Purpose, Seasons and a GIANTSLAYER TURNS ONE!!!

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It was Wednesday, September 16, 2015 when I started noticing a tiny, almost negligible growth right on his lower inner left eye. Slowly but surely, it continued to grow till it was SO OBVIOUS.

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crazy I don’t have a picture but this was how it was

People would always ask ‘what happened to his eye?’ and everytime I would say NOTHING!!! Finally, I decided to take him to the hospital and their diagnosis just annoyed me. There were too many big names thrown around and we were passed from doc to doc until we ended with TWO consultants and err, surgery would be the solution right after they had done tests on the growth to determine what kinda growth it was, and then we were finally referred to LUTH.

Wooooooh, I just carried my baby and went home. Tests ko, LUTH ni. That was when I decided that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! Nobody is knocking my baby out with any general anaesthetic and putting him under the knife to take out this stupid growth that kept increasing. I decided it was time to WAR. EVERY DAY, MORNING AND NIGHT, I would anoint that growth and speak to it, cursing it and commanding it to shrink and die from its roots and NEVER to come back. I also laid the referral letter before God and declared that I would NEVER have to use it. I speak over it everytime and for a long time, I did not notice ANYTHING. NO REDUCTION, nothing!!! Because I was always checking it everytime and I noticed it was even increasing. I decided to STOP looking at it aside that anointing. A long time passed and then one day, I noticed it was going down. I didn’t stop my confessions and anointing for about five months and then one day, almost like magic, I noticed that the growth was COMPLETELY GONE!!! (You see why i say you should stay consistent in fighting?) Azzin, COMPLETELY. As I rejoiced, God told me

‘…don’t you know you have a GIANT SLAYER on your hands…I mean, we are talking GIANTS here so what’s a STUPID growth?…’

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You see guys, mothering KingDaveed has brought me joy unspeakable but what I really wanna highlight is how God used this GIANT SLAYER to just propel me into PURPOSE!!!

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I realised i was pregnant at the same time I started my job with the UN. I stopped work and had to relocate from Abuja for reasons connected to his birth. My goodness, I was one heck of a DEPRESSED and FRUSTRATED mama. Yes I LOVED being a mom but my goodness, I HATED the fact that I was giving up a career of my dreams and all my friends were just moving forward and here I was stuck with diapers and breast pumps. Look guys, it was HARD. I cried a whole lot. I look back today and I am soooooo thankful I had KingDaveed just came into my life and reroute me from living a life that was anything BUT His PERFECT WILL. Gosh, I am sooooo thankful that I do not even KNOW what to do!!! All those days I spent being NOTHING but a mom have been days that have defined my very life today.

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All the things God taught and told me about my future, I WOULD NEVER KNOW IF I STILL HAD MY 8to5pm. I recall when I looked forward to going back to work and EVERYTIME it just felt like all I was seeing was God’s BACK!!! No peace, No word, nothing!!! The day I threw my will and desires out of the window, my Jesus began to speak. I began to thank God for my portion. I began to embrace the season I was in.

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I began to truly enjoy being a mom, stress, meltdowns and all. I stopped all my silly comparisons with my friends in a career because I understood that what God had called them to was their business and not mine and if I chuck my nose in my purpose. I would realise I do not even have time to compare. I didn’t let any pressure from my people get to me, and there was a LOT!!!

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But as KingDaveed was approaching his first birthday, I felt like God was trying to tell me something. It was fuzzy but I just knew He was set to just say something. As I prayed concerning the photoshoot I wanted to do, God told me to capture my everyday life with KingDaveed in the pictures. I was so excited about the idea and I recall sharing with my bestie Booski and she just couldn’t wait for the pictures.

That frame was a gift from Booski. LOVEEET

That frame was a gift from Booski. LOVEEET

You need to understand that for the better part of KingDaveed’s first year, it had just been BOTH OF US. We had wayyyyyy too much memories together and God wanted me to make the shoot about it.

Yup, he went EVERYWHERE with me

Yup, he went EVERYWHERE with me

And right in the middle of the shoot, God told me

Eziaha, it is time for you to move to the NEXT SEASON OF YOUR LIFE…

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If I tell you I didn’t understand what God meant, I lie!!! But even then, what I knew was little and so over the next couple of weeks, God started to REALLY explain SEASONS to me, how what I thought was merely a ‘low output season’ for me was actually a HUGE part of His PERFECT PLAN. That time when my whole life was consumed with this little human here, He was in it.

