby, madness occurs when you as a wife has ZERO trust in your hubby cos the same line you cross to fornicate is the same you cross to ‘adulterate’. You will just become a detective for nothing. Unpaid crazy one. Nne, no TRUST, No NOTHING.

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You deserve MORE darling

Then he will now boko-haramize you when you now dare to ask him questions!!! Sweerie, oso Abiola… RUN!!! Leave your shoes behind if you have to. 

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More like FLEE

Forget that He is the hottest thing Alex-Ekubo-aint-got-natin-on-him. He oozes class and panache like Paddy Adenuga. He is so charming Okija babalawos and their many charms pale when he appears.   Those things don’t matter as much ooo. The difference between Charming and Harming is the letter C…
See how Harming goes with Haram-ing if you can attempt to ‘funerize’
Harming…Haraming…

Now, my blog is NOT a strictly relationship blog but for some interesting reason, majority of the mails that come to me are relationship related from ladies. Hmmmmm. Like Inthe…, I can actually say tz my ‘bread and butter’ especially when the ladies are actually really ready to follow wise counsel. But guess where the real wahala happens?
When despite wise counsel, she tells you how hard it is to do what’s right, and then goes ahead with ndi-boko and BOOM!!! She is haramized… I wish I could FORCE them but I have learnt that I can’t… I can only talk and pray and hope you make the right choice.

My Pastor Kingsley always says ‘…you deserve who you marry…’ and he doesn’t pity people with ‘marriage drama’ anymore… Because counsel po… Wise counsel is everywhere if we open our eyes a bit. Somewhat like the lawyers will say ‘Ignorance is not an excuse in law…’ Most times, we just ignore or not heed to counsel cos we think we know better. Whatever you see in marriage, you would have seen a shadow in courtship but love dey blind and shack you.
At first, I thought PK was being harsh. Right now, I believe him. It may sound like a harsh thing to say, but tz the truth. Sorry.
Before I start pitying you, I like to ask questions. When you ask questions deeply, you will realize that the cracks were present. The red flags… The ‘Potential Boko haram’ billboard. She just ignored it or downplayed it.

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Then the fall inevitably happens...

Don’t come in here and be telling me ‘people change, you just never know what you will see in marriage until you enter or you are still in the creche of marriage and things may change so don’t talk yet (I had a comedienne tell me that once. I was amazed as to how the devil has blinded and deceived people. I immediately prayed for her cos she sounded like a Haramized wife)…’ And all such absolute rubbish…
Our heavenly Father is NOT wicked. He will NEVER leave you without a witness and neither will He lead you into something that has the potential to change for the worse. No baby, not my Sugar Daddy. 

Singleness is NOT a sin. It is NOT a curse. It is NOT a disease. You won’t be sent out of heaven if you don’t marry BUT marrying the wrong person can take you straight to hell, boko haram style. 
Psychologists have even proved that the wrong person can reduce the quality of your life by 62%. Wow!!!! That is HUGE. Tz way better to be single hoping to be married than to be married, living with the fear of Boko haram and craving singlehood ooo.
Shine your eyes, shine your brain and of course, shine your spirit.
Don’t sacrifice your future on the altar of just being a Mrs…
Let’s do this exercise baby…
Tz simple.
Get a mirror…look at your beautiful face therein. God-girl that you are.
Tell yourself
I am worth more than any Boko-haramization!!!
I am Priced far above rubies.
Too precious to God.
Sugar daughter of THE only Sugar Daddy.
I am God’s biggest deal. He’s invested His ALL in me so I can’t miss it marriage wise cos He’s got His eyes on me.
He will perfect it for me at the right time. He that would come will come and not tarry. I will patiently wait for him while working on myself to be the best mum for my kids.

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Single is FABULOUS too

And I do owe my kids the best Daddy too.
I deserve more than a ticking time bomb.
I will let that loser go… I release him even though it hurts. I sow him as a seed to God. He will bring me a bountiful harvest. My very own David. My perfect slice of heaven. My heaven. My very own ‘Love like a movie’.
*feel free to add more darling*

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Love and Pamper you...

You are a King’s daughter baby. Don’t settle for less. Don’t reduce your standards so low that even lizards can apply and of course at the same time, don’t raise them so high even the Pope can’t apply. Wisdom!!!

Like I said, information is everywhere yo!!! Good ones ooo. Don’t even think your speaking in tongues alone will teach you all you need to know. Try learning to drive by just scabashing and come back to tell me how that goes. Please nne, deliberately read good books, attend good seminars (like LDM), buy messages, etc.

