Why am I still single Part 2… A message preached by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

Ok guys, sorry this is coming about 2weeks later than I mentioned. My internet has been craps!!! Please read Part 1 here ICYMI

Ok so we continue from number

4. Are you able?

Do you have capacity as in financial capacity? Of course not to say you must have the whole money in the whole world but even at this level, can we see some fruits that tell us you are going in the right direction? Because some guys KNOW they cannot marry yet and not even in the near future but they keep misleading and wasting the lady’s time. They become HUMAN DELAYS and are just in a relationship for the fun of it. THE PURPOSE OF A RELATIONSHIP IS TO MARRY OOO not just to date forever.

Hello men, women don’t wanna marry a poor brother ooo please and don’t spiritualise it. Will you let your daughter marry a poor prospect-free efulefu? No. they cannot marry in faith because the landlord will not collect rent ‘in faith’. The principal will not collect school fees ‘in faith’. My brother, go and work. Marriage is an expensive venture darlings so are you able? Of course same goes for the women, please bring something to the table too.

At this point PK clarifies that story that he didn’t have anything when he married Pastor M incase any brother wanna use that as an excuse to trap a woman. Yes he was not rich but he had something he was doing with his life. He had faith and it was real because it had started producing results. ANY FAITH WITHOUT RESULTS IS FAKE!!! He was already in ministry and though he didn’t have liquid cash, he had a car already gotten entirely by FAITH (He shared the story again). He also had a place he was living and could afford the basics at least. So please PK had faith then, he still has faith and that faith is still producing. All you need to see is potential. If he says he has faith, what has the faith produced since? Are you on course? Are you making any progress? Ehen then you can now hook up with a spouse who is also on course and then things will move on upwards from there. That is how we know you are ABLE.

He also spoke on materialism. Good girls are actually not hard to impress. A good godly girl will understand even if you don’t have it all then. A woman is like an incubator so when you plant that seed inside of her she will nurture it till it grows. So if you have real faith and are bold and eloquent enough, you can convince her to marry you even if her level seems higher that yours at the time. For example, PK with an OND married Pastor M who had a Masters by then. He had a vision and convinced her of it plus promises sef (I will take you round the world) and she married because she is a godly woman and now, it is happening. (He promised her EXCITING or you can just read all the posts in that series here)

PK and PM

PK and PM

Even when they were going to marry, they didn’t have all the money (Pastor M was still doing her MASTERS then while PK was already in full time ministry) but they had faith, confidence, and were led by God and there were weddings and no, the church money no enter am. So please, no loafers whose faith have produced nothing yet not even transport fare. Siddon ehn, tighten your faith belt well, get on the word because faith works before you jump enter marriage.

And again, being financially able ain’t limited to men alone. A woman too should bring something to the table.

Socially, emotionally, mentally ability is also important. In marriage, you would have to be making adjustments and sacrifices to your life, to tolerate. He that would get married will have trouble in the flesh meaning inconveniences which is why Paul says he wants to save us from it all so stay single hehehe (Ephesians )

A mommy’s boy is NOT ABLE – (All those ‘I cannot marry anybody except my mother agrees’ comedian boys)

A selfish self-centred person is NOT ABLE

Just get the message for more biko hehehe. Now the final one

5.Are you amiable?

Are you Pleasant, good natured, likeable? Are you attractive? There is something about beauty and neatness that attracts. Nope, you don’t have to be Miss World to be attractive. Everybody can be attractive. Please order the message 7ways to be a more attractive person. Call our number which I have provided at the end.

Ever noticed that in a group, some people are more attractive than the others and everyone wants to be around them not because they are the finest ooo but because they are amiable. Are you likeable or always frowning? Are you always neat or dirty? It is possible that your physique, cleanliness, ethics and etiquette is what is keeping you single ooo. Ladies you must have your bath at least twice a day: Morning and night. Men can even get away with bathing just once. And you must bath with soap and sponge not just one of the two. The work of soap is different from the work of sponge so using one is like brushing with either only toothpaste or only toothbrush. They must go together to get the best results. You must brush twice daily too. If you have smelling breath issues, visit a dentist and fix it. (Read my dental hygiene post).