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Can I just take a moment to really appreciate two of my besties who would LISTEN to me as I exhausted their credit time after time just running them through what God has told me and gosh these girls would listen, make sense of it all for me, tell me how much I was ABLE to do ALL that He had told me to do. Valerie and Dumebi, you girls are ROCKSTARS!!! And I do mean ROCKS and STARS. I can’t even begin to deserve you girls. Nah!!!

And just to make sure I had the time to pursue all that He called me to do, He sent me a homehelp literally from heaven.

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My lil chef

(Almost) All my routines with KingDaveed, she took over. I can wake up and just go sit before God downloading for the first 6hours of my day knowing that she got KingDaveed covered.

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My prayer and prayer room partner

I can pull allnighters studying and fleshing up the business ideas God has given because I didn’t have an exhausting day. I could actually reach more ladies as God brought them to me because I didn’t have to be consumed with KingDaveed. Now, don’t get me wrong, I still spend an awful lot of time with KingDaveed

somedays, we just don't wanna smile

somedays, we just don’t wanna smile

but God had to teach me that it was OK to leave him with her and work for my new season because He was watching over him/them. Diaper changing, bathing, washing, feeding (aside breastfeeding which I intend to carry on till he is at least 1yr and half, just incase you are wondering), rocking to sleep, etc, Nkechi handles it all and that’s because God has moved me from that season. I occasionally slide in and do some of these but it is now Nkechi’s to handle.

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Sometimes I wonder the direction my life would have taken if I didn’t conceive at the time I did. Would my roots have gone as deep as they are now? Would I have started my own businesses? Would I have been hearing God as I do now? Would I be working on the things I am working on now? Would I still be stuck in a season that was less than His PERFECT WILL? Would I be frustrated or nah?

Look, I am so thankful for KingDaveed for all the above and more.

My church buddy

My church buddy

KingDaveed also made me LEARN FIRSTHAND what it meant to have compassion for people with kids. Look, I am ashamed to say that I was that chick who if I was in a bus, especially when I was in school, going from Lag to Ibadan for example, I would AVOID any row that had any baby or child. I just didn’t care for children, especially if they DARED to not be still. And then there were days I would have to take a bus with KingDaveed because I really couldn’t afford to take a cab and it would HIT me!!! Imagine someone doing that to KingDaveed???

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African mama

 

I went with KingDaveed to the market everytime when I was alone and I recalled how I wasn’t exactly nice to women who were backing their kids and carrying two or three market bags. I walked in those shoes and I LEARNED compassion. Now, I am constantly looking out for that woman who I can help in what little way or the other. I have become that chick who would quickly strike off something from my shopping list so I could be a blessing financially to some mama who REALLY needs it. I literally enter the market looking for ONE mom to help in whatever way I can. It made me soooooo thankful for what I had especially when I start to even remotely complain, because my eyes were opened to women who could BARELY even feed their kids. I mean, God used KingDaveed to give me a real perspective check.

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Back to the giant slaying story. When God told me that, it stirred something in me. It stirred a GIANT in me too. I knew I couldn’t afford to stay slacking as I mother this boy. My A-game has to be on fleek, spiritually.

You best believe this boy will LOVE JESUS like crazy!!!

You best believe this boy will LOVE JESUS like crazy!!!

I had to grow. QUICKLY!!! As the last born myself, God had to teach me to make my decisions concerning MY SON as HE LED ME and not let ANYONE ELSE’s opinion affect me, NO MATTER WHO. It meant I had to really download from heaven concerning XYZ before my mom’s opinion came in and I had to learn how to put my feet down on my decisions.

TheBIBLE had to be my GUIDE

TheBIBLE had to be my GUIDE

Azzin, I say my NO and MEAN IT!!! Being a mom to this GIANT SLAYER just matured me quickly. I had a destiny in my hand, literally and I am determined to raise him truly in the way of God and not according to the world. I have to keep firing prayers into his NOW and his FUTURE. I couldn’t afford to slack.

BIO goals haha

BIO goals haha

I feel like a truly different Eziaha. The old Eziaha went the moment I became a mom. God had to use Him to re-route my life and place me on the right track. I feel like an EZIAHA on PURPOSE!!!

Purpose, right in the middle of the 'ordinary' like cooking

Purpose, right in the middle of the ‘ordinary’ like cooking

Just bang in the middle of all that God has called me to do and be. I truly feel like I can take down the GIANTS that await in this new season of my life. I truly wanna lead a Proverbs 31 life. I feel really privileged to mother this GIANT SLAYER and by God, I would not trade any of my seasons, past, present and future, for ANYTHING!!!