Now I know there will be some married women who are in some kinda haramic situation reading this. My heart bleeds for you. Gosh!!! So what do you do? Can I be sincere with you here?
Yeah…
I dunno. Truth. Cos situations are peculiar. I can’t say what you should do here but I do know you can get counselling. Customised counselling. If you really do need one, I could hook you up. More than anything, you can too pray. Yes PRAY. Gragra won’t do shingbai. God can and  will teach you what to do.

Which is why I love to talk more to the Singles. You have the opportunity to get it right. You can still press the CAUTION button and check out every man to be sure He is not a Boko-haram member.

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Caution baby CAUTION

Which is why I’m delighted to invite you to this month’s LDM seminar in Abuja themed
CAUTION for Singles!!!

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Love Dating & Marriage Abuja

I mean, if you don’t know, you can learn yeah?
Cos that safety sign C can be the difference between heaven and Boko-haram.

Of course you know David’s Christian Centre got relationship on a lock down yeah?

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To the blood!!! Wherever life takes me...

Like we do relationship right. Right from our Senior Pastor to the Ministers and then Eziaha (loool) and the rest of us, we just dey enjoy heaven on earth in our marriages. So when we call a relationship seminar, clear your schedule and come!!!
This Sunday April 13. Petrus Hotel, off Gimbaya street (after Toprank Hotel), Area 11, Garki Abuja. 4.30pm
My Pastor drops it like He hears it. Undiluted and Powerful!!! You don’t wanna miss it. Single or married, this meeting will bless you…
See you there *winks*

Stay FAB darlings.
E’
Testifying FORWARD…

PS:
Yes. Posts come up here once a week now. At the weekends. Seldom twice.
I know, stop protesting already hehehe.
By the way, you guys major rock!!! #FAB4Life
Oh btw, you can reach me on eziaha@eziaha.com or on Twitter @eziahaa

PPS:
Cos I am super nice, I have attached a couple of links to posts that can help my Single Sisters out there…
@inthemidstofher The measure of a (1st Tim 3) man http://www.inthemidstofher.com/2011/03/my-criteriathe-measure-of-man-part-1.html?m=1 (while on her blog, snoop around for Part 2)
Don’t marry Him if… by E’ https://eziaha.com/about/messages-i-have-transcribed/ (Just click and enjoy the relationship posts there)
Why don’t you have a Pastor? By Pastor Mildred Okonkwo http://justusgirlsnaija.com/2014/03/29/why-dont-you-have-a-pastor/
Dangerous men by my Booski http://dumebie.com/2014/03/17/dangerous-men/
Guys, you can actually just read between the lines and know the kind of ladies who have enlisted in the BH army.
Someday God will help me transcribe ‘Don’t marry her if…’ By Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo.
Until then, just believe God. Lol

E’s.Mail…Pre-marital Counselling

Airport lounges are a great place to blog…
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I have done quite some blogging every time I wait…
I actually thought I would spend some time reading this book while I await my flight,
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but I decided I would read the book in-flight since all electronic gadgets would have to be off then…
I am also praying that I get an extra meal pack seeing as I am super hungry and in my hurry, I didn’t have either brekkie or lunch and I am too prudent/stingy to buy airport food…
Tz past 2pm BTW…
Meanwhile, I  have enjoyed all sorts of favor flying ooo… From being upgraded to first class, to extra snacks, to taking a picture in the cockpit…
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He he he. At the checkpoint today, they didn’t even check my hand luggage. Didn’t let me remove my sandals, didn’t do that annoying touching all over they do… Nothing. They just kept saying ‘ah fine original African girl/lady/etc…’ My hubby said that’s how I would have passed with bomb and they will be hailing me…loooooool
Let’s see what happens today…
#opentoverypleasantsurprises#
Free tip: Always wear a blinding smile at the airport… Works!!!
OK this really mean man just came to sit across me with a plate of steamy sweet smelling snails…
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#PureEvil#
Back to the subject matter… With TY Bello’s Yahweh playing nonstop from my phone, lemme welcome you to this segment called E’s.Mail…
So a darling FAB’er sent me this mail…
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Because I have been asked this question time and again, I decided to answer this publicly. Someone else may need the info…

First off, nothing awkward here darling… You know E’ now… Awkward is getting overrated 🙂
Thanks darling… For writing in and for the love… And of course, we know who gets all the glory yeah… #SugarDaddyOfMine