Mouth ordor cannot be cured with prayers and fasting ooo. It would even make it worse. Could be food accumulating in spaces in the teeth and the mixture cannot smell nice when you talk. Just visit a dentist and have them diagnose and deal with it. Feel free to have breath mints and co handy to keep your breath fresh.

And he tells the story that makes me laugh EVERYTIME I am listening to the message lol. Here goes

So back then in his worldly days, he went to this boutique to buy some cloths. Back then boutiques in Festac were small and all so as he was there, this girl entered and that was the end of everyone breathing. Her stench filled up everywhere. You can’t talk or laugh because you are just managing yourself to breath small small. Omo, as the girl comot, see how everyone took deep breaths lol. Dem begin breath again. The boutique owner brought out spray and sprayed everywhere hahahaha. PK said instead of her to go and buy soap and sponge, she was coming to buy cloths. Dem suppose baptize am in Izal and Dettol leave am there to soak lol.

So dear, sponge is to scrub all the sweat that accumulates on the skin, with the help of the soap. You must shave your armpit because those hair there will hold odour even if you bath twice. Pk says some people need to use that iron sponge for pot hahaha.

But really as a woman, if you are dirty, what HOPE do your kids have??? Ugh!!!

Also dress well. Not everything in vogue would fit you. Don’t be pressured. Wear what fits and look good in it. Do your hair neat and fine and let it fit. It don’t have to be Brazilian ooo. Tz not she wey get Brazilian dey marry hahahaha. Plus men don’t even know the difference.

Have good character and be polite as a lifestyle not only when you see an eligible bachelor. Use ‘please’ and ‘excuse me’ regularly. Don’t walk into a place and not greet everyone especially when new in a place. You dunno who the boss may be. He may not look like it ooo. Kai, rude girls are a huge turn off.

Have you been blessed today/tonight?

Lol.

This is how PK and now PM end their preaching. Even other Ministers in church

Evening, morning, afternoon or today, once you hear that, sermon is over in DCC Lagos.

Trust you enjoyed this. Please share with your single friends, male and female especially your Single and ready for marriage ones. You can worship with DCC in Lagos.

Victory Dome Behind PHCN Office, Fatgbems Bus Stop, Amuwo Odofin, Lagos

1st Service – 7.00am 2nd Service – 8.30am 3rd Service – 10.00am

Midweek service Wednesday 6.30pm

DCC Victoria Island, Elegushi Beach Road, Beside Meadow Hall School, After 3rd Roundabout, Lekki, Lagos.

Sunday Service – 11.00am

Rush Hour Fellowship (Midweek service especially for those who work on the Island) Tuesdays – 6pm at Silverbird Cinema, Hall 4.

Instead of going to enter traffic, enjoy Rush hour fellowship and be refreshed.

Love Dating and Marriage (the program where this message and such relationship messages are preached) holds at different intervals in the year. If you would call our numbers, they can send you reminder texts if you wish. Website: http://davidschristiancentre.org/ Phone number: 08077714411

See you this weekend with WEEKEND BANTS. Since we are publishing Friday, weekend bants will appear on Sunday.

Blessed weekend guys…

E’

What Price would you be willing to pay for a Ring?

Recently I asked on Twitter if it was true that till today in the year of our Lord 2014, men still throw the line ‘Get pregnant first before I marry’ and I amazingly got answers in the affirmative with most people even wondering what kinda no-brainer question that was. And frankly, it was a sincere question.
I knew such happened in the past but today, girls suppose don wise up and guys suppose don sense up…
Why did I ask? Ajoyo who blogs at http://thepassionchronicles.wordpress.com/ has been doing this series of ‘Beneath the sheet’ and tz centred around this silly guy who thinks he is God’s gift to (silly) women and so insists that you must be preggy before marriage and there were girls doing all sorts to land his ring. Serious iberibe indeed.
Y’all know how they say ‘art imitates life’ but still I just still assumed uncle A was being over imaginative.
Then wham!!! I heard and saw something. That prompted me to hit twitter and then my fears were confirmed.
Why? Oh why would any lady do this to herself. Tz bad enough that you are indulging in pre-marital sex, then for the man to INSIST that you get pg first and you agree and start doing all sorts just to get pregnant and get him to marry you?
Jesus didn’t die for this ooo. And (no pun intended) Chukwu di oooo!!!
Do you realise that
1. You can get pg and the dude will still NOT marry you?
2. You can get preggers and dude can drop dead tomorrow?
3. You can get preggers, get married to him with the pg and LOSE the pregnancy or worse still the baby post-birth?
4. You are most likely NOT the only one he is sexing so darling, you are in a cheap fertility competition?
5. All of the above and MORE!!!