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Gosh, I am SOOOOOOO EXCITED!!! I cannot wait to look back at these pictures next year as KingDaveed turns TWO and see just how far God has brought me from this season now and maybe, just maybe He may be ready to take me to the next season of my life. I know God, He moves on fastforward especially with me and so I have to RUN, literally AFTER what God has called me to do.

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No time baby, no time!!!

And hey, I just wanna say a HUGE thank you to Olaedo. Without doubt, she has been the BIGGEST MOMMY INFLUENCE in my life. She has taught me sooooooo many things both by words and by actions. And to think I met her off my blog. I am just thankful she obeyed the prompt to send me an email. She has held my hand through my pregnant days to when KingDaveed was born and afterwards. She has taken me in and just poured into me. I haven’t seen anyone mother like Ola. Her kids are just BEAUTIFUL and no I don’t mean only physically.

Ola has ALL our pictures and doesn't wanna send to me...

Ola has ALL our pictures and doesn’t wanna send to me…

I am just excited at all that they will grow to be because Ola is a SUPER SOUND GODLY mama. Ola, you are an absolute treasure!!! I love you with all of my heart. Thank you soooooooooo much darling. Thank you.

And this will all make sense later but I am grateful first to mama for bringing DDK for Warrior In Heels.

DDK!!!

DDK!!!

Two different people had told me about DDK and how we have A LOT in common and so I go look for her on Twitter and her bio interested me. Anyways, I didn’t know what to expect but as DDK opened her mouth to give the WORD, I knew EXACTLY why my spirit had been soooooo excited about her and the program. She’s my new best friend now (she doesn’t know yet but soooooooon) and I am amazed as to how often I now say ‘…like DDK said…’ haha.

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Just like Dee… lol

DDK is sooooooo vital for this season I am in now and mehn… DDK answered almost EVERY question I had, it was surreal. I have truly never had a moment of listening to someone where I am at the edge of my seat, leaning in as far as possible and cupping my palm in my chin. img_20160408_040736.jpg

I have NEVER had that posture listening to anyone. It was like DDK was talking to ME!!! The connection I felt with DDK was CRAZY!!! She talked about Seasons, Apostles in the marketplace, commonizing the ‘ordinary’. She talked about some of the stuff I had blogged about in recent times but still, they HIT me.  In fact let me not talk too much. But if you ever have an opportunity to hear DDK minister, RUN THERE!!!

Lemme end with a funny story. About KingDaveed. There was this one time we came in from church and I told my help to snap me just before we entered my home but KingDaveed kept making her shake so I took him in and closed the door. Soon I stopped hearing his movement behind the door but I didn’t bother. After our snapping, we came in and guess what Bro KingDaveed was doing? He had gone to my fridge, which he had recently learnt to open, brought out my tomatoes which were in the lower compartment of the door, and pressed all of them.

My fridge scatterer

My fridge scatterer

Hahaha. It was soooooo funny. Ah children. Silence is very very suspicious.

And this is me side-eyeing that chick who recently gave KingDaveed some money and on the envelop wrote ‘Bro KingDaveed’ I couldn’t believe it. I laughed sooooo hard. Haha. Crazy you!!!

Motherhood is an amazing amazing gift straight from heaven.

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My bestie just popped out baby number 2

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and I told her that she better name him Jonathan because frankly, I think she may have just birthed my baby’s covenant ‘Jonathan’.

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I can NOT wait for more and more babies from my friends especially those with whom I am in faith. Just get ready to have your life changed FOREVER if You let Him be GOD even in your parenting.

My workout interferer lol

My workout interferer lol

This post took a different turn than I thought it would. But I am happy it did. Looking forward to re-reading it when KingDaveed turns two and being just FLAT OUT AMAZED by GOD!!! AMEN…

Love,

Warrior!!!

Warrior!!!

E’

 

PS

Loved meeting everyone from my blog at Warrior in Heels.

Dee and Glow

Dee and Glow

I was amazed at how many of you came.

Eujay came with her bump!!! WOW!!!

Eujay came with her bump!!! WOW!!!

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Finally met Ezi. She came from Anambra

Finally met Ezi. She came from Anambra

Cant wait for all the exploits God will do through us all. amen!!!