Yes, hubby and I lived in different places for 4+ of the 5+ years we dated…
And believe me, we did counselling with our two different churches tho we were wedding in mine only. He is a leader in his church and dearly beloved of almost every pastor and member so he had to bring his intended to be very checked out and approved first…
Now, while I subscribe to pre-marriage counselling (ranges anything from the popular one week or /two to four weekends crash program to the very rare intensive three months in different churches I think…), I daresay it is NOT enough. Especially the  crash courses…
My opinion tho…
Now I say this because most churches I know won’t join you until you have undergone their marriage counselling classes but has that impacted on the number of divorces, seperations and all sorts that we see even in the church today?
I sincerely believe that marriage is such a HUGE deal so the same we study for our degrees, we also need to study to make this institution which is lifelong work…
Now what am I saying?
I recall as a student in unibadan, there was this time Rev TJ (Rev’s darling babe) was transferred to pastor my branch (Shabach centre). Since it was opposite UI, students were about 3/4 of the congregation. One of the first things she told us then was those in relationships should let her know and bring their intended to her so she can get to know them and counsel along…
***side note… Second and final boarding announcement. Gotta run.
FreeTip2: Avoid the rush,and the queuing especially if you don’t have a huge hand luggage. Always board at the final call 🙂 Catch y’all soon***

8.50pm… Long trip…  But the show must go on…

OK where were we?
So she wanted us to bring our ‘boifwends’ and girlfriends…
I am sure a lot of people wondered why and thought she probably just wanted to hear gist…
But she had her strong reasons…
Anyways,me, even before she said, there was no way I was going to be dating someone and I would not have informed my pastors… Especially because my church was a relationship church and they really understood relationships, evident in the kinda marriage they had.

Now Aku m wasn’t in Ibadan but after I was sure that it was him I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, the next time dude came, fiam I had him visit Rev and his wife for them to scrutinize him wella and probably throw in a few ‘you better don’t mess with our very precious daughter E’ or we will go all ninja on you’ threats… I wasn’t at that meeting but when Rev called me, he was like ‘…ah Eziaha, this one is a good one ooo… I like him. I can’t threaten him…’ and all that. Rev teju also loved him too. Intact, I tell her she loves him more than me, because they both have reserved personalities while Rev and myself are the sanguines yo!!!
My dear, that was where our counselling began ooo. At the very beginning of the relationship… Every time we were together in town, we would visit them, there were many calls, many individual sessions, many counsels, a few quarrel settlings lol, but basically, they were involved.
Because he attends winners which is NOT a relationship church, I made sure I over-dosed him on books, and messages on relationships from Rev, Pk, Pastor Bimbo and others like Gary Chapman and co…  We would read together, discus OVER THE PHONE most times, ask questions, etc.
That formed part of counselling too…
Then I also wanted him to meet pk…I wanted pk to ‘shake him up’ a bit since Rev had shown him love. He he he. Balance jare… Don’t judge
Infact, i used to invite him for DCC programs but he couldnt make most till MAN UP… A relationship program just for men. He bought a ticket and came all the way to LAGOS just to attend Man up and see pk if possible. He didn’t see him but he got his pin. Then they got talking on Bb. Intact, pk had to move him to his personal bbm because he is his daughter’s fiancée…  Phew, two appointments gone awry, they never met till the wedding day but on Bb they talk. Infact Bolaji used to say that whenever he puts up my picture, pk will ping him as if to say ‘…hmmm, I am watching you ooo. No just try yasef where my daughter dey…’ Loooool
No slacking oooo… I couldn’t be dating anyone and the spiritual authorities won’t be carried along…
So now, when Bolaji proposed,
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we were back to Rev and his wife THE NEXT DAY Loooool.
Both to inform them and be prayed for…
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Cos we were going to see my people and God knows we needed the prayers, counsel, etc being that I had been warned not to bother bringing a Yoruba person…
All though the drama that ensued during the whole wedding process, rev was carried VERY along… Ditto pk…
What was all that? Part of marriage counselling because dealing with the in laws comes with the package…
Now when we started the marriage counselling proper, my hubby was coming from his base to IBADAN  every time. Kai… The flight tickets no be here Loooool.