To him, you are just a baby-factory and not a companion. He loves children and NOT you. So children are now the ONLY reason why we marry? So those couples who don’t have kids are incomplete? Hian.

It seems so unfair!!! Sex is NOT love ooo. Like my pastor said at the last LDM tagged CAUTION FOR SINGLES, ‘If sex is love, then prostitutes should be the best marriage and relationship counsellors now’. I truly feel we are sooooo precious to God that no man should even open his gutter to suggest pre-marital sex not to talk of knocking you up. He should be scared that you will slap him sef. It just seems really unfair.
Nuffair!!!
Ladies, if he choses to degrade you, should you indulge him?
Should you sacrifice so much for a ring?
Tz very painful.

And I’m aware ladies are paying prices they shouldn’t afford to pay to land a ring?
Some ladies have moved in and are not just playing wife but playing omoodo (househelp) too.
Some ladies be putting their lives on pause, swallowing any rubbish they won’t take (from their pops or bros) from any male cockroach just to land a ring.
Some ladies are investing their money on an efulefu without any vision or drive just so he can make them Mrs.
Lemme not talk about the ones who are lying, living false lives, etc.

Some prices are too high for a ring babe. You shouldn’t afford it.
And guys, some prices are way too high to wife a woman.

I don’t even have anything more to say.
There is the right price to pay for a ring.
Anything else is just wahala you can’t afford.

That’s why I’m super excited about this month’s Love Dating and Marriage seminar at David’s Christian Centre. This Sunday, May 11, 2014 at 4.30pm.
Tagged The Price of a Ring!!!

How much can you pay?

How much can you pay?

You really wanna make this one if you are in Abuja or order the CD after the program if you aren’t.

Petrus Hotels Royale
Agatu street, off Gimbiya street Area 11, Garki Abuja.

Feel free to invite anyone you know in Abuja. Single, Married, Male, female. Holler!!!

And yes, you may visit http://www.dccabujablog.com for more details on the program and much more about our church.

May I just end with this.
In the past two weeks, curiously and without looking for, I have met (online and offline) several girls who just opened up to me on how they quit pre-marital sex. Because I met them back to back, it just released something on my inside. One of them, a very very pretty girl, talked about how she would rather sleep on the streets and starve than indulge any more. She spoke with so much passion I wished I could just lift her up and spin her around in excitement.
And she said even though it was hard, it is possible. Her passion moved me to tears. If I never believed it was possible, that girl made me a believer.
Darling, have you been indulging in PMS? Tz not too late boo. Stop, confess that sin, receive mercy, forgiveness and grace, do an overhaul of your (close) friends if they are not willing to change, and stay accountable. And of course, never put yourself in compromising situations. Avoid living life on a cliff. Don’t tempt yourself.
I wish I could interview that girl. I mean, she shared so many stories with me I had goosebumps. She said something like when you truly decide that you would not compromise whether for marriage or money, God himself becomes your source and He won’t leave you stranded. All you need to do is throw those emotions and desires to Him.

Nuff said abeg.
Just be sure you are paying the right price for that ring and if you don’t know, then you can learn.

This weekend is looking goooooooood. I’m thinking of seeing Single moms club by Tyler Perry. I hear tz a good one, plus I love TP so…
Enjoy yours too.
And FAB Adadioramma 1 of Igbo land, happy belated birthday.
Ada the Ada... hehehe

Ada the Ada… hehehe

I redeemed myself yeah? Hehehehe. God’s blessings shower on you and your fam. Amen.

Muah
E’

Your Girlfriend is NOT your wife… Part 1

Your girlfriend is NOT your wife…

So this message was preached a few years back by my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo…

papa k

I am not sure where he preached it but does it matter? I doubt… I ma just happy he preached it because it is like one of my most fave messages…

It has a lot of yabis sha but ladies… No vex… I will try and tone it down some but I promise sha, it may still be scathing for some…

You see eh, not every woman is a wife ooo. Guys sadly know how to follow hips but the real qualities they do not look out for and guess who gets burnt?