PPS

I tweet a lot these days. Follow me there @eziahaA so we can stay connected. At least that way you know i am still alive even when i do not blog. lol. And Facebook too. Eziaha Ajaero. Email eziaha@eziaha.com and IG eziaha

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Someborry tell my hubby to learn this our pose quickly ooooo

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Then I love this picture too. Just look at that transformation

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Maybe we should ALL stop laughing…

First off, I the biggest biggest warmest lovingest HAPPY BIRTHDAY to one of my most fabulous FAB’ers, Ify.
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Beyond the blog, Ify and I have become sisters though we have never met. One of the many joys of blogging. She has such a beautiful heart. Aside from dropping the most amazing comments and prayers on my blog, i have featured her once here

http://eziaha.com/2013/08/26/2937/

Hubby and I will definitely be ringing her up later tonight.
Aside a Happy Birthday, I wanna say THANK YOU Sweeetheart,. God bless you and your triple C-delight kids and your amazing hubby.
I totally love you… Amazing woman of God and big sis
FAB’ers, show her some LOVE… Say her a prayer…

OK on to today’s post
I had never been happier to be in DCC than I was second sunday of this year after over 7weeks away…
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In those 7weeks, I learnt a HUGE lesson… A GOOD church helps your spiritual growth. It really matters less how mature you are spiritually, if you are ‘outside the fold’, hmm….
Of course I had been outta Lagos all that while hence…And I won’t lie, I was secretly beefing DCC folks on my BBM as I saw their updates and broadcasts… #SaltOnInjury
Anyways, PK was preaching on ‘Making better decisions’ and what better time to do that than the start of the year…
In characteristic PK style, while he explained to us the effects of bad decisions, he injected a lot of humor and stories into his sermon to drive home the point…
One of the stories he told was about this guy who he counselled against marrying this girl cos PK knew the girl and just knew she wasn’t right. Infact, she had caused so much trouble in church and PK and others had prayed her outta church. Now dude brought this girl say na she he wan marry… Long story short, he went ahead and married her.
Rewind…
Before then, dude was a bad boy… Smoking, drinking, the works… Then he got saved and committed in church. He had a thriving business, used to tithe weekly a remarkable cash-range, was crazy about giving and even used to go to PK to ask what projects church was doing atm so he could sow…
When dude starts dating the girl and stuff gets serious, business first starts nosediving… Commitment in church reduced… Post-marriage, it got worse. Real bad. Then he left church. Went back to his worldly ways. Business scattered and of course marriage CRASHED in about a year…
When he later shared his ‘testimony’ with PK, he said from DAY 1 of his marriage, fights all the way… They were always fighting. Sometimes, they would park the car on the highway just to fight. It was a bad bad sorry situation…
PK has a way with stories so people were laughing. E’ inclusive. The person beside me now said the last time he saw the guy he was drunk and didn’t look good at all…
Then I heard that voice…
‘We should NO longer be laughing…’
I mean that guy’s life nosedived because of one WRONG headstrong easily avoidable decision…
Today, years after, his story aint better…
I felt bad ooo, lie no good…
Maybe really, we should stop laughing when we hear things like this… Maybe we should commit in our own lil way to helping people around us make better decisions…
Especially relationship wise…both with same sex and the opposite/romantic ones.
A friend of Aku m late last year was talking about how her bf used to beat her and she wanted to know if he will change. Pk must have made me harsh when it comes to things like this so I said
‘He won’t ooo…She should leave now…’
He counselled her and then we prayed for her… Cos she was in a bad state.
I was overjoyed when he told me that she found the courage to break up with him. I was very excited to hear that…
VERY VERY excited. I almost sent her a congratulatory message.
Because I remembered Titi’s case in which she lost her life from alleged domestic violence….
http://eziaha.com/2013/12/30/na-the-same-marriage-be-dis/
After I ran that story, a blog reader called me and said she was roomies with Titi in Ife… So titi was just not another girl. She was a real living person she had lived, played and studied with… And she was pregnant when she got married. Maybe she shouldn’t have married him but still kept the pregnancy…
Maybe… Just maybe.
That story still pains me cos tz just sad… Gosh!!!
Another blog reader called me early this year and told me she had broken up with her guy. Now last year, we had had this convo about this guy and I had told her I didn’t think he was THE ONE especially as I saw she had a heart for God. If there was a marriage would have driven her CRAZY guaranteed cos the drama from the relationship was incredible already.
Of course she was hurting but I congratulated her and encouraged her NOT to go back ooo no matter what and trust God for a Good God-man instead. Infact, I told her if you ever feel like calling him, call me instead. I’ll be here for you…
I knew some girl too in Uni… Totally wonderful girl. Dating a philandering guy… She knew ultimately but couldn’t bring herself to leave easily. I had her in my prayers… We were not close per se but if anybody should make that kain mistake, NOT HER… I thought she had a future with incredible potential… I didn’t want her to be reduced to the ‘insanity’ that comes with a hubby that can’t zip his pants up and leave it zipped. Before she will start writing letters to ‘Disposable’ and ‘Shaggy’ like the woman in my Booski’s blog series…
When I heard she finally called it off with the guy, I threw a private party…
😀