The good thing was that with that sort of foundation, we did fewer classes than the ‘regular’
In fact on two occasions, we left Rev’s house at 10pm (bless the Oduwole’s for me dear God). The the next day we would be back to Lagos and hubby would fly back to base…
Then we also had a session with another of my pastors in school, Rev Bunmi… Choi
That one was sex counselling… You will hear tinzzzzz and trust Rev Bunmi na… God bless him he is also a medical doctor hehehe… But I loved it…
Then I had to travel to his church too for counselling and marriage interview. It was going to be a crash course since I wasn’t wedding in Winners. This one caused wahala ooo, I won’t lie. Cos I didn’t want to go, especially as I had come earlier and it didn’t hold and the wedding was drawing close and most weekends were busy and my parents weren’t excited about me travelling weekends plus I was still working. I think hubby had to report me to Rev first and then, of course (who born me), I found myself making the trip two weeks to the wedding… Choi.
If you see the drilling for the interview at Winners eh…  Infact after drilling us together, they now seperated us, asked us very intimate questions and then compared answers to be sure we weren’t lying… Lol. Frankly, I didn’t expect all that and to God be the glory, we passed their interview in flying colours. In fact the head of the panel (yes they were three) now said they were very impressed with our session and that they had not interviewed a couple this in sync before and who seemed to understand and were well prepared for what they were going into. They said so many glowing things about us and coming from Winners, you know that is a big deal yeah? I remember calling rev very excitedly to gist him… Aside the interview, we did a two day marathon counselling session with different pastors handling different topics. My favorite was the one on communication. The facilitator did an amazing job. Then my least fave was ………………….lol. No comment

So my darling J, we did counselling-a-plenty:-from dating days, to pre-engagement, post-engagement and pre-marital counselling…
And the truth is, it never stops…
Infact one thing we started doing in marriage was to listen to marriage tapes together and then discus it. Tz our very own Love Dating and Marriage seminar…
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And reason ooo… Any reason!!!
So that way, we are sure we will keep hearing the right voices all through this journey…
If we are going to have the marriage of our dreams, we have to deliberately build it…

Now, of course many people have good or even great marriages without all of this. Oh well, I aint sure but I guess…
Me sha, I know say in the multitude of counsel there is safety….
I didn’t want to go into this marital journey ill-prepared and walahi I know I have a lot of wahala  and plenty to learn so I took advantage of all the arsenals within my reach…

I hope this helps…
Cheers

E’
Going Forward…Still Testifying

PS
Started this post on Monday… Concluded it Tuesday right in Unilag auditorium where we are having one job awareness thingy as part of our POP activities for batch A Corps members…
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Feb 13 in view… Thank you Jesus.
#Can’wait #BatchA2013

Let’s give ’em som’in to be proud about…

I love mentor-mentee relationships… Especially those within the kingdom. I love such phrases as…
‘…one of my sons was telling me…’
‘…my father in the faith/Lord said…’
‘…one of my mentees came to see me…’
I really look out for such phrases whenever I am listening to a message or reading a book.
I know that we can’t run this race alone without healthy associations or mentoring and I am VERY WARY of men of God who just appear from nowhere without any ‘father figure’ in their ministry… I listen to/read a good number of preachers and I can tell
‘oh, so so and so is this person’s mentor…’ and all.
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I especially love when a mentor is invited to preach in a mentee’s church and I listen VERY CLOSELY to the introduction by the mentee and the opening statements by the mentor of the mentee… it gives me a beautiful idea of their relationship and I am looking for what to ‘steal’ from that. Funny yeah? Loooool… But tz wisdom…
This morning, I was listening to a message preached by Rev Femi in his own Pastor, Rev Victor Adeyemi’s church convention in my final year.
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I was a part of the protocol that went with Rev and I was just smiling as I recalled all that went down as Rev Victor introduced Rev. All the glowing things one Rev said about the other and also what Rev’s wife had to say about their relationship with Rev Victor and his family… You could literally feel the honor they have for their Pastor… Ditto the love. I could also tell how immensely PROUD of Rev Femi that Rev Victor is… IMMENSELY… And trust me, I have heard Rev Victor talk PLENTY times about Rev in different meetings.
With such a ‘son’ like Rev Femi, you would be proud. Proud that God called you into ministry in the first place…
And then i thought,
‘Am I giving the mentor figures in my life something to be proud about? Can they give such a good report about me too? Is their mentorship in vain or fruitful? All the sweating they sweat on the pulpit, all the time they spend on one-on-ones, am I making them of much or no effect? Can they truly say ‘Eziaha, I am proud of you…?’