And the average woman? She is stuck in a world that is NOT real… Hollywood, Mills and Boons, Nollywood, etc. Oh did I mention the magazines and websites that almost move me to tears with how FAKE they are…And ths orry LOVE prescriptions they offer…

eish…

Truth is, if you don’t know the qualities that work, you can learn. Don’t be allergic to knowledge. So read this (which is of course not exhaustive) and share with everyone you know… Ladies and Gentlemen alike…

Ok let’s separate the girlfriends from the wifeys…

Again, message by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo of David’s Christian centre, but I would of course color it with some E’ flava for your reading pleasure…

Eziaha

Proverbs 18; 22… He who finds a wife finds a good thing…

For Pk, it is just incredible how and why single men can not see. Infact, a National prayer meeting just for VISION so that they can see what true virtues are…

Not hips, lips and finger tips…

Sadly, most single men are looking for girlfriends and NOT wives. BLIND AS A BAT yo… It takes training to see… Many are the eyes that look, few are the eyes that see…

Eg, some men are still more interested in the lady being slim than the virtues within. Slim, tall and fair is what most men want even unknowingly. Sometimes, wives don’t come like that… Wives may NOT be too tall, a bit plump, dark sometimes… Some men actually don’t know that when that woman gets pregnant and starts dropping, she may lose the slim oooo… I mean, it is NOT bad in itself to want certain physical qualities but it should be reasonable. What should be uncompromisable should be the inner values and virtues… So if it is only shape you married for, if she loses it, that marriage may be on a downward spiral…

Usually, when couples come in for counseling because of issues in their marriage, PK says one of the first thing he asks them is

‘…Where did you meet?’

Because there are places you meet girlfriends and there are places you meet wives. Eg, Rebekah was found at the well at the time when diligent women come to draw water… Location is important.

Another question he asks is ‘…why did you marry him or her?’

That’s how you trace a faulty foundation. Cos some of the answers are CRAZY mehn… some even say they do NOT even know why… When hips have blinded you… loool.

Some say, someone, an agent linked them up. Looool.

It is usually girlfriends that have agents that are looking for husband for them Not wives. They have self dignity. There are some channels and mediums used to meet men that smell of desperation eg dating sites, radio shows where you drop your number and email addy and credentials looool. Ihe uwa sha

‘Call me if you need a wife…’

Really???

And PK said he has met with MANY men who have hooked up with all these internet girls, slept with them EASILY and dumped them. Chai, ladies be wise na… That is cos the men know that for you to drop your number anywhere online, you are desperate and would give in to their any desires since you dey find husband desperately. A guy even asked PK for prayers against fornication cos he was sleeping with them internet girls on  per second billing.

That is how CHEAP they are.

😦

Nne eh, if you marry on the internet, you will most likely enter a net. Wives are NOT met like that. Even if the world pressures you, resist the temptation to make yourself cheap or unnecessarily available.

Any thing too common diminishes in value (Got this line from my Papa TD Jakes. Love HIM HUGE)

Prov 18;22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor of the Lord…

In the kingdom of God, we don’t find babes or girlfriends, we find WIVES. You are first a wife before you are married. If doesn’t jump on you on the altar. The man leaves his mom and dad and cleaves to his WIFE.

Please don’t get me started on the Bomboys… ewwwwwww

Prov 31; 30

Beauty is vain, charm is deceitful. A woman that fears the LORD is what we talking about yo!!! (Loool that is my remix)

Not that it is bad ooo but for beauty and charm to be the major reason you are getting married…??? No Sir…

So if you don’t have the CD ‘7questions wise women’ ask, this is a good time to go and buy it…

Oh wait… I have already blogged about it before…

Oh sorry, that was 7 qualities wise men want… (search my blog)

Go and buy the CD jor. Call 08077714411 or 08028356363 to order jor…

This is a good place to stop… Check back in two days (Tuesday) for Part 2…

I will kick that off by discussing one of the 7 QUESTIONS WISE WOMEN ASK… And then we will proceed proper into separating the girlfriends from wives…

Toodles

E’