My Pastor Mildred Okonkwo has a dilemma post on her blog.
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And now bestie is about to displace her as wifey . I love what Diche commented…
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So true… You can’t be Best friends with someone like that without doing something about your relationship. Please define the boundaries of relationships. Some kinda people shouldn’t be in ‘bestie zone’. You can’t be toying with destiny ooo. All my besties/inner circle friends are women of fire ooo. I invest a lot into friendships… Wetin we go dey discus na if you are not a God-lover yourself…?
I just recalled a friend of mine. One of my COVENANT besties.
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There used to be plenty friction in our relationship but no matter how our heads touch, we still find our way back to each other cos we have an amazingly unshakeable God-foundation in our friendship and in our personal lives too.
(Oh she insists I have to do a post where I tell the world how much of a well, BAD, friend I too have been to her… Lmho!)

Now I recall some other people with whom I have ‘tried’ friendship… The inner-circle kind… E no work… I mean, we will both put in effort but whosai!!! Something in me will not let you beyond a level. Cos my inner circle friends can ‘kill’ me. I’m very ‘naked’ with them and if I’m not careful, very soon somebody go enter ‘dilemma mode’
Ah, I had a ‘close friend’ that ROASTED me some years back… Nne eh, lesson learnt hard way… I was wise to define the boundaries of my relationship with the person…
With friends, I am first spiritual, then emotional.

Oh then ah, sometimes, people make bad decisions by letting good people go for all the flimsiest stupid reasons… And then when their head starts working right, tz already too late… Several friends I have begged to stay in a relationship and work things out… Mba!!! Then they have let a good man/woman go…
Painful!!! Too painful!!!
Daily, we have to make decisions…
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Choices!!! And with choices come consequences…
Some decisions, heavenly. You don’t recover from the ‘enjoyment’ it brings…
Some decisions, hellish… The fire doesn’t stop burning and even when it stops, you deal with scars…
Choice is yours darling…

Isaiah 30:22…And you shall hear a voice saying: this is the way, walk in it…
Thankfully, we all have access to this VOICE…

The rate at which we see and hear about people making wrong decisions, most times after they are living with the sad consequences, is incredulous. Tz heart-breaking. We should really stop laughing!!! And then resolve to make right choices and then help as many people around us do… Operative word being HELP!!! Some people no go just gree. They believe Experience is their best teacher.
Lemme end with my own story how I almost married some one else…
Hmmmm…
See una ears… I no talk again…
Good thing is I made the right decision…
Thank God for grace. Thank God for wise counsel. And Thank God for my darling darling Rev…
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#NuffSaid…
🙂

Here’s to making BETTER decisions this 2014…
Berry Kisses…
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E’
Going FORWARD…Still Testifying

PS:
Amazing feedback from my post ‘Announcements on the F.A.B. Lane…’
Thank you all so much… God bless y’all.
We will kick off by the weekend…
Woooooooooooooooooot!!!
*shaking my bum in satan’s face*
You may wanna read it if you haven’t and see how you can be a part of what God is doing here on the F.A.B. lane…
http://eziaha.com/2014/01/21/announcements-on-the-f-a-b-lane/

PPS:
Joyce Meyer is a dream… My dream…
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Daily, I fall deeper in love with her and all the amazing things God is doing through her and her ministry. Ah!!! Thank God for podcasts. Free podcasts…
Love. Love. Love.

PPPS:
The Post I mentioned on Pastor M’s blog actually is a kinda contest. Send in your comments and the most fabulous comments get prizes… Fabulous ones…
But tz also fun to read what people have to say about it…
So click away…
http://justusgirlsnaija.com/2014/01/21/2014-and-so-it-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-1916

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My friend and fellow Blogger Tunde Leye is part of the organizers of a Naija Books Fair. I wish I was in Lagos. I would have gone. Plenty Naija books will be on sale at Patabah bookshop in ‘Lere.
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Plus there will be many giveaways including a home theatre courtesy Tunde.  Attend and buy books. Support Naija writers.
Tunde Leye blogs at http://www.tlsplace.wordpress.com
BEST fiction writer I have read in a while. His latest series on ‘A little Brid said…’ gives me som’in to look forward to every monday morning. Awesome!!!
FORWARD 2014…Still Testifying