Hmm…
I am still answering some of those questions and making necessary adjustments…
Yesterday was my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo’s birthday and he happens to be birthday mates with his ‘son’ who pastors DCC Abuja.
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Trust me, Pastor Busayo is a son in whom the Okonkwo’s are well pleased. And judging by the love that was shown to Pastor B too, I can say DCC as a whole is well pleased in him too. I spent a month plus in DCC Abuja and Pastor B’s zeal and passion is something else. Truly, like Father like son… I really look forward to moving to Abuja and joining DCC Abuja and doing God’s work cos I have seen how this ‘son’ is as fiercely loyal to God’s work as he is to God’s servant PK.
I love that Pk can say of Pastor B,
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‘This is my son in whom I am well pleased…’
Kai, all this kain tin dey sweet me. I love healthy loving vertical relationships… I especially love to study the ‘lesser’ person especially the one that Hebrews 7:7 says is being blessed as a result of honoring the ‘greater’ and in whom the greater is well pleased…
And the scripture is replete with such healthy relationships… Paul and Timothy, Joshua and Moses, Elijah and Elisha, etc. Remember I said HEALTHY not PERFECT. There are NO perfect people…
I did a lot of thinking this morning… till now.
I will still meditate on this…
I don’t want to be a lazy mentee, or one that a mentor would brand ‘unserious’. The kind that would keep coming for counsel but will still go away and do NOTHING about it…
It is FOOLISH to ignore what your FATHER taught you… Prov 15:5
I certainly don’t want to be a foolish mentee…
That foolish mentee that would see trouble coming, ignore the mentors advice and enter… or will I obey and avoid it… (Prov 22:3)
I have decided that I want to give my mentors plenty to be proud about…
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Let them know that their labour over me is NOT in vain…
And just incase you are wondering why the focus is on mentors and pastors…
That is simple…
I Cor 11:1… IMITATE/FOLLOW me, just as I IMITATE/FOLLOW Christ…
My mentors FOLLOW Christ… Serious copy-copy these spiritual fathers of mine. Totally sold out. Me sef no dey shame as I dey do my own follow follow ooo…
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#DontJudgeMe . (I should have titled this post FOLLOW FOLLOW)
They also take their calling and following VERY seriously because they know they are accountable to the Boss, God!!!
Heb 13:17… Obey your LEADERS and FOLLOW their orders. They watch over your souls without resting knowing that they MUST give God an ACCOUNT of their SERVICE…

So tge onus is now on YOU to FOLLOW the right fathers and mentors…

If you go follow blind mentor, na ditch you go enter ooo (Matt 15:!4). And you won’t give God som’in to be proud about…
Your call…

Oh btw, tz two months today
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and “I’M STILL DO” too
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Signing those dotted lines? BEST decision of my LIFE (after being born-again of course…). We are caps off grateful dear God…
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And with both of us FOLLOWING these couple mentors as they IMITATE Christ even in their marriages, you can be sure that this walk/work will keep getting better and better… And we will continue to enjoy THE MARRIAGE OF OUR DREAMS… Amen.

My testifier tomorrow is another ‘follow-follow’ woman. I love her to smithereens… And tomorrow is such a special day in her life… YAY!!! Can’t wait…

And seriously, thank you to the F.A.B community for all your support and loving… keep spreading the link to the blog. Tz pretty easy http://www.eziaha.com
And so is my besties blog http://www.dumebie.com
Yay!!!
Booski kicked off her blog just a couple of weeks ago and she has upgraded to dotcomtinz. If you are still on a http://www.???.WORDPRESS.com and you started blogging eons ago, COVER YOUR FACE!!! :p
Yes I am yabbing you… y’all know yourselves…
And yup, my email is now
*drumroll*
eziaha@eziaha.com
Whoooooooop!!!
If you are a blogger on a dotcom level and you need a customized email address, holla. Tz free btw…
You are welcome…
🙂

Muah

E’
Going Forward… Still Testifying

PS:
Just as I put finishing touches to this post, Priceless pings me to harass me cos I haven’t updated the blog, asking me if I have sold it.
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So I said I will yab her… so this is me yabbing her… FOLLOW FOLLOW…
Ah Priceless and her hubby are confirmed FOLLOW FOLLOW too ooo. Amazing couple. I love the BUNDLES… Her testifying post is also loading…
Oh btw, I already mentioned that I have OVER 31 voices already right… Yup. So entries closed… thank you for understanding
🙂

PPS:

First LDM comes up this Sunday at 4.30pm
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Where PK gets all these titles is indeed between him and God… hehehe.
If you are in Lagos, please attend. DCC is in Amuwo Odofin. Call 080777714411 for all the details you need…

PPPS:

You guys thought I was cooking up a storm abi? Pastor M cooked up a tornado yesterday while I was waiting for a blog post…
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Choi…
Woman of God (and hubby) keep moving the goal post…
I wish I visited. 😦
BTW, watch out on http://www.justusgirlsnaija.com this Sunday morning. The post would be live then… Tz also Pastors appreciation